OHbaby! Forums : Pregnancy via Donor https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Fri, 01 May 2026 01:38:31 +0000 Wed, 01 Jul 2009 20:00:46 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=12497 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Pregnancy via Donor : Hey hun I just wanted to wish...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=713963&title=pregnancy-via-donor#713963 Author: Babe
Subject: 12497
Posted: 01 July 2009 at 8:00pm

Hey hun I just wanted to wish you the very best and second everyone else on finding a doc who you feel is fully supportive. Being a single parent can be difficult (been there) but a supportive family makes all the difference - especially if you have a dad and brothers/BILs who can provide that very very important male role. My partner has taken on my son as his and adores him but Jake has an extremely close and loving relationship with my dad and brothers from the time we lived both with them and near them and its awesome. My dad was even there for Jake birth - so special!!
Again big hugs and best of luck, I'll be watching to see how things go ]]> Wed, 01 Jul 2009 20:00:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=713963&title=pregnancy-via-donor#713963 <![CDATA[Pregnancy via Donor : Hi Emma I have a friend who conceived...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=712892&title=pregnancy-via-donor#712892 Author: happymumma
Subject: 12497
Posted: 30 June 2009 at 1:29pm

Hi Emma

I have a friend who conceived her three children with the help of a friend of a friend and a turkey baster so it can definitely be done. She initially talked to friends and also asked them whether they had friends who might be willing to donate. I'm not sure whether they have something in writing (I assume so) but the father wished to have a photo each year but no other contact except if the children asked later on down the track.

My understanding re sperm donation is that some men specifiy that they want their sperm to go only to those women in a relationship and others don't so there should be options should you need to go down the official track.

Good luck!]]> Tue, 30 Jun 2009 13:29:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=712892&title=pregnancy-via-donor#712892 <![CDATA[Pregnancy via Donor : Emma, good on you for making such...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=712838&title=pregnancy-via-donor#712838 Author: brixey
Subject: 12497
Posted: 30 June 2009 at 12:01pm

Emma, good on you for making such a brave decision. If you are in Welly PM me as my doc here is great. I don't think she will be judgemental.

I say flick your GP too and just make an appointment wiyth FA.

Daniel, your words are touching and you must be a hell of a great guy!]]> Tue, 30 Jun 2009 12:01:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=712838&title=pregnancy-via-donor#712838 <![CDATA[Pregnancy via Donor : How interesting is it that your...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=712753&title=pregnancy-via-donor#712753 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 12497
Posted: 30 June 2009 at 10:33am

How interesting is it that your Dr doesn't approve, what happens if you went out and got pregnant from a one night stand...what would your Dr say then????

Good luck!!]]> Tue, 30 Jun 2009 10:33:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=712753&title=pregnancy-via-donor#712753 <![CDATA[Pregnancy via Donor : Hiya Emma RedDragon started a...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=712637&title=pregnancy-via-donor#712637 Author: Shezzey
Subject: 12497
Posted: 29 June 2009 at 11:21pm

Hiya Emma

Red Dragon started a thread here called called "anyone doing AI" maybe you can pm and she can advise you?  Also she mentioned donors from a site called

www.freespermdonors.com

]]> Mon, 29 Jun 2009 23:21:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=712637&title=pregnancy-via-donor#712637 <![CDATA[Pregnancy via Donor : Hi Emma, I&#039;m a 34 year old...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=712514&title=pregnancy-via-donor#712514 Author: DanielNZ
Subject: 12497
Posted: 29 June 2009 at 9:12pm

Hi Emma,

I'm a 34 year old father of one (so far) and I separated from my wife a couple of years ago. My daughter's name is Caitlin and she's 5 - at school and very cute.

I've been a donor at Fertility Associates and my donations have already been used by 4 women (the maximum). However, I recognise that there are women out there that don't want to wait 2-3 years on a list for a donor through the clinic or think that $2000 a cycle is too much to bear. I want to help a few more women to achieve their dreams of having a child.

As a father myself, I recognise how special it is to be a parent and I think it's every one's right to have a child if you want one.

Drop me a line and chat some more.

Regards,
Daniel
]]> Mon, 29 Jun 2009 21:12:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=712514&title=pregnancy-via-donor#712514 <![CDATA[Pregnancy via Donor : All the best Emma, how great that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=252378&title=pregnancy-via-donor#252378 Author: Mazzy
Subject: 12497
Posted: 25 November 2007 at 8:52pm

All the best Emma, how great that your family and friends are so supportive.

Just a heads up, although this isn't first hand for me, on another forum I've been on there is a woman who got a friend to be her donor and her experience hasn't been good because the father decided (after the baby was born) that he wants full access to the child. From what I understand, even a pre-conception contract drawn up won't stand up in court, so she now has shared custody of the child. Hard to prevent someone changing their mind, but just something to think about in the friend vs. anonymous donor process, and possibly something to check with a lawyer.

She is really happy to have her baby though, and I hope you get to experience the same joy of holding your baby in your arms.]]> Sun, 25 Nov 2007 20:52:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=252378&title=pregnancy-via-donor#252378 <![CDATA[Pregnancy via Donor : I just want to say all the best...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=252351&title=pregnancy-via-donor#252351 Author: emachan
Subject: 12497
Posted: 25 November 2007 at 8:08pm

I just want to say all the best Emma, of course, ideally for you and bubs it would be great to have two parents, but do what feels best for you, and if you have the support of your family, then go for it! ]]> Sun, 25 Nov 2007 20:08:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=252351&title=pregnancy-via-donor#252351 <![CDATA[Pregnancy via Donor : Good on you Emma. I wish you all...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=252187&title=pregnancy-via-donor#252187 Author: Kels
Subject: 12497
Posted: 25 November 2007 at 10:07am

Good on you Emma. I wish you all the best in the world as being a mum is the most rewarding job in the world and nothing compares.....

I had a patient that was in a similar situation as you and she saved to go private to have her daughter. SHe had the same family support as you. Her daughter is now 2yrs old and what an amazing journey it has been to be part of their lives for their past 2 years. They had their up and downs as you would in 2parent families. When I asked her would she do it all again given half the chance she said in a heart beat, She has had her fair share of people disagreeing but over all the support out weighed the bad a\nd she has learn not to listen to the negative.

Sorry I know Im off the topic of your question, just wanted to share this experience with you

Just remind your Dr that you are there for some help on where to go and not to be subjected to his opinion as that is not part of his job. If he is totally not willing to help out he is obligated to ref you to the appropriate service you need whether it be FPA or another GP

Again Emma, Im wishing you all the luck in the world

 

]]> Sun, 25 Nov 2007 10:07:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=252187&title=pregnancy-via-donor#252187 <![CDATA[Pregnancy via Donor : i know someone in the same position...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=252170&title=pregnancy-via-donor#252170 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 12497
Posted: 25 November 2007 at 9:19am

i know someone in the same position as you - she is going through fertility associates and is on a third private round...she too would be a "single mum"....I say flick your doc or demand a referral to FA

]]> Sun, 25 Nov 2007 09:19:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=252170&title=pregnancy-via-donor#252170 <![CDATA[Pregnancy via Donor : Would pay to look into WINZ benefits...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=252114&title=pregnancy-via-donor#252114 Author: busymum
Subject: 12497
Posted: 24 November 2007 at 10:36pm

Would pay to look into WINZ benefits etc for the future too - I presume at some stage you will want to be on the DPB and they can be a bit strict on people who don't claim child support for their kids.]]> Sat, 24 Nov 2007 22:36:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=252114&title=pregnancy-via-donor#252114 <![CDATA[Pregnancy via Donor : It&#039;s a toughie Emma in that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=252095&title=pregnancy-via-donor#252095 Author: ginger
Subject: 12497
Posted: 24 November 2007 at 9:49pm

It's a toughie Emma in that you have a dream and freedom of choice, but your Dr is bound ethically to do the best for you as his patient and if he was to assist in bringing a baby into a potentially non-ideal situation, then it would to an extent go against his ethical obligations. That's why with fertility treatment they are against placing 2 embryos back - from an ethical perspective, they must give baby and mother the very best chance for pregnancy.

Anywho, it's a bit rambly, but it may not necessarily be your Dr's personal opinion if you know what I mean?

I wish you all the best though, and hope you can achieve pregnancy ala turkey baster instead of having to get into more expensive and complex methods ]]> Sat, 24 Nov 2007 21:49:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=252095&title=pregnancy-via-donor#252095 <![CDATA[Pregnancy via Donor : welllll, i dont blame your doctor...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=251966&title=pregnancy-via-donor#251966 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 12497
Posted: 24 November 2007 at 5:06pm

welllll, i dont blame your doctor really... and you would have to be able to put up or with or defend lots of negative comments from different quarters just because you chose to have a baby on your own...

but i also dont think it is your doctors place to pass judgement on you or try and make you feel bad, so def find a new doc.

I know that it can be done but you would prob have to search hard to find relevant info. and i agree a contract between you and the donor would be needed. Maybe seek some legal advice on that one if you could too.   

]]> Sat, 24 Nov 2007 17:06:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=251966&title=pregnancy-via-donor#251966 <![CDATA[Pregnancy via Donor : I&#039;ve seen adverts in the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=251965&title=pregnancy-via-donor#251965 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 12497
Posted: 24 November 2007 at 5:06pm

I've seen adverts in the local paper for egg donors so should be possible to advertise for sperm donors.

Good luck ]]> Sat, 24 Nov 2007 17:06:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=251965&title=pregnancy-via-donor#251965 <![CDATA[Pregnancy via Donor : I agree with Kellz, you are going...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=251953&title=pregnancy-via-donor#251953 Author: my2angels
Subject: 12497
Posted: 24 November 2007 at 4:47pm

I agree with Kellz, you are going to need a good doctor! I have a friend who was in a kind of similar situation except she did it the old fashion way and got pregnant. She was older and didnt have a partner but wanted a baby and with her age she didnt want to wait any longer. The father sees the child sometimes but she is happy with that. Not sure how or where you would advertise for a donor if your friends arent keen though. Dont think they have a section for that on trade me ]]> Sat, 24 Nov 2007 16:47:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=251953&title=pregnancy-via-donor#251953 <![CDATA[Pregnancy via Donor : I think you should definalty find...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=251948&title=pregnancy-via-donor#251948 Author: Kellz
Subject: 12497
Posted: 24 November 2007 at 4:26pm

I think you should definalty find a new Dr! When you are preg, and have a baby you are definaltly going to need a supportive, understanding Dr,...or at least one that helpful!
Good luck!]]> Sat, 24 Nov 2007 16:26:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=251948&title=pregnancy-via-donor#251948 <![CDATA[Pregnancy via Donor : Thanks Helen What a lovely but...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=251936&title=pregnancy-via-donor#251936 Author: Em_Monster
Subject: 12497
Posted: 24 November 2007 at 3:44pm

Thanks Helen
What a lovely but sad situation. So happy she finally got her little bundle of joy after such tradegy

Have spent another 5 hours online today researching US sites and managed to locate SI kits and instructions!! Finally and YAH!
Will do this without my unhelpful doctor (who I still want to kick), and will make sure to get a contract drawn up with the donor and ensure we are both clear on expectations etc.
Appreciate the response and hope you have a lovely weekend
Em
]]> Sat, 24 Nov 2007 15:44:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=251936&title=pregnancy-via-donor#251936 <![CDATA[Pregnancy via Donor : A friend of a friend was in a...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=251932&title=pregnancy-via-donor#251932 Author: Helen21
Subject: 12497
Posted: 24 November 2007 at 3:22pm

A friend of a friend was in a simalar situation as you. She was 38 and single and desprately wanting a baby after miscarring in her 20's around the same time here husband was killed in a car accident. Any she tried to apply for sperm through a clinic but she didn't meet the critera because of her age and marital status. With a shortage of donations in New Zealand they are getting a bit picky.
Anyway she advertised for a donor on the internet and eventually found someone suitable. They did the at home diy thing and after three months she was pg and had a healthy baby girl.
The donor gave her his parents contact details in case she needed track him down for medical purposes only. They also made up a signed contract saying he wouldn't be at all held responsable for the baby and wasn't put on the birth cert.]]> Sat, 24 Nov 2007 15:22:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=251932&title=pregnancy-via-donor#251932 <![CDATA[Pregnancy via Donor : Hoping someone may be able to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=251888&title=pregnancy-via-donor#251888 Author: Em_Monster
Subject: 12497
Posted: 24 November 2007 at 1:05pm

Hoping someone may be able to give advice....
I am 35, single and wanting to have a baby. I have asked 2 of my friends if they would consider being a donor and if they are not willing, will then go private.

Problem is, my doctor is not supportive as I would be a singe mother, am apparently going to be judged by the rest of society and is unwilling to help.
Has anyone used a donor at home (ie home syringe?!!)
I would prefer to do DIY but dont know where to turn for advice
This is not a spur of the moment decision.. I have great friends and family who are really supportive of me doing this
Any info greatly appreciated
Emma]]> Sat, 24 Nov 2007 13:05:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12497&PID=251888&title=pregnancy-via-donor#251888