https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 30 Apr 2026 05:08:53 +0000 Mon, 09 Jan 2006 20:07:07 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=1327 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23709&title=how-to-tell#23709 Author: james
Subject: 1327
Posted: 09 January 2006 at 8:07pm

thats ok i have notice its funnyzc ]]> Mon, 09 Jan 2006 20:07:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23709&title=how-to-tell#23709 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23689&title=how-to-tell#23689 Author: newmum
Subject: 1327
Posted: 09 January 2006 at 5:03pm

ooops! LOL, haven't you noticed that it always happens here James? Sorry! ]]> Mon, 09 Jan 2006 17:03:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23689&title=how-to-tell#23689 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23685&title=how-to-tell#23685 Author: james
Subject: 1327
Posted: 09 January 2006 at 4:52pm

ok loseing the plot here guys]]> Mon, 09 Jan 2006 16:52:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23685&title=how-to-tell#23685 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23646&title=how-to-tell#23646 Author: newmum
Subject: 1327
Posted: 09 January 2006 at 1:11pm

LMAO!!! Glad to see it's the important things keeping them busy... ]]> Mon, 09 Jan 2006 13:11:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23646&title=how-to-tell#23646 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23472&title=how-to-tell#23472 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 1327
Posted: 07 January 2006 at 5:58pm

Lizzle... geeky internet online games. apparently the whole law firm (that Zeke works at... no names) uses client $$$ trying to better their score on games like 'Heli Attack'

I think Zeke has been getting crap at work for being unco ordinated at Stick Cricket and has decided to use half his holidays building up his skills so that he can wow them when he goes back to work. (Hmmmm... future of New Zealand?!?)]]> Sat, 07 Jan 2006 17:58:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23472&title=how-to-tell#23472 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23454&title=how-to-tell#23454 Author: james
Subject: 1327
Posted: 07 January 2006 at 10:54am

thanks guy preggy sunflower u almost made me cry i agree that its prob hard without a dad but as i said he does have his grandfather and uncles so its not that bad sometime i feel like finding him and yelling but that would be talkig to my self and you never no i might find a man(not a boy likes james,s dad) so theres always hope all my friends family no all about what happen i am very open about it but i dont want my baby being hurt or felling negetled i have a counis in the same sution and he turned out fine my uncle just filled the roll of dad and before he came along my pop did so i say its takes a man too raise a kid and they dont have too be he sperm doner ]]> Sat, 07 Jan 2006 10:54:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23454&title=how-to-tell#23454 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23452&title=how-to-tell#23452 Author: lizzle
Subject: 1327
Posted: 07 January 2006 at 10:32am

stick cricket??]]> Sat, 07 Jan 2006 10:32:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23452&title=how-to-tell#23452 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23435&title=how-to-tell#23435 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 1327
Posted: 06 January 2006 at 9:22pm

Nikki!! Zeke sounds like a keeper! Go you!!!!]]> Fri, 06 Jan 2006 21:22:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23435&title=how-to-tell#23435 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23434&title=how-to-tell#23434 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 1327
Posted: 06 January 2006 at 9:16pm

hahaha I hated him at that stage. (Well not 'hate' I guess, but I wasn't very comlimentary!! )
Had issues with him being an only child and not very willing to help out in my family situations, when I have been brought up to always pitch in. Had a word to him about it and it's going very well now.

I feel I am learning a lot about relationships. (Have been an absolute screw-up with guys up until now) Had a great holiday together and I have kidnapped him for the two weeks until he goes back to work.

We've even come to a compromise about the internet - I get to spend time on OhBaby and he is allowed to play Stick Cricket. hehehehe]]> Fri, 06 Jan 2006 21:16:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23434&title=how-to-tell#23434 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23428&title=how-to-tell#23428 Author: lizzle
Subject: 1327
Posted: 06 January 2006 at 7:08pm

Dammit, i should've asked to have seen a photo at Te Papa Nikki!! I was being on my best behaviour however.]]> Fri, 06 Jan 2006 19:08:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23428&title=how-to-tell#23428 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23411&title=how-to-tell#23411 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 1327
Posted: 06 January 2006 at 3:26pm

Yep totally agree Emma! He sounds lovely Nikki. Hows it all going then?! (Nosey, nosey... ) ]]> Fri, 06 Jan 2006 15:26:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23411&title=how-to-tell#23411 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23407&title=how-to-tell#23407 Author: Maya
Subject: 1327
Posted: 06 January 2006 at 3:22pm

Keep him Nikki!]]> Fri, 06 Jan 2006 15:22:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23407&title=how-to-tell#23407 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23405&title=how-to-tell#23405 Author: preggy_sunflower
Subject: 1327
Posted: 06 January 2006 at 2:41pm

Oooh, he's a lovely boy Nikki ]]> Fri, 06 Jan 2006 14:41:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23405&title=how-to-tell#23405 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23400&title=how-to-tell#23400 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 1327
Posted: 06 January 2006 at 2:00pm

And funnily enough that didn't scare him off. He's actually been closer to her than ever since then ]]> Fri, 06 Jan 2006 14:00:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23400&title=how-to-tell#23400 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23399&title=how-to-tell#23399 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 1327
Posted: 06 January 2006 at 2:00pm

On the positive side... Zeke is out playing with Hannah now while I waste away the beautiful sunny day on here

Went to a friend's house in Nelson and her Dad was talking to Zeke who told him that he wa my boyfriend. He assumed that Hannah was Zeke's and when Zeke corrected him he just laughed it off and said "She's yours now too mate"
hehehe]]> Fri, 06 Jan 2006 14:00:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23399&title=how-to-tell#23399 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23385&title=how-to-tell#23385 Author: preggy_sunflower
Subject: 1327
Posted: 06 January 2006 at 12:58pm

It breaks my heart when I hear these stories of little bubs with no dads My dad died when I was very little so I know what it's like to be fatherless - and I can't say it's very nice. I remember asking Santa every year for my daddy to come back from heaven, then when I knew that couldn't happen I used to wish that I had a new dad that was just like my old dad. While my mum did a wonderful job raising me and my brother, there is certainly a gaping hole where a dad should have been. It took me a long time to be able to have a healthy and loving relationship with a man - I kept expecting them to b*gger off, or not be around as that was what I was used to. I would love to shake these men and make them see what damage can be done to children who miss out on their dads. It's like a whole generation of men just decided to upsticks and b*gger off. Grrrrrr ]]> Fri, 06 Jan 2006 12:58:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23385&title=how-to-tell#23385 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23383&title=how-to-tell#23383 Author: k&jsmum
Subject: 1327
Posted: 06 January 2006 at 12:47pm

Hi there my boys havent seen their dad since 27th Nov 2004 - just after they turned 1 and even then it was only a couple times in the previous 6 months. He keeps saying he wants to see them although havnt heard from him in about 4 mths and got sh*tty at me when i told him that i have no expectations of him therefore cannot get upset when he doenst do what he says hes going to. I find it really sad that all these guys out there can just cruise along with their lives not giving a crap about the little ones they are abandoning. Anyway back onto the topic i talked to a professional this year about the boys dad as there were other issues like violence, cheating and alcohol probs (all his i might add) and we talked about what i tell the boys and when and i was told to tell the truth basically and to not put down the dad yet say i didnt like his behaviour and to start telling them when they are old enough to start asking questions - usually when they head off to school.
Hope all my ramblings make sense lol]]> Fri, 06 Jan 2006 12:47:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23383&title=how-to-tell#23383 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23356&title=how-to-tell#23356 Author: james
Subject: 1327
Posted: 06 January 2006 at 10:01am

kool guys thanks it helps too no there r outher people out there with the same prob nicki my sis and u have the same idea would be nice (give him he bash) but hes that type of guy too go running to the cops and i not going too jail for him i think my boy is better of with out him he has his grandada and uncles so that will do for now ]]> Fri, 06 Jan 2006 10:01:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23356&title=how-to-tell#23356 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23353&title=how-to-tell#23353 Author: tania4
Subject: 1327
Posted: 06 January 2006 at 9:48am

My 5 year old daughter has had no contact from her father since she was 1.I am happily married now and she calls my hubby(who is the father of my 10yr old,long story)Dad..then out of the blue we recieved a letter saying 'father' wants dna tests i was sssooo mad.Went to a lawyer and she says he has left it too long and if he pushes it then he will have to pay for lawyers and tests.We think he is just trying to get out of paying child support(how selfish!!)anyway we told my daughter that she has a dad that made her and she told my hubby that he is the number one dad Dont think she quite understands whats going on but you really have to judge how much your child will understand and go from there ]]> Fri, 06 Jan 2006 09:48:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23353&title=how-to-tell#23353 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23351&title=how-to-tell#23351 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 1327
Posted: 06 January 2006 at 9:39am

Yeah in some ways I think Hannah is lucky. No expectations.

I would like to know where he is though so I could bash him over the head. So maybe you could consider that as an option???]]> Fri, 06 Jan 2006 09:39:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23351&title=how-to-tell#23351 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23270&title=how-to-tell#23270 Author: Maya
Subject: 1327
Posted: 05 January 2006 at 1:10pm

Yep, or you might have found a new partner who is prepared to be his Dad in which case it won't be an issue.
My friend's little girl is nearly 3 and her Dad has seen her twice - at 6 weeks, and again when she was 2 1/2. It broke my friends heart, after the last time he came she was sure he wouldn't be able to ignore his daughter any more, but he never came back.
In some ways tho, I think it's better to have a Dad that's not involved at all than one who comes and goes at random. Before Willie and I got back together I would never tell Maya when he said he was coming over, because he often didn't show up and she would have been so disappointed. If he had never been involved in the first place, she would have grown up to accept that as normal.]]> Thu, 05 Jan 2006 13:10:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23270&title=how-to-tell#23270 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23267&title=how-to-tell#23267 Author: preggy_sunflower
Subject: 1327
Posted: 05 January 2006 at 12:32pm

Me too, I agree with Nikki. When he asks then tell him. Who knows, by then his dad may have grown some balls and it won't be an issue.]]> Thu, 05 Jan 2006 12:32:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23267&title=how-to-tell#23267 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23265&title=how-to-tell#23265 Author: crazy_crazy
Subject: 1327
Posted: 05 January 2006 at 12:28pm

i still still say bash the father over the head but thats only coz hes my nephew heheh ]]> Thu, 05 Jan 2006 12:28:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23265&title=how-to-tell#23265 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23229&title=how-to-tell#23229 Author: lizzle
Subject: 1327
Posted: 05 January 2006 at 7:03am

I agree with Nikki. If I was in that situation I think I would just wait til he asked and then deal with it.]]> Thu, 05 Jan 2006 07:03:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23229&title=how-to-tell#23229 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23228&title=how-to-tell#23228 Author: Tastic
Subject: 1327
Posted: 05 January 2006 at 6:03am

I said from little, but I think wait untill he can understand... 4-5?]]> Thu, 05 Jan 2006 06:03:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23228&title=how-to-tell#23228 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23227&title=how-to-tell#23227 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 1327
Posted: 04 January 2006 at 11:13pm

My daughter is 14 months old and has no father. I have no idea where he is and he doesn't know she exists.

I figure I will wait until she asks.

Don't think you have to worry about this for a couple of years. And who knows, you may have found a new partner by then???]]> Wed, 04 Jan 2006 23:13:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23227&title=how-to-tell#23227 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23222&title=how-to-tell#23222 Author: crazy_crazy
Subject: 1327
Posted: 04 January 2006 at 8:33pm

mot james his father lmao]]> Wed, 04 Jan 2006 20:33:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23222&title=how-to-tell#23222 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23221&title=how-to-tell#23221 Author: crazy_crazy
Subject: 1327
Posted: 04 January 2006 at 8:27pm

bash him]]> Wed, 04 Jan 2006 20:27:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23221&title=how-to-tell#23221 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23210&title=how-to-tell#23210 Author: james
Subject: 1327
Posted: 04 January 2006 at 4:51pm

my little boys sprem doner wants nothing too do with his son hasnt even seen him and hes almost 7 months i dont even no how too tell him please any seggestions too make this easry will be much apperatied]]> Wed, 04 Jan 2006 16:51:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1327&PID=23210&title=how-to-tell#23210