OHbaby! Forums : Finding love again https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 07 Apr 2026 07:13:38 +0000 Fri, 02 Dec 2005 08:14:02 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=1182 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Finding love again : We have talked about this before...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=21407&title=finding-love-again#21407 Author: newmum
Subject: 1182
Posted: 02 December 2005 at 8:14am

We have talked about this before and there are a few of us on this site that met their hubby/partner on the internet!! I always thought I was the only one (admittedly it wasn't on a singles site or anything as I wasn't looking, it just happened). It does work too though!! ]]> Fri, 02 Dec 2005 08:14:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=21407&title=finding-love-again#21407 <![CDATA[Finding love again : Good on you Angel. How exciting...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=21337&title=finding-love-again#21337 Author: purpledragon
Subject: 1182
Posted: 01 December 2005 at 2:03pm

Good on you Angel. How exciting to be going to Australia especially on your own. I take my hat off to you, it sounds like you are doing a wonderful job doing the best you can by your kids and I am sure your Mr Wonderful will come along soon enough to reward you for your hard work. In my experience, it took me 10yrs to find my Mr Wonderful, the good ones are worth waiting for.
All the best for you future.]]> Thu, 01 Dec 2005 14:03:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=21337&title=finding-love-again#21337 <![CDATA[Finding love again : Yeah being an older single mum...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=21320&title=finding-love-again#21320 Author: Angelme
Subject: 1182
Posted: 01 December 2005 at 12:03pm

Yeah being an older single mum (39 now ouch) I have used the internet dating thing, admittedly have made a few friends, plus also met some right drongos lol. I have decided on a single life, dealing with three special needs children, I have little time for me as it is. And then moving to Aus in 18 months time well no-one is going to stand in my way. I have too many goals to achieve.]]> Thu, 01 Dec 2005 12:03:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=21320&title=finding-love-again#21320 <![CDATA[Finding love again : Hi there. I understand your situation...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=21165&title=finding-love-again#21165 Author: purpledragon
Subject: 1182
Posted: 29 November 2005 at 4:24pm

Hi there.
I understand your situation very well and after a few failed attempts at a relationship after being married, I have found my MR right. We met through a internet dating service and I was after someone who had children and understood where I was coming from. We dated for a while and then at 5 or 6mths moved in together as we were pretty much living in each others houses anyway. He was only a year younger than me and had a daughter he was raising from a previous marriage.
We have now been together nearly 2 half years, have a 10mth old daughter together and we are getting married next year in Raratonga.
We have normal issues to do with the kids and sometimes our children are so similar you would think they came from the same parents anyway. The issues with ex's has got better over a short period of time and we are just so glad that all our children and step parents get along. The only thing I do suggest if you ever meet your Mr Wonderful again is make sure you have the same ideas on how to raise the children, whether they be yours or his as this can cause problems in future. I have read on a lot of web sites to do with step parenting, these kind of issues.
Good luck in your journey in finding your own Mr Right, he is out there somewhere.]]> Tue, 29 Nov 2005 16:24:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=21165&title=finding-love-again#21165 <![CDATA[Finding love again : thanks so much for your stories...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20727&title=finding-love-again#20727 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 1182
Posted: 24 November 2005 at 9:12pm

thanks so much for your stories guys theyve given me lots of hope!
i promise when i meet mr right u guys will be the first to know!!! ]]> Thu, 24 Nov 2005 21:12:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20727&title=finding-love-again#20727 <![CDATA[Finding love again : Awww Nikki!! Edited by aimeejoy...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20588&title=finding-love-again#20588 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 1182
Posted: 23 November 2005 at 4:22pm

Awww Nikki!!


Edited by aimeejoy]]> Wed, 23 Nov 2005 16:22:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20588&title=finding-love-again#20588 <![CDATA[Finding love again : we are all sad married ladies...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20581&title=finding-love-again#20581 Author: lizzle
Subject: 1182
Posted: 23 November 2005 at 3:55pm

we are all sad married ladies huh!!!! Poor Nikki..(dammit, no "kissy kissy" marks)]]> Wed, 23 Nov 2005 15:55:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20581&title=finding-love-again#20581 <![CDATA[Finding love again : Ah, thats so damn cute!!! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20564&title=finding-love-again#20564 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 1182
Posted: 23 November 2005 at 3:10pm

Ah, thats so damn cute!!! ]]> Wed, 23 Nov 2005 15:10:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20564&title=finding-love-again#20564 <![CDATA[Finding love again : Nah, Emma... Zeke&#039;s in love,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20552&title=finding-love-again#20552 Author: daikini
Subject: 1182
Posted: 23 November 2005 at 2:48pm

Nah, Emma... Zeke's in love, Nikki's over the moon! hehehe... ]]> Wed, 23 Nov 2005 14:48:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20552&title=finding-love-again#20552 <![CDATA[Finding love again : Nikki&#039;s in looooove! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20541&title=finding-love-again#20541 Author: Maya
Subject: 1182
Posted: 23 November 2005 at 2:15pm

Nikki's in looooove!]]> Wed, 23 Nov 2005 14:15:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20541&title=finding-love-again#20541 <![CDATA[Finding love again : I wasn&#039;t annoyed at all......]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20522&title=finding-love-again#20522 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 1182
Posted: 23 November 2005 at 12:53pm

I wasn't annoyed at all... I was just hoping that I didn't offend you
My post was meant to kinda be a backtrack/apology.
Damn ambiguity in posts!

Edited by nikkiwhyte]]> Wed, 23 Nov 2005 12:53:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20522&title=finding-love-again#20522 <![CDATA[Finding love again : I completely understand, Nikki!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20507&title=finding-love-again#20507 Author: daikini
Subject: 1182
Posted: 23 November 2005 at 11:42am

I completely understand, Nikki! I was just clarifying why Nat was an 'uncle' at first, that's all. Sorry if I annoyed you.]]> Wed, 23 Nov 2005 11:42:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20507&title=finding-love-again#20507 <![CDATA[Finding love again : Becca, don&#039;t get me wrong,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20506&title=finding-love-again#20506 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 1182
Posted: 23 November 2005 at 11:35am

Becca, don't get me wrong, have no objections to it for most people but Zeke didn't have a whole lot to do with Hannah before we got together and it seems weird to be starting the whole Uncle thing now! Especially when 'Uncle Zeke' sleeps in mummy's bed and gets Hannah up in the mornings]]> Wed, 23 Nov 2005 11:35:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20506&title=finding-love-again#20506 <![CDATA[Finding love again : Becca that is soooo lovely!! And...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20504&title=finding-love-again#20504 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 1182
Posted: 23 November 2005 at 11:29am

Becca that is soooo lovely!!

And Nikki!!! Yay for you!!! in lurrrrvvvveee!

Kelly, good on you for not parading a whole range of "uncles" through Caitlyns life. I don't have any tips, I'm afraid! I was a chronically single party gal before I met Rod... ( we all know what that means, wild oats and all..) ]]> Wed, 23 Nov 2005 11:29:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20504&title=finding-love-again#20504 <![CDATA[Finding love again : All my friends are &#039;Uncle&#039;...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20503&title=finding-love-again#20503 Author: daikini
Subject: 1182
Posted: 23 November 2005 at 11:27am

All my friends are 'Uncle' or 'Aunty', so it was pretty natural for Nathaniel to be one as well. In fact, his ex was "Aunty Becka" for a while!]]> Wed, 23 Nov 2005 11:27:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20503&title=finding-love-again#20503 <![CDATA[Finding love again : Ah I love your story Becca! I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20497&title=finding-love-again#20497 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 1182
Posted: 23 November 2005 at 11:03am

Ah I love your story Becca! I could hear it a million times and still have a stupid grin on my face!

I discourage the whole 'Uncle Zeke' thing. It kinda freaks me out a little. Zeke gets down about it as his flatties get to be Uncle Tim and Uncle Hamish while he is just Zeke. hehe]]> Wed, 23 Nov 2005 11:03:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20497&title=finding-love-again#20497 <![CDATA[Finding love again : My Mum gave Kiya this hideous...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20483&title=finding-love-again#20483 Author: daikini
Subject: 1182
Posted: 23 November 2005 at 8:32am

My Mum gave Kiya this hideous bright orange and yellow container of bubble mix. She picked that one because it was spillproof... but we have NO photos of Kiya from the day when she's not holding it and smiling! It was either yukky container and she'd smile lots, or no container and she'd sulk!]]> Wed, 23 Nov 2005 08:32:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20483&title=finding-love-again#20483 <![CDATA[Finding love again : Oh that is so beautiful! I love...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20481&title=finding-love-again#20481 Author: newmum
Subject: 1182
Posted: 23 November 2005 at 8:27am

Oh that is so beautiful! I love the photo too...

Nikki ]]> Wed, 23 Nov 2005 08:27:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20481&title=finding-love-again#20481 <![CDATA[Finding love again : Well, I met Nathaniel when Kiya...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20475&title=finding-love-again#20475 Author: daikini
Subject: 1182
Posted: 23 November 2005 at 8:12am

Well, I met Nathaniel when Kiya was 6 months old... we met through church... one of those "I know who he/she is" type of things, but we didn't actually have a conversation until then. Kiya's bio father hasn't even met her, having broken up with me while I was pregnant.

We clicked straight away, but he had a girlfriend (ironically enough, someone I'd known growing up!) and so we were only friends for ages. His relationship wasn't the best, and as it ended we both began acknowledging that there was a lot more than just friendship between us. We began dating when Kiya was 1, she already adored him and called him Uncle Nat.

When we got engaged, Kiya was 2.5. Nathaniel asked her if he could be her daddy, and she said "Yes. Can I be your daughter?" Nathaniel was crying as he hugged her and told her she could. It was so sweet!

Kiya started calling Nathaniel "Daddy" out of the blue about 3 months before our wedding. Nathaniel was freaked! We encouraged her to keep calling him Uncle Nat until right before the wedding - gave him a chance to get used to the idea! Kiya was our flower girl when we got married. She was nearly 3.



We were friends first, and that worked really well for us. Nathaniel is the only dad Kiya knows, although she does know that he didn't make her in my tummy.
]]> Wed, 23 Nov 2005 08:12:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20475&title=finding-love-again#20475 <![CDATA[Finding love again : oh and the whole meeting ppl out...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20468&title=finding-love-again#20468 Author: k&jsmum
Subject: 1182
Posted: 22 November 2005 at 11:00pm

oh and the whole meeting ppl out things not really my cup of tea either but i do like to go and have a boogey with my girls. i like the idea of meeting someone thru my friends then you have a heads up already on what they are like]]> Tue, 22 Nov 2005 23:00:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20468&title=finding-love-again#20468 <![CDATA[Finding love again : yeah your right nikki - startin...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20467&title=finding-love-again#20467 Author: k&jsmum
Subject: 1182
Posted: 22 November 2005 at 10:58pm

yeah your right nikki - startin out at friends is a great basis. will work on that theory and see how i go lol
]]> Tue, 22 Nov 2005 22:58:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20467&title=finding-love-again#20467 <![CDATA[Finding love again : Thanx lol ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20461&title=finding-love-again#20461 Author: Xander&Harmony
Subject: 1182
Posted: 22 November 2005 at 9:50pm

Thanx lol]]> Tue, 22 Nov 2005 21:50:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20461&title=finding-love-again#20461 <![CDATA[Finding love again : lol Becs! You are a nutter ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20460&title=finding-love-again#20460 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 1182
Posted: 22 November 2005 at 9:45pm

lol Becs! You are a nutter ]]> Tue, 22 Nov 2005 21:45:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20460&title=finding-love-again#20460 <![CDATA[Finding love again : Oooooohhhhhhh Zeke luvs Nikki...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20459&title=finding-love-again#20459 Author: Xander&Harmony
Subject: 1182
Posted: 22 November 2005 at 9:41pm

Oooooohhhhhhh Zeke luvs Nikki Zeke luvs Nikki

Zeke and Nikki sittin in a tree

PMSL sorry Nikki i am just being a silly girl tonight

]]> Tue, 22 Nov 2005 21:41:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20459&title=finding-love-again#20459 <![CDATA[Finding love again : Hrmmm... well I&#039;m not really...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20456&title=finding-love-again#20456 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 1182
Posted: 22 November 2005 at 9:33pm

Hrmmm... well I'm not really qualified to comment on this yet but still have the same fears.
I'm a solo Mum (with no biological father for my child in sight) but I have a boyfriend. He has a lot of contact with Hannah, but that is more so due to the fact that he was a good friend before he became my boyfriend so I'm not too worried about that as even if we don't work out then I'm sure we will still remain good friends. And even if it is bitter, Hannah is still young enough that it shouldn't have a lasting effect.

I never thought I'd find anyone. And it wasn't even a matter of getting out. It was a friend who became more than that. I think friendship is an important basis for a relationship. (I am going somewhere with this) So instead of going out to look for a relationship, perhaps there is more merit in looking for friendship? It's how it worked for me!!!

- Oh and sad married ladies ... more goss for ya... Zeke said he loved me Ahhh he's so cute!

Edited by nikkiwhyte]]> Tue, 22 Nov 2005 21:33:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20456&title=finding-love-again#20456 <![CDATA[Finding love again : oh am i so agree about kids not...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20450&title=finding-love-again#20450 Author: k&jsmum
Subject: 1182
Posted: 22 November 2005 at 9:09pm

oh am i so agree about kids not seeing their parents with new b/fs or g/fs all the time. I truely think it can be damaging to a child to ppl just passing thru and like you said stability is so important]]> Tue, 22 Nov 2005 21:09:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20450&title=finding-love-again#20450 <![CDATA[Finding love again : Hi there im marlene and i have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20449&title=finding-love-again#20449 Author: k&jsmum
Subject: 1182
Posted: 22 November 2005 at 9:06pm

Hi there im marlene and i have 2 year old twin boys. am single and often wonder how ppl get to meet new partners. Like you I hardly ever get to go out. However I have no intentions of having more children but would love to meet someone special. There are some lucky ladies on here who have children and have meet new partners. I guess the answer is to get out there but with unfortunately i have no free babysitters close by and a night out is an expensive exercise. But things will change soon.... i can so feel it!! Got to be positive. Anyway will be checking out the advice anyone gives on here too. Good luck to us lol ]]> Tue, 22 Nov 2005 21:06:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20449&title=finding-love-again#20449 <![CDATA[Finding love again : im just wondering if theres anyone...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20446&title=finding-love-again#20446 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 1182
Posted: 22 November 2005 at 8:34pm

im just wondering if theres anyone here whos had some experience with this ...Being in your 20s with a child and finding a partner.

Now, i am not one of those girls who needs a man to be happy-i live by the rule that if ur not happy within urself a mans not gonna change things BUT i have a 3year old and while i dont think my biological clock is ticking away yet-im only 24, im getting to the stage where i would LOVE more kids-my friend is pregnant and im so jealous!
However i have a rule about not dating guy after guy-i want Caitlyn to have stability and i dont get out much(sure u can guess why)
so just wondering is there any other ladies on this site that have had a child from a previous relationship and still managed to meet mr right?and how were they re ur kid/s.
Thankyou! ]]> Tue, 22 Nov 2005 20:34:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1182&PID=20446&title=finding-love-again#20446