surrogacy, need your advice!

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Edited by Rose218074 - 22 May 2019 at 12:00pm

Hey. But you must choose a country not only by this criterion. I read that the money part of the matter is important to you. But the most important is that the laws of the country in which you will sign a contract with a surrogate mother will govern the issue of surrogate motherhood. And not just regulated this issue, namely in favor of genetic parents. I can advise you on Ukraine. But you can also go to Russia. But in Russia the price is also high, in Ukraine it is cheaper. In Russia, they were going to ban surrogate motherhood for foreigners as early as last January. But I can not say for sure whether he was banned or whether this is a rumor. But I know for sure that in Ukraine the legislation protects genetic parents in the process of reviewing this issue. A surrogate mother does not have any rights to the child, if you previously signed a contract with her. In addition, in case of refusal to give the child, she will have to give you all the money that she received from you. We were in Ukraine, my sister and her husband also enjoyed this service. And all due to the fact that she had several unsuccessful attempts at IVF. She was quite desperate, she began a terrible depression. And we decided to do something, her husband has a friend in Ukraine who found a clinic for them. They are very grateful to him for this, because it is difficult to find a good clinic in another country, especially for a foreigner. In general we went there almost the whole family. The sister was not happy with this cortege. But because of her constant depression and nervous breakdowns, we decided that she needs support.We liked the clinic, the building of the clinic is so unusual, it looks like a huge villa. I mean, when you go to the clinic, you do not have a panic attack, as it happens in the ordinary clinic. For example, when I go to the hospital, I have a terrible panic from a medical smell or long corridors, but there is no such thing. I did not go with my sister to the doctors, I waited for her in the corridor. But she said that they spoke with doctors in English, which means that there was no language barrier. They did not search for a surrogate mother on the Internet, they chose a suitable girl from the clinic's base. They agreed that the surrogate mother will live in Ukraine. Every time a surrogate mother visited a clinic, they were sent a photo, a video of this process to the e-mail. Of course, due to the fact that the clinic had many patients, we sometimes had to wait. But we thought it was good if there were a lot of patients. This means that doctors can be trusted, because they have a lot of experience. Therefore, I can advise you Bio Tex Com. You can go there for a consultation, so that you will be told all the details of this process. Basically. I can say that my sister did not regret that she agreed to a surrogate motherhood. Because no matter how many she has had unsuccessful attempts at IVF, no one knows. And for her mental health, I'm not even talking.

evelina218698 wrote: How is your surrogacy going? May I ask which clinic did you choose? I'm also in search now. I don't know much about surrogacy. I'm thinking about the best way to do this procedure. Surrogacy is illegal in Italy. That means we have to find solutions abroad. First question is how and where to find surrogate mother? I know there are many agencies but their fees are so high. Maybe there is other ways to find surrogate mother. Will it be ok to look for her in the internet? I saw many girls who propose services of surrogate mother. Do we need a lawyer? I have no idea how to make everything in the right way. Second question is what are prices? How much should we pay and who states the price. What will we have to pay for? Maybe you could help me if you started your procedure. Anyway I wish all of you good luck!

Idk if I can help much as I’m at the beginning of my journey. I'll just share my thoughts and experience. Maybe it will be helpful for you. My DH and I are currently pregnant via surrogacy. As we are using clinic abroad, our sm lives there. Our sm is pregnant, 9 weeks. We are going to pay €40 000. Actually as the whole sum is divided into 5 parts, we've already paid €16 000. Next payment we'll make on 12th week. We really like that this amount €40 000 is strictly set in our contract. We are sure we won't have to pay extra money, only this amount and no more.

I can’t say it is a long and painful process. We’ve been waiting for this moment for 8 years. We will have to wait just a couple more months and our dream to become parents will become a reality. It took our clinic less than 3 months to find sm for us. I don’t think that was long. You will have to wait longer if you have surrogacy for example in UK, Canada, Australia and New Zealand. As only altruistic surrogacy is legal there, you’ll have to find sm by yourself or wait for a “volunteer” who would carry your baby.

Pay attention to laws regarding surrogacy. They are different in each country. At some countries(for example in Russia) you will have to go through adoption after your sm give birth. So sm is considered a mother of a child. There is a risk she may refuse to give a baby back to intended parents. Georgia and Ukraine have now emerged as the next surrogacy hubs as there are no laws or rules so far governing the sector

I can’t say surrogacy feels painful for me. Actually I feel much better after long years of failures, losses and empty hopes. Though I’m nervous because my baby is far away now, but for the first time I feel like this is real. I have belief that this time we’ll make it.

Hello, lenabr199848! Thank you for your recommendations on viewing these videos. My friends recently also joined the surrogacy program. The fact is that surrogacy is the only chance for them to have a child. They can not boast of a young age. Therefore, they decided that it would be wrong to postpone it. They chose a clinic for a long time, compared medical centers around the world. They have been comparing prices and conditions for a very long time. However, they chose two clinics; they visited both clinics. As a result, they chose one of the clinics in which they joined the surrogacy program. At the moment, their surrogate is already pregnant. The gestation period is still very small, but they are still very happy. They hope that the pregnancy will proceed well and without complications. After all, for them, this child is very welcome. It seems to me that your recommendations are very helpful. After all, the video provides the necessary information for those who read this topic. Therefore, I also hope that your recommendations will be useful to many readers.

Yes, Ukraine is pretty cheap. They have a lot of different options. We have also decided to sign with one of the agencies there. WCOB if you have heard of it.
And yes, it was one of the most difficult yet right decisions we have made in our lives.

Everything is up to you, as well as the IVF Clinic. Anyway, considering that there might be numerous unsuccessful IVF attempts which potentially will harm your mood, I still recommend considering surrogacy. I had a very good experience with Feskov clinic in Ukraine, thanks to them I finally became a mother, great services and it was way more affordable.