OHbaby! Forums : Temperament - I don’t understand https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Wed, 29 Apr 2026 11:40:13 +0000 Wed, 09 Jan 2008 22:57:28 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=13485 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Temperament - I don’t understand : Not much to say except welcome...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=274020&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#274020 Author: mum2paris
Subject: 13485
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 10:57pm

Not much to say except welcome to the world of the "pre-two's"

(which is closely followed by the "terrible two's" a short spell of the "questioning three's" then onto the raging bossy 4 year old "i'm ready for school" or "I think i'm the boss" or "I'm feeling sorry for myself and i'm gonna make you feel guilty about it" tantrums.

Oh the joys of the tantrums.

Luckily thrown in there somewhere is a small snippet or sanity sometimes.

lol.. seriously, do all you can but somethings you will never be able to figure out. Fiestiness i am sure is another one of those recessive genes.. Ayja inherited it along with her short stature and red curly hair! ]]> Wed, 09 Jan 2008 22:57:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=274020&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#274020 <![CDATA[Temperament - I don’t understand : Bella definitely takes after her...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273960&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273960 Author: ShellandBella
Subject: 13485
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 9:59pm

Bella definitely takes after her father...very laid back and cruisy (unlike me who is highly strung and impatient !)

Don't know if you believe in the whole "babies choose their parents" but perhaps there are some lessons to be learnt by having a 'feisty' (for want of a better word) child...? I know Bella is teaching me to chill out a bit more!]]> Wed, 09 Jan 2008 21:59:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273960&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273960 <![CDATA[Temperament - I don’t understand : My mum says that Ella is exactly...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273927&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273927 Author: Mum2ET
Subject: 13485
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 9:37pm

My mum says that Ella is exactly like I was when I was her age- really easygoing, always smiling and happy and desperate to be able to move around and investigate everything. She is going to keep us on our toes, once she figures out how to crawl . We also look very similar (apart from the dark eyes and hair which she inherited from her father)...... She has already developed my sweet tooth.

I am really looking forward to seeing how her personality develops and grows as she becomes her own little person.

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Subject: 13485
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 9:29pm

Apparently Arabella is like I was as a baby - really content and social but I can see my stubborn streak coming out in her already - Even at 3 months she knows what she wants lol]]> Wed, 09 Jan 2008 21:29:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273914&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273914 <![CDATA[Temperament - I don’t understand : Apperantly (if parents are to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273909&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273909 Author: yummymummy
Subject: 13485
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 9:26pm

Apperantly (if parents are to be trusted) I used to throw the worst tantrums if I didn't get what I wanted. And DH didn't fare much better. Gosh what are we in for ]]> Wed, 09 Jan 2008 21:26:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273909&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273909 <![CDATA[Temperament - I don’t understand : yummymummy wrote:Hmm I can&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273904&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273904 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13485
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 9:22pm

Originally posted by yummymummy yummymummy wrote:

Hmm I can't say we are all that different. We are all quite happy and relaxed normally unless we are not getting what we want
Seriously though Gina is quite a happy relaxed baby so hoping the next one will be too - will be interesting to compare their personalities once we have more than one. Both my parents & DH parents say Gina is a more happy relaxed child than either of us were but she too has her moments. I don't know if you can really get a child that is quiet and introverted all the time. What were you and DH like as kids?


Well we all know parents have selective memories but apparently we were very calm, relaxed and happy kids. Neither slept a lot during the day but neither got upset about it...we both just loved to watch the world go by. I was a talker from an early age, just like Elle, but I wasn't grumpy or loud.

Edited by FionaS]]> Wed, 09 Jan 2008 21:22:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273904&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273904 <![CDATA[Temperament - I don’t understand : Hmm I can&#039;t say we are all...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273895&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273895 Author: yummymummy
Subject: 13485
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 9:12pm

Hmm I can't say we are all that different. We are all quite happy and relaxed normally unless we are not getting what we want
Seriously though Gina is quite a happy relaxed baby so hoping the next one will be too - will be interesting to compare their personalities once we have more than one. Both my parents & DH parents say Gina is a more happy relaxed child than either of us were but she too has her moments. I don't know if you can really get a child that is quiet and introverted all the time. What were you and DH like as kids?]]> Wed, 09 Jan 2008 21:12:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273895&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273895 <![CDATA[Temperament - I don’t understand : Fiona you just decribed out Mikey...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273892&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273892 Author: 11111
Subject: 13485
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 9:06pm

Fiona you just decribed out Mikey course he is just like me where as Alan. Like you say it is nothing you are doing just the way she is and as she get older you will be able to direct her.]]> Wed, 09 Jan 2008 21:06:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273892&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273892 <![CDATA[Temperament - I don’t understand : miss wrote:YEah, it is funny...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273890&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273890 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13485
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 9:05pm

Originally posted by miss miss wrote:

YEah, it is funny when you have quiet parents and then this loud, full on kid - they sit there at parent interviews shaking their heads wondering where they came from!


That'll be us! She'll teach us lots I'm sure.]]> Wed, 09 Jan 2008 21:05:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273890&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273890 <![CDATA[Temperament - I don’t understand : YEah, it is funny when you have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273884&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273884 Author: miss
Subject: 13485
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 9:01pm

YEah, it is funny when you have quiet parents and then this loud, full on kid - they sit there at parent interviews shaking their heads wondering where they came from!]]> Wed, 09 Jan 2008 21:01:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273884&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273884 <![CDATA[Temperament - I don’t understand : Yes I read the SKIP book. Helpful...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273881&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273881 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13485
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 8:59pm

Yes I read the SKIP book. Helpful but pretty basic stuff. I know the theory but it is interesting to see how it plays out in reality. I wish we had a laid back kid but we don't and everyone keeps saying it is good to have a kid with "spunk" good...but hard work! But then all kids are ]]> Wed, 09 Jan 2008 20:59:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273881&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273881 <![CDATA[Temperament - I don’t understand : Oh also some of those behaviours...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273879&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273879 Author: miss
Subject: 13485
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 8:58pm

Oh also some of those behaviours are probably age appropriate and transitory. I remember a couple of kiddies I taught at preschool being monsters turning into lovely calm laid back kiddies!]]> Wed, 09 Jan 2008 20:58:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273879&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273879 <![CDATA[Temperament - I don’t understand : SKIP has a booklet on temperament!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273878&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273878 Author: miss
Subject: 13485
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 8:57pm

SKIP has a booklet on temperament! Some behaviours are learned, some are inherent to the child's natural personality.

Lily has a lovely laid back temperament, apparently like I was as a child (so some degree of heritability there!) thankfully not like DH at all - who as his parents keep telling me, was a sh!t of a kid!]]> Wed, 09 Jan 2008 20:57:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273878&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273878 <![CDATA[Temperament - I don’t understand : How similar are your kids temperaments...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13485&PID=273870&title=temperament-i-dont-understand#273870 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13485
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 8:51pm

How similar are your kids temperaments to your own? This topic is really fascinating to me.

...how is it that 2 parents, who are quite similar temperament wise, from 2 families of very quiet and gentle people can produce a kid who is the TOTAL opposite of them?

Elle is an amazing joy but she is also loud, demanding, a control freak (for want of a better term), fiesty and can be very grumpy. There is almost nothing gentle about her. If she can run freely she is the most delightful child ever but at home she is 95% fiesty.

Her Dad and his family are very VERY laid back and "cruisy" people and my family are quiet and reserved, albeit perfectionists.

I thought things like tantrums, shouting, screaming, hitting etc were learned but there is no way at all that Elle has witness these things, nor have they been encouraged in any way and yet her behaviour is dominated by them at the moment. She MUST have what she wants, exactly when she wants it. I often feel bad, like I'm doing something wrong but it really is just temperament. Over time we will be able to "direct" her determined energy but at the moment it is just growing day by day. I'm wondering if it is a sign of intelligence...large potential and large frustration at the limitations of being a small person.

What are the different temperaments in your family like?

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