No sperm :(

That is such a lovely idea!
Saturday is getting sooner, so exciting! Do you have any more tests to do or it's just show up on Sat?

No it totally makes sense, I do think it is different for guys and especially when they are the one who has something 'wrong'. It does make me a wee bit nervous though, about if it will affect their bonding, or as soon as conception happens it is all forgotten.

No we haven't really talked about anything more specific. I think I would regret not trying for another baby but on the other hand I can also imagine a life with no more babies. We will definitely keep moving though and talk to the specialists at FA.

Two more days for you eek! How much longer until your man is home?

You have been in my thoughts babycrazy I hope that lil embie is sticking nicely xxx

Oh hun I so know how you feel it is awful- when I was about three days off my blood test one of the girls at work (no one had any clue I'd had ivf) knocked my salad out of the fridge and I burst into tears like full on melt down but It was late night, I'd been holding it together for far to long and I broke. I blamed it on my period which came the next day now everytime it's that time off the month everyone takes the absolute piss out of me haha gotta see the funny side I guess!! My fingers and toes are all crossed for you it's not over til the fat lady sings.

Have you been having any symptoms?

I'm doing a wee bit better apart from being asked by my fiancés brother if we would be te godparents of their baby so sweet but wow just not the right time. Wedding plans are in full swing it actually makes my heart sing I am so so excited and follow up appt is on the 28th I so can't wait to get on that waiting list!!

Xxxx

Edited by Jacq_P - 19 April 2014 at 11:10pm

Not sure if I've been having symptoms or not jacq. Have woken up everyday since transfer dying of thirst and with a slight headache. When I get hungry I feel a little ill or like I'm getting reflux. Have has cramps since transfer sometimes they're like period ones other times stretchy ones. Not any tireder not do I have sore boobs. Cos most of it started right after transfer I think it's all in my head and I'm just noticing stuff cos it's on my mind. I've got some wicked spots on my face too. Like I say though no idea if they're period related or not. I guess I feel so forlorn because after this we have one frostie and if that doesn't work I'm not sure what will happen next.

I'm glad you're enjoying planning your wedding. What a great distraction.
Being asked to be godparents would be so nice but hard at the same time. Not long till you're appt now. Hope it goes well.

Oh love, I just got a little teary I am soooo sorry to hear the first bloods weren't nice and strong. Keep me updated and if you need to chat, vent I'm here and waiting.

It's such a tough pill to swoll though, it's such a hard thing to go though and not to get the BFP at the end you deserve to feel sorry for yourself, I know I still do.

But don't give up you hear of people getting a low and then being glowing and pregnant, your in my thoughts xx

Naw sending you big hugs, nice having your friend there. I'm sure your hubby would want nothing more but to be home with you. That's the one positive thinking. Next embie here you come xx

Hi girls, hope you don't mind me reading your stories but this is the same situation that my partner and I found ourselves in last year so I can relate and it helps hearing others stories that have similar situations. We referred ourselves privately to FA in Auckland after 9 months of TTC and nothing happening, I felt there had to be something wrong as I was only 30 and in very good health. We found out within a few days that there was no sperm in my partners semen and then a few days later after he had a scan that he had a testicular tumour. This obviously presented health issues that had to take precedence and was a really difficult time as we were told that there was a 99% chance that it was cancer. After having the testicle removed a couple of weeks later it was found that it was actually a benign tumour so we were very lucky on that score. The other good news that came from this was that there was a small amount of sperm found in the testicle that we were able to have frozen (they said at the time enough for maybe three cycles of IVF with ICSI). We know that there is no blockage and the fact that there is no sperm in the semen is likely due to my partner having an undescended teste as a child and this not being operated on until he was about 7 (apparently they now operate on these prior to 1 year old and the earlier it's operated on the better chance of later fertility). We are currently undertaking our first cycle of privately funded IVF (we are on the public waiting list but the wait was 18 months (not till May 2015) and we decided that for our mental health we couldn't wait that long). So far things have gone really well and we're waiting for a FET in just over a week. The injections and egg collection all went much better than I expected, I took it pretty easy over this time and didn't have any side effects from the drugs and I had 17 eggs collected, with 13 good enough use, 9 fertilised and we now have 8 5-day blastocysts frozen. I went in for my transfer after collection but it turns out I had very enlarged ovaries and they didn't go through with the transfer due to the high risk of OHSS. They said I already had mild OHSS although I wasn't having any symptoms/pain. This was disappointing but we've gotten very used to waiting so another 3-4 weeks wasn't going to be the end of the world and we also couldn't be too unhappy with 8 blastocysts. Trying to stay positive but not get our hopes up too much that things will keep going well. I hope we can have a baby that is biologically my partners but donor sperm will be the next option if that doesn't work. It wouldn't make any difference to me at all, but it will definitely be something he will have to get his head around.

Good luck to you girls and I hope you get some positive results and don't have to wait too long. I look forward to hearing how you're going.

xx

Welcome Hannah, I was the same I found it helpful to read others stories and even though mine ended in tears I love the positivity of others as it gives me hope. We have a meeting with FA tomorrow to see where to from hear. I'm super nervous.

Babycrazy you've scheduled your next FET? How you feeling about it? I'll be thinking of ya.

Edited by Jacq_P - 27 April 2014 at 10:20am

Good luck with your FET babycrazy, fingers crossed for you. Are you doing a manufactured cycle? I am but was wondering why they automatically did this for me (I didn't even realise), I think next time I'll ask whether I can do a natural cycle (although hopefully I won't have to).

And hope your appointment goes well jacq with some good options for you.

(previously posted as Hannah...)

Edited by Sunshine82 - 27 April 2014 at 9:48pm