TTC for 12 months +

Hugs Shimma, BC and everyone else who needs them! TTC is such a hard road, without all the added stress life throws at us xxx BC I said goodbye to my grandma last saturday... she would have turned 98 on Anzac day! shes in a better place now... a totally different experience having a 3 year old to explain it all too- was a learning curve for me for sure! but feeling for you right now- its a hard thing to go through, and watching our parents stressed over it.not fun.. xxx

Hey everyone!

trinab: Auckland was crrraaaazzzy today right?! To think that the afternoon could look like that after the morning. Such a crazy place climate wise! I think I can pretty much write it off - blood test tomorrow which in a way now I am just looking forward to so I can reset the clock and reassess what our options are next and what we decide to do. Sounds like you have had a very intense couple of days! I hope you have a more 'stable' next couple of days and that things work out and go a bit more smoothly from here on out!

Auntie, thanks I have a 10 day weekend (took the 3 days off between - score!) coming up and will hopefully get to spend some time with my almost 2 year old niece. Dancing to 'Happy' with her and playing tickle games are sure to help I'm glad you have a child on hand to tickle and that it makes you feel good! I agree with the good long talk with the friend - my one, unfortunately (for me), hopped on a plane to go to LA for 2 weeks tonight!

BC, I hope your gran is doing ok

Red, I hope things are ticking along nicely with you and your bean! And thanks for the insight/info - always interesting to hear about other peoples journeys.

Soda hope you're well too! Yay for the good scan and hearing the heartbeat! That must be such a wonderful feeling So weird about the dates mismatch! And sorry to hear about your gran

Epic I have my bloods tomorrow, just wanting to get them and the BFN out of the way so we can move on now! Have fun in Aussie - hope you get better weather there than I think we are looking at here!

AFM - here is another giggle story for you all: I am sitting here in the lounge watching a movie. There is a cricket chirping away. It gets progressively more and more annoying. I can no longer concentrate on anything other than the bloody chirping. So I track down where it is coming for (just outside the lounge window) and I spray the area with fly spray. The can is now empty after the spider incident (which, FYI, I found dead behind the bed after moving all the furniture around, so I could safely sleep there last night!). Cricket keeps chirping. So I sprayed it with hairspray as I had no flyspray left. Whadda ya know, this doesn't kill it (what was I thinking?!). So I go outside, turn the hose on and dose the side of the house in water, saying 'take that!" as I do it. This seems to silence the little bugger so I go back inside. Then I start getting messages on my phone from DH asking why I am not picking up Skype. Look at my computer - the internet is not working? The home phone isn't either? - yep; I had sprayed water into the phone line and it was wet and now not working.....

So now at least the internet is working - the phone still needs to dry out though! (Reeeeeeaaaallly hope it does, or I'm in trouble!) BUT: the cricket must have dried out, as he just started up again!

I swear I'm not a crazy bug-hating woman, I swear. It has just been an interesting week hahaha

Happy long weekends all!

Hahahaha!! Oh Shimma… that is awesome! Your stories are becoming a welcomed thing I think, for a bit of a laugh
I have everything crossed for you and your bloods today. I really hope it is the start of a run of BFP's

Epic, enjoy OZ! I'm so jealous - would love a trip away right now! And when you get back, your turn for IVF will be here before you know it

HT - I hope your DS had a great birthday yesterday, and your other DS is looking forward to his on Monday. Such special days

Soda it's great to hear from you and am so pleased all is going well for you. Interesting about your dates though.

Big hugs and hello to all other lovelies.

AFM - temp is still sky high today, has been the last 3 days now and FF has put my OV back to where I thought it should be, so instead of being 8DPO today, I'm 6DPO AF due next weekend. I'll prob test mid next week though knowing me LOL

Happy Easter all, hope you all have a nice long weekend   

Hi girls. It's been such a busy place in here lately. Shimma, sorry to hear about the bfn :-( you have some big decisions ahead of you. How long does another round of ivf take from start to finish?

Epic, I hope you enjoy a much deserved holiday! And storm, I hope your temps stay nice and high! I know there is so much more going on but I could only remember those last posts :-) good luck to all the ladies waiting to test!!!!

Afm... I just had a d & c for my third mc in the last year :-( I found out that I have a genetic disorder that leaves me with a 33% chance of having a healthy pregnancy. It's nice to have a diagnosis, but it's also pretty grim. One of our options is ivf with selective embryo transfer, but I still have heaps ahead before that is an option. I'll meet my specialist and the genetic counselor soon hopefully to get a plan. Oh... and my new least-favorite quote. .. at least you know you can get pregnant. Grrr. Ya, and go through the trauma of losing every bub. Dh and I are trying to stay positive. It's early days and I'm only 34. But right now 34 sounds so old!!!

a.girl, I am so sorry to hear about your loss At the very least, you have an answer for it, even if it is a grim one, and it sounds as though you have a path set out in front of you to embark upon with options, which hopefully provides some minute form of solace. A well lit path with people to help walk you along it, even if you cannot see the end point, is hopefully more comforting than a darkened maze.

As for the comments, there are thousands of them, as [edit: we] all know, and each and every one of them are pointless and often hurtful. I am myself guilty of it sometimes, as we all are and as is my SIL who went through more heartache in fertility than anyone I know - she still boils my blood with the things she says sometimes. I think all we can do is try to remember that 90% of the people behind the comments are usually trying to help, but they don't know how - they feel as futile in being able to help us as we do in trying to get pregnant. All I can cling onto when all I want to do is punch someone in the neck is that - whatever inane crap just came out of their mouth - it was coated in care. However, if they are the kind of person who 'didn't' say it with good intentions, then by all means, punch them in the throat

I hope that your new path is filled with people to help light it and walk with you, and that the destination is not too distant

In answer to your question, I won't know til I can talk to my RE on (hopefully) Thursday about timing and options exactly, but I worked it out and it will be roughly another 5-6 weeks before I could go to Italy if I got a BFN, or 8-10 weeks if I got a BFP (as I would wait til the first scan at least). I am blessed that I don't have to go through another IVF process (hopefully for a while) - only FETs, as we have 8 embryos left on ice.

Thanks Storm Went to the beach today with my niece and saw everyone with their dogs and their babies living the NZ dream and had a 'WT... are we doing moving to Italy for 3-4 years?!>!' moment, but I just have to trust that our decisions will work out Hope you're having a good weekend!



Edited by ShimmaShine - 18 April 2014 at 5:10pm

Hi epic

Happy Easter right back HT :)

Shimma - sorry to hear it was a BFN. That is so disappointing! And I can see your dilemma about whether to go into another FET or go straight to Italy. A tough one! Don't be too discouraged about future embie transfers - it took me 3 to get there, and I had become discouraged that if it hadn't worked for the first two, why would it for the 3rd? etc etc. The one that is meant to stick for a lifetime, will stick and for whatever reason I don't yet know, perhaps we were only meant to be a mummy for a few days (physically) to the ones that didn't. I know that doesn't really help, me saying that, just the way I look at my own.

a.girl - big hugs re your loss, and indeed all of them! You have been through the wringer girl! Answers can be helpful for the future, but they don't help much with grief right now. We are here for you!

AFM, did I mention my scan went really well on Monday? I was so afraid that maybe there wouldn't be a baby there or something after all, so I burst into tears when there was little bubs with a round head and a strongly beating heart! What a miracle and a survivor this one. I am so relieved. Still feel so battle scared and emotional at times about the journey to get here though. I feel like I was just numb all summer (and years before really) and now I have been finally getting back in touch with my grief and anger at IVF losses and infertility hurts, and that I have needed to do this before fully embracing and celebrating this little one. Does that sound weird? Clearly I am over the moon, all at the same time. Intense pregnancy hormones can not be underestimated too haha

Hope everybody survived the storm ok, we got a bit flooded but not too badly

and Aunty - you too! x

Shimma I am so sorry about the BFN! I know what you mean about thinking something else has to be wrong too bu, that doesn't have to be the case! How come you're moving to Italy? That sounds like a dream place for bringing up a baby!

Storm, good that your temp is still high! At least with Easter etc time will fly till test day!

Dahlia, so pleased your scan went well! Awesome that things are ticking along perfectly, you are giving us all hope!

BC and Auntie, everything is still crossed for you!

AFM I'm in Perth, such a long day! Something like 19 hours door to door and I'm still only in Australia! Awesome to see my bestie again though and really excited for a few relaxing days before I get on the IVF roller coaster again.

A.Girl I'm so sorry you lost this one as well, it never gets easier huh. Really hope the genetic people can figure stuff out so this doesn't have to happen again.

Thanks epic We are moving to Italy for DHs work..was an interesting decision to make, and sometimes wonder if we would have made it had we known we would end up going down the IVF road, but oh well - just have to trust that it will all work out I suppose!

Hope you enjoy your relaxing time! I am trying to do the same thing for the next few days.

Thanks for the info/advice red - it does help to hear of situations where people had to try a few times before it happened, and to hear how other people view it.

Auntie - Thank you Yes the lack of control thing is one of the harder things to overcome isn't it? I hope your 2WW is going ok, and that the Easter holidays is helping keep you relaxed!

My test is Thursday but the progesterone is messing with my head - my boobs are really sore and definitely bigger (checked with hubby, he confirmed!) and it will stop my period arriving too so no idea what could be baby settling in and what is just the chemicals!