Jennz wrote: I thought my friend had got it perfect. Shes been with her husband for 6 years, they got pregnant after about a year into their marriage, shes 27 and she STILL got comments like "took you long enough" or "you haven't been married long. Didn't you want more time to yourselves?". Honestly, I don't think anyone is ever able to please everyone.

Right on Jennz - you should have a baby when you are ready to have a baby, and if one comes along when you arent ready - then hey so long as its loved it doesnt really matter. I think that older parents have a lot to offer, just because they might not be able to kick a ball around or ride bikes, they can offer different things. I had a close girlfriend who was an only child and her parents had her when they were both in their mid 40s. They were financially secure and spend a lot of time travelling with her and doing fantastic things like visiting galleries and going to the opera. She grew up so completely well rounded, and both her parents are still alive and in their late 70s now.

Yep so true about how long you have to go.

My friends friend died last year in a car accident and he was 29 and left behind 2 kids and 1 had just been born she was only 5 weeks old when he died.

ROFLMAO Clare, you  are a  young mum. I plan on being a young mum too to the 3 more I plan to have in my 30's. I would not class anyone in their early to mid 30's anything but young.

Emma I totally agree too about never really knowing how long you have to live.

Jennz how bizarre is that. No I wasn't born In Palmy (I was born in Brisbane), but I live here now.

I;ve got young parents too (well dad turns 50 this year) and i'm 26 and my mum was 19 when she had me. So Andrew is lucky that he has young grandparents to play with (he often would wrestle with my dad). I've still got my nana she is 72 and has 16 grand children and 19 great grandchildren and still young at heart.

Opps a bit off the topic there.

You're propbably right there Jennz there is probably something else that she hasn't told me.

I always thought 22 was a great age. I f I have another one it'll be in the next 2 years and by then i'll be 27 still not that old IMO.

I'm going to tell her she's being a bit silly 37 isn't that old to have a baby, and anyway he's going to be the dad.

Thats what I think as well Linda, you are happy to have another one.

People say I was too young at 22 to have a baby.

I totally agree with the menopause thing too. Mather nature has these rules for a reason lol

fleury wrote: I don't agree with people past menopause having children, if the clocks stopped theres a reason for it.

So true there

I don't know exactly why, maybe its because he has older children already? Or that the whole family doesn't think that the relationship is actually going to last.

You are right Jennz about the people in there 60's I watched a doco on a woman in England trying to have a baby and she needed an egg and a sperm donor (I think) and a surrogute to carry the baby. I thought that was unfair (she never did - as far as I know - have a baby).

But people in their 30's aren't old and are fine to have a baby.

I did wonder jealousy but she dosen't want anymore so her DH had the snip late last year.

I had my first in my teens and 2 in my 20's and am planning hopefully 3 more in my 30's. I hope no one classes me as an older parent in my 30's as some people are only starting their families in their 40's and I think that is fine too.

I have a career and I am doing 2 papers towards my masters this year so I still get to have both my kids and a career and I love it! Mums can do anything!!!

Ekk off the topic

BUt yeap totally agree that there does have to be a cut off point.

I dont see anything wrong with that age, thts not old I thought you were going to say something like BIL was 57 or 67. Who ever was saying that must be jealous her BIL's girlfriend is preg

My friend asked me today what I thought of people in there late 30's having children. And I told her that its fine; they have waited to have children and so long as they are happy its all good.

She said it is unfair on the child (I totally disagree) to have older parents.

Her example is that her BIL is now in a new relationship with a younger girl, he is 37 and she is 26. She is now pregnant and she things that the baby will miss out as her BIL is older and has older children from his previous relationship (they are 16 and 14).

Strange thing to say isn't it???