OHbaby! Forums : my regeats https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 30 Apr 2026 20:09:11 +0000 Sun, 26 Aug 2007 16:41:18 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=10189 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[my regeats : AWW MAN YOU LADYS ROCK its...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=203370&title=my-regeats#203370 Author: james
Subject: 10189
Posted: 26 August 2007 at 4:41pm

AWW MAN YOU LADYS ROCK its only sometimes the doubt sets in but all i have to do is look at james and it all gos away ]]> Sun, 26 Aug 2007 16:41:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=203370&title=my-regeats#203370 <![CDATA[my regeats : Redbedrock wrote:I wish I had...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=203250&title=my-regeats#203250 Author: Maya
Subject: 10189
Posted: 26 August 2007 at 9:21am

Originally posted by Redbedrock Redbedrock wrote:

I wish I had felt this love for her in those days, as I do now. But she will never know any of that. Well maybe one day I will talk to her about it.


My sister said to me once when I was talking to her about the bonding issues I had with the gremlins "I hope you're never going to tell them you didn't want them."

But the funny thing is that at some stage I probably will. Not when they're self-doubting teenagers of course, but when they're grown and having kids of their own, to help them understand that it's normal and ok to feel like that sometimes and it doesn't mean that I don't love them, just that it took me a little longer o get to know them.]]> Sun, 26 Aug 2007 09:21:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=203250&title=my-regeats#203250 <![CDATA[my regeats : Lu - you&#039;re an AWESOME Mum!!!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=203246&title=my-regeats#203246 Author: hailstones
Subject: 10189
Posted: 26 August 2007 at 9:08am

Lu - you're an AWESOME Mum!!! And I can tell James Loves you heaps!!!! ]]> Sun, 26 Aug 2007 09:08:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=203246&title=my-regeats#203246 <![CDATA[my regeats : Katherine wrote:What I regret...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=203204&title=my-regeats#203204 Author: CRS
Subject: 10189
Posted: 25 August 2007 at 11:52pm

Originally posted by Katherine Katherine wrote:

What I regret is not trusting myself more. I was so concerned about what others were thinking, and trying to figure out if their advice was worthy or if I should discard it, and so worried about trying to defend my decisions or explain them to people who disagreed with them. The whole, "If I could do it over again, this is how I'd do it differently" thing. But we can't go back, we can only go forward. And if I let myself get too stuck on the mistakes I've made, it's even harder to move forward.


I've always tried to live by the saying, "The only regrets I have in life are the risks I didn't take." It helps me to challenge myself, and the outcome sometimes surprises me. I also believe there's a lesson in everything, and if I've learned something from a situation, then no matter how horrible an experience was, it wasn't worthless or something to beat myself up about. So even the regrets are learning experiences for me. Once I started to "get" that, I got to be easier on myself. I wish I could somehow impart that to the friends I have who spend heaps of time doubting themselves and being hard on themselves!



Good post!]]> Sat, 25 Aug 2007 23:52:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=203204&title=my-regeats#203204 <![CDATA[my regeats : What I regret is not trusting...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=203203&title=my-regeats#203203 Author: Katherine
Subject: 10189
Posted: 25 August 2007 at 11:45pm

What I regret is not trusting myself more. I was so concerned about what others were thinking, and trying to figure out if their advice was worthy or if I should discard it, and so worried about trying to defend my decisions or explain them to people who disagreed with them. The whole, "If I could do it over again, this is how I'd do it differently" thing. But we can't go back, we can only go forward. And if I let myself get too stuck on the mistakes I've made, it's even harder to move forward.

I've always tried to live by the saying, "The only regrets I have in life are the risks I didn't take." It helps me to challenge myself, and the outcome sometimes surprises me. I also believe there's a lesson in everything, and if I've learned something from a situation, then no matter how horrible an experience was, it wasn't worthless or something to beat myself up about. So even the regrets are learning experiences for me. Once I started to "get" that, I got to be easier on myself. I wish I could somehow impart that to the friends I have who spend heaps of time doubting themselves and being hard on themselves!

]]> Sat, 25 Aug 2007 23:45:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=203203&title=my-regeats#203203 <![CDATA[my regeats : The best thing I ever heard was...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=203132&title=my-regeats#203132 Author: Redbedrock
Subject: 10189
Posted: 25 August 2007 at 8:20pm

The best thing I ever heard was that none of my concerns would be remembered by Fay, that she would think I was wonderful anyway. I know James feels that way too.
Here's mine, I regret not being able to breastfeed, but I regret more, not accepting that she would be bottle fed a lot sooner so I could enjoy her newborn days more. I regret that we were separated for the first 10days due to her being in neonatal unit. I wish I had felt this love for her in those days, as I do now. But she will never know any of that. Well maybe one day I will talk to her about it.
But I am very proud that inspite of our shaky start on the bonding front, that her eyes light up when she sees me and I am the centre of her world, as I am sure James feels the same for you Lu ]]> Sat, 25 Aug 2007 20:20:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=203132&title=my-regeats#203132 <![CDATA[my regeats : Big hugs Lu, you do an amazing...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=203053&title=my-regeats#203053 Author: Maya
Subject: 10189
Posted: 25 August 2007 at 3:52pm

Big hugs Lu, you do an amazing job with wee James (who's not so little anymore!) and you are such a sweet and kind hearted person.

I think we all have our regrets tho. I don't really have any with Maya, but with the gremlins it's a case of where to start. I regret not being able to enjoy their newborn days coz there was too much stress just getting thru the day, not asking for more help when I needed it, not giving up breastfeeding sooner....]]> Sat, 25 Aug 2007 15:52:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=203053&title=my-regeats#203053 <![CDATA[my regeats : Mmm okay lets see what do I totally...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=202969&title=my-regeats#202969 Author: SMoody
Subject: 10189
Posted: 25 August 2007 at 12:47pm

Mmm okay lets see what do I totally regret.

I regret that we had to move with her at 7 weeks. Again at 8 months and then 9 months again and just the hassle after that. It was all neccesary but I really feel quilty about it.

She would still have been sleeping happily in her cot and it would have been easier to move her into her own room and her own bed. So my poor baby is still going to have heartache.

I also feel really quilty of her not having any grandparents over here and will never really have such a close bond to them as such. No nights at Granny's house ect.

But all in all I think my baby (and yip she will always stay my baby) didnt come out too badly. (or so I will tell her shrink one day. ]]> Sat, 25 Aug 2007 12:47:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=202969&title=my-regeats#202969 <![CDATA[my regeats : yeah i know what you mean there...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=202893&title=my-regeats#202893 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 10189
Posted: 25 August 2007 at 10:37am

yeah i know what you mean

there are plenty of things i regret with caitlyn but you know what ?there in the past and what matters is the job you do now , and from what i see in your posts you adore that little boy and your doing a fantastic job and your the best mummy he could hope for ]]> Sat, 25 Aug 2007 10:37:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=202893&title=my-regeats#202893 <![CDATA[my regeats : thanks ladys it just feels better...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=202889&title=my-regeats#202889 Author: james
Subject: 10189
Posted: 25 August 2007 at 10:30am

thanks ladys it just feels better getting it out in the open ]]> Sat, 25 Aug 2007 10:30:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=202889&title=my-regeats#202889 <![CDATA[my regeats : I regret rushing Caitlin through...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=202836&title=my-regeats#202836 Author: Two Blondinis
Subject: 10189
Posted: 25 August 2007 at 8:43am

I regret rushing Caitlin through her tiny baby days, like "oh I can't wait until she's doing this or that" I feel like the past year has flown past so quickly that I haven't really had time to stand back and appreciate those moments when she was tiny.
I'm all for making the most of now, and now I know not to rush things I look at her every day and feel truely blessed that I have got to experience watching my daughter develop into a little lady

Lu - you are a fantastic Mummy!!! And despite everything you went through in the early days you and James have come out the other end shining - you should be very proud of yourself ]]> Sat, 25 Aug 2007 08:43:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=202836&title=my-regeats#202836 <![CDATA[my regeats : The little bit that I pick up...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=202804&title=my-regeats#202804 Author: SMoody
Subject: 10189
Posted: 24 August 2007 at 10:27pm

The little bit that I pick up from your posts I see you are a great mommy. And I think all of us have regrets but in the end we should just go on for the future and make the best of today.

]]> Fri, 24 Aug 2007 22:27:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=202804&title=my-regeats#202804 <![CDATA[my regeats : frist this is a &#034;if only&#034;...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=202794&title=my-regeats#202794 Author: james
Subject: 10189
Posted: 24 August 2007 at 10:13pm

frist this is a "if only" regeat i wish i had breastfeed for longer or had not given up so easly (my milk dried up due to stess) i wish i had taken time enjoying james when he was little (horrable brith with a emergy c-sec) i wish i had been more relaxed as a mum and that i had bonded with james sooner (i did not bond with him at brith that took time) and my only outer regeat is that i didnt know about ohbaby when i was preggy and when james was little ok there i8 said it ]]> Fri, 24 Aug 2007 22:13:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10189&PID=202794&title=my-regeats#202794