TTC for 12 months +

Oh Shimma that is so horrible! I really hope you're being supported really well xx

As mentioned by the other ladies, I'm not sure you'll read this Shimma but hopefully all our positive thoughts and vibes will reach you.
So, so sorry to hear that you are going through this... Absolutely shocking. I really hope that you are OK and being surrounded by support. Sending you such a huge hug and wishing all the best. Take care of you. Xxxx

Thank you all for your kind words of support ladies. Yes I had to come back to see them all, as I really need them right now. My family are here for me, but my whole life I've only ever wanted my DH in moments like these, so it feels very very strange and empty. It was supposed to be our 10 year anniversary tomorrow. I still can't believe it and it is making me feel like I am going crazy, because all of his actions and words in the past 6 months have been the 'complete' opposite of a person who claims they were falling out of love with/growing apart from their wife. His family are of course blindly accepting what he has to say and telling me he has a right to his feelings and accepting his word that he is not depressed and so on - but they weren't there. They didn't hear him telling me how much he loved me and missed me and couldn't wait til we were back together and how lucky he thought he was to have me. None of that sounds like a man who even on the inside was thinking of leaving his wife. None of it makes any sense. My family see it and his friends and my friends etc, but the others are just making me feel as if I am the crazy one and that I have been living inside a bubble and just didn't notice. Its making it all that much more cruel.

Ugh I am sorry for purging like that - this isnt a marriage counselling forum. You all have your own things to deal with!

No he is refusing to do anything - he claims it would just be 'delaying the inevitable' and 'giving me false hope'. If it is true that he is not actually depressed and this is all genuine, then he is not the person I thought I knew - he is a heartless cruel and irresponsible coward and so at least I get to take that away. I have nothing left, no car, no job, no money, nowhere to live, no belongings, and I don't even know how I am supposed to get my things back from Italy. He has left me with absolutely nothing.

I've been off line for a while ladies, and haven't read back much, but Shimma my heart is with you! I just sank in my chair reading what you are going through right now. And I too have no problem with you sticking here for support - support here for what ever reason is one of the things that I love about this forum. We've been on the journey with you and because of that, I personally feel a real sense of sadness, anger, confusion and frustration for you! Big big hugs to you. I hope IRL you have some great support, and tight hugs!

That really sucks Shimma :( And what a coward to tell you in front of his family rather than privately and actually *talk*. Not to mention being such a jerk to have you go through everything, give up everything, and dump you without having even talked about any issues or whatever. He'd better flaming take responsibility for packing up your stuff in Italy and sending it back to you.

Shimma, absolutely use this as support... what better arena than a bunch of ladies all wanting the best for you :-) How are things going?

I also need some advice - on day 1 today (long cycle post failed ivf in July) and proposing to try natural fet this month. Anyone have any advice re prep / post transfer ? I'm doing the usual vits / read around pre transfer castor oil packs and red leaf raspberry tea / post transfer keeping warm and pineapple. But has anyone anything else they'd chip in with?

Hello everyone
Shimma - Sorry didn't want to read and run on my phone. So am replying now that I'm on a puta. Soooo sorry that this has happened and I'm sorry that you feel his family isn't supporting you. I agree with the suggestion of seeing if you can get him to some counselling to see if there really is something else underlying all this and if not then at least you can hopefully get some closure. Feel free to stay and rant here. We are all very willing to support you through whereever your journey takes you.
MissB - When is that blood test - Monday? I look forward to hearing from you with your BFP!!!

AFM - Still no ov. getting really super duper fustrated as it's CD 23. Although did have some EWCM this morning so really hoping for a positive opk today so I can get on with this cycle!!!!

FC the only things I did before transfer was avoid alcohol (from my day 1) and that's it. In the tww treated myself like I was pregnant in terms of eating and tried to take it easy exercise wise which was easy cos I was injured anyway. Both stuck one a chemical and other mmc.

Soda - I don't want to be alarmist but possibly the results aren't flash if they're making an appt but in saying that it may also be that they're fine and doc wants to discuss next options.
Hope it's the latter.

Shimma still thinking of you xxx
Hey to everyone else. Xx

Hey ladies
Soda not sure what to think but no point worrying till you know something

Thinking of you still Shimma

Afm another blood test today (some what addicted) 29,400 and progestrone of 176 which is lower than my 220 last week but I have been off the pills since Friday. Looking forward to scan

Before ec I kept off drink (3months) and just drank lots and excercise normally, after just walking, kept warm - especially feet and eat pineapple

Edited by Icecream - 03 September 2014 at 8:33pm