https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 07 May 2026 05:24:02 +0000 Wed, 10 Oct 2007 20:48:04 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=11422 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227568&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227568 Author: Chovynz
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 8:48pm

ooooooo yes....
I was good at judgmentalism once....
But I'm better now. In fact Im the best! Ahahahaha
I'm better than youoooouuoooo. I know more about parenting than youooooooo.

"Oh really? Then maybe you can take my kids for a day?"

Uh...

Btw this is a silly joke not-serious post if you didn't get it. I hate judgementalism. I had it bad. I don't like seeing it. It's horrible. It destroys people if they let it.

Edited by Chovynz]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 20:48:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227568&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227568 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227552&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227552 Author: mummy_dee
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 8:38pm

Yeah its unfortunate that alot of people build themselves up by putting others down.

Jaz - I love your observation about the best parents in the world! Too true And yes I fully admit I was guilty of it too ... How quickly you learn once you have children of your own ]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 20:38:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227552&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227552 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227403&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227403 Author: Tiff
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 4:49pm

It's definately one thing to think it but you don't say it - not even to someone else you just never know if it's gonna come and bite you on the bum!
What goes around comes around! Besides how can we judge when we don't know their exact circumstance - walk a mile in their shoes etc etc.
(Just call me the cliche queen! )]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 16:49:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227403&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227403 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227399&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227399 Author: jaz
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 4:40pm

GandT wrote: [uhuh! Now i realise how naive i was before the kids...but i still say things like "when my kids are older they wont do that".

The best parents in the world are the ones that don't have any kids!!!

]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 16:40:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227399&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227399 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227389&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227389 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 4:30pm

Cos they have nothing else better to do with their time.
I'm not sure whether it is just cos I am more sensitive since having a baby but I do find mums extremely judgemental. Like you said before it seems that instead of supporting each other we are judging each other.

I also get really annoyed when people talk behind others backs. I had a boss who would sl*g off everyone to me and all I use to think is what is he saying about me to everyone? I'm sure one day he will be sl*gging someone off and then realise that that person is the one he is talking to!
]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 16:30:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227389&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227389 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227367&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227367 Author: FionaS
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 3:50pm

I do understand that having judgemental thoughts is a natural part of human nature but focussing on them and discussing them with others just leads to an overall sense of negativity.

BTW, I am definately not suggesting that I am free from judgemental thoughts and words...I just wish it wasn't something that is so common.]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 15:50:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227367&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227367 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227361&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227361 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 3:42pm

lizzle wrote: I have tried not to judge - after being really judgemental pre-kids "MY child won't watch that much tv" "MY child won't scream like that in a supermarket" "Oh my gosh, she's given her child a lollipop - MY child won't eat lollipops - they'll only eat fruit and like it". now when i see mums in the supermarket with three kids who are screaming "we want..." and she hands them it and says "HERE!!!", i smile sympathetically.

uhuh! Now i realise how naive i was before the kids...but i still say things like "when my kids are older they wont do that".

i think at some stage we all judge other mums but generally it is ones we dont know but see briefly like in the supermarket etc. What i hate is when people act like they are your friends but in fact their words to others tell a very different story! ]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 15:42:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227361&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227361 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227360&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227360 Author: meow
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 3:41pm

lizzle wrote: I have tried not to judge - after being really judgemental pre-kids "MY child won't watch that much tv" "MY child won't scream like that in a supermarket" "Oh my gosh, she's given her child a lollipop - MY child won't eat lollipops - they'll only eat fruit and like it". now when i see mums in the supermarket with three kids who are screaming "we want..." and she hands them it and says "HERE!!!", i smile sympathetically.

I smile at mums now too, and usually say something like "we get that here too" and they'll usually reply.. I just hope I'm helping by letting them know they're not alone.]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 15:41:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227360&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227359&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227359 Author: meow
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 3:39pm

Yeah I've seen it too, and have experienced it. I have found alot of older mums tend to judge because they seem to think they know it all.

I've grown some tough skin over the past few years so I can take it now.. if someone wants to gossip about me then fine, it's them that has the problem ]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 15:39:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227359&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227359 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227356&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227356 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 3:38pm

Maya wrote: GandT wrote: but yeah i sometimes wonder what is being said about me behind my back... We all talk about how lovely and not-grumpy you are

yeah now i know you aint telling the truth.. cheeky!]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 15:38:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227356&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227356 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227355&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227355 Author: lizzle
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 3:37pm

I have tried not to judge - after being really judgemental pre-kids "MY child won't watch that much tv" "MY child won't scream like that in a supermarket" "Oh my gosh, she's given her child a lollipop - MY child won't eat lollipops - they'll only eat fruit and like it". now when i see mums in the supermarket with three kids who are screaming "we want..." and she hands them it and says "HERE!!!", i smile sympathetically.]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 15:37:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227355&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227355 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227340&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227340 Author: Glow
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 3:24pm

Some people get more schitt thrown at them through life than others.
Some people are rumour spreaders & jealous
Some people have more in life than others...]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 15:24:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227340&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227340 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227332&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227332 Author: FionaS
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 3:10pm

my2angels....it's definately not about anything on Oh! Baby or about any one situation or person...it is a general observation :)

I can deal with it aimed at me (kind of) but don't like seeing it happen to others, especially when they are struggling and in need of support.

Definately just a general, non-specific rant.]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 15:10:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227332&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227332 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227330&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227330 Author: Maya
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 3:09pm

GandT wrote: but yeah i sometimes wonder what is being said about me behind my back...

We all talk about how lovely and not-grumpy you are ]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 15:09:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227330&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227330 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227323&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227323 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 2:59pm

my2angels i dont think its specifically board related...

its human nature tho fiona...what i hate more tho is mums who compare kids in front of the kids...ggrrr

but yeah i sometimes wonder what is being said about me behind my back...

you have to be the duck tho - and let it all slide off like water from a ducks back!!!! ]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 14:59:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227323&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227323 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227318&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227318 Author: my2angels
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 2:51pm

Im lost, again obviously something I havent seen but anyway I agree and hope its not me that you have in mind!]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 14:51:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227318&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227318 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227308&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227308 Author: FionaS
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 2:41pm

Na, it's been something that has been bugging me for a while, just a general observation.]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 14:41:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227308&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227308 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227306&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227306 Author: Maya
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 2:36pm

I know, but it's me that made you feel bad ]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 14:36:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227306&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227306 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227305&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227305 Author: FionaS
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 2:35pm

Not you Emma!!! LOL]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 14:35:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227305&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227305 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227304&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227304 Author: Maya
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 2:34pm

*feeling very guilty now* ]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 14:34:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227304&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227304 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227300&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227300 Author: james
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 2:29pm

yep it borthers me to but people do it to make themselfs feel better about there seleves ]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 14:29:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227300&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227300 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227299&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227299 Author: Glow
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 2:29pm

Meh- to hell with gossip & judgement

To avoid it..
be nothing, say nothing, do nothing!!

Obviously their lives are VERY VERY boring


]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 14:29:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227299&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227299 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227288&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227288 Author: FionaS
Subject: 11422
Posted: 10 October 2007 at 2:21pm

...when they don't really even know them?

I've been really frustrated lately seeing how much people, especially mothers judge one another. There is nothing more undermining to a friendship that the feeling you are being judged.

I know we all have automatic judgemental thoughts in our heads about others from time to time but why do we act on them and gossip / draw conclusions about others when we don't even have full information?

What ever happened to "do unto others as you'd have them do unto you" & supporting one another? Why do we have to squash others down so much?

Sorry - just a rant but it is so sad and annoying! Does it bother you too?
]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2007 14:21:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11422&PID=227288&title=rant-why-do-people-judge-others#227288