TTC number 2 and getting glum

Hello all,
This is my first post here.
We have being TTC # 2 for seven months, which I know is not really that long compared to others, but the thing is we conceived our daughter the first month of trying. I take ovulation predictor tests and I've charted as well and I regularly ovulate on day 17. My luteal phase is only 10-11 days, which is a bit short. When I conceived my daughter it was 12. I've talked to my Dr and she got my hubby to do a sperm test, which I have not heard the results of, and I have to do the day 21 and day 4 blood tests this month.
Anyway, I guess I am just wondering if anyone is in the same boat? Or if anyone has a story to share - did # 2 take longer for you?
Thanks in advance

Thanks heaps for your reply!
Seven months ago I had a cycle that was weird. I thought I was pregnant because I was cramping heaps in the tww, except I was also aware it didn't feel quite like when I was pregnant the first time. But as I've never experienced that before I thought something was up. My period was late and really painful, also unusual. So I wonder if I had an early miscarriage or something that could be delaying things?
I have thought about trying to lengthen my luteal phase but I've been a bit apprehensive about the various options as things like excess B6 and Vitex come with some warnings. I haven't looked into evening primrose though, so I will do that.
I really hope it's just a matter of 'rolling the six' as my Dr put it. I'm thinking all sorts of things like blocked tubes, scarring, etcetera.
Your positive story is really good to hear!

I might look into that too - I'm willing to give anything a shot!! Thanks :)

Hi Mama P,
It's reassuring to know I'm not alone! I'm sorry you are going through this too. My daughter is two as well and I just didn't anticipate that there would be roughly a three-year age gap - IF we even get lucky soon.
Everyone around me is also falling pregnant. I feel quite frustrated when I hear another lot of happy news - and it makes me feel like a bad person. Rah!
When I ask my daughter what she'd like from Santa, she says, "Baby". Doh! I'm hoping she's just talking about a plastic one, cos nature ain't providing one this year, for sure
I'm thinking of taking some Evening Primrose Oil too, but just waiting on my blood test results first. Has it lengthened your luteal phase or made your cycles regular?

Hi Apfel84,
Thanks for your post! Lots of good ideas there. I have been taking Blackmores Pregnancy Gold, as I did before I conceived my daughter, but perhaps I will look into these other vitamins instead to help my luteal phase and save the pregnancy vitamins for when I'm actually pregnant!
I always counted my period starting from when I started spotting about two days out, although I've recently read it's the first day of red flow. So based on that I guess my luteal phase is 12-13 days. But I've also read that spotting before a period is a sign of low progesterone anyway! So! Yes, I need to try and lengthen it.
We have been using Preseed this whole time - although I only did one month of using those applicator things and we just used it as a regular lube really.
This month, getting a bit desperate, I also tried the Robitussin trick as well...pretty sure it hasn't worked though.
DH is also on special spermy health tablets and his sperm test came back as normal.
Do you have a brand of B vitamins you recommend? Thanks!

I never wanted a 3 year gap between kids either. I think that is why I am starting to get anxious. If we have a third we are going to start trying pretty quick after number 2 I would say. We are both not getting any younger

I found the Evening Primrose Oil helped to make my period a bit more regular. It was all over the show and at time would go from 34 days to 26!! To me that is a huge difference. Now I have been around 30 days for 3 or 4 months.

We have decided to give it another good go at getting pregnant this month and then if we don't fall pregnant we are going to both go to the Dr and get some tests done. I went to the Dr a few months back and he was a bit of a dick about it all. I think I came across as being a bit too casual about the whole situation.

Edited by Mama P - 07 September 2014 at 4:37pm

Thank you for your replies, everyone.

Soda - I'm really sorry for your loss and also that you've been on this journey for two years now. That's really, really tough.

Isn't it so frustrating that our bodies can work right the first time and then unexpectedly not the second time? I'm a bit of a control freak and, Lordy, it is driving me round the bend that I can't just make a pregnancy happen. It has been mentioned to me that I should just forget about it and it'll happen, but how, how, howwww do you do that?!

Mama P - Stink that your doctor was a dick. I saw a dick doctor at first too (not my regular doctor). I told her I was worried I had low progesterone and she just looked a bit weird at me and said, "Why would you have low progesterone?" (I don't know?! Aren't you the Dr?!) I'm also fairly certain she didn't have a clue what I was talking about when I mentioned the words 'luteal phase', but in the interest of saving face she pretended she did.

Pepi-bebe - A naturopath sounds like a good idea. I will see what my blood tests say and go from there. If my doctor can't find anything wrong and things don't happen naturally then I'll do whatever I need to get some answers.

One thing is for sure, I'm going to be so incredibly grateful if I get pregnant a second time. With the first being so easy I think I probably took a lot for granted, even though I was aware how lucky I was at the time. I'll even rejoice each time I have to sick up in the toilet with morning suckiness. I'll even love every harrowing second of pushing that baby out. Promise!

Our DS1 was a lovely surprise, and he has just turned 3 last month. Last night I got my BFP after 6 cycles of Clomid. My cycle never came right after I had my son, and I had spent 6 months on Depo back then. My cycles were between 7-12 days long and I didn't ovulate at all. After an op, going back on the pill, and it still not being back to normal my OB/GYN started me on Clomid. So while we have only tried for 6 months I have been on the road to sorting my body out so we COULD try for 18 months now. I wanted 2.5-3 years between kids but there will be 3.75 years assuming this one sticks. I'm a bit gutted about that but also stoked I'm finally pregnant again! One thing the specialist told me was that the Clomid only put me back on a level playingfield with women who OV naturally, and said 6-12 months is absolutely normal. I hope your BFP comes quickly xxx

Good luck :)