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Happygal 
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Posted: 24 March 2011 at 10:40am |
Just wondering if there are many other older Mums to be out there? My DH and I are both 40 and TTC for number one, doing IVF at the moment, we have unexplained infertility, been trying for over 2 years now! Hope we have good news soon!
Look forward to hearing from any others with similar stories 
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babygiraffe
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Posted: 24 March 2011 at 11:30am |
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Hi Happygal! I am 38, DH is 36 and we have been TTC since August 09. As you can see from my signature we havn't had much luck. Seems that I can fall pregnant reasonably easy but cant get past around 6-7 weeks. We are seeing a specialist now, going back to see him in April to see what our next step is after another m/c this month.
I lurk in the IVF thread from time to time as I have a feeling we might find ourselves going down that track. Sorry that you are still having trouble falling pg....I see you are doing another transfer this month?
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Posted: 24 March 2011 at 12:36pm |
Hi Happygal...you know I'm an oldie too 
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Posted: 24 March 2011 at 12:55pm |
Hey babygiraffe, I remember you as Mrs Hopeful! I'm so sorry you have had such a rough time lately! This journey just isn't fair! Wishing all the best and hoping your specialist can help! Yes I am doing another transfer at the moment, can't believe its our 5th now, I remember a year ago thinking it shouldn't take long.. My doctor is stumped really, as everything is going so well with it all, so we are trying to stay positive and hoping for the best. Would you consider IVF?
Hey Tarns, yes us oldies have to stick together huh! lol... How are you going? Are you still doing clomid?
Hope we all can have good news soon!
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Posted: 24 March 2011 at 2:52pm |
Yeah I changed my name - Mrshopeful didn't sound very positive - needed something a bit more upbeat!
I would definitely consider IVF - if that is our only way to get our baby then I am there with bells on. We would end up having to cough up the cash though (which makes DH cringe ever so slighty) as I'm pretty sure we wouldn't get public funding. Plus I wouldn't be prepared to wait anyway. We are waiting on some genetic testing to come back, DH had his swimmers tested to see if that is the problem. Will find out in a few weeks.
Its hard when the doctors cant find any reason why. I think I'd rather have a specific problem and then get them to fix it! I wish you all the best for this transfer, you have had a rough time as well.
Welcome Tarns! You not that old
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Posted: 24 March 2011 at 4:21pm |
thanks, I know, does seem more frustrating when there doesn't seem to be a problem, nearly wish there was so we could sort it out! Ah well, will keep plodding along and hope we get our miracle soon!
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Posted: 25 March 2011 at 1:46pm |
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I'm an older Mum, 36 in May. 2 weeks ago we miscarried, it was my 4th child and hubbys 2nd. We are not sure if we want to try again for another one so are taking our time making that decision.
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Posted: 25 March 2011 at 2:42pm |
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Hi Tauris, I'm so sorry to hear about your m/c - they really sux dont they. I had a m/c few weeks ago, I am doing ok though. I was 7.5 weeks when we lost it but I dont think we were very far along because the m/c was fairly straight forward. Thinking I might be ov this weekend so tempted to get amongst it and see what happens!
I thought I was old when we started trying at 36....now I wish I was still 36! The years seem to crank along quite fast it seems.
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Posted: 25 March 2011 at 5:53pm |
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I just thought I'd introduce myself because I reckon I'll end up lurking in here to cheer you all on.
It took 3 years and 2 m/c's but I had my daughter at 38 so I'm well in the 'older mum's' group. Happily this one was much faster so if all goes well I'll have number 2 just before I turn 40.
I just want to wish you all the best of luck - I thought my journey was hard but nothing compared to you guys.
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Posted: 25 March 2011 at 7:28pm |
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Hi Happygal, I think I scrape in at 35??
Babygiraffe, I was like you with my second, I could get preg but not hold one & I ended up at a nathuropath who put me on potassium & Iron I think it was (Blackmores PCIP) and I got pregnant & stayed pregnant that month. It that and one other Vit E? or Zinc that we added in that must have done it as I don't think the IVF initial blood tests would have made a difference LOL.
So not sure if you've gone down that track as well?? This time around I'm eating banana's & taking my kelp sups so maybe?
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Posted: 25 March 2011 at 9:07pm |
Hi Happygal,
Yeah I fit into this category - lol getting older by the second 
We have been trying since 07 and had a couple of short lived successes and now are currently awaiting a public IVF cycle in July (getting closer and closer!!)
This is our last chance as we dont have the $$$ to fund a cycle ourselves
Who would have thought that TTC would be this blinim hard 
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TTC#1 Jan 07
Me 39 DP 41 MFI
DI#1&2 Sep & Oct 09 BFN
DI#3 Feb 10 BFP - mc @ 9wks
DI#4 Jul 10 - BFN
DI#5 Aug 10 - BFP - chem pg
IVF #1 Aug/Sept 11 - BFP - chem pg
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Posted: 26 March 2011 at 11:19am |
Hey Rubyrock, I remember you from ages ago, sorry your journey has been so tough too! Your right it should be this hard.. Hey do you live in West Auckland? We are in Titirangi! Great you have a public IVF cycle for July, that is not far away!
Nice to hear from all you others too and hear some positive success stories, yay! We will all get there eventually!!
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Posted: 26 March 2011 at 12:02pm |
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Hey Happygal, I fall into this category too, just turned 37 and still waiting for the stork to deliver after 7 long years of TTC. I too have the dreaded unexplained infertility which sucks!
Start 2nd round of IVF in June 2011, in meantime trying naturally with help of naturopath and acupuncture. Fingers crossed for a natural conception (and to be able hang on to it would be nice too please!)
How are you going Happygal, I have been lurking in the IVF thread but don't get on here very often so struggle to keep up! When's your BT? Finges tightly crossed for you this time.
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TTC # 1 - 7.5 years
2 x IVF - 4 x Trf
3 x BFP's
3 x M/c  Feb 09 June 10 Sept 11
2 Blasties on Ice
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Posted: 26 March 2011 at 12:05pm |
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Hi
I am 40 at the end of the year and DH is 40 next month! We have been trying for #2 for just over 2 years now and as you can see from my signature we have not been having much luck! We were very lucky to fall straight away with DD but its not happening for us this time around. I do know that I am blessed to have one child though.
I am under a fertility specialist and have had a lot of tests done and all have come back clear. So we are just waiting and have everything crossed I will fall pregnant soon and baby will stick!!
I get very stressed about my age and the age gap between #1 and #2 but I have no control over that and just have to get over it!!!
Great thread, I am pleased I have found it!
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 DD born 2008 Oct 2009, April 2010, Dec 2010, June 2011 7 x IVF/ICSI/PGD = BFN
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Posted: 27 March 2011 at 7:19pm |
Hey Scaredy nice to hear from you! Not long till June for you, yay! I so hope you get your well deserved BFP, bring it on! How's the acupuncture etc going? My BT is on Thursday, ekkkk, not sure what way it will go to be honest!!
Rubyrock, that was meant to read it shouldn't be this hard!
Hi Orca1, welcome... fingers crossed for good news for you too! Its nice there are so many of us around the same age on here, good to hear each others stories
Its our 2nd wedding anniversary today, so being having a lovely day, we went out to the vineyard where we got married for lunch!
Hope everyone is having a great weekend!
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Posted: 28 March 2011 at 10:09am |
Happy wedding anniversary for yesterday Happygal! Hope you had a lovely day
Only two weeks til we go back to see our specialist again. We are waiting for some genetic test results to come back - they did this on DH's swimmers. I am nervous that we have a genitic problem....but probably shouldn't get too ahead of myself. As per most m/c, its probably just bad luck.
We m/c carried on March 10th and have kind of been trying again this month but my cycle is a bit all over the show so not really sure when I will ov. Oh well, not that worried, probably should have a break this month but when you are 'old' (!) every month is just so precious.
Happy Monday everyone
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Posted: 28 March 2011 at 2:04pm |
Happygal, hope you had a lovely day yesterday - even though the weather was rubbish!!!
Yeah we are westies, in Massey now, seem to move all over the show every 2-3 years. Oh the joys of renting 
Babygiraffe, sorry to hear about your recent mc  All the best for the genetic testing results.
I definately hear you on the every month counts, unfortunately we cant make use of them due to DP's genetic issues
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TTC#1 Jan 07
Me 39 DP 41 MFI
DI#1&2 Sep & Oct 09 BFN
DI#3 Feb 10 BFP - mc @ 9wks
DI#4 Jul 10 - BFN
DI#5 Aug 10 - BFP - chem pg
IVF #1 Aug/Sept 11 - BFP - chem pg
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Posted: 28 March 2011 at 4:29pm |
Hey thanks babygiraffe and Rubyrock, had such a lovely day yesterday, nice to be back there!
Babygiraffe, got everything crossed for your genetic testing results, hope you get some good news soon, you so deserve it! I'm so with you there too about every month being precious as we get older!
Rubyrock, yay to be a westie! lol..
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Posted: 28 March 2011 at 4:36pm |
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So the answer to genetic problems is IVF Rubyrock? I have this funny feeling we may end up going down this track. Do you need to get doner spermies or can they just sort through the duds to get the good ones?
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Posted: 28 March 2011 at 8:31pm |
Hi everyone...hope you've had a good day. Lots of familiar faces in this thread and far far too many angel babies.
Wishing us all the very best of luck this year. I am putting a 6 month expiry date on my ttc efforts so feeling kind of anxious too (which I'm sure doesnt help at all).
I only have one more lot of clomid, but since I am on 100mg I think I might take just 50mg and stretch it out for two more cycles that way. I conceived in December 2010 while on a break from clomid but sadly had a MC in January. I figure since I conceived without taking any I can halve my dose no worries
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