OHbaby! Forums : big stuff https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 07 Apr 2026 12:58:42 +0000 Thu, 13 Sep 2007 23:17:21 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=10681 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[big stuff : I bet hes happy you know now too....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=213338&title=big-stuff#213338 Author: Chovynz
Subject: 10681
Posted: 13 September 2007 at 11:17pm

I bet hes happy you know now too.]]> Thu, 13 Sep 2007 23:17:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=213338&title=big-stuff#213338 <![CDATA[big stuff : Well done, Liz, on sitting down...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=213214&title=big-stuff#213214 Author: daikini
Subject: 10681
Posted: 13 September 2007 at 8:20pm

Well done, Liz, on sitting down and having a mature discussion with Lew on such a difficult subject! I'm glad you came to an arrangement you are happy with, and I wish you both all the best as you grow from this experience.
]]> Thu, 13 Sep 2007 20:20:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=213214&title=big-stuff#213214 <![CDATA[big stuff : ditto what the other ladies have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=213204&title=big-stuff#213204 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 10681
Posted: 13 September 2007 at 8:16pm

ditto what the other ladies have said.....i admire you liz for staying strong and talking to lewis about it and i also admire him for being honest and open with you. it's so easy to just give up on each other and seperate without really trying to work things out. it will be hard, but hopefully smooth sailing from now on.
in my experiences, troubled times can actually bring you closer
]]> Thu, 13 Sep 2007 20:16:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=213204&title=big-stuff#213204 <![CDATA[big stuff : thanks everyone AGAIN. I love...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=213154&title=big-stuff#213154 Author: lizzle
Subject: 10681
Posted: 13 September 2007 at 7:35pm

thanks everyone AGAIN. I love this site.]]> Thu, 13 Sep 2007 19:35:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=213154&title=big-stuff#213154 <![CDATA[big stuff : lizzle wrote: It&#039;s funny,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=213140&title=big-stuff#213140 Author: Leish
Subject: 10681
Posted: 13 September 2007 at 7:11pm

Originally posted by lizzle lizzle wrote:


It's funny, I always thought I'd never forgive him for cheating, but I guess it isn't as black and white as I initially thought.


It never is that black and white and not till you are actually faced with having to deal with this kind of situation that you realise how hard it really would be to just call it all off. I think staying in a relationship and making it work after infedility is much more difficult than calling it quits and admire you and Lew for making it work. Hugs to you both ]]> Thu, 13 Sep 2007 19:11:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=213140&title=big-stuff#213140 <![CDATA[big stuff : I&#039;m so glad you managed to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=213011&title=big-stuff#213011 Author: Helen21
Subject: 10681
Posted: 13 September 2007 at 3:11pm

I'm so glad you managed to find a solution that you are both happy about. Good on you for being strong ]]> Thu, 13 Sep 2007 15:11:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=213011&title=big-stuff#213011 <![CDATA[big stuff : I&#039;m glad you were able to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212994&title=big-stuff#212994 Author: Maya
Subject: 10681
Posted: 13 September 2007 at 2:48pm

I'm glad you were able to reach a resolution that you are ok with Liz. Big hugs, and hoping it's all good from here on out!]]> Thu, 13 Sep 2007 14:48:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212994&title=big-stuff#212994 <![CDATA[big stuff : Well that sounds like a very good...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212905&title=big-stuff#212905 Author: busymum
Subject: 10681
Posted: 13 September 2007 at 1:11pm

Well that sounds like a very good 'result' and huge points to both of you for working things out - they say a relationship that can get through storms is stronger and better for it. Well done both of you and your DH sounds great with being honest with you now ]]> Thu, 13 Sep 2007 13:11:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212905&title=big-stuff#212905 <![CDATA[big stuff : xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212898&title=big-stuff#212898 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 10681
Posted: 13 September 2007 at 1:07pm

xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox]]> Thu, 13 Sep 2007 13:07:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212898&title=big-stuff#212898 <![CDATA[big stuff : Sounds like you handled things...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212869&title=big-stuff#212869 Author: my2angels
Subject: 10681
Posted: 13 September 2007 at 12:51pm

Sounds like you handled things well Liz. I dont think things are ever black and white on issues like this. Ive had a similar thing lately and was hell bent on leaving hubby till I heard the full story which was after I had rung my friends at 3am bawling my eyes out so luckily i hadnt rung my family because they wouldnt have wanted me to stick around so i know what you mean there.
Fingers crossed things work out and i bet he feels so much better now he has got it all off his chest and doesnt have any secrets anymore.]]> Thu, 13 Sep 2007 12:51:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212869&title=big-stuff#212869 <![CDATA[big stuff : Liz, good for you! Sometimes...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212857&title=big-stuff#212857 Author: Anna
Subject: 10681
Posted: 13 September 2007 at 12:44pm

Liz, good for you! Sometimes I think it is harder to stay in a temporarily-tricky relationship than it is to leave and sounds like you are both doing well to work it all out. Relationships are tough at the best of times without having troubled gals making things harder! Thinking of you

Edited by Anna]]> Thu, 13 Sep 2007 12:44:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212857&title=big-stuff#212857 <![CDATA[big stuff : Its great your DH is being open...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212778&title=big-stuff#212778 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 10681
Posted: 13 September 2007 at 11:12am

Its great your DH is being open about it, shows he's not hiding anything, but to be frank, I just don't like the emotional blackmail thing thats going on. Lew isn't responsible for this girls life, and he shouldn't be made to feel like he has to "keep up" communication because this other woman is "sick". Big hugs to you, what a sucky situation! Am pleased you guys had a good talk about it.]]> Thu, 13 Sep 2007 11:12:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212778&title=big-stuff#212778 <![CDATA[big stuff : I&#039;m so glad you have been...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212744&title=big-stuff#212744 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 10681
Posted: 13 September 2007 at 10:22am

I'm so glad you have been able to talk to one another and find a mutual solution. Its good to see you DH is making a great effort to show you what's going on.

This woman sounds very manipulative, and your DH should never let himself feel responsible for her actions.

Hope it all works out, see ya wednesday with cake.]]> Thu, 13 Sep 2007 10:22:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212744&title=big-stuff#212744 <![CDATA[big stuff : Hugs to you lizzle! I am so pleased...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212694&title=big-stuff#212694 Author: peachy
Subject: 10681
Posted: 13 September 2007 at 8:31am

Hugs to you lizzle! I am so pleased to hear you have sorted things out and you have both come to a decision you are happy with. May your future be filled with love and happiness and a loyal loving husband forever more!

100 points to him for his honesty and being able to talk to you about it!]]> Thu, 13 Sep 2007 08:31:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212694&title=big-stuff#212694 <![CDATA[big stuff : oh liz what a horrible complicated...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212692&title=big-stuff#212692 Author: MILF
Subject: 10681
Posted: 13 September 2007 at 8:29am

oh liz what a horrible complicated situation to be in! how do you feel in your heart now that you have talked about it? i hope this has eased things in your mind. i hope everything works out for you both ]]> Thu, 13 Sep 2007 08:29:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212692&title=big-stuff#212692 <![CDATA[big stuff : well, we had our chat and it turns...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212686&title=big-stuff#212686 Author: lizzle
Subject: 10681
Posted: 13 September 2007 at 8:24am

well, we had our chat and it turns out there was loads more that I missed out on.

Hubby showed me all her emails and how they were bascially getting more and more inappropraite in the past two months. then showed me his - which were pretty much normal friendly emails....nothing bad. Then he showed me an email from the girls sister that he got about a month ago. he said precviously he was just ignoring the others hoping they'd stop, but now he wasn't sure what he should do. Basically the sister wrote and it turns out the girl has cancer - a large tumour that chemo has stopped any chance of her ever
having kids, and she has been really suicidal. the sister was asking Lewis if he knew anything about her plans as the girl isn't talking to anyone. Bloody complicated. So he said that he wants to get out, and get out now, but he feels guilty for all the problems and isn't sure how to get himself out without causing a major meltdown with the girl. So we have agreed, that he will gradually ease off the emails, and that I can read every one. I'm okay with this.

It's funny, I always thought I'd never forgive him for cheating, but I guess it isn't as black and white as I initially thought.

Thank you everyone so much for the support you;ve given me. It was really horrible last night and bascially I ewas sitting refreshing every two minutes just to stay sane - well untikl I went into my bedroom where the wireless doesn't work properly.   ]]> Thu, 13 Sep 2007 08:24:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212686&title=big-stuff#212686 <![CDATA[big stuff : big hugs lizzle ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212621&title=big-stuff#212621 Author: james
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 10:16pm

big hugs lizzle]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 22:16:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212621&title=big-stuff#212621 <![CDATA[big stuff : am sending you loads of support...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212597&title=big-stuff#212597 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 10:01pm

am sending you loads of support and sympathy and hope you get out of life what YOU want from here on in - be it with him or without him

my personal view - I could NEVER forgive someone cheating...it would et me up. DH caught his ex cheating and I know he would never cheat on me as a result.,...if he did he knows my feelings he would be gone!!! in a heart beat.....]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 22:01:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212597&title=big-stuff#212597 <![CDATA[big stuff : oh liz!!!!! i think i remember...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212592&title=big-stuff#212592 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 9:57pm

oh liz!!!!!

i think i remember you saying a while back that there was a japanese woman friend of your hubbies that you were unsure about.

i hope you get to have that big chat with him when he gets home. good on you for writing it all down first, stick to your guns and you know we are all here for you to give our love and support, no matter what your decision!!

am thinking of you and hoping it is all going well..... considering
]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 21:57:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212592&title=big-stuff#212592 <![CDATA[big stuff : ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212590&title=big-stuff#212590 Author: kiwigal
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 9:56pm

]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 21:56:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212590&title=big-stuff#212590 <![CDATA[big stuff : Sending you lots of &#034;stay...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212568&title=big-stuff#212568 Author: Two Blondinis
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 9:42pm

Sending you lots of "stay strong/stick to your guns" vibes Liz!

What he did is disrespectful to you and your little family and I think you are being more than reasonable with your request

Hope you get the outcome you want ]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 21:42:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212568&title=big-stuff#212568 <![CDATA[big stuff : Maya wrote:*Hanging around...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212558&title=big-stuff#212558 Author: busymum
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 9:35pm

Originally posted by Maya Maya wrote:

*Hanging around and hoping that the silence from Liz is a sign that she is spending quality time with DH and not something more ominous*


Ummm Emma, I don't think it's 11pm yet in Palmy ]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 21:35:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212558&title=big-stuff#212558 <![CDATA[big stuff : Liz ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212527&title=big-stuff#212527 Author: Leish
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 9:18pm

Liz]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 21:18:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212527&title=big-stuff#212527 <![CDATA[big stuff : *Hanging around and hoping that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212526&title=big-stuff#212526 Author: Maya
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 9:18pm

*Hanging around and hoping that the silence from Liz is a sign that she is spending quality time with DH and not something more ominous* ]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 21:18:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212526&title=big-stuff#212526 <![CDATA[big stuff : I hope the talk goes well Liz ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212509&title=big-stuff#212509 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 9:01pm

I hope the talk goes well Liz]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 21:01:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212509&title=big-stuff#212509 <![CDATA[big stuff : Liz, I hope everything works out...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212497&title=big-stuff#212497 Author: Anna
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 8:52pm

Liz, I hope everything works out for you. This is sad news and I hope you get the result that is best for you. There are lotsa people here with their fingers crossed for you. ]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 20:52:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212497&title=big-stuff#212497 <![CDATA[big stuff : Oh Liz! Holy crap!! Sorry to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212476&title=big-stuff#212476 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 8:37pm

Oh Liz! Holy crap!!

Sorry to hear about it.. Was that why that Japanese girl was emailing or was that still bullsh*te?

Totally fair enough with the ultimatum.

Hope it works out for ya.

If you ever need to get away you know we'd happily have ya in Welly!

xoxox]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 20:37:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212476&title=big-stuff#212476 <![CDATA[big stuff : Thinking of you ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212445&title=big-stuff#212445 Author: daikini
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 8:06pm

Thinking of you ]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 20:06:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212445&title=big-stuff#212445 <![CDATA[big stuff : im so sad that youve been carrying...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212440&title=big-stuff#212440 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:59pm

im so sad that youve been carrying that around yourself chick, i wish there was some way we could make this easier for you

I guess all we can do is be here when and if you want to talk and send you lots of and love.

Hope the talk goes well, will be thinking of you ]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 19:59:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212440&title=big-stuff#212440 <![CDATA[big stuff : oh mate that sucks. Hope you stay...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212407&title=big-stuff#212407 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:27pm

oh mate that sucks. Hope you stay strong. Big hugs to you. xxx]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 19:27:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212407&title=big-stuff#212407 <![CDATA[big stuff : not yet talked. hubby works in...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212405&title=big-stuff#212405 Author: lizzle
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:26pm

not yet talked. hubby works in a bar so late nights are the one at the mo. So probably no chat til 11. so i can sit...and think and overthink and overthink. lovely. my plans are to ignore all the mess in the house (and believe me, there is a lot), shower and live in my bed with the electric blanket on. ]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 19:26:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212405&title=big-stuff#212405 <![CDATA[big stuff : Hope the talk went down okay....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212401&title=big-stuff#212401 Author: SMoody
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:18pm

Hope the talk went down okay. I know you dont know me that well but sometimes a stranger can actually make a better listener and soundboard for you. Pm me anytime you want and we can set up a chat on Skype.

I think it is great that you written a letter. Sometimes it is better to put it down on paper. Less chance of emotions getting too involved and the point of the thing not getting through clear.]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 19:18:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212401&title=big-stuff#212401 <![CDATA[big stuff : Have you guys been able to talk...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212397&title=big-stuff#212397 Author: busymum
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:16pm

Have you guys been able to talk yet?]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 19:16:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212397&title=big-stuff#212397 <![CDATA[big stuff : Emma, to be honest, just wanted...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212396&title=big-stuff#212396 Author: lizzle
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:15pm

Emma, to be honest, just wanted to pretend nothing was happening. I'm pretty good at denial! BTW all still on for potluck on wednesday just in case anyone was going to decide it may be too hard for me. Hubby wasn't ever going to be there anyway so no awkward "hi's"]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 19:15:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212396&title=big-stuff#212396 <![CDATA[big stuff : Hope it all turns out as you&#039;d...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212392&title=big-stuff#212392 Author: yummymummy
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:10pm

Hope it all turns out as you'd like it to ]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 19:10:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212392&title=big-stuff#212392 <![CDATA[big stuff : All the best Lizzle ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212388&title=big-stuff#212388 Author: Freesia
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:08pm

All the best Lizzle ]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 19:08:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212388&title=big-stuff#212388 <![CDATA[big stuff : Best wishes for you. ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212382&title=big-stuff#212382 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:05pm


Best wishes for you.]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 19:05:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212382&title=big-stuff#212382 <![CDATA[big stuff : Sending you lots of hugs Lizzle,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212375&title=big-stuff#212375 Author: caraMel
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:00pm

Sending you lots of hugs Lizzle, I hope things turn out okay tonight xxx]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 19:00:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212375&title=big-stuff#212375 <![CDATA[big stuff : Thinking of you Liz, hope the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212359&title=big-stuff#212359 Author: Maya
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 6:49pm

Thinking of you Liz, hope the talk goes well. I think your ultimatum is only fair given the situation. Big hugs!
BTW, you did well keeping that one from us, we are a pretty nosey bunch!]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 18:49:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212359&title=big-stuff#212359 <![CDATA[big stuff : My heart goes out to you lizzle,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212356&title=big-stuff#212356 Author: Helen21
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 6:47pm

My heart goes out to you lizzle, I think a lot of us have been through hard times like this and I know it's never easy. We are all here for you no matter what the outcome is. You just need to remember when times are tough it can only get better. We are all thinking of you. ]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 18:47:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212356&title=big-stuff#212356 <![CDATA[big stuff : I guess you&#039;re probably talking...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212349&title=big-stuff#212349 Author: busymum
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 6:37pm

I guess you're probably talking things over right now, I'm thinking of ya because that's very big stuff as you said. I guess it mostly depends on his feelings towards her, you know her feelings towards him but not necessarily the reverse. Let us know how it goes.]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 18:37:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212349&title=big-stuff#212349 <![CDATA[big stuff : thank you ladies so much. actualy...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212347&title=big-stuff#212347 Author: lizzle
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 6:34pm

thank you ladies so much. actualy brought tears to my (hard-ass) eyes]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 18:34:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212347&title=big-stuff#212347 <![CDATA[big stuff : Lizzle.. I feel for you, i know...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212344&title=big-stuff#212344 Author: MissCandice
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 6:29pm

Lizzle.. I feel for you, i know from too much experience how it can feel.. Big Hugz to you have your family ]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 18:29:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212344&title=big-stuff#212344 <![CDATA[big stuff : Oh Lizzle - I really feel for...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212328&title=big-stuff#212328 Author: MummyFreckle
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 6:02pm

Oh Lizzle - I really feel for you. Its a very tough decision to have to make, and unfortunatley only you know what is best for you! You will of course have loads of support from all of us - regardless of your decision, so dont worry about that!

I know from personal experience that once the trust is gone then its very hard to ever really get it back, but sometimes you can move on - but it has to be "right" for you to do that.

Hang in there, I hope the conversation goes okay (I know it wont be fun or easy).

Hugs

]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 18:02:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212328&title=big-stuff#212328 <![CDATA[big stuff : nothing to say but hope it goes...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212326&title=big-stuff#212326 Author: mum2paris
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 6:00pm

nothing to say but hope it goes whichever way is best for you and the kids. not a nice situation to be in.
Hugs, be strong. will be thinking of you.]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 18:00:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212326&title=big-stuff#212326 <![CDATA[big stuff : Aww babe, if ya ever need to chat...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212325&title=big-stuff#212325 Author: Gwen_
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 5:58pm

Aww babe, if ya ever need to chat Im here, lots and lots of hugs to you and your boys. I know your'll make the best decision!]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 17:58:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212325&title=big-stuff#212325 <![CDATA[big stuff : well. have just rung hubby at...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212324&title=big-stuff#212324 Author: lizzle
Subject: 10681
Posted: 12 September 2007 at 5:54pm

well. have just rung hubby at work and asked him to come home straight after work. i feel a bit guilty as now he is going to worry. i think tonight we may be over. confession time: I found out he cheated. Ages ago. (and I found out in january)   But when we were together and I was pregnant. we were in japan at the time. the girl he cheated with is still a good friend of his. Anyway, i read his email and it basically was her talking about how she stil misses and loves him. Previously I had said that they could remain friends and I would be okay about it (i figured she's in japan and can't come to visit so no problem), well, it's a problem. i feel like it's rubbing it in my face and I can't cope. so tonight I'm saying stop being friends with her, or we are through. I guess the reason I am writing this here is that i don't want to wuss out. and I know I am fully capable. i wrote a letter outlining everything, but when I rang, my heart melted. (hence me writing the letter - i know me well). before I felt like
I had no feeling about it all and would be quite matter-of-fact. now not sure. poor kids are eating in front of the tv, and now I just sit and wait for him to come home and my life to change or not.

heres the thing though ladies - i am only telling you guys - as in, have not told anyone else at all - cause i know that you won't judge me whatever decision I make. If I told any of my family, or his in fact, they would be so angry and I would never be able to work things out, if thats what we decide. So I would really appreciate support here, not necessarily people suggesting what i should do.]]> Wed, 12 Sep 2007 17:54:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10681&PID=212324&title=big-stuff#212324