Older Mums TTC in 2015/2016

Im still here lurking in the background! Haha

Nothing new to report here! Althoooouggghhhhh my nipples are like so sensitive/sore!!?? Do you think its cos i've gone off the pill and its a side effect??

Hows everyone doing? I had bad bronchitis this month and didnt ovulate :( so gutted, no idea when AF will arrive but just want to get it over with so we can start trying!

Hi everyone! This is my last post for the evening. I'm quietly having a minor panic attack. Cd1 for me and atupidly looked up the stats for a 37 year old first time mum. Why the hell did I do that? I'm kicking myself for waiting so long. And for not pushing harder for tests etc after the first mc. Or the second. Why did I sit back and wait so patiently. Just because the doc said it wasn't considered a problem until after 3? By that time it had been nearly 18 months.
I know tomorrow is a new day and 'it's only 2 weeks till we can try again' (my partner) but today I'm feeling bloody crappy. And pissed off with the whole medical world. Sorry for the rant. I try hard to be positive but today's got the better of me.

How's everyone else? Did a facebook group get created?

Hi Bonnie7725, sorry to hear you're having a crap day. I totally know your pain. I was the same age as you when i first started trying. Got pregnant really easy and then miscarried. Had a missed miscarriage which then led to having to have a D&C which then (unbeknownest to me) led to uterine scarring... there were lots more things that happened that delayed / prevented me from getting pregnant. A bit painful to recount everything. Hence to say we eventually found out i had very low egg count ... then we tried IVF three unsuccessful times... We only did this because hubby couldn't accept the fact that we were going to need an egg donor. I did the ivf to satisfy him because he said he didn't want "someone else's baby". So there went another 2 years. Then finally he accepted the reality of an egg donor and then it took us another year to find one and get sorted that way. Finally we got a break with our first attempt at donor transplant - first transplant we tried worked and i am now (nervously) pregnant at 42 years old and 25 weeks in. SO i guess i'm sharing this all with you for the following reasons: NEVER give up hope BUT do make sure you are very clear early on with both your partner and doctors about what you want and need. You have to take control of this journey early on (which was my biggest mistake - because i didn't have a clue what was going on i didn't know HOW to take control) and everyone else around you will have to follow YOUR lead. HOpe this isn't too much of a rant. It's my first time on here and my main message to you is to KEEP GOING. :)

Also has anyone found their cycles to get shorter (or longer) as they've gotten older? The last 6 months Ive gone from quite long cycles to much shorter ones, wondering if thats an age thing or just because I've changed my diet. I'm just ovulating earlier in my cycles than I used to (know from temping), not sure what would be causing that.

wohoo so exciting Julz! Big congrats! Was that first month trying?!

Wow congrats julz thats so awesome! Nice to see someone having an easy ttc journey! I was like that last time. At 35 2nd month of ttc and bang! Seven years later and I'm hoping it will be easy again. Am in tww. Af due sometime in next 3days. Waiting....
Tinka my cycles appear to be shorter than when i was younger but spent 17 years on the pill so not really sure what my normal was. Seem to recall it being 28 ish days when younger now it can vary normally 25 or 26 days most months.
As for stats... i reckon they say over 40 there is a 5% chance per cycle. So that means some women get pregnant straight away. I'm determined to be one of those!
Hope everyone is keeping well and enjoying the lovely spring weather

I am trying to get pregnant in my early 40's. It is month 5 TTC and nothing just yet. I have had all my blood tests which are above average for my age, so you never know. When I rang Fertility Associates they told me they see younger women with a lower AMH than me, so I am not really sure how they work out that people in my age bracket have a 5% per month chance of conceiving. That statistic does not really seem to consider individuals AMH and FSH tests. It must be a rough guess...

Hi JW, yeah I'm the same. Dr says my levels are good, so hoping that will help.

Sorry you got AF Miz :(

I'm still waiting on ovulation, normally around day 17 so hopefully not far off. DH and I are finding it hard trying to muster enthusiasm for baby dancing, hes day 7 through a 9 day shift and I'm recovering from pneumonia!Kinda feels like skipping a month would be a potential lost opportunity tho.

Hi jess. Most of the chat on here is over in the tww thread but you're welcome to join in where ever. I'm 42 and ttc #2