TTC after miscarriage/loss

(Ive edited the post, sorry if didnt mean to hurt anyone. Thanks for reminding me to read post really carefully and think more before i write. Sometimes i miss things, eventhough ive been in Nz for 13 years, i still feel that English isnt my first language. Sorry)

I have one question, how long after miscarrige did you Af return? or how soon did you ovulate again?
I m bit confused, i know the doc says to wait for the first AF before ttc again. Well, with my hubby we though we wont intentionally ttc ( chart or temp at the moment) but since we want to try for a baby, we just decided to get on with life as it comes and not to used any protection.
I had a really sore nipples last weekend for about 2-3 days ( first i put it down to my toddler maybe not latching on properly), then i felt really tired ( i put it down to coming down with a cold) but yesteday i was sick first thing i got up...
so i m starting to wonder if i could be pregnant? I seems very unrealistic to me as i had my d&c on the 5th this month
(bleeding stopped after 3 days) and if i was to fall pregnant it would have been on day 10 after d&c when we did do bd with hubby. Could i ovulate that soon after d&c? Will wait and see if i have any more symptoms......

Enjoy your trip Karenka!!!!
Poppy, all the best of luck for your scan on Monday!!
and wishing for little happy miracles for the rest of you:-)



Edited by Iceland - 26 June 2015 at 10:20pm

Thanks for the replies. I meant body changes after miscarriage specifically not after giving birth and breastfeeding cause I think those ones would be more expected and I still have not been through that. Sorry if I sound titchy it's just hard when people share their experiences of their time with their children. And you should be able to do that so I think I'm going to stay away for awhile.
Iceland my AF came 5 weeks after mc and I think I ovulated at my usual time - day 15.

Hi, I have done some more reading about waitng for the first AF after a msc and found a great resourse at the pregnancy loss website.
It put my mind at rest, as it was describing exactly what i was feeling.... that some women do experience pregnancy symptoms that are accually just a result of the hormones trying to "reset " again. Has anyone experienced this also?
Makes sence but feels so wierd. Well, after lots of reading on this great site, i think that i d best to not takes things too lightly and patiently wait for my first af, as it brings much more order to things.


Edited by Iceland - 26 June 2015 at 1:31pm

have deleted my post 

Hi everyone! I was briefly on here just under a year ago after having an ectopic (see below). Sorry I disappeared but I needed to stop obsessing over TTC again... Anyhoo just thought I'd pop back in to let you know I just got my BFP and I have a wee CORRECTLY PLACED 5 - 6 week old blip! There was only one other person who'd had an ectopic last time I was on so I thought it might be nice for anyone out there frantically searching the worldwideweb for answers post-ectopic to see an update. It took 8 months and two cycles of clomid (first cycle standard dose, second cycle double dose) but here I am!

I read my post below and teared up a bit. I remember that bawling distraught mess that was me of a year ago like it was yesterday. And today I got to cry at my little blip's heartbeat, isn't life just the biggest rollercoaster?!

Hope you are all well and my heart goes out to all of you (along with super sticky and positive vibes!)

xxx

Mitsi wrote: Hi ladies A month ago today I found out I was pregnant. But it was not the joyous occasion I always imagined it would be and the doctor did not congratulate me. Instead he called an ambulance while I clung to my partner and bawled my eyes out. I had gone to the doctor because I had random bleeding and severe abdominal pain so it was pretty clear things weren't okay. I had an ectopic pregnancy and had to have emergency surgery to remove it before it ruptured. They took my tube. I also had a cyst on my other tube for good measure. We had been TTC for 7 months and I had just been diagnosed with PCOS. I didn't even know I was pregnant. I don't understand how I *was* pregnant, I had only just had AF two weeks prior and it was perfectly AF-like, nothing at all to suggest it might have been implantation bleeding. Would there have even been implantation bleeding when it was in the wrong place?! Sometimes I'm angry that I never got the joy of a positive pregnancy test, but I know it was probably for the better as I didn't have time to fall in love with my baby before I lost it. I can only imagine how much more painful it must be for you ladies :( I'm ready to try again once we're allowed (have to wait for two cycles) but I'm also terrified. What if it happens again? I only have one tube left! Is it going to take another 7 months?! The gyno surgeon seemed pretty positive about my newly clean remaining tube so maybe the other one was a dud and now I have one nice tube to work with things will go better - that's what my partner is going by anyway. It's a fine line trying to be positive but also not wanting to get your hopes up! I hate that the thing I want most in the world is something I can't do anything about! I'm so sorry for all of your losses and sorry for just jumping in with a giant story, had to get it all off my chest, thanks for "listening"

Congratulations Mitsi. I really appreciate people popping back in here to tell of their success - it gives me hope.

The posts that have upset people have obviously been deleted - although we have different journeys, we all share this horrible event(s) in our lives and therefore should be able to support each other. I know we're all emotionally fragile and that makes it more likely that we'll take things to heart that weren't intended to be hurtful. This group is quite quiet it would be nice to think that all members could remain and see this as a safe place to share. I have a 3 year old that I'm grateful for every our of the day.

My AF has returned on time twice and was about a week late the other time. Not sure when I ovulated again, as I never chart the month after. Also I had pregnancy symptoms (sore boobs etc) for awhile after the last miscarriage.

My trip to Fertility Associates on Thursday was useful but disappointing. They can't really help me and I just have to keep on trying and be prepared for more miscarriages. I'm not sure how many more I can tolerate before the sadness takes over my life permanently. They think the cause of my miscarriages are chromosome defects in the embryos that are related to my age. They are going to try me on progesterone, but think it's unlikely to help (but won't hurt).

Good luck to those of you on the TWW.

Yay congrats Mitsi so good to hear after having an ectopic myself 6 weeks ago.

Awsome Poppy!!! So nice to hear!!! im so happy for you!

Kia ora wonderful wahine,

I have been absent for a while and have had a read through, but so much to catch up on, I am afraid I may have missed things.

So wonderful to hear good news :-) This makes my heart so happy. Poppy so wonderful to hear you have seen/heard heartbeat and wow measuring 2 days bigger that sounds like a great sign!!

Sending out massive aroha to all of you, I hope healing is happening and it is gentle.

A bit about where I am at ... Sorry if this ends up being a massive story...

We took our baby Taonga up north for burial about a month ago. He (we felt he was a boy, but did not know) is now with my husbands mother and many other ancestors in the cemetery. It is so strange how I felt taking him from the freezer in our whare, I was so sad that he wouldn't be with us anymore (I found this a weird thing to think as it wasn't like I could hold him or anything). However once we were at the cemetery I felt calm and knew he would be looked after and he is now with whanau. My dearest husband's whanau were amazing and everything said and done made it a wonderful ceremony of letting go/laying to rest and moving forward.

After this trip we went to Australia for a few days holiday/party and tried hard to concieve. However AF arrived bang on time (the second time since dnc).

I have been without a computer for a few weeks (munted hard drive), hence not being around. There have been some other major changes with us. We have sold our house and bought a new house 5 hours north of the might Waikato. All very exciting and scarey.

Life is a crazy gift and sometimes it hurts like hell. After the dnc I had a few weeks of depression. This has passed but I have my moments. I feel sometimes I have returned to my pre pregnancy obsessiveness that lasted for about 6 months of the 14 months TTC. Other times I am relaxed and know that life is amazing with or without kids (without fur). Other times I think of what was not meant to be and cry for the loss.

Ok ladies, thank you all for being here. I know some of you are taking a break at the moment, I hope you are getting support and understanding from your peps. Massive love.

So sorry to hear about your bub luckyjade but i'm glad you have so much support around you. Big hugs and all the best for your future ttc.

congrats nzveggie! such a wonderful success story.

afm, i had lots of discomfort down there yesterday.trying not to freak out but it's hard. not seeing midwife for another 2 weeks.