Where do i start?

Im a 28y Male.

Im asking for advice, because i really dont know where to start, I dont want to just go to doctors after docters only find out i should have went to a specific doctor first, if you get what I mean.

I will admit i know next to nothing about this

Basically my girlfriend of over 6ish or so years want to try for a baby. We have never used protection and still nothing.

I think the issue is with me, because during our 6 years we had a 6month break, and 1 had slept with around 6 girls without protection (I did constant STD checks, and came clean everytime) yet none of them got pregnant

Now me and my girlfriend are running strong for over a year and a half and we really want to try for a baby, but we dont know where to start?
We aint the richest in the plot, but am pretty much keen to do what it takes to have a baby

I dont know what these forums are of i am going to get hated for this, but i hope someone could share some light on what steps and where can i go?

I am in the Waikato area, but auckland is not an issue to get to if its cheaper / better access to more options.

Edited by DXXX155302 - 19 September 2014 at 11:47am

If you go to Fertility Associates you can get your sperm tested for around $90 and get the results the same day. You can do this casual (don't need to be seeing them for anything prior) Just give them a call and arrange a time. Its a quick and easy way to find out if your 'guys' are the issue :-)

*Sara* wrote: If you go to Fertility Associates you can get your sperm tested for around $90 and get the results the same day. You can do this casual (don't need to be seeing them for anything prior) Just give them a call and arrange a time. Its a quick and easy way to find out if your 'guys' are the issue :-)

Thanks
Is there any other options to get sperm tests done? through a doc i take it they send you to fertility associates or similar place anyway? and charges the same?

Edited by DXXX155302 - 19 September 2014 at 11:59pm

There is a multi vitamin made in NZ called Vitamenz. The main things are zinc and selenium. Both of you eating a healthy diet will help to make sure you are creating the best sperm and she is creating the best environment for growing a baby. It takes 100 days for your body to produce new sperm. So take the vitamins every day consistently. It will take 3-4 months until there is new healthy sperm. Your girlfriend needs to take folic acid. Her gp can prescribe this for cheap.

The gp would be a good first stop. You'd be more likely to get publicly funded help if you go to the gp and state you've tried for 1 1/2 years without success. Timing is key. If she hasn't been tracking her cycle she needs to start tracking the days. The fertile window is small and it can take a healthy couple around to 9 months trying. Those other girls may have been on the pill or got the morning after pill so all could still be ok. A trip to the gp will be good as soon as you can. Good luck

Edited by Apfel84 - 20 September 2014 at 7:40am

Once we'd had our test result and were referred the wait time was 5-6mths so we decided to pay for our first couple of specialist appts which were approx $200 for the first and $140 I think for the next one. We're fortunate to be a position where we could afford the cost so I realise it's not an option for all. Basically I wanted to get on the waiting list for whatever treatment ASAP as waits for ivf is up to 12mths.
Hope that helps :)

So yep gp first to test sperm then if result shows further investigation needed you can get referred to a fertility specialist. If you pay for your first couple appointments and it turns out you qualify for public funding you can switch to public which will pay for your treatment but there's a waiting list (a long one). You can be on the public list and still pay for your own treatment in between.
However you may not even have to go down any of those paths just yet so one step at a time.

The fertility clinic I deal with is fertility associates in Wellington am pretty sure they have a clinic in Hamilton too.

Thanks Everyone

GP Appointment booked for next week