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OHbaby! Forums : midwife https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 07 Apr 2026 05:31:26 +0000 Tue, 23 Oct 2007 09:44:55 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=11687 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[midwife : my midwife was a bit like that,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233779&title=midwife#233779 Author: my2angels
Subject: 11687
Posted: 23 October 2007 at 9:44am

my midwife was a bit like that, for her it was old hand which in some ways was good but other times it really drove me nuts but in the end she was excellent during the birth and exactly what i needed.
I wouldnt feel bad about changing though, you need to feel comfortable with your midwife and have confidence in them because you will need to rely on them during the birth and after.]]> Tue, 23 Oct 2007 09:44:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233779&title=midwife#233779 <![CDATA[midwife : That's pretty slack! I would...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233762&title=midwife#233762 Author: Nic01
Subject: 11687
Posted: 23 October 2007 at 9:33am

That's pretty slack! I would be really annoyed. How does she know it's not something important if she doesn't return your call? My midwife always returns my calls even if it's later on that day & she has a pager as well for emergencies. I would talk to her about it again - I mean why would you bother to ring her if it was just something that could wait until your next visit? But I would also possibly look at changing. You don't have to tell your midwife you want to change if you don't feel comfortable with doing that. I would probably hold off & try & find someone else first & then they can handle the changeover for you. ]]> Tue, 23 Oct 2007 09:33:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233762&title=midwife#233762 <![CDATA[midwife : Aww Kawww, sucks about the problem...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233752&title=midwife#233752 Author: LittleBug
Subject: 11687
Posted: 23 October 2007 at 9:23am

Aww Kawww, sucks about the problem with your midwife. Maybe have a talk to her and tell her you really need her to call you back as it's your first pregnancy and you need reassuring... make it really clear that when you contact her you want to be called back as soon as possible! If she isn't happy with that then I would try and find another midwife. It's her job to take your concerns seriously and make sure that you are ok (including not stressing about any part of your pregnancy).

My midwife has been really good, if I txt her, she always rings back the same day, or if I txt and say it's not important then she just txts me back. Sometimes when I ask her a question or say I have a worry, she pops over on her way to or from somewhere to see me in person. And when I was admitted to hospital, she came in to see me several times (even late at night on the first night that I was there).]]> Tue, 23 Oct 2007 09:23:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233752&title=midwife#233752 <![CDATA[midwife : I ma not even pregnat and if I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233741&title=midwife#233741 Author: 11111
Subject: 11687
Posted: 23 October 2007 at 9:12am

I ma not even pregnat and if I text my m/w she will still reply or get back to me sometime. When we were in hospital with mikey he was one at the time she even texted back. and was not even in the country. So yeah even if she a nice person if she no good at looking after you the way she should then I would change.]]> Tue, 23 Oct 2007 09:12:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233741&title=midwife#233741 <![CDATA[midwife : lol sounds just like me.. if i...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233669&title=midwife#233669 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 11687
Posted: 23 October 2007 at 8:16am

lol sounds just like me.. if i stay with her i def. wont be going with her next time.which makes me sad but never mind..:( ]]> Tue, 23 Oct 2007 08:16:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233669&title=midwife#233669 <![CDATA[midwife : No worries, will find out for...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233662&title=midwife#233662 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 11687
Posted: 23 October 2007 at 8:08am

No worries, will find out for you.
I know how you feel about not telling your midwife you don't want to change that is the reason I didn't earlier on and then it was too late. I even worry about offending her by not using her next time or bumping into her and being asked why I haven't used her. Stupid I know, we haven't even decided when we will TTC#2 and I'm already worried about it.]]> Tue, 23 Oct 2007 08:08:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233662&title=midwife#233662 <![CDATA[midwife : thanks:) yeah and i don't...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233656&title=midwife#233656 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 11687
Posted: 23 October 2007 at 7:52am

thanks:) yeah and i don't need her to ring me that second..the next day is fine...its been making me mad the more i think about it.. its only 5 weeks before i see her fortnightly!!! how would i explain why i want to leave? It's a week tomorrow before I see her next..

cuppatea yeah that would be good..i might wimp out from ringing her but would be good to have the option:) ]]> Tue, 23 Oct 2007 07:52:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233656&title=midwife#233656 <![CDATA[midwife : I can't believe there are...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233563&title=midwife#233563 Author: Lisha
Subject: 11687
Posted: 22 October 2007 at 8:59pm

I can't believe there are Midwifes out there that are soo lazy! Gees, this is your baby we are talking about, and not to ring you back! My midwife is great, if she isn't home I either leave a message or page her and she rings me straight back. I have her again for this pregnancy as well as with Lucy.

You should change midwifes! You have to be happy and all the best in finding a new one

]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 20:59:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233563&title=midwife#233563 <![CDATA[midwife : I got mine by just ringing Burwood...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233540&title=midwife#233540 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 11687
Posted: 22 October 2007 at 8:44pm

I got mine by just ringing Burwood hospital, they are part of CWH so you don't have to birth at burwood but you do normally transfer there afterwards (all being well with you and bubs). There didn't seem to be any shortage of midwifes there, my friend had a different midwife through Burwood who was lovely I could find out her name for you if you like.]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 20:44:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233540&title=midwife#233540 <![CDATA[midwife : tiff she has her daughters wedding......]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233511&title=midwife#233511 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 11687
Posted: 22 October 2007 at 8:24pm

tiff she has her daughters wedding... 1st week in feb..she thinks im due feb 14th but i think 9th feb..

cuppatea...don't know how i'd go about changing..theres not many mw's available here from what i know..??:( she sounds awful:( verena....it took me 5 midwifes to get here and i was only 5 weeks:( so have no idea how to go about getting a new one.. :(

True it's different to liking her as a person than liking her as a midwife... :(

i will talk to her again..last time she apologised profusly for not ringing back and the time before this one i said it was fine not to ring me back...but this time i very very clearly said who i was and that i needed her to call me back..she's even annoying DH as she's making me more stressed...oh i hate conflict and I'd have to tell her I wanna change:( will talk to her on Tuesday and see what response I get.. ]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 20:24:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233511&title=midwife#233511 <![CDATA[midwife : Oh no Kawww thats awful My midwife...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233452&title=midwife#233452 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 11687
Posted: 22 October 2007 at 6:30pm

Oh no Kawww thats awful My midwife always gets back to me at the end of the day( I usually txt her and if I havent got a reply by the end of the day I txt again and she replys.

When I ring she almost always answers aswell. Maybe u should talk to her again? Tell her your not happy.

]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 18:30:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233452&title=midwife#233452 <![CDATA[midwife : Kawww, it must be horrible......]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233450&title=midwife#233450 Author: Danash
Subject: 11687
Posted: 22 October 2007 at 6:25pm

Kawww, it must be horrible... I would definately be changing while you still have plenty of tiem to develop a new relationship with another MW.

I have briefly met my MW's partner MW and took an instant dislike toher, which is unusual as we only said hi. I have told DH that if MW is not avail and she suggests the partner I'd prefer to just go with the hospital MW.

You should ask to meet the partner MW maybe she will be better and you can just swap to her. Especially if there is the chance that yours will be away anyhow.

]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 18:25:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233450&title=midwife#233450 <![CDATA[midwife : She said that she didn't...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233440&title=midwife#233440 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 11687
Posted: 22 October 2007 at 6:07pm

She said that she didn't have enough time to do the training, which was bull. She was quite old school and didn't believe in having scans, finding out the sex of the baby or cordbanking (as you can't have a physiological 3rd stage). But we did have scans, we did find out the sex and we did get cordbanking done (by someone cordbank set up for us).
I personally think that she should have supported what me and DH wanted to do and not forced her own opinions on us. I def won't be using her next time, she made me cry about a week after Spencer had been born when I wasn't coping with him feeding every 1 1/2 hours, DH got me to express so I could sleep for 2 hours and she made me feel like I was useless and should have been able to cope without sleeping for 48 hours and then had the cheek to talk to DH about me possibly having PND when I had been fine until I saw her.

Sorry rant over]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 18:07:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233440&title=midwife#233440 <![CDATA[midwife : I'm thinking it might be...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233393&title=midwife#233393 Author: Tiff
Subject: 11687
Posted: 22 October 2007 at 4:28pm

I'm thinking it might be best to see about changing also. You keep saying you like her as a person but that is a bit different to liking her as a midwife. Besides I'm really suprised she took you on knowing she was going away around the time your due.

OT - cuppatea, why wouldn't she do cordbanking for you??? Seems weird.]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 16:28:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233393&title=midwife#233393 <![CDATA[midwife : I would change now if I was you,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233382&title=midwife#233382 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 11687
Posted: 22 October 2007 at 4:02pm

I would change now if I was you, I wasn't entirely happy with me m/w but left it and then got to 32 weeks and she refused to cordbanking for us and it was really too late for me to change, should have followed my gut instinct at the start]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 16:02:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233382&title=midwife#233382 <![CDATA[midwife : daikini..i tried that last time..i...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233381&title=midwife#233381 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 11687
Posted: 22 October 2007 at 3:58pm

daikini..i tried that last time..i talked to her about not replying and i told her i would say if i needed her to call me..this last time last week i expressly said please call me back and nothing.. :( being my first baby i need extra help i think and she said 'feel free to ring me anytime' ..why should i have to ring her back all the time..she can ring me when it suits her i don't care if it's a day later or whatever:( it just sucks...I know one person who transfered from her for same reason(though didn't know that till 2 weeks ago) but just a shame for me to feel such a a pain when i think im just being normal:(

cuppatea- yeah she has answered my crazy questions in person..and bene so great..i knwo i said id ring back if its important..i will clarify this next week..but i said 'Hi..it's Kerri-Anne here...and then explained what i wanted..can you please ring me back when you can'..I mean I thought she would do it:( ' I need to grow some balls maybe:)

italiah..yeah i will talk to her about it at next appointment..i don't like ruffling feather but I just wanted to check i wasn't being unreasonable before I said something:(

Emz:( sad you are going through the same thing..my friend told me to change.(she did at 17 weeks) but i didn't think id be able to and I liek her as a person(and it took a while to get used to her as shes quite forward and although I'm outgoing I'm a bit shier about saying some things..like she just had a student there one day..no warning or anything and i was embarrassed asking things..
she rang when i had m/c but never rang to see how i was after it or anything but in the end we decided to go with her when i got pregnant again..:( cause of experience etc.. but she is going away early feb so might not have her anyway:(

rach-never met a backup:( i didnt even know these things till recently.. and i tried txting to see if she'd reply but nope..no call nothing.. (though i could have called her after that) this last time I was just so annoyed as i needed to know where to get medication from (even though its not urgent stuff:( )

sounds like im getting the raw end of the deal.. I will talk to her about it when i see her.. it doesn't help my confidence having these issues:(

sorry for the novel! ]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 15:58:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233381&title=midwife#233381 <![CDATA[midwife : My midwife would always text back....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233310&title=midwife#233310 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 11687
Posted: 22 October 2007 at 11:55am

My midwife would always text back. Does she have a back up? Because if you are really worried and can't get hold of your mw you have the right to ring them instead. ]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 11:55:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233310&title=midwife#233310 <![CDATA[midwife : Sounds like my m/w! Wonder if...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233286&title=midwife#233286 Author: emz
Subject: 11687
Posted: 22 October 2007 at 11:02am

Sounds like my m/w! Wonder if we have the same one?! I would recommend changing but I doubt you would find another one at this stage (I considered it, but she was the 20th m/w I called, so figured it would be too hard).

Mine didn't even call me to see how I was doing after being admitted to hospital, nor did she know why I had the following week when I saw her, so yeah they can be pretty slack and most of the time I think they just take people for the money.]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 11:02:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233286&title=midwife#233286 <![CDATA[midwife : i alwaysgot acall back (sorry...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233262&title=midwife#233262 Author: james
Subject: 11687
Posted: 22 October 2007 at 10:27am

i always got a call back (sorry some buttons on key broad are stiking)

]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 10:27:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233262&title=midwife#233262 <![CDATA[midwife : I always got a call back within...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233254&title=midwife#233254 Author: busymum
Subject: 11687
Posted: 22 October 2007 at 9:56am

I always got a call back within 24 hours.]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 09:56:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233254&title=midwife#233254 <![CDATA[midwife : Yeah she should be calling you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233252&title=midwife#233252 Author: my4beauties
Subject: 11687
Posted: 22 October 2007 at 9:29am

Yeah she should be calling you back, even just to reassure you. First baby or not, you should still be recieving a call or text back. How annoying for you. Maybe you do need to call her back instead so she realises you are serious.]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 09:29:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233252&title=midwife#233252 <![CDATA[midwife : My midwife would always ring back,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233239&title=midwife#233239 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 11687
Posted: 22 October 2007 at 9:01am

My midwife would always ring back, even when I said its not urgent she would return the call the same day, if it was urgent she would be paged and would ring within the hour.
Just because you are 23 weeks doesn't make anything less urgent and to just be waiting till the next appointment seems a bit slack to me.
Also you should be able to ask as many questions as you like and they can be as crazy as you like, I know I asked a few, and even though I might have got some funny looks she still answered them.]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 09:01:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233239&title=midwife#233239 <![CDATA[midwife : My arrangement with my midwife...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233236&title=midwife#233236 Author: daikini
Subject: 11687
Posted: 22 October 2007 at 8:52am

My arrangement with my midwife is that I ring and leave a message for her with the answering service... if it is urgent/important I say so and she'll be paged to ring me back immediately, otherwise she'll return my call at the end of the day. I know this is my 4th baby rather than my 1st, but it still is good to know she's treating me the same as the rest of her clients and not expecting me to know everything!

If you are not happy with the current arrangement, maybe you could talk to her at your next appointment and organise something else you are both satisfied with.]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 08:52:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233236&title=midwife#233236 <![CDATA[midwife : yep exactly what i think..and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233234&title=midwife#233234 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 11687
Posted: 22 October 2007 at 8:50am

yep exactly what i think..and i am a worrier but it doesn't help my confidence to not have her call back..i had the option of changing to my friends midwife..she rings back and txts all the time..but she is having a baby now so yeah :( can't...but although she's a great person next time will be finding another one.. ]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 08:50:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233234&title=midwife#233234 <![CDATA[midwife : I think I'd knda expect her...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233229&title=midwife#233229 Author: Tiff
Subject: 11687
Posted: 22 October 2007 at 8:35am

I think I'd knda expect her to ring back. It's her job to reassure us etc and if she's had 30 years experience she should know what it's like for first time mothers. But I guess you did say you would ring her back if important - though I guess you wouldn't have rung in the first place if you hadn't felt it was important??!!???

]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 08:35:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233229&title=midwife#233229 <![CDATA[midwife : I have a lovely midwife..i really...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233225&title=midwife#233225 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 11687
Posted: 22 October 2007 at 8:19am

I have a lovely midwife..i really like her as a person..but i have rung her a few times and will always specify if I think I need her to ring me back.last time I rang her after hours (7pm) and asked her to call me back...that was a week ago and she hasn't...I've already spoken to her about this and she didn't perceive why i rang as important(she said she thought she would just talk to me about it next time she saw me but to me at the time t was important) so she didn't ring me back..in 23 weeks I have rang 3 times and txted twice with no reply..
she always waits till the next appointment which i can sortof understand as way in the beginning I did tell her I'd ring back if it was important...

but still...am I wrong in expecting a response ..even if it is a few days later....man i hope it changes when i see her more often..she is lovely in person listens very well answers all my questions wonderfully and is great..but even if she didn't think it was important why wouldn't she at least call me back..am i being overly sensitive? or is it normal to expect answers to my questions even if she thinks I'm crazy:) (it's my first pregnancy and she has over 30 years experience) ]]> Mon, 22 Oct 2007 08:19:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11687&PID=233225&title=midwife#233225