TTC for 12 months +

Thanks for your support everyone. A bit calmer about it now. I was just hoping that if they had made it to blasts then surely 1 of those blasts must have been normal.But no...I'm just so thankful for my 3 year old little boy. I can't believe he turned out ok with all the odds stacked against us.

Will meet with Dr in a couple of weeks and see if we can get funding for a second round. I don't know if I can do it all over again though.

Hope you're doing ok Rosie.

hi everyone, I think I'm all cried out now. I have been going to work and locking myself away, just trying to keep my mind busy, the hard thing that I am struggling with is that I have such bad morning sickness, yet I know that inside I have a 7.5week old foetus (I hate that word so let me say baby) that's heart will probably stop beating this week. it's just so cruel and the sickness is a constant reminder of how close we came. the only thing I am holding on to is that if the heart rate is slow that's due to a chromosomal abnormality, which isn't a good thing and just not meant to be. I saw emotion from hubby last night for the first time, felt so helpless, but am slowly realising that if I (we) can get through this, then having another IVF round isn't totally out of the question.

can I ask you all your thoughts on D & C vs natural miscarriage, what do you think the best (if there is a best) option is?

*hugs* Rosey. I know how hard this time is for you. For us, we chose to wait to miscarry naturally. I waited two weeks for this to happen, which felt like an eternity. Also, ended up in hospital with a D&C in the end as I didn't miscarry fully and just kept on bleeding (lost around 1.5L of blood). Took me another 2 weeks to recover from the blood loss. Because of my experience I'd definitely go for the D&C right away if it happens again, but everyone is different.

Thanks so much everyone, I think my mind is made up and D & C it is. I never wanted to experience a miscarriage, it just sounds so horrendous, but it is what it is. thank you for all your kind words of support, talking to close friends is so different to venting on here, it makes a big difference having you all to ask advice and get support xxxx

Rosey just wanted to give you all my support. I am almost 2 months on from our last miscarriage at over 9 weeks. I really feel for you hun.

I really wanted a D&C but was talked out of it by the consultant doctor at the hospital and he made my hubby scared about it.

Just want to tell you that if you feelings are towards a D&C, you stand up for yourself. I had the Misoprostol (the 'in-between' way). I still had to go back and have a D&C.

Trust your gut honey. So sorry. I know the feeling of waiting after being told of a slow heart beat, its pretty rough.

Does anyone who's a client at FA know if they do TUNEL Sperm testing? I see Repromed does, but I've not heard anything about it from my Dr.
http://www.repromed.co.nz/Treatments/Male+Infertility/TUNEL+Test.html

Oh I missed seeing that in their site. I reAd about it somewhere else tho. I saw the tunel one mentioned in embarrassing bodies last night lol I don't think we've had SCSA either, and now I'm kinda wondering why it hasn't been suggested.

Hey kiwigirl. I don't remember my scratching messing with my cycle. Maybe there's something in the water as my cycle is late too, it's almost unheard of for my cycle to be longer than 28days, normally about 26 but I'm up to 30 now. I have all the feelings/signs that AF is close so it's all very weird.

Much love to you all girls 😘 Yes stay away from the Facebook xx