OHbaby! Forums : Getting motivated? https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 30 Apr 2026 14:06:30 +0000 Fri, 29 Feb 2008 21:11:16 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=12920 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : Cheche&#039;s checklist of things...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=314783&title=getting-motivated#314783 Author: LittleBug
Subject: 12920
Posted: 29 February 2008 at 9:11pm

Cheche's checklist of things to do each day was a good one from when I was depressed. Just make them small milestones though, like sense of accomplishment, doing some chore... not like spring cleaning the whole house. Unless you really feel you can do it. Make sure you force yourself to do all three every day, even if you really don't want to. Even if you really can't be bothered and are dreading doing something, even your "enjoyment" task... just start doing it even if you feel like you will hate it. Because 9 times out of 10 you will end up enjoying it once you have gotten started, plus you will feel a sense of accomplishment for being able to tick it off your checklist, and it will make you feel heaps more motivated.]]> Fri, 29 Feb 2008 21:11:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=314783&title=getting-motivated#314783 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : Mummy_becks has got it right... having...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=314700&title=getting-motivated#314700 Author: Cheche
Subject: 12920
Posted: 29 February 2008 at 7:30pm

Mummy_becks has got it right...

having a list of tasks for the day can be really helpful for motivation :). But don't wait till that day to write it (some mornings I wake up without enough motivation to even write a list), choose a time when you're feeling good and make a schedule for the whole week. I read some great tips about what to include each day:
- something that will bring a sense of accomplishment.
- something that will bring a sense of enjoyment.
- something involving others you enjoy being around.

That way you go to bed looking forward to the next day (hopefully a little more) and wake up knowing exactly what you've got to do.

Also when you're writing you're schedule just pretend you're not depressed, even if it's just for the moment.

Hope that helps!

PS I relate to everyone who's written here and it's a big relief to know I'm not alone in this. ]]> Fri, 29 Feb 2008 19:30:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=314700&title=getting-motivated#314700 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : Teehee ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=299458&title=getting-motivated#299458 Author: Maya
Subject: 12920
Posted: 11 February 2008 at 3:35pm

Teehee ]]> Mon, 11 Feb 2008 15:35:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=299458&title=getting-motivated#299458 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : Thanks! Im down,...but not out!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=299454&title=getting-motivated#299454 Author: Kellz
Subject: 12920
Posted: 11 February 2008 at 3:32pm

Thanks! Im down,...but not out! You cant kill weeds ]]> Mon, 11 Feb 2008 15:32:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=299454&title=getting-motivated#299454 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : Yay Kellz, good to see you back!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=299421&title=getting-motivated#299421 Author: Maya
Subject: 12920
Posted: 11 February 2008 at 2:51pm

Yay Kellz, good to see you back!]]> Mon, 11 Feb 2008 14:51:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=299421&title=getting-motivated#299421 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : Thanks Becks! A holiday sounds...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=299300&title=getting-motivated#299300 Author: Kellz
Subject: 12920
Posted: 11 February 2008 at 1:08pm

Thanks Becks! A holiday sounds great! Not just yet, but will definatley think about it!]]> Mon, 11 Feb 2008 13:08:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=299300&title=getting-motivated#299300 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : Awwww Kellz not good, but i&#039;m...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=299268&title=getting-motivated#299268 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 12920
Posted: 11 February 2008 at 12:49pm

Awwww Kellz not good, but i'm glad they know now and they will be helping you out. Remember we will have you for a few nights down here in Palmy anytime you want to get away.

]]> Mon, 11 Feb 2008 12:49:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=299268&title=getting-motivated#299268 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : AliaDawn wrote: Wow just noticed...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=299195&title=getting-motivated#299195 Author: Kellz
Subject: 12920
Posted: 11 February 2008 at 11:52am

Originally posted by AliaDawn AliaDawn wrote:


Wow just noticed you're in Gizzy - really feel for you now It's really hot down here - typical gizzy summer weather (which is rare in welly) so I'm guessing it's horrid up there! I lived in Gis for nearly 5 years before I moved out of home, my mum and sister are still up there. I hated it as a teenager, but I guess it's not such a bad place to keep little kids entertained - awesome beaches and some nice parks. What area do you live in? (if you don't mind me asking)


Sorry I havent checked on here for a while! We live in Mangapapa, not far from the hospital. Yeah it still is MEGA hot here at the moment! Was 22 degress at 7am! Arghh!

Well Ive been having a real rough few weeks, had hoped I was getting better, but I started to feel worse and worse,...then an argument last fri night was the last straw, and I ended up in ED then on the Physch ward for the night.
There has been good come from it tho. I am now getting good professional help, DH's family now know about the PND and being very supportive- both practically and finacially (MIL paid for me to get my hair done too! Yay!). Isla is starting in daycare today, just 2 afternoons a week, and the inlaws are gonna have her wed dayand night. Yay!]]> Mon, 11 Feb 2008 11:52:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=299195&title=getting-motivated#299195 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : Kellz sounds like you are doing...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=282919&title=getting-motivated#282919 Author: Kels
Subject: 12920
Posted: 21 January 2008 at 11:40pm

Kellz sounds like you are doing really well. I hope your counselling session goes well!!

Alia it was great meeting you adn hope to see you this Friday

]]> Mon, 21 Jan 2008 23:40:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=282919&title=getting-motivated#282919 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : Um nothing is funded in OZ thats...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=282898&title=getting-motivated#282898 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 12920
Posted: 21 January 2008 at 10:54pm

Um nothing is funded in OZ thats why you have to have health insurance.

And you are so right about the Huggies forum very catty.

How have you been Kellz, if you want to come for a drive down this way and stay a few nights, i'm sure we could put you up this time.

]]> Mon, 21 Jan 2008 22:54:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=282898&title=getting-motivated#282898 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : Kellz wrote:Yeah I found that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=282278&title=getting-motivated#282278 Author: AliaDawn
Subject: 12920
Posted: 21 January 2008 at 12:58pm

Originally posted by Kellz Kellz wrote:

Yeah I found that with other paernting forums too, and the Aussie ones didnt really apply when I was preg, cos their health system seems so different to ours.
Good on you for going to a meetup!
You could try taking Seb to a mainly music group. Lots of churchs run them, and some have limited numbers -like 12 max, and I have found them good! Massive groups put me off too!


Aussie system is pretty crap! (sorry if that offends anyone ) I can't believe midwives aren't publically funded. It seems so crazy.

Wow just noticed you're in Gizzy - really feel for you now It's really hot down here - typical gizzy summer weather (which is rare in welly) so I'm guessing it's horrid up there! I lived in Gis for nearly 5 years before I moved out of home, my mum and sister are still up there. I hated it as a teenager, but I guess it's not such a bad place to keep little kids entertained - awesome beaches and some nice parks. What area do you live in? (if you don't mind me asking)]]> Mon, 21 Jan 2008 12:58:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=282278&title=getting-motivated#282278 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : Yeah I found that with other paernting...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=282260&title=getting-motivated#282260 Author: Kellz
Subject: 12920
Posted: 21 January 2008 at 12:35pm

Yeah I found that with other paernting forums too, and the Aussie ones didnt really apply when I was preg, cos their health system seems so different to ours.
Good on you for going to a meetup!
You could try taking Seb to a mainly music group. Lots of churchs run them, and some have limited numbers -like 12 max, and I have found them good! Massive groups put me off too! ]]> Mon, 21 Jan 2008 12:35:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=282260&title=getting-motivated#282260 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : I&#039;ve been to one welly meet...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=282248&title=getting-motivated#282248 Author: AliaDawn
Subject: 12920
Posted: 21 January 2008 at 12:22pm

I've been to one welly meet up It was fun, I hope I didn't scare them too much with my weird reclusive ways

I tried taking him to a playgroup late last year... but there were just too many people, and I felt really uncomfortable. I spent the whole time running around the place chasing Seb, making sure he didn't eat the big kids playdough or lego, or the sand from the sand pit... or steal other kids shoes LOL and it was a big building.

One thing - this site is awesome! I used to use the huggies (Aus/NZ) forums... and I got put off so many times by so many catty people it was like high school all over again. There was rarely a thread in sight without some fight going on. I am so glad I found Oh Baby!]]> Mon, 21 Jan 2008 12:22:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=282248&title=getting-motivated#282248 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : I have found it essentail to my...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=282240&title=getting-motivated#282240 Author: Kellz
Subject: 12920
Posted: 21 January 2008 at 12:13pm

I have found it essentail to my mental well being to make a big effort to get out and meet people. Now that I have Isla, I find it way easier than pre-Isla, when your places to meet people are limited! Now i just turn up at baby activties! Lol! I have made great irl friends from Oh Baby too! You should check out the next Welly Ohbaby meet-up! I have been to several in Auck, rotorua, tauranga,...and even travelled to Palmy to meet up with the lovely ladies there! I never would have dremed I would do anything like that before I had Isla!
I find that I need to have a plan, a list of things I need to know,...but when I was really lacking motivatio I made a list at the end of the day of everything I had dome that day, as I found it was better to see a list of what I had achieved, even if it was just a few things, rather than a huge lists of things I thought I should have done in the day, with nothing crossed off!]]> Mon, 21 Jan 2008 12:13:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=282240&title=getting-motivated#282240 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : I can relate to this &gt;.&lt;...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=282061&title=getting-motivated#282061 Author: AliaDawn
Subject: 12920
Posted: 21 January 2008 at 9:15am

I can relate to this >.< Now that DF has holidays (he's studying) He manages to help motivate me to get out and do stuff, even if it's just going for a walk to the park/beach/town every day. I find if I miss one day of doing something, I find it twice as hard to do something the next day =/ I don't know what I'm going to do when he goes back to tech. I've never been very good around people, and I've drifted apart from all my old friends since I fell pregnant with Seb.]]> Mon, 21 Jan 2008 09:15:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=282061&title=getting-motivated#282061 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : Woohoo Kellz, glad to hear you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=273263&title=getting-motivated#273263 Author: Maya
Subject: 12920
Posted: 08 January 2008 at 9:34pm

Woohoo Kellz, glad to hear you are feeling better! Girl, you just need you a big as spade to dig yourself on out of that rut, and it sounds like that's exactly what you're doing! Still gutted at missing you in Auck, but you did promise to come up for Maya's birthday and my anatomy scan in Feb...]]> Tue, 08 Jan 2008 21:34:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=273263&title=getting-motivated#273263 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : Hi everyone! Last time I checked...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=273094&title=getting-motivated#273094 Author: Kellz
Subject: 12920
Posted: 08 January 2008 at 2:34pm

Hi everyone! Last time I checked I hadnt had a single reply! Its good to know Im not alone!

We have spent the last 10 days away visiting my family, got back Sun night. Then DH started back at work on Mon. I got really motivated yesterday, and achieved loads of things around the house! Not so much today, but no sitting and wallowing! Yay! Feeling quite proud of myself.

My meds were doubled 2 weeks ago, so that must have something to do with it. Also I have an appt to see a counsellor next Mon, so I know Im getting some more help soon. Have lived here 3 months now, and havent seen anyone,...was having weekly counselling plus 3 hrs homehelp a week prior to moving.

Hows everyone else doing?


ETA- Good on you for walking Aussiemum! I know that excercise will help,...but I get anxious about going cos Isla hates the buggy! Think I will start by going only a very short distance!

Edited by Kellz]]> Tue, 08 Jan 2008 14:34:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=273094&title=getting-motivated#273094 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : I find reading books(such as in...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=272988&title=getting-motivated#272988 Author: michsal
Subject: 12920
Posted: 08 January 2008 at 11:42am

I find reading books(such as in the garden/balcony) help me a lot. It is calming relaxing and sorting out some of mixed feelings/thoughts. One great point I remember from a book is that you don't have to do a lot to make you feel good, most importantly is do anything you really enjoy(do not worry whether it is productive or not).




Edited by michsal]]> Tue, 08 Jan 2008 11:42:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=272988&title=getting-motivated#272988 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : Hi Ladies, hope everyone is feeling...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=271532&title=getting-motivated#271532 Author: aussiemum
Subject: 12920
Posted: 06 January 2008 at 9:47am

Hi Ladies, hope everyone is feeling more motivated! For some reason I am, and I've been walking! Woohoo!]]> Sun, 06 Jan 2008 09:47:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=271532&title=getting-motivated#271532 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : Do you like lists? I&#039;m going...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=268215&title=getting-motivated#268215 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 12920
Posted: 29 December 2007 at 1:49pm

Do you like lists? I'm going to try and write a list of things I want to achieve each day one DH leaves. I'm thinking of starting them really small (maybe one or two things on there) and building it up. And if at the end of the week I achieve everything on my list then I am going to treat me.

I'm still on the meds, and will be for a while so don't worry too much about that.

]]> Sat, 29 Dec 2007 13:49:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=268215&title=getting-motivated#268215 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : Yeah im the exctly same. At home...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=268062&title=getting-motivated#268062 Author: my2angels
Subject: 12920
Posted: 29 December 2007 at 7:00am

Yeah im the exctly same. At home i just sit on the couch and watch whats going on around me. No answers though sorry. Im still on meds and its helping the anxiety a little and the moods but not the lack of motivation. It has helped the blah feeling though so maybe that is a sign its something to do with the meds for you cos i would think they should stop that.]]> Sat, 29 Dec 2007 07:00:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=268062&title=getting-motivated#268062 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : Oh I&#039;m so much like you Kellz!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=268048&title=getting-motivated#268048 Author: aussiemum
Subject: 12920
Posted: 28 December 2007 at 11:44pm

Oh I'm so much like you Kellz! I don't have any suggestions but just letting you know, you're not alone!]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2007 23:44:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=268048&title=getting-motivated#268048 <![CDATA[Getting motivated? : I would love some sugestions on...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=261091&title=getting-motivated#261091 Author: Kellz
Subject: 12920
Posted: 12 December 2007 at 12:53pm

I would love some sugestions on how to start digging my way out of my rut!
Im still on meds, but have stopped counselling and no longer have homehelp due to moving towns. I dunno if the meds are doing all the should be. I feel blah a lot, but am getting out and about and have bitten the bullet( so to speak) and been out to some social events (Isla orientated), and have made a group of really nice friends here already (thanks again to the lovely emmaohara!).
But when its just me and Isla at home, I find I have no desire or motivation to do anything. I have always been a procrastinator, and never liked housework much,... but its the other things, like keeping in contact with family and friends, preparing for christmas, doing crafts, baking...things I used to enjoy, that I cant be bothered with.
I think maybe having some sort of commintment/responsibility like voluteer work or helping out at playgroup etc may help me, but them im worried it will be too much.

How much of this is laziness? personality? or PND?! Who knows?!


P.S- Im a mega worry wart by nature!



Edited by Kellz]]> Wed, 12 Dec 2007 12:53:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12920&PID=261091&title=getting-motivated#261091