BD not so easy - this is overshare

Hi girls, I know this is going to be overshare but I really need to put it out to someone.

I'm worried that my husband and I will have trouble getting pregnant because of our sex life. He is uncut, but never did the skin stretching thing over the head (mum's with little boys uncut will get what I mean). So he basically hasn't got a great deal of sensitivity and penetration isn't his favorite type of bed sport (as a result I think). It has gratted a little on me for years, and I hate to say it but I sometimes feel like he is less manly because of this. He has popped only a few times and always with me on top - which is not a good position for baby making and damn tiering for me to do all the work (especially as often as need for BDing). The other times we've BDed he has basically gone "manual" and then popped it inside.

I'm worried that without that gunshot effect the sperm will never make it far enough inside me to actually get to the egg. Last month when he did this I did get an explosion of my own which I believe helps draw all the fluid up further - but is that enough without his?

I'm feeling so judgemental of him around this issue and I worry that if we have to resort to the turky baster that I'll really get cross with him and his manhood. I hate that I think like this but that's how it is. Anyway, thanks for listening.

Edited by Andi_C

i was going to say exactly the same thing.. I've also never heard of the skin stretching thing ..sounds painful:( and havent had any problems in my relationships with uncut men..

as far as the sex thing goes I would also agree with my2angels..

I thought it was the other way around. "cut" lost the sensitivity? At least thats what the males complain about

Hey Andi_C I agree with My2Angels about the allevation. If it works better for you on top then go for it that way (extra exercise is great for you pre-pregnancy) then flip over, put some cushions under your hips, relax and read a book.

I hate to be uncomfortably personal but have you thought about trying other positions (not talking about the usual 4-5 that we all pull out but maybe take a leaf out of Stings book and look into Tantric or similar) maybe you haven't yet found the position that works the best for both of you to enjoy. Remember Bding should be fun first and foremost.

p.s. I also heard (during my antenatal classes) that cut men have less or no sensitivity at the tip.

im sorry i still dont get it:( how does it remove the extra skin? the extra skin covers the part that gets de sensitized ? I've been in childcare for 6 years and all of my friends have at least one boy and we are having a boy and nothing about its ever been mentioned to me:(?

so stretching removes some of the skin?

I don't really know much about it either but should prob find out because DH has told me like father like son which means, unless I can come up with some pretty strong reasons not to, our boy (if we have one) will be cut.

as far as like father like son..we had the same dicsussion...my DH is cut...but our boy will not be(I'm not going to get into it..its totally a personal thing) but it costs a lot of money...and there are no medical reaosns for it(I showed him the research) and the only reason he wanted it was to make our son look like him..so in the end we decided not too.. :) but as i said its totally a personal thing.. !

Some guys can have major problems if the skin is to tight and they can have reoccuring infections etc... (my friends hubby had this and was circumcised in his teens)
Its pretty uncommon these days, in fact unless its for religous or medical reasons they wont do it in chch. I think there may be one place that you have to pay heaps for but even then it has to be for a good reason.

yeah its a hard situation..i mean i dont have a penis so he was like..well how would you know..but we talked calmly at it (even though i have very strong views on it) and he came to the decision too.. he didnt realise that as my2angels said) its very hard to have it done here and expensive and medically not necessary unless as you say there is a problem.. i think hes a little gutted that he wont look like his boy but he's getting over it:)
anyway i better ge off here and go do the stuf fI'm supposed to be doing:) ! have a nice day everyone!