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Fairylight Angel 
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 Posted: 01 March 2015 at 10:24am |
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I'll be starting Clomid next week so will follow your tips!
We were on the IVF wait list for 12 months. The second cycle was only 3 months after our MC. That was a slight relief being so quick, but in all honesty, I wasn't ready to go again so soon.
So are there some BT's due in the next few days?
I'm just waiting on AF to get here Tursday. They thought the sperm donor we chose had his sperm in Auckland which would take two weeks to get to Wellington (not sure why so long?!) but turns out it's already in Welly so we can def go on next CD1. I have been feeling very overwhelmed this week. My main concern is what would any potential baby look like? I'll see me starting back, but instead of DH I'll see a stranger. It's hard not knowing what the guy looks like.
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'15 IUI DS #3 BFP
TTC#2 '18 IUI DS #2 BFP
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heavenly.talker
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Posted: 01 March 2015 at 11:17am |
Goodluck Fairylight :-). People always look to find the characteristics and similarities in children that they want to see. You will get people commenting how alike your bubba is to DH. Smile and say thank-you, and something like, if he turns out like my husband then I will be well pleased. or something like, I can't imagine a better man for them to emulate. Nature is only part of the equation, in every way that matters your child will look to DH for cues, so he will take on his mannerisms and personality quirks naturally :-). Hmmm weird that I kept saying boy... don't know why, the message is just the same if it was a girl. In my wider family I have quite a few cousins who are adopted. Everyone always say that we are peas in a pod and have the same eyebrows etc. We always laugh and say yip, apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Even the second and third cousins can be placed. People often come up to me on the street and ask which one of my Aunties gave birth to me.
Good luck and keep us informed with how you go :-)
So I'm 14dpo. I'm grumpy as heck, my boobs are sore and when brushed or tweaked my nipples vibrate. My temp is hovering between 37.1 and 37.2 in the morning and 37.5 to 37.6 in the evening. BFN at 6am this morning. Stink! I was quietly hopeful this morning. I have no more tests either so will just have to wait it out. Going on cycle lengths I may get AF on Friday. Boo! I'm not sure if they will want to do another clomid cycle (DH's sample was 1.9million after wash and 9.9million before). It is weird to think we could be IVFing in a couple of weeks or in six-seven weeks time.
I have just started a part-time role with child wellness provider (I also lecture and have my own business) but really wanted to put my time into something I passionately believe in ... wow, a real boost of hope and positivity there :-).
I met a woman who is 43 with a one week old baby yesterday. She had three miscarriages previous to her precious boy turning up. He was born 5 pounds 10 and was the most wee and delicious bundle of cute I have seen for a while. He was wearing a green beany that looked the top of a pumpkin. I asked her if she had just been down to the cabbage patch to get him :-) Her partner and her were very quiet by nature but both lit up with the baby, and they were so in love. Without a big show of pda, her DH had hooked his foot into hers so they were connected while interacting and being quiet. Very moving indeed. Moral of the story, they were obviously meant to have their bub and that child will be so loved because they had to wait so long and go through so much to get him.
Sometimes I worry that I am not deserving of another child? I do get over these thoughts but I wonder if anyone else secretly has this too?
Edited by heavenly.talker - 01 March 2015 at 7:35pm
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TTC our 3rd child 5+ yrs. Self-funding. Over 55 medicated cycles. 3 m/c's iuis, ivf with ICSI fresh BFN, 1 FET BFN. PCOS horrible. Endo and adhesions from c-sects resected. DH few wrigglers. FAITH!
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babycrazy
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Posted: 01 March 2015 at 11:41am |
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Fairy I always think the same about potential donor babies we'll have. I once went to a workshop by this guy who is a specialist in brain development in early years. He said only 30% of genetics are predetermined the rest are environment based. So like ht because you and dh are the primary carers any child you have will emulate your expressions etc and be mini-yous if that make sense. Yep hair and eyes are already decided but your donor will be picked due to their likeness with you both. Eg if either of you don't have firey red hair your donor won't.
Well not that I'm an expert but that's what I've come to pick up during the process.
Ht I hope you get a bfp this week! I'm with on the what if I don't deserve a baby thing. Sucky way to think but can't be helped in our situation.
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RachFizz
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Posted: 01 March 2015 at 5:44pm |
I feel the same sometimes. Or more like 'don't I deserve to have this happiness too?'
THANKS SO MUCH HT for posting about Pip Lodge! I had my massage this afternoon and it was amazing! Here's hoping it's done something to help my body out. So lucky that I happened to check on here that night and take a leap :-)
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Posted: 01 March 2015 at 6:51pm |
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Hi ladies,
I am trying to sell my last opks off cheaply as I don't need them and they expire in June. They worked fantastically (I have purchased hundreds over the last two years). I am finally pregnant after 2 years and 2 IVF cycles. I have 21 tests and they cost me about 50c each. I would be happy to sell them for $7 and postage would be $3. I am in Hamilton if anyone wanted to pick up :)
Flick me a message on wishful87@hotmail.co.nz if interested.
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heavenly.talker
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Posted: 01 March 2015 at 7:36pm |
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Yay, I'm glad you had a great experience Rach. I follow her on Facebook but have never had a massage as it would nearly be two hours to get there.
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TTC our 3rd child 5+ yrs. Self-funding. Over 55 medicated cycles. 3 m/c's iuis, ivf with ICSI fresh BFN, 1 FET BFN. PCOS horrible. Endo and adhesions from c-sects resected. DH few wrigglers. FAITH!
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Posted: 02 March 2015 at 9:10am |
hi all- im on the longest wait for ov ever lol.. bloods friday so hopefully they will actually show something this time- im used to the bad news now though lol so whatever. actually, i bet I will get preggers now, Im LOVING- like seriously loving my ceroc dancing, its just soooo fun and im keeping up and getting compliments that im really good and can follow better than some people who have been there a year when ive been there 2 weeks! went to a dance party (ceroc based) sat night which was just wonderful and i didnt get home until 2am- thats huge for me! lol. but man its addictive- a couple of hours escape where im to busy thinking of what im doing and not falling over to even have babies, or work, or anything at all cross my mind- the ultimate escape! I think everyone needs one coz man i feel like a new person! Ive even said to DH that if it doesnt happen soon im ok with that because then i can keep dancing longer lol (though of course i want it to happen more than i love dancing!) but yeah. its good. HT I think you are SO deserving of more children! I believe in God- and i truly believe He doesnt want any of this, and he just doesnt operate in the "you dont deserve this" fashion. But the rest of the world is a cruel place and with all the environmental factors etc infertility is about the biggest epidemic in the modern world! and that sucks but its the world we live in. But i do think you seriously deserve this! and i so hope and pray it will happen! Fairylight hoping this is it for you- yay for being able to start again sooner. I know so many children who are from split families so their "Dad" isnt their genetic father- and nearly every one of them have had comments how much like their dad (or half brothers and sisters) they look. I even teach a little boy who was adopted from romania and with his mannerisms coupled with his looks you totally forget hes not genetically related to a single one of them- amazing how the child that is meant to be yours will just slip on into the family like they are perfectly designed to be yours  im sure that will be the case for you too xxx |
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Posted: 02 March 2015 at 12:42pm |
Awww thanks Soda :-) wee happy tears here. Jolly hormones have been all over the place this month! Thanks, I pray/meditate for all of you too. I am so happy that you have found a release where you can surrender all the head stuff and enjoy with your heart. We all need to do something that does that for us :-).
I just got my hair done. This is a real treat, I haven't got it coloured at the hairdressers since before I was pregnant with Felix (my eldest... in fact the last time I went, I was going through a miscarriage and I thought it might cheer me up). Yay, I will make a point of going more often now.
How is everyone today? Any tests or results back?
Good luck with bloods Soda, hope some follicles are going hard and creating lovely big eggs for you. xxx
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TTC our 3rd child 5+ yrs. Self-funding. Over 55 medicated cycles. 3 m/c's iuis, ivf with ICSI fresh BFN, 1 FET BFN. PCOS horrible. Endo and adhesions from c-sects resected. DH few wrigglers. FAITH!
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Posted: 02 March 2015 at 7:46pm |
Hey all I having been umming and ahhing if I should post anything. I don't want to be insensitive nor seem like am I soliciting (too much) ... but I was wondering if anyone here would like to support Plunket's Give us a hug appeal. I can PM you a link to the online appeal or post it here if you are interested otherwise you can keep on scrolling if you are not :-) Have a great night :-)
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TTC our 3rd child 5+ yrs. Self-funding. Over 55 medicated cycles. 3 m/c's iuis, ivf with ICSI fresh BFN, 1 FET BFN. PCOS horrible. Endo and adhesions from c-sects resected. DH few wrigglers. FAITH!
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Posted: 03 March 2015 at 8:51pm |
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Thinking of you Sweetpea and Poppy... I'm hoping you both got some good news yesterday and today xx I know first hand how terrifying waiting for that phone call can be... as well as the devastating no, and lucky enough to have such an exciting yes! Even though our yes ended in a miscarriage, when the nurse told me I was pregnant the stress and pain from all the previous ivf cycles seemed so insignificant... I know all my heartache will be worth it in the end... I had my first blood test today, was meant to start my Gonal F on thursday night, but they said carry on with lucrin, and have another blood test on Thursday am...
Anyways.. thinking of you ladies xx
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Posted: 03 March 2015 at 9:30pm |
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Ditto what Charlie says girls almost to the letter (minus the part about start ivf again lol).
Hope you got the dream call xxx
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Posted: 04 March 2015 at 8:04am |
Thinking of you Poppy and Sweetpea - figure you both need big virtual hugs sent your way.
Good luck with your laprascopy Amee!
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6+ yrs TTC#2
M/C 2012, clomid 2013, IVM 2014, IVF 2015, M/C 2015
2016 FET#1- BFP - MMC - Emergency D&C
FET#2 - BFN
Jul 16 - stage 3 endo removed.
Oct 16 BFP
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Posted: 04 March 2015 at 8:53am |
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And from me too Poppy and Sweetpea! Have been thinking of you xx Have got everything crossed :)
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Posted: 04 March 2015 at 4:57pm |
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Hi guys:) I was wondering if I might squeeze in here. Weve been trying for #2 for over 2 years. Not even a hint of a BFP anytime in there. Am kind of wondering where how and what to do next but I'm not young so am just starting to think it is probably not going to happen. But here I am anyway... ;) hi!
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Posted: 04 March 2015 at 5:59pm |
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Hello ladies!
No good news here sadly.. It was weird but I just knew days ago it hadnt worked!!
It turns out we do get another go.. Dont know why doctor said we didnt!! Review appt is on the 19th. I am absolutely beyond exhausted- to the point its even hard to walk up & down the stairs! Has anyone else had extreme exhaustion after a failed cycle? Guess its understandable.. After what the body & mind has been through!
We are going to try naturally again for a few months... Hoping one day I get to be a mama!!
Thanks so much again everyone for the support! Will sit down & read latest posts tomorrow... Hope everyone is ok!! Xxxxx
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Posted: 04 March 2015 at 6:44pm |
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Sorry to hear sweetpea :-( I hope you are treating yourself to something special this evening. Good news about another funded cycle though!
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6 Angels...5/13, 11/13, 4/14, 9/14, 4/17, 10/17 (ectopic)
Balanced Translocation b/t 13&14
IVF #1 - no blastocysts
IVF #2 - 2 failed FETs
IVF #3 - 1 failed FET
IVF #4 - Donor eggs, no luck
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Posted: 04 March 2015 at 8:01pm |
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Oh sweetpea I'm sorry. Exhaustion may be due to everything you've been through hitting at once. I know how you feel hun xxx
Lulu welcome. Sorry you've not had luck with number two. Can ask your age? I have this amazing friend who has an 18 yr son then for about the last 8 years tried and tried finally got utd at 38 with second had her girl turned 40 and is expecting another in June -she'll be 41 in July. So crazy how it happened like that. Usually I hate those stories but maybe it will help you. Fertility associates would be your next option if you really want toove forward.
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Posted: 04 March 2015 at 8:14pm |
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Sorry to hear things didn't work out this time round Sweatpea.
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Posted: 04 March 2015 at 9:26pm |
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I'm sorry to hear it wasn't your BFP yet Sweetpea. Totally understandable that you would be exhausted. Take care x
Welcome Lulu :)
Thanks Mushroom - I'm pretty nervous about the laparoscopy but also glad it was so quick to get a date so that hopefully we can get some answers. I expected to be waiting 6 - 12 months for an appt but it will be less than two months from the time I went on the waiting list. God knows what work think - I just told them at short notice that I needed up to a week off for minor surgery and they are so good they haven't asked for any details.
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Posted: 04 March 2015 at 11:34pm |
Aww sweetpea I'm so disappointed for you! Hugs  be kind to yourself, it makes sense your body will take time to physically recover after such emotional stress. Welcome Lulu. I hope you get your miracle soon. Great to hear your work is understanding Amie. Makes all the difference.
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