IVF advice.
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Topic: IVF advice.
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Subject: IVF advice.
Date Posted: 28 February 2015 at 4:59pm
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Well we have our second appt with Fertitly assocaites next month. We didnt qualify for public funding despite the fact i'm 39 and we have been trying for 18 months. We dont live in Christchurch but it is the closest clinic. The doctor travels to Nelson every month. At our last appt the doctor said we would be doing the IVF route not IUI. Not sure what to expect from second appt. We have done all our tests(some twice). Has anyone done ivf from Nelson, what things do we need to consider? How often do you have to travel to Christchurch? How quick from deciding to do IVF does everything get started? Any advice or information appreciate. The doctor is brilliant and I am sure we will be well informed but I feel a bit overwhelmed with it all. It is good to look up some of the terms etc before hand so i know what to expect. Cheers!! |
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Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 28 February 2015 at 5:10pm
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Hey kiwi girl. Will just share our experiences with travelling for ivf. We go to Wellington but live nearly 4 hrs from there with our nearest centre for the FA clinics being 2 hrs away (where we see specialist for review appts etc). I've done 2 fresh ivf cycles which resulted in a total of 3 frozen embryo transfers. For first fresh cycles we only had to go Wellington once which was to collect eggs. Second one I ended up there three times as my scan day ended up a weekend and then they were having issues getting a good look at my ovaries. All other bloods and scans were done in palmy (2hrs from us). Similar deal for the frozen transfers 1 trip to Wellington to transfer. So for an average ivf you could expect one trip for egg collection and another for transfer depending on how it goes that could be within days of each other. I would presume nelson would have access to anything else you'd need. Long story short they're really good at fitting around your needs when they can. As for your second appt I guess it'll be to confirm ivf as an option and direct you as to how to proceed next. Hope that helps. Good luck! ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 28 February 2015 at 5:16pm
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Thanks Babycrazy! We are lucky as Nelson seems to have everything we need for scans etc. I am a person who likes all her ducks in a row and likes to have everything planned! This whole process is so frustrating as i have little control and I have no idea of the outcome. We can afford one round of IVF but after that then it becomes a real question of do we get into debt and if so how much.. It's like buying a lotto ticket each month! |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 28 February 2015 at 5:35pm
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Yep I'm pretty similar. Just be prepared for things to be a little unsettling when you do ivf. They can give you a pretty good idea of things like 1st and 2nd scans but as for exactly when egg collection and transfer will be that depends on the drugs and your reaction. Frustrating as heck especially as sometimes you don't know what's happening the next day until the afternoon before. You'll have 36 hours notice of egg collection though. Good news is when you pay you can start whenever you're ready! We've paid for one cycle and now saving for another. If that doesn't work I don't know what we'll do as don't have infinite money to throw away. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 28 February 2015 at 5:46pm
| I hear you about the money. We were gutted not to qualify for public funding. We were kind of thinking we would get two rounds funded and have enough to pay for round three. 3 attempts seems like a good number, then i wont be wishing i kept going. We may look at other options such as adoption etc but again at our age, limited funds that seems like a uphill battle too. |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 28 February 2015 at 6:03pm
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We were lucky enough to get public funding but all that resulted in was miscarriages blow it. Fully sucks having to pay I'm thinking about adoption/home for life but yeah the odds aren't great there either. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: SweetConception
Date Posted: 28 February 2015 at 6:15pm
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Hi Kiwi - I feel you about the lack of control and ability to plan and predict. In some ways it's harder to cope with than the $ aspect. Like BC said sometimes you get less than 18-24hrs notice of your next "step" which can be hard if you are trying to juggle other things such as work and travel to the clinic (I only had to travel just over an hour each way so nothing like BCs 4hrs!). It can feel pretty intense during that time even though the actual "treatment" (ie meds, scans, tests etc) often only take up a short amount of time (often less than 30min). We've just paid for our first private cycle and one thing I'd suggest is to ask about the pros/cons of "extras" such as ICSI and IMSI. They cost a little more (e.g IMSI was an extra $750) but we figured that if it made a difference it was cheap compared to another $15k! IMSI in particular seems to have really made a difference for us this cycle. ------------- Beautiful girl born March 2016 after 7 years TTC |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 01 March 2015 at 3:47pm
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Its the time thing that freaking me a we bit, as of yet we haven't told my work what we are doing as I have changed positions recently. My work is not the type of job were it is easy to get time off at short notice without a good reason. I know at some point I will have to tell my boos but I feel like I'm jinking it if I tell anyone outside my family. Weird eh? We have also looked at the payment options for ivf and am not sure what is the best option. Any advice? |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 01 March 2015 at 7:19pm
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Can I ask what your work is? Most scans and bloods get done before 9am it's just actual trips for treatment that you'll need time for. I've been open with my boss and have been lucky to have one so understanding (well two actually as changed jobs a year ago). Could you take some annual leave around that time to cover yourself? I took a couple days to come right after egg collections - I've tend to produce stupid amounts of follies and it hurts a bit for me. Bit hard to predict what you'll need until you've started but perhaps ask your specialist what theyd recommend. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: Amy67
Date Posted: 02 March 2015 at 8:57pm
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I'm in a similar position, the clinic (not CHCH) is 2 hours drive away and all scans have to be done here unfortunately. My work is also difficult to take time off from, and my husband works for the same organisation so cannot really take a whole day off on the same day as me to go to a 30 minute scan, so unfortunately I have done lots of the short appointments by myself. I ended up travelling for the ultrasounds every four days, but the cycle was cancelled so can't let you know about the ER side sorry. I'm also a planner and the lack of certainty about what I would be doing a couple of days out was quite hard. It is very overwhelming but I learnt to put trust in the professionals and take each day as it comes (which really wasn't easy!!!) Good luck! |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 02 March 2015 at 9:02pm
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Same as you Amy. The only appts my dh came to was ec as he had to drive me home. We don't work together though he is just really busy being self employed and isn't the kind to do all that doctor shiz if he doesn't have to. I prefer it that was as he's just a pain in the butt at hospitals etc lol. Stink about cancelled cycle. What happens now? ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: Amy67
Date Posted: 02 March 2015 at 9:21pm
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We are doing it private so overtime and time off at the moment is precious! However he's not really coping with not being involved with the appointments. New schedule in April booked with a change in meds to overcome low LH levels. Hopefully the little follicles grow this time! |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 03 March 2015 at 9:04pm
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Fingers crossed Amy67 for April. My work is in govt sector and leave is usually booked well in advance as we can only have one person away at a time. They will be supportive but I really dont want anyone knowing, until I know if we are successful. I do have a little bit of flexibility with my hours so appts nearby wont be too much of a hassle. Its just getting down to Chch. The more notice I can give the better. But at end of the day, I will be going no matter what!! I just have to remember its the 'end game' that is the most important thing.. I just dont like to inconvenience anyone!! I really look forward to seeing how all your journeys are going. |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 03 March 2015 at 9:36pm
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What a sweet dh you have amy! Kiwi - 36 hours will be max you get before egg collection. As a teacher I understand where you're coming from. Getting time off short notice is hard. Just think of it as sick leave - if you woke up that day I'll they'd have to cope. And transfer if it's in the days after collection (mine were always frozen then done later) you might have to go the same day they ring you. When you start treatment they usually give you the week you can expect collection then closer they can give you an idea. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: Amy67
Date Posted: 08 March 2015 at 8:52pm
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We also have leave booked in advance, and it's a bit odd to take random sick days. In my workplace people take sick days for plenty less!! The financial side of IVF is really odd. We are trying to save for the potential outcome of me being off work if this is successful, while at the same time trying to find money for IVF. Though I guess that I would rather be very poor with a child than have no child at all! We don't care much for fancy baby equipment and toys, which is lucky because we may be very broke at the end of this. |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 08 March 2015 at 9:15pm
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I'm the same Amy. Have always intended to use hand me downs for the big stuff - figure the more stuff I can beg, steal, borrow the better financially. I love the idea of things handed down through generations. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 15 March 2015 at 10:01am
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Agree with you both about the money side, in the long term scheme of things the money will seem like a small deal when you hold the little one in your arms. Have either of you tried acupuncture to help get pregnant or to help with the IVF process? I have heard good things about it but at the same time dont want to buy into everything anyone suggests as we dont have the spare cash to just try everything. |
Posted By: Charlie6
Date Posted: 15 March 2015 at 11:28am
| Kiwigirl, I have been doing weekly accupuncture for just over a year now in conjunction with the IVF. I did get pregnant once, but miscarried at 8 weeks. I do feel that the accupuncture has helped with the quality of the embryos compared to previous cycles. I also find the accupuncture relaxing - but it is an expensive thing to do... |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 15 March 2015 at 1:58pm
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Haven't tried acupuncture but mostly because we don't really have access to one in my town. Our local physio does it though so maybe I'll try for this next ivf. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: Amy67
Date Posted: 16 March 2015 at 9:36am
| I haven't tried accupuncture, it's not something that has ever appealed to me. I try to do lots of other relaxing things when I'm doing the drug cycles. Oddly I'm far less stressed when I have started the injections, probably because the waiting is over. I felt better than I had in ages! |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 20 March 2015 at 12:10pm
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Thanks, have got a number of someone who is meant to be good but going to hold off for a bit. Have our second appt with fertility doctor on Tuesday so might just see what he thinks. Amy how quickly did they get you started on injections? How are you finding the process so far? |
Posted By: Amy67
Date Posted: 20 March 2015 at 2:26pm
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We went to see the clinic in about october last year, it took about 6 months to start doing the injections. I have to wait 3 months before restarting next round. The hard thing about the process is waiting, the whole thing consumes my mind quite a lot, so having it drag on is quite hard. But I understand the clinics have a lot going on. Once I got to the injecting stage I relaxed so much. I didn't have many side effects and I don't find injecting myself to be an issue at all. |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 22 March 2015 at 6:30pm
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Good to hear the injecting stage inst too bad, im generally ok with needles so hoping i find it ok. How many times a day/week do you have to do it? Was wondering if anyone out there went with the fertility associates fertility cover plan? Just trying to ake sense of it all and work out whats the best option. Any thoughts? |
Posted By: Charlie6
Date Posted: 22 March 2015 at 6:52pm
| I generally haven't found the injecting too bad, but I did get over it this round... In total I did 40 injections and 5 blood tests - although it will all be so worth it if we get our much wanted baby! It is generally an injection in the am, and then again in the pm, length of cycle depends on protocol. We are with FA, but didn't do the plan, we have done 2 public funded cycles, and then 2 privately paid cycles... It's hard to know which option is best really. With regards to starting the cycles, with privately funded cycles we have been able to start as soon as we wanted, one of them was the next cycle, and this one we waited a couple of months as we didn't want to do it over xmas and ny. |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 22 March 2015 at 7:34pm
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Thanks Charlie6, brain is just going crazy as second apt is on Tuesday and just trying to make sure we are informed before we go. Not sure what we should ask etc. Still trying to figure out the best payment option, just hard when you have no idea if or when you will be successful!! Any tips for the second appt? |
Posted By: Merrily
Date Posted: 26 March 2015 at 6:18pm
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Hi Kiwigirl and all I've just joined this forum, and we are in almost the same boat as you - Have seen fertility associates in Hamilton once, but have to travel 3 hours to get there. Next appointment not till end of next month, but it seems like IVF will be the way we have to go too. I don't believe we will qualify for public funding, so its so hard to know what to do about their payment options isn't it - impossible to predict the future! Its such a stressful time, and so hard to have no control over whats going on! Hope your appointment went well? If you are going ahead with IVF, were they able to give you a date to start? I'm really worried that we will find we have to wait months and months even tho paying privately, and the waiting is so hard! Its just constantly in your mind... Anyway, fingers crossed for all :-) |
Posted By: Charlie6
Date Posted: 26 March 2015 at 7:42pm
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Kiwigirl how did your appointment go? We had a embryo transfered on Tuesday... Hi Merrily, you should be able to start pretty much straight away if youre paying privately, once youve had all the necessary tests done etc... Why don't you think you would qualify for public funding? |
Posted By: Amy67
Date Posted: 26 March 2015 at 10:38pm
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We are doing IVF privately, but still had to wait a while. It's certainly not a quick process and paying privately only brings it forward a wee bit (about a year for us). There seemed to be months between appointments, then having to abandon to cycle has dragged the process out more :( |
Posted By: Merrily
Date Posted: 27 March 2015 at 10:47am
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Hi Charlie - I don't think we would qualify for public funding as so our infertility is 'unexplained', and I believe due to me only being 29 that we have to have been trying for 5 years for public funding. And it has 'ONLY' been 18 months for us so far... Amy67 - that's horrible for you - whereabouts in NZ are you getting treatment? |
Posted By: Charlie6
Date Posted: 27 March 2015 at 11:16am
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Amy maybe it depends who you are with? We are with Fertility Associates Auckland and both private cycles we have started as soon as we have wanted to, within a month or 2. Sorry that you have had to abandon a cycle, that must be super frustrating for you. Was that due to lack of response? Merrily, we have almost be trying for 4 years, I have just turned 30, and have already had our 2 public funded rounds for iVF. Ours is also unexplained infertility. We paid for our initial consult, and paid privately for some rounds of clomid which didn't work, so I was put on the list, and then my space got bought forward by around 8 months... After that failed we went back on the waitlist for our 2nd round, and paid for a private round in between as the wait was going to be around a year. xx |
Posted By: Merrily
Date Posted: 27 March 2015 at 4:55pm
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Charlie6 thats interesting, as the FA website gives a typical unexplained case as needing 5 years TTC... will be interesting to see what the DR says when we see her again. We might be in luck! I kind of wonder if maybe we need to try Clomid ourselves, I was using OPK's and only got positive results 3 times out of 8 months, but the Dr seemed more interested in the fact that periods were regular. But it does make me wonder if i dont ovulate every month! |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 28 March 2015 at 10:42am
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Hi, welcome Merrily! Had the second appt with Dr, we have to have another sperm est (3rd) as our local hospital keeps not testing for motility. This will only be useful if there is a problem and thus will get us on the public list. As i turn 40 this year we are going ahead with at least one private round. I asked about the fertitlity cover but Dr didt think I would quaify due to age. Guess thats ok as we have been leaning to just trying to pay for each round as it comes and keeping our finger and toes crossed. Spoke with the nurse yesterday and will be signing consent forms this week, then I ring her on day one of my cycle and then a few weeks from there I start taking meds. She said they will send up a detailed plan and a dvd. So should be easy to follow. She was worried that she wouldn't have shown me how to use the needles but we have family in medical field so i was able to reassure her. So Merrily it looks like you can start as soon as your cycle is ready. Charlie6 I have my fingers and toes crossed for you!! Amy67- very hard to have such delays especially after finally coming to terms with the fact IVF is the way to go. Sorry to hear you had to abandon a cycle. |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 02 April 2015 at 10:07am
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Right we have just had our invoice for one round. The cost is $13800 plus the trips down to Christchurch for egg retrieval and implantation. If AF does not arrive mid April we will get started and keep our fingers and toes crossed that it is successful!! Going to be a long couple of months hoping like mad it works!! Good luck to anyone else going through IVf or trying to get pregnant! |
Posted By: Merrily
Date Posted: 02 April 2015 at 12:44pm
Kiwigirl, that's great you can start so soon. Lots of good luck to you! Fingers and toes crossed  Hopefully we will be able to get in so quick also. AF was a couple of days late this month, took a test which said NO.. but you keep hoping, until APRIL FOOLS yesterday, Aunt Flo has arrived! So now just being patient until our specialist appointment on the 22nd... |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 02 April 2015 at 1:10pm
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AF can be a real B**ch sometimes by doing that! Your head says don't get your hopes up but you cant help it! I still have fingers and toes crossed that AF doesn't come so we don't need IVf but am realistic after 19 months we will need to do it. Good luck with the specialist, let us know how it goes. |
Posted By: Merrily
Date Posted: 02 April 2015 at 4:09pm
| Yeah it doesn't matter how realistic your brain is, you still seem to keep a part of it that hopes! Still, I guess that hopeful part is why we go through all this stuff to make it happen. |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 18 April 2015 at 8:18am
| Right at didn't come. We now have dates to start the IVF process next month. Drugs arriving next week!! Fingers and toes are now permanently crossed. Anyone else there going through IVF in the next month or two? Be good to share experiences!! |
Posted By: Mushroom
Date Posted: 18 April 2015 at 8:47am
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Exciting Kiwigirl! I'm still not starting until July (no date-bump for me), though we've had all our paperwork through to sign and initial blood tests, so all ready to go (minus drugs) when July finally comes around. ------------- Me: 35, PCOS, endo, DH: 34, severe MFI 6+ yrs TTC#2 M/C 2012, clomid 2013, IVM 2014, IVF 2015, M/C 2015 2016 FET#1- BFP - MMC - Emergency D&C FET#2 - BFN Jul 16 - stage 3 endo removed. Oct 16 BFP |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 18 April 2015 at 9:23am
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Brilliant news Mushroom! Roll on July!! I am just keen to get started now. We didnt qualify for funding so this is our "1" shot which is leading me to be a bit more anxious than I think I would of been other wise. We have been given some key dates should everything go ok, such as blood test dates, and likely egg implantation date but as this is not an exact science we cant really on it too much, which is hard when trying to figure out how to get down to christchurch without telling the bosses why i need a few days off at short notice. Am not keen to tell them whats happening as I feel like Im tempting fate. Stupid I know. But just want to get started and see what happens without work knowing everything Who are you going through Mushroom? We are with Fertility Associates. |
Posted By: Mushroom
Date Posted: 18 April 2015 at 10:19am
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Yeah - it's hard trying to plan through everything. Hubby has told his bosses so he can take leave at very short notice. I guess you could look at taking a holiday for the week of egg collection (since you have scans, blood tests, and need egg collection and day after off at very least) - if your work is understanding you could give them a heads up that you want to book some leave next month, but are trying to work the dates in with family, so would it be ok to confirm exact dates in a few weeks? We're with Fertility Associates in Auckland, which is why we've been waiting a while on the long slow list, but I guess we're getting to the last hurdle now. Just seems to rather drag, and completely unknown how we'll respond to everything until we get there! ------------- Me: 35, PCOS, endo, DH: 34, severe MFI 6+ yrs TTC#2 M/C 2012, clomid 2013, IVM 2014, IVF 2015, M/C 2015 2016 FET#1- BFP - MMC - Emergency D&C FET#2 - BFN Jul 16 - stage 3 endo removed. Oct 16 BFP |
Posted By: Merrily
Date Posted: 18 April 2015 at 4:37pm
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KiwiGirl thats great :-) Fingers crossed for you! And you Mushroom! Its hard to figure out the work thing ay - We have appointment this wednesday so hopefully will get some idea of timing etc then ourselves - but I'm not sure about work either - In a way it would be easier of they knew and they would be fine with short notice disappearances, but somehow its just hard - I dont like the idea that they know what you're off to do and so will be wanting/looking to know the outcome... I kinda feel like its easier to keep all emotional stuff away from work! Anyway I am thinking we will have to tell my boss once we have an IVF date, cos it will make work more understanding I think. But I kinda wish we didn't have to! |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 19 April 2015 at 12:36pm
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Good luck for the appt on Wednesday. Hope all goes well. The work thing is hard, we are going to see how the first two weeks of injections go and then see if we can wangle going down without my work knowing. Just cant be bothered with it if things dont go well. If things go well they will know soon enough. Might try and take some time off but as one is away the answer will almost be a definite no. So thinking I will tell the boss I have hospital appt but not tell why. All good. Just paid the bill for the drugs which will arrive Wednesday, but dont start taking until May. Good to have that out the way, am sure we will get a few flybuys points for that purchase!!As always keep in touch, look forward to hearing your success stories. |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 22 April 2015 at 11:05pm
Hey merrily. How did the appt go? Hope it all wNt well. 
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Posted By: Merrily
Date Posted: 23 April 2015 at 5:17pm
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Hey Kiwigirl! Well we will be 'almost IVF buddies' - Our appointment was as expected, (need IVF and wont qualify for funding till 5 years as we are unexplained) so we are going ahead with a private round in June (or maybe just starting at the very end of May). So that was quite a relief as I'd been worried we'd still have to wait a few months even privately, so we are stoked - or as stoked as you can be when spending so much money on something that is normally 'free'! We are currently debating the whole fertility cover '3 rounds for the price of 2' deal - makes it so much cheaper if you need 3 rounds... but.... aaargh its a lot of money (that we dont actually have). ANYWAY, Back to Hamilton on the 26th of May to pick up drugs. Am quite excited to get started! But it seems like we will have to get to hamilton a few during the round. Also will have to talk to my boss tomorrow about the time off/whats its for. Quite nervous! But I think i have to let him know since we will need to go away for drug collection, scan, egg collection, and embryo transfer... I will look forward to hearing how it all goes for you! |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 25 April 2015 at 1:16pm
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Exciting Merrily!! Let me know wht you think when you pick up your meds! Mine arrived on Wednesday. I opened the cooler bag looked in and thought bloody hell!! Havent looked at it since!! My DH and I are going to have a proper look later today and try and get our heads around it! The nurse will ring me next week and I have to be at home with the meds so I can go over everything. Luckily I can change work around so i can be home as we live 45 mins from where we work. Have a really busy week coming up so that will prove to be a good distraction. Look forward to hearing how you get on. |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 29 April 2015 at 9:22pm
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Right Nurse is ringing tomorrow to go over the meds! I'm not nervous about taking hem but holy moley there are a lot!! Cant really think of too many questions to ask. Was away yesterday and meet a lady who did three rounds, with no luck!! She said I hope they have prepared you for the emotional roller coaster the drugs send you on! Got me worried so spoke to a friend who has been through it about 12 years ago and she also said yip its terrible!! She isn't one who gets pms or a real emotional person either. She was being an egg donor so didn't have the worry about never having kids if it didnt work out. So not sure how you prepare for possible ups and downs.. Any thoughts? My doctor has mentioned anything about the meds and their effects. Maybe the nurse will talk about it tomorrow? |
Posted By: Merrily
Date Posted: 29 April 2015 at 9:35pm
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Hmmmm scary. I'm kinda worried about the same thing - I'm feeling real relaxed at the moment with a month before our round starts, but given how stressed an emotional I was for the last few months I'm kinda worried about dealing with disappointment! And I'm not normally a PMS or emotional person. Have they talked to you about counselling? FA's info stuff mentions it, but nobody human has actually mentioned anything like that to us. I did get a booklet about dealing with stress, but it is fairly obvious stuff like keeping busy thinking about other stuff, looking for positives not negatives etc. Good luck with your 'nurse date' and starting your meds when that happens! |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 29 April 2015 at 9:57pm
| I think we sound alike. I have been real calm if not a bit matter of fact about the whole thing until now. I mean I have done a fair bit of reading as I like to be well informed. But since people talked about the emotional roller coaster I am wondering if I am being a little to blaize about it. Lol guess we will find out soon enough!! |
Posted By: Charlie6
Date Posted: 29 April 2015 at 10:09pm
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Good luck ladies x it really is a hugely emotional roller coaster! Although I didn't find the first cycle too bad as I had such high hopes it would 'fix' everything... We have done 4 rounds of Ivf so far, a total of 9 embryos put back in (last one was today)... We have had 2 miscarriages in that time, and a whole lot of gutting phone calls to say sorry not this time... But the phone call to say congrats makes it all completely worth while! Last cycle I did a lot of meditation and positive visualization (. Bit airy fairy but I really feel like it helped me focus on the positive) and I slept better... Another thing is talking to someone who understands what you're going through as its so frustrating when people don't know what to say so they say the total wrong thing trying to be helpful... Be positive going in to this horrible experience, but also realistic that it may not work... Also know that if it doesn't work you will get through it 😊 I have found out that I am a heck of a lot emotionally stronger than I ever thought I could be and I have faith that one day it'll happen for me... I hope you ladies get lucky first time round so you don't have to go through it over and over xx |
Posted By: Merrily
Date Posted: 30 April 2015 at 12:10pm
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Thanks for that Charlie - hope embryo #9 is your lucky one Interesting that you say to be realistic that it might not work... Everyone I have talked to is so 'definite' that it will work for us, and that if I express ANY doubt at all they will say not to think like that, OF COURSE it will happen for us etc, and nobody understands that I'm not trying to be pessimistic, I just don't want to have 100% of my future 'hopes and dreams' tied up in our 'imaginary' baby. Because there is always the possibility that it wont work! But family can make you feel bad for expressing the thought! So its nice to hear the thought expressed by someone else :-) |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 30 April 2015 at 12:18pm
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Thanks Charlie6 for the advice. I just had my phone call from the nurse which was pretty straight forward. I'm not worried about the injections at the moment. Aske me how I feel before the first one and the answer might be different!! What threw me a little is that we have to go down to chch for the 2nd scan, then the egg collection and then the retrival. So a fair bit of organising to do. Given that looks like there will be a fair bit of days off and possibliy others I dont know about, I think I will have to tell the boss what is happening and ask for a bit of leave over that time so not to much anyone around. All good, sounds fine but was totally confused when I went for a walk afterwards and found, my heart racing, breathing like I had been running, feeling sick and a sore nervous tummy!! My head was like why am I feeling like this I'm fine with everything? Weird as I pride myself on being logical and calm, obviously my bod didnt agree!! -
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Posted By: Merrily
Date Posted: 30 April 2015 at 2:11pm
I get the same thing - I feel like I'm totally relaxed, but then we see the FA DR and afterwards I am quite keyed up with nervous tummy etc! Funny ay 
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Posted By: CrafteaChic
Date Posted: 30 April 2015 at 4:01pm
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Hi ladies. New over here, but thought i'd make a comment about the counselling you wondered about. In wellington at least they arrange for you to see the counsellor before you start. You can go see the counsellor anytime during your treatment - if publicly funded then its covered as part of your cycle. In hindsight, I'd recommend making the most of it, I didn't go...was too busy coping, but suspect I may have actually coped better if I'd been brave enough to ask for help. With regards to the roller coaster of the drugs, everyone is different. I had loads of side effects from the drugs, but friends of mine had hardly any and coped much more easily. Just try to remember what your normal coping/destressing mechanisms are and use them often. I found I stopped exercising for various reasons, but when I got myself doing it again I coped with the world much better. Best of luck to you all xo |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 04 May 2015 at 9:16pm
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Thanks crafteaChic for the advice. My DH and I have been priding ourselves on how calm we are about the whole process until we realised we havent had a good sleep in a month!! I think our brains must be going crazy in our sleep!! Anyway day one of injections tomorrow so will see how that goes!! |
Posted By: CrafteaChic
Date Posted: 04 May 2015 at 9:42pm
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Funny how the brain will find a way to express whats going on even if we're not consciously aware of it. And if you do find you're on an emotional roller coaster I've found its easer to go with it, rather than fighting it - the feelings seem to come and go much quicker then. good luck for tomorrow - once the first one is over it gets easier :) |
Posted By: Mushroom
Date Posted: 04 May 2015 at 9:52pm
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Exciting Kiwigirl - good luck for your start tomorrow! I was pleasantly surprised how easy the injections were compared with what I was imagining! ------------- Me: 35, PCOS, endo, DH: 34, severe MFI 6+ yrs TTC#2 M/C 2012, clomid 2013, IVM 2014, IVF 2015, M/C 2015 2016 FET#1- BFP - MMC - Emergency D&C FET#2 - BFN Jul 16 - stage 3 endo removed. Oct 16 BFP |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 05 May 2015 at 7:59am
| Yip first one done and was easy as! Which I thought it would be as I am not squeamish when it comes to needles but hey you never know until the day!! Feels good to finally be started. Only thing it was a little itchy and I feel a little light headed but other than that perfect! |
Posted By: Merrily
Date Posted: 05 May 2015 at 8:54am
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Yay Kiwigirl! Good luck Must feel good to get started! Its funny about stressed - even when hubby and I keep saying we are 'not stressed' about babymaking stuff, we also find we actually are not sleeping properly, and both get a bit grumpy really easy about other little things - when usually we are both really relaxed about stuff! Thanks for the advice crafteachic - I think we might try the counselling just to see if it is any help - cant hurt! |
Posted By: Dolly_
Date Posted: 05 May 2015 at 11:01am
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Hi all :) Kiwigirl, we will be travelling to Christchurch from Nelson also. Heading down next week for pre-IVF appointments, consent signing etc. I think we have a counselling appointment but I kinda feel like that's something that might have been more useful two years ago! We have planned a night away which will be lovely, but I'm sure the travel will lose its novelty pretty quickly! We are having a publicly funded cycle so I'm not sure how long things will take from here. Does anyone know when we're likely to start treatment based on consent signing next week? Best of luck everyone xx |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 05 May 2015 at 12:49pm
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Kiwi girl is felt like that the first injection - doesn't usually carry on the whole time. Good luck :) ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 05 May 2015 at 3:00pm
| Hey dolly we started straight away but we weren't public. Also we did all our consent signing up in nelson. Had two visits with consultaton up in nelson then rang Christchurch when my period arrived and the sent the forms up to sign. Are you with fertility associates? |
Posted By: Dolly_
Date Posted: 05 May 2015 at 3:51pm
| Yep, we're with Fertility Associates. It must be a different process with funded rounds. Hopefully I'll know more next week and it won't be too far away now :) Will you be having your scans at the hospital? |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 05 May 2015 at 5:10pm
| Wow that's a bit of a pain since they are up once a month anyway! We have one scan up here but the one a few days before egg collection has to be down there. So many unknowns as can't predict how much time I will need off work etc but told my boss and he's been very understanding |
Posted By: CrafteaChic
Date Posted: 05 May 2015 at 9:00pm
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Dolly, when you start will depend on what month your funding is scheduled for - are you already on a wait list? Normally they put you on a wait list which you'll get written confirmation of including an indication of how long the wait is roughly, then a few months before (think we found about about 5months in advance) they'll give you a month that is your month, and then depending on when Day1 comes that month depends when you start. They probably only have some many publicly funded appointments available at Nelson, so rather than making you wait ages get you to go to chch to speed the process up a little. The lack of being able to plan is frustrating - are you doing the down reg cycle? |
Posted By: Dolly_
Date Posted: 06 May 2015 at 10:08am
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Thanks Craftea, yes they gave us an estimate which was 10-13 months from last July. A couple of weeks ago we got a letter asking us to do blood tests and then come to Christchurch for another semen analysis for him, another scan for me, consent signing and drug education, so that's what we're doing next week. The letter said that treatment could still be another four months after that but I'm obviously hoping that its not! As you say, travelling to Christchurch may speed things along, in which case I'm more than happy to do it! Kiwigirl, my partner and I have both told our bosses too - it is a bit of a relief really! I just don't see how it could have worked for us otherwise, with scheduling meetings etc. Now hopefully we will both have a bit more flexibility. |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 06 May 2015 at 11:16am
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Yeah Thought it was best to tell the boss in the end as there is just so much uncertaintly over how many times you need to travel down, how long you will be there etc and I am not good at throwing sickies, and holiday leave was looking like a pain as I wasnt sure excatly how much time I needed. So this way I can just take the days when I need them. Crafteachic, Yip on on the down reg- am on long protocol and taking buselin at the moment. |
Posted By: CrafteaChic
Date Posted: 06 May 2015 at 5:21pm
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thats interesting Dolly that it could be another 4 months still, we didn't do the consent signing etc until the month before the month we were starting, guess different clinics do it slightly different. Kiwigirl, hope the buserilin isn't making you feel horrid, I didn't agree with that drug at all. But have been told that they've stopped using it now (maybe just wgtn?), so hopefully next time I do a round I won't feel as miserable. |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 07 May 2015 at 7:39pm
| Going through Christchurch CrafteaChic. Have taken Buslein for 3 days so far and no side effects yet. Did yours start straight away or later on? |
Posted By: CrafteaChic
Date Posted: 07 May 2015 at 8:39pm
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I think mine started a few days in and got progressively worse, calmed down a bit once I started taking GonalF. I seem to have had side effects from all the drugs tho. Do you christchurch ladies know if there is any other fertility specialists in Chch or is it just FA? |
Posted By: Dolly_
Date Posted: 07 May 2015 at 9:23pm
| Craftea there is Genea Oxford too. |
Posted By: CrafteaChic
Date Posted: 08 May 2015 at 10:16pm
| Thought you might like this article http://www.mindfood.com/article/7-ways-to-remember-the-hurting-mothers-this-mothers-day/ |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 09 May 2015 at 9:37pm
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Thanks for that Crafteachic very interesting. I am now on day 5 of injections, got a little bit of spotting last night so was a little worried. I know I am to expect aF but everything I have read is everyone has found theirs came a few days late. Mr normal AF is not due until another 6 days. I have been told that it is likely to be heavier than normal. Anyone have any experience with this? Also I cant remember do I have to tell the clinic if I get my AF? |
Posted By: Merrily
Date Posted: 13 May 2015 at 11:44am
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Hey KiwiGirl, hope things are going OK with you? Hope things are not too stressful and all going as planned
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Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 13 May 2015 at 12:14pm
| Thanks merrily! Now on my 9th injection and feeling good. Only effects are I am a bit vague but that doesn't seem to last all day! Also some headaches but to be honest I think that's work stress rather than meds. I do get a tight tender tummy at night but really it's nothing. So am counting my blessings at this stage. How's things with you merrily? |
Posted By: Merrily
Date Posted: 15 May 2015 at 3:53pm
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Hey Kiwigirl. Glad its going OK for you then! I am just pottering along - really hoping to get pregnant this month before we start IVF - haha dreams are free! We have been tossing over and over whether to do the fertility cover thing or not, but think we have finally decided that we will just pay as we go. Just another thing where theres no 'right' answer ay! I had an HSG a week or so ago - it was horrible and painful which I wasn't really expecting since I'm not normally tooooo sensitive. But anyway the results of it were perfect apparently. So, just patiently waiting till our drug appointment on the 26th! |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 15 May 2015 at 6:39pm
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Fingers crossed for this month. Whatever happens it is good to get started. My af is now 3 days late and showing no real signs of coming. Though I have read it can be late on burelsin so not to worried. Just weird being late and not being a little excited and wondering if I should get a test. Right now my DH and I are sick of relatives who know what we are going through saying things. For example Them: How are the drugs effecting you? me: not too bad muscles a little sore in the stomach and during this process we havent been sleeping the best. them: Not sleeping well just wait to you have kids! Sore tummy thats nothing compared to labour. It is winding me up, stop telling the person who has invested a lot of money trying to have a baby and who is nervous about the whole motherhood thing how bloody horrible it is!! My sister especially just talks all about her 4 kids dramas and forgets to mention that she must of thought they were okay to have 4!! Rant over!! |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 15 May 2015 at 7:26pm
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Ugh Kiwi. Relatives can sometimes be the worst! That stuff would wind me up too. Admittedly today I got one up a on someone who was complaining about how long weekends (we were discussing queens bday coming up) arent anything fun when you've got kids. I just said 'well I don't have kids so I'm going to loooove it'. I thought bugger it you're going to moan I'm going to just rub ya face in it. She's always whinging and saying horrid things about her children. Pretty spiteful of me I know lol. No doubt you managed to bite your tongue and smile sweetly. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 15 May 2015 at 7:51pm
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That's great, you made me laugh!!! You would think sometimes that people who don't know if kids are on the cards for them or not would be a bit more sensitive about what they say!! I mean moaning about the thing we are hoping for the most!! Gee some people just dont realise how much they moan about their kids and how bloody lucky they are to have them to moan about!!! |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 15 May 2015 at 8:01pm
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Upon reflection I'm very lucky that the ppl who know my situation are pretty sensitive and don't tend to say stupid stuff. The ones who don't however.....phew. And although sometimes I just want to shout at them about my history there's a reason why not everyone knows my business hence why they don't know. The other day work paid for flu jabs. I was the only one who didn't get one - someone asked if I had a thing about needles well I couldn't rolled on the floor laughing. Felt like saying 'mate I could give myself my own flu jab I've poked that many needles into myself!' I actually just didn't want to stick another 'thing' into my system. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 16 May 2015 at 8:39am
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ha ha. I had the flu jAb at work the other day and people were like ooh are you nervous about the needle! I wanted to say I are you kidding I start my day with a jab! I also wanted to tell the nurse off she just stabbed it into my arm! Now I know injections do t need to hurt! Got up this morning for my jab which is hard as this is normally a lie in day!! Have blood test on Tuesday. Have read about baseline scan, can anyone tell me About that? The only scan I have been told about at this stage is o. 28th May and egg collection fingers cross is 1st June. Also in peoples experience when taking bureslin when did they get their af? Mine is now four days late. When people did get it, did they find it very different? sorry have woken this morning with head fill of questions! |
Posted By: CrafteaChic
Date Posted: 16 May 2015 at 11:03am
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Yep people are strange creatures with what they'll say to other people - its a tricky call, you tell people you go through and you get all those comments, or you don't tell anyone and you get the insensitive comments, and the lack of understanding that life is tough at the moment cos on the outside it all looks normal. My SIL said to us a day of so after our miscarriage (through IVF) "at least you know you can get pregnant" - it wasn't any consolation at the time, and being that i haven't been pregnant again since.... and yes needles - remember a friend complaining about having to have some blood tests (like 2 in a month or something) she didn't know what we were going through but i was tempted to say something as I was having one every day for about a week at that point! when I was on buserilin, AF cam about 5days after I stopped taking the pill. I understood it was a withdrawal bleed related to coming off the pill more than to do with the buseriln, and was warned it could be heavier than normal. did you read about the baseline scan from someone in NZ? i've read it on US forums. As far as I understand its them checking the lining of your uterus - which for me they did at all the scans checking the follicle sizes. Sounds like you're first scan is the 28th - depending on follicle sizes they may or may not do another scan after that one as well, and they check the lining then. Hope you guys have a lovely weekend. |
Posted By: Mushroom
Date Posted: 16 May 2015 at 12:17pm
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I have baseline scans since I can develop cysts. It's simply a scan before you start taking the stim drugs - so your 'normal' or 'baseline' appearance of your ovaries before they start, so they know how things have changed when they look at you later! ------------- Me: 35, PCOS, endo, DH: 34, severe MFI 6+ yrs TTC#2 M/C 2012, clomid 2013, IVM 2014, IVF 2015, M/C 2015 2016 FET#1- BFP - MMC - Emergency D&C FET#2 - BFN Jul 16 - stage 3 endo removed. Oct 16 BFP |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 16 May 2015 at 1:15pm
| Oh ok cause it appears I am doing the blood test on the 19th and then the stim drugs on the 21st. Do they wait for the blood test results and if thats all good order a scan? Or do some people just start the Stim drugs without doing a scan? |
Posted By: CrafteaChic
Date Posted: 16 May 2015 at 1:43pm
| I started stims without doing a scan - think it will all depend on your doctor and your individual situation. |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 16 May 2015 at 1:59pm
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Sweet, little silly panic over. This month is now starting to drag. Think it will pick up again next week if I get the ok to start the puregon. Guess I getting a little worried as I have had no AF and no real side effects that nothing is happening and my body is not reacting to the drugs. Its only a passing fear and 99% of the time I'm all good!! |
Posted By: CrafteaChic
Date Posted: 16 May 2015 at 2:34pm
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Those little panics are normal :) will get easier once you're on stims, for a few days at least :) you can't win - if you have side effects you feel horrid and worry about everything, and if you don't have side effects you also worry about everything - and whether or not you have side effects doesn't effect the outcome :) If you're worried about anything do call the nurses - thats what they're there for...they're your support team as well as your medical team...they don't want you to worry unnecessarily so do call them (or email if you have their address) with your concerns, rather than sitting at home worrying. |
Posted By: Lulue
Date Posted: 16 May 2015 at 11:13pm
| Hi ladies, I just wanted to pop by and wish you all the very best of luck with your IVF cycles. After TTC for 2 years, trying different drugs etc we were told our only option was IVF with ICIS we decided to try a privatecycle while on the waiting list for public funding. We just finished our treatment have one great looking blast in the freezer and our other blast has decided to stick around, we are pregnant! It's early days so I am really nervous but staying positive. So I just wanted to say it can happen so try and stay as positive and relaxed as possible during your cycle, every time you have a bad day just focus on the end goal and remember the wait will be worth it! Thinking of all of you. |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 17 May 2015 at 6:19pm
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Thanks Lulue! And Congrats on your news!!! It is good to read about the success, I am trying to keep myself realistic about the odds but at the same time allowing myself some hope!! It is nice to think maybe this time next year.... We are going to do the ISCI route too. I will have the first blood test on the 19th and then hopefully start peurgon on the 21st if everything goes well. How may scans and blood tests etc did you have? We have had a great weekend just chilling this weekend. We are pretty relaxed about most of it. I am a bit of a planner and it is hard for me not to know the exact dates for stuff as I love booking hotels etc and getting good deals!! We have to travel from Nelson to Christchurch for a scan around the 27th and then back down for the egg retrieval around the 1st june and then 5 days later if everything goes well!! Thinking we may drive down for some of it and then head home. DH started a new job so not much leave accrued. Any tips for the process? |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 17 May 2015 at 7:34pm
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Congrats Lulue!! Hope things go well from here hun. Kiwi - what's the drive time from Nelson to Chch? I'd imagine it's quite a bit. My piece of advice it the take a day off after egg collection (so day of and then another). Others find it ok but I found it really painful and rather hard recovery wise (both times) mainly due to the amount of eggs collected (26 first round, 11 second round). I was lucky that both times it was school hols (am a teacher) so I had flexibility in my schedule but had I been at school I would've needed at least a day after. Just my experience of course. So the ball has started rolling on our next cycle which I'm putting down for September. I had been meaning to call FA to discuss my last appt and follow up on the Dr's suggestion he take my case to their clinical practice meeting. Well they called me out of the blue the other day. Nurse wasn't sure if they'd discussed my case but she would chase up and at least get another doctor to take a look and make some suggestions. Once she's done that she'll get back to me and we'll make a plan. Felt good to know they had been thinking of me. I'm not expecting them to come up with anything magic as kind of feels like there probably isn't much else they could do but just keep persevering. Anywho that's where we're at. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 18 May 2015 at 6:26pm
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Babycrazy- trip nelson to christchurch 5hrs! But way cheaper driving so I may be inclined to do that. DH is more keen to fly.. Take it as a good sign that they rang you just when you were thinking of them!! Dont get me wrong I'm not into all that airy fairy stuff but sometimes I think we do get some good signs! It is good that they are looking at yur case and thinking about what they could do to increase your odds, not just trying the same thing over and over!!! As always fingers and toes crossed for a successful run this time!! I have had the wind knocked out of me a little bit. Trying to keep stress low which to be fair is pretty easy as I am a relaxed person but work is full on! Unfortunately I have just got off the phone from mum and she has been told she has cancer, and will need to have both breasts taken off. The positive news is it is only stage one,in one breast, we are just waiting to see what the news is on the other breast. Stuff like this makes you feel a bit silly for worrying about whether you can get pregnant or not.The doctors are trying to get her to have surgery in next couple weeks. Fingers and toes crossed the other breast is only stage one too. |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 18 May 2015 at 7:49pm
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Omg Kiwi totally not what you really need right now. Sorry to hear about your mum. Sounds like it has been found early (?). Hope she makes a speedy recovery and you get to brighten her year with a bfp! 5hrs?? Jeez that kicks my 3.5 hours to the kerb. I can fully appreciate where you're coming from in terms of travel. It takes it out of you. Remind me - do they not do scans in Nelson? Or is it just collection and transfer you have to go to Chch for? ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 18 May 2015 at 9:07pm
| Thanks babycrazy, a little shocked about mum but will just see what each dr appt says. Trying to focus on the bits I can control or help out with. Blood test tomorrow. As for scans the only one they have mentioned to me is the one at end may and they said that has to be in christchurch. I mgine there may be others and if so i think they can be done in Nelson. Guess the one near egg collection has to be done down there just incase they need to move things forward or backwards? Not sure really will ask the nurse when they ring with the blood results in a few days. |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 18 May 2015 at 9:22pm
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Guess it all depends on what plan you're on and the direction they hope to take you. The unknown part of the whole deal totally blows. Really hope your mum is ok hun. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: Merrily
Date Posted: 19 May 2015 at 3:11pm
Kiwigirl - Sorry about your mum! thats horrible  Lulue - Its so great to hear your good news - helps to keep the outlook positive! I was parked outside pumpkin patch yesterday, popped in for a quick look (I have an excuse, a new niece coming soon!) and there was so much cute stuff and i just felt sad, cos what if i'm never dressing my own baby? so silly to get down about clothes, of all things, but it just reminds you how little and precious the people who wear them are. |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 19 May 2015 at 8:49pm
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Thanks Merrily, trying not to let mum's news upset me too much until we know the full facts. She still has a few more appts before we know what the treatment is. Had blood test today and all go for puregon. Also this nurse said I can have the scan in nelson on the 28th!! Lucky I hadn't booked flights to christchurch. Am pleased as thats one less drive. Merrily, I totally get what you mean about baby shops. I keep feeling like to buy anything would be tempting fate. Yip you do wonder when will I stop buying for others and start buying for your own little bundle. Fingers and toes crossed it happens for all of us. |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 19 May 2015 at 9:11pm
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Sweet you can do the scan in nelson kiwi! Ugh I just block out baby clothes now and don't even let myself dream - hurts too much. Hate how cynical this craps makes me. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 21 May 2015 at 8:08pm
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Babycrazy I went though ages when I couldn't even pass a baby clothes aisle without wanting to hit something. Especially when you see someone walking with their kids and moaning or yelling at them. Right have just done my puregon injection. Weird thing I thought that would be easy as and it was as I got DH to play the dvd to me and record the amounts. My brain does not like anything were the answer is not blatantly apparent in 2 seconds! I am not the most patient person but I think it is at am all time low at the moment.. :) Keep saying to myself think before you speak!! Looks like mum might be having surgery when I am due for egg collection but will know more later.. |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 21 May 2015 at 9:40pm
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Is puregon like Gonal f? As multi dose and you have to set the amount each time? I learnt early on with Gonal to make sure I faced the numbers up so I could see them otherwise I'd pull it out too early! Rats again about your mum. We're here to read a vent if you ever need it. Hugs xx ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: Kiwigirl75
Date Posted: 22 May 2015 at 7:06pm
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Yeah I think Puregon is like gonal F. I have the same dose each time 225iu. Only took the first one last night but my bladder is full and tender. Took today of work which is something I never do but had a bad headache last night and just felt like I really needed a mental health day. Mentally feel better now.. Starting to get a little worried about whether it will work, really dont want a cancelled cycle. But I know there is nothing I can do about it so trying to keep positive... Normally i distract myself with exercise but that is the last thing I feel like doing due to being a bit sore and bloated. Might try a really long walk tomorrow and see if that helps! Mind you might have to plan a walk with toilet stops!!! |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 22 May 2015 at 7:56pm
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A walk will definitely help. Just do what feels right at this point. I so know that feeling like it won't work. Pretty natural to feel that way at this point I'd say. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |