OHbaby! Forums : Trusting your partner https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 11 Apr 2026 16:55:01 +0000 Mon, 28 Jan 2008 14:40:22 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=13943 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : AnnC wrote:LOL I told Dh if...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=288323&title=trusting-your-partner#288323 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 13943
Posted: 28 January 2008 at 2:40pm

Originally posted by AnnC AnnC wrote:

LOL I told Dh if I find out he cheated I would do a bobbit LOL


Hehe me too! I said that to DF last night actually, we were watching a movie where the guy cheats on his pregnant girlfriend grrr, and I told DF if he ever did that to me I would cut "it" off!!!]]> Mon, 28 Jan 2008 14:40:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=288323&title=trusting-your-partner#288323 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : LOL at AnnC!!! I trust DH, I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=288266&title=trusting-your-partner#288266 Author: lucky3rdtime
Subject: 13943
Posted: 28 January 2008 at 1:25pm

LOL at AnnC!!!

I trust DH, I don't think he would ever cheat on me and I would never cheat on him, I think communication is the key along with love. I would definitely trust him to go on a stag's night, including one with strippers there and I don't care if he looks, cos that's just human nature. I think if you are too possessive about it then it just pushes them in the wrong direction anyway.

The first guy I fell in love with cheated on me and looking back treated me like crap, but when I got with DH he was such a different person that I have never not trusted him.

I've always told him if he ever did cheat on me that would be it, it would be over and I would know without him having to tell me anyway cos he would act differently around me.]]> Mon, 28 Jan 2008 13:25:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=288266&title=trusting-your-partner#288266 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : LOL I told Dh if I find out he...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=288208&title=trusting-your-partner#288208 Author: AnnC
Subject: 13943
Posted: 28 January 2008 at 11:44am

LOL I told Dh if I find out he cheated I would do a bobbit LOL ]]> Mon, 28 Jan 2008 11:44:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=288208&title=trusting-your-partner#288208 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I trust DH, not just with the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=288183&title=trusting-your-partner#288183 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 13943
Posted: 28 January 2008 at 11:02am

I trust DH, not just with the cheating thing but with everything. So I trust him to do his best by his family, to not piss all our money away, that if he says he's going to do something he does it etc.
I don't have a problem with the looking thing either, it would be unnatural (and impossible) not to look. My favourite saying is "just because you are on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu"]]> Mon, 28 Jan 2008 11:02:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=288183&title=trusting-your-partner#288183 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : Well yup, i have to join the band...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=288164&title=trusting-your-partner#288164 Author: almostthere
Subject: 13943
Posted: 28 January 2008 at 10:51am

Well yup, i have to join the band wagon on this one
I trust R implicitly. I know that no matter how many women throw themselves at him and flirts with him, he is mine and I am his.
I had issues before he and I met and i cheated on a couple of boyfriends. I had been through a very traumatic period in my life and I know now that i wa in a very unhealthy place emotionally. But then I met R. He helped me through it and became my rock. We are the strongest now then we ever have been and I know that even if he see's girls he likes he comes home to me and tells me all about it and I do the same for him.
I dont believe humans are made to be completely monogamous so to me being all jealous when he see's a female form he likes is just not me. He doesnt get jealous when i speak of men i like so i give him the same courtesy...]]> Mon, 28 Jan 2008 10:51:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=288164&title=trusting-your-partner#288164 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : My current DP I trust implicitly....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=288120&title=trusting-your-partner#288120 Author: minik8e
Subject: 13943
Posted: 28 January 2008 at 9:46am

My current DP I trust implicitly. Girls check him out when we're in town and I have to admit that if I've had a few drinks, I "mark my territory" by going up and giving him a kiss or something, but usually I just laugh, because I know that no matter how hard they try, he's coming home with me. I also know that he thinks that I'm "the one" and his future, and he would do nothing to jeopardise that - plus he's far more interested in working on his midget. He does look, and I'm fine with that cos heck, I look too, just a little more discreetly LOL At the end of the day however, we love ach other, we want a future together, and much as I or he look, we are happy with eating at home

My ex is a different story. He had a history of cheating, on every girl he was with, and made no secret of it, and (he was honest I'll give him that) he made it quite clear he would cheat rather than end a relationship that wasn't going to plan. He looked too, but on a far greater basis than I would class as "acceptable" (i.e. I was embarrassed by it, and he knew it, because it made me feel like I was just something he was passing time with until he found something/someone better). Add that to the fact he registered on dating websites (I found out after we had broken up) while we were together, and I guess my trust issues were real.]]> Mon, 28 Jan 2008 09:46:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=288120&title=trusting-your-partner#288120 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : In that vein Paws, my favorite...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=288005&title=trusting-your-partner#288005 Author: HippyMama
Subject: 13943
Posted: 27 January 2008 at 11:19pm

In that vein Paws, my favorite quote on this subject is "It's fine for him to read the menu, as long as he comes home for dinner!"

Edited by Pearls]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2008 23:19:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=288005&title=trusting-your-partner#288005 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : RachandJack wrote:Personally...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287987&title=trusting-your-partner#287987 Author: Paws
Subject: 13943
Posted: 27 January 2008 at 10:54pm

Originally posted by RachandJack RachandJack wrote:

Personally if Ben had a one night stand I wouldn't want to know but if it was more than that I'd be out of here. I don't give 2 hoots about Ben looking, I'm pretty open that I look at other boys. I just don't think its possible for me not to check others out so I don't expect Ben not to.

It doesn't matter where you got your appetite as long as you come home for dinner


A quote I like along about "looking" - First look is free...it's the second that costs!

In other words, human nature and perfectly fine to look and think mmmm nice...it's when you look again and think of going further....]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2008 22:54:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287987&title=trusting-your-partner#287987 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I had a think about this overnight...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287906&title=trusting-your-partner#287906 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 13943
Posted: 27 January 2008 at 9:22pm

I had a think about this overnight and I was the other girl when I was at high school. I didn't realise that he still had a GF and as he was hot I didn't care in the slightest. Once everyone found out about us being together the sh*t hit the fan. I was called alsorts of names stared at by these girls I didn't know about the other girl because I thought I was in a relationship with a guy that was in it for me. He did brake it off with the other girl and we continued for a bit longer but I still received the stares and dirty name calling under their breaths for a while. I was strong and held my head high (hell I was in love) and still the name calling continued and then the friends of the girl started attacking him. We both thought it was best to split up (I still wonder if I made a mistake) but we still remain really good friends to this day.

]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2008 21:22:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287906&title=trusting-your-partner#287906 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : Personally if Ben had a one night...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287898&title=trusting-your-partner#287898 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 13943
Posted: 27 January 2008 at 9:13pm

Personally if Ben had a one night stand I wouldn't want to know but if it was more than that I'd be out of here. I don't give 2 hoots about Ben looking, I'm pretty open that I look at other boys. I just don't think its possible for me not to check others out so I don't expect Ben not to.

It doesn't matter where you got your appetite as long as you come home for dinner ]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2008 21:13:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287898&title=trusting-your-partner#287898 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I used to accuse hubby of cheating...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287891&title=trusting-your-partner#287891 Author: my2angels
Subject: 13943
Posted: 27 January 2008 at 9:08pm

I used to accuse hubby of cheating all the time till my mum said to me one day 'if you think he is cheating and keep telling him you think he is then he might aswell cheat because you already think its happening' made me realise that i might actually be pushing him away. ]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2008 21:08:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287891&title=trusting-your-partner#287891 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I trust DH. He would never cheat...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287591&title=trusting-your-partner#287591 Author: kebakat
Subject: 13943
Posted: 27 January 2008 at 3:39pm

I trust DH. He would never cheat on me because he knows he would be out without a second thought. Hes welcome to look at other chicks, that doesn't really bother me because I can't say I never look at other people and think they are hot or whatever, we just don't make it a big deal.. because everyone has eyes and looks at other people whether they admit it or not because it's totally natural. So long as you know it's only looking, who cares?]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2008 15:39:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287591&title=trusting-your-partner#287591 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I trust Phil , mainly because...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287587&title=trusting-your-partner#287587 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 13943
Posted: 27 January 2008 at 3:31pm

I trust Phil , mainly because i know he loves me more than i love him (tho i do love him a lot, he just loves me more)and i know that as far as hes concerned with me he feels hes hit "the jackpot"-does that sound conceited? its not supposed to
I would also never cheat on him, the thought of hurting someone so good and kind actually makes me feel sick, plus i know he is my future and i wouldnt want to mess that up-with him and Caitlyn i am finally "at home"

I think every past relationship you should learn something from , and they should make you a bit wary , but a past relationship is just that, the past, and imo its best to start your new relationship off with the attitude that you'll give it a chance,then see what happens.

I have a question, which would bother you more? your man cheating with a one night stand , or your man cheating over a period of time (with the same person) ?]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2008 15:31:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287587&title=trusting-your-partner#287587 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I trust Ben completely, I know...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287492&title=trusting-your-partner#287492 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 13943
Posted: 27 January 2008 at 12:35pm

I trust Ben completely, I know he would way rather go out with his dirt bike than goi out with girl on the sly. This sounds really lame but I kinda like it when girls try their luck with Ben cos I know he would never do anything and it makes me feel good that he would rather have me and my saggy body than some young sl*t ]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2008 12:35:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287492&title=trusting-your-partner#287492 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : AliaDawn wrote: I just don&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287488&title=trusting-your-partner#287488 Author: AnnC
Subject: 13943
Posted: 27 January 2008 at 12:29pm

Originally posted by AliaDawn AliaDawn wrote:




I just don't trust alcohol in general - it makes me act like a complete git.



me too but I do drink (socially) LOL ]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2008 12:29:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287488&title=trusting-your-partner#287488 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : no offence taken at all ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287485&title=trusting-your-partner#287485 Author: AnnC
Subject: 13943
Posted: 27 January 2008 at 12:24pm

no offence taken at all ]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2008 12:24:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287485&title=trusting-your-partner#287485 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : AnnC wrote: AliaDawn wrote:I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287475&title=trusting-your-partner#287475 Author: AliaDawn
Subject: 13943
Posted: 27 January 2008 at 12:07pm

Originally posted by AnnC AnnC wrote:

Originally posted by AliaDawn AliaDawn wrote:

I trust DF - I don't trust single females in general. (in that way at least) I don't think I'd send him away for weekends like that... even if they have all the good intentions, all it takes is a few too many drinks and they wouldn't even know who they're sleeping with =/ Plus I'd miss him


I had to comment on here cause one stage i was that single woman and the 'other' woman. BUT in my favour i didn't know he had a GF and I did ask him if he did and he said no. We hung out for a week ( he never made any phone calls what so ever and never mentioned 'her')

So really its unfair to blame 'single girls' cause most times they are a victim just as much as the GF.

Oh and no matter how many drinks a guy has had he still knows whats right from wrong and that hes not with his Wife/partner. That is NOT an excuse in my books!


I understand that - can't stand people who blame someone for being with their man if they didn't know the guy was taken. I say rain down hell on the man in that case! (both of you )

Didn't mean to offend anyone with the alcohol comment - neither Mike or I drink at all, so I'm not really an expert on it. I just don't trust alcohol in general - it makes me act like a complete git.

I guess I find it hard to relate to being cheated on.. I've cheated on a few "insignificant others" in my time, but I've never had someone do it to me, (that i've heard about at least) significant or otherwise ]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2008 12:07:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287475&title=trusting-your-partner#287475 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I trust my DH implicitly, I&#039;d...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287461&title=trusting-your-partner#287461 Author: JadeC
Subject: 13943
Posted: 27 January 2008 at 11:51am

I trust my DH implicitly, I'd trust him if he were drunk with a naked chick on his lap!!

I don't really buy the "too many drinks" argument, my friends and I will often go out and drink, and I've never fallen in bed with someone else, so I expect the same standards from DH.]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2008 11:51:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287461&title=trusting-your-partner#287461 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : as for trust when i first got...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287448&title=trusting-your-partner#287448 Author: AnnC
Subject: 13943
Posted: 27 January 2008 at 11:18am

as for trust when i first got with DH I was so insecure and jealousy was my middle name...(I blame emotional abuse in previuos relationship) I am passed that now and totally trust DH. He goes away with the boys on weekend trips (normally with the soccer boys - whom most I wouldn't trust as far as i can throw them BUT I trust dh)

The green eyed monster rears its ugly head sometimes.. specially when had way too much to drink and a random girl goes up to DH and talks to him... Its kind of marking my territory I go over plant a kiss and walk off again LOL...

oh and DH knows I would leave if he ever did cheat on me - and visa versa]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2008 11:18:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287448&title=trusting-your-partner#287448 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : AliaDawn wrote:I trust DF -...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287443&title=trusting-your-partner#287443 Author: AnnC
Subject: 13943
Posted: 27 January 2008 at 11:10am

Originally posted by AliaDawn AliaDawn wrote:

I trust DF - I don't trust single females in general. (in that way at least) I don't think I'd send him away for weekends like that... even if they have all the good intentions, all it takes is a few too many drinks and they wouldn't even know who they're sleeping with =/ Plus I'd miss him


I had to comment on here cause one stage i was that single woman and the 'other' woman. BUT in my favour i didn't know he had a GF and I did ask him if he did and he said no. We hung out for a week ( he never made any phone calls what so ever and never mentioned 'her')

So really its unfair to blame 'single girls' cause most times they are a victim just as much as the GF.

Oh and no matter how many drinks a guy has had he still knows whats right from wrong and that hes not with his Wife/partner. That is NOT an excuse in my books!]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2008 11:10:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287443&title=trusting-your-partner#287443 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I trust DF wouldn&#039;t be marring...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287399&title=trusting-your-partner#287399 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 13943
Posted: 27 January 2008 at 10:02am

I trust DF wouldn't be marring him if I didn't. Also he's a very honest man and isn't even vaguely interested in other women. He's very much a man's man and prefers to hang out with his mates and go bush and do guy things.
Its nice makes me feel safe and secure in our relationship which is a nice way to be.]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2008 10:02:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287399&title=trusting-your-partner#287399 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : Well, I trusted my ex boyfriend...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287376&title=trusting-your-partner#287376 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 13943
Posted: 27 January 2008 at 9:22am

Well, I trusted my ex boyfriend with all my heart, we started going out when I was 15 and he was 16, then when I was 20 he broke up with me one Monday, and I found out he had cheated on me that weekend with some little skank(who he is still with now might I add) so I was totally heart broken and I had trust issues for a long long time. That was in 2003, so its been a long time since then and I have a great new partner who I love and trust. It always used to be in the back of my mind "Would he?" but then I got over that, you cant go life wondering if your going to get cheated on, you just have to trust them, cos if there is no trust there is no relationship.

Edited by Sheza]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2008 09:22:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287376&title=trusting-your-partner#287376 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : Yeah I had a &#039;friend&#039;...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287337&title=trusting-your-partner#287337 Author: Jennz
Subject: 13943
Posted: 27 January 2008 at 5:07am

Yeah I had a 'friend' who used to have a thing for attached guys- last I heard she was dating a married guy with 3 kids Hopefully she grows up sometime soon like you Roxy!

Imagine breaking up a family? I totally agree that its not all the girls fault (I mean the guy is the one who is betraying his partner and kids) but imagine how that would feel, knowing you have forever changed the lives of someone elses children by taking their father away from them. I guess you could say if a guy is cheating with you, then in all likelihood he would have done it with someone else, or left them anyway but still- pretty horrific thing to do. Not trying to make you feel guilty for your past Roxy- just pondering!

I have been with guys who I knew would cheat if given the opportunity- I never let myself get particularly attached to any of them as I was young and never really considered them long-term marriage material. One of the many reasons I married DH is that I knew he wasn't that type. I could be wrong, I guess most woman would feel that way about the man they marry, but I don't think I am.

Personally I couldn't forgive cheating. I think drink is a lame ass excuse too- if they're sober enough to get it up then they're sober enough to know what they're doing! I'm forgiving up to a point but cheating for me is a deal breaker- DH knows that though.

Wow Nikki I hadn't thought of it being the other way around! I guess everyone just thinks of guys being the randy ones- but lots of woman cheat, and lots of guys get jealous/paranoid too. I had a partner who didn't trust me and it was what split us up in the end. Drove me mental but looking back I think he had mother issues and was really insecure rather than anything to do with me.

Trusting that the dishes will be done if he says he will? NO WAY! lol ]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2008 05:07:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287337&title=trusting-your-partner#287337 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I trust DH and he trusts me. I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287319&title=trusting-your-partner#287319 Author: yummymummy
Subject: 13943
Posted: 27 January 2008 at 1:46am

I trust DH and he trusts me.
I have never been cheated on so maybe that's why I find it easy to trust him - of course I do. He has been cheated on (in a previous relationship) but that does not seem to have affected our relationship

Edited by yummymummy]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2008 01:46:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287319&title=trusting-your-partner#287319 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : and another thing...women and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287260&title=trusting-your-partner#287260 Author: Roxy
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 11:39pm

and another thing...women and men think so differently from each other...but after saying all that there are so many great guys out there too,....hope you all have one of them]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 23:39:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287260&title=trusting-your-partner#287260 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : My poor husband would never have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287255&title=trusting-your-partner#287255 Author: Roxy
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 11:37pm

My poor husband would never have time to get upto mischeif.he too busy running two farms.I trust him but.....having lived the life I lived before I met him and actually getting some moralls I have to be a kill joy and say many many married and attached men will cheat if the opportunity presents itself and they think they can get away with it......I worked at a bar for awhile and was also a bit of a ratbag and had a bit of fun with a few attached/married guys so I can say that first hand.Its sh*ty eh.and Ive cheated on past relationships and lied and just conveniently put it outa my mind.Sux though cause Im very aware how easy it is to get away with sh*ty things.anyway...Im nothing like that old me anymore and am mortified I was ever so horrible......Please dont hate me... ]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 23:37:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287255&title=trusting-your-partner#287255 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I trust my DH 99% - but as my...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287209&title=trusting-your-partner#287209 Author: 3boys
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 11:01pm

I trust my DH 99% - but as my father and most of the other men in my life have cheated on me I just can't quite get to that 100% figure.



Edited - sorry, my father didn't cheat on me as such (lol) but I watched him cheat on all of his wivesssss.....

Edited by 3boys]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 23:01:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287209&title=trusting-your-partner#287209 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : finally am getting trust back...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287170&title=trusting-your-partner#287170 Author: lizzle
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 10:41pm

finally am getting trust back with dh, but finding it more difficult to trust that the dishes will be done, if I ask him to. strange I know, but strangely important too.]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 22:41:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287170&title=trusting-your-partner#287170 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I trust Tobin 100% but he doesn&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287165&title=trusting-your-partner#287165 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 10:36pm

I trust Tobin 100% but he doesn't trust me... I find it VERY hard as it isn't based on reality but on his own insecurity (and depression rah rah)

He is much more trusting now he is on meds though!]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 22:36:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287165&title=trusting-your-partner#287165 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I trust DH with my life, and my...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287016&title=trusting-your-partner#287016 Author: .Mel
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 9:04pm

I trust DH with my life, and my kids life no question.
I love him 100% and he's my bestest friend in the world.

Unfortunately I'm questioning that trust at the moment, and it's effecting our relationship. Instead of him being here trying to work it out, he's at a stag do. ]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 21:04:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=287016&title=trusting-your-partner#287016 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I totally trust Jesse not and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286979&title=trusting-your-partner#286979 Author: Bubbaloo
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 8:41pm

I totally trust Jesse not and if I didn't every time he has a gig I would be a right mess. He knows I wouldn't stand for it and would be kicked to curb straight away.]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 20:41:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286979&title=trusting-your-partner#286979 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I agree Miss. We had infidelity...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286965&title=trusting-your-partner#286965 Author: Maya
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 8:25pm

I agree Miss. We had infidelity issues before we separated and I totally held him to account for his part in it. Funny thing is that we got back together 18 months later, yet I have never spoken to the woman again even tho she used to be a very close friend.]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 20:25:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286965&title=trusting-your-partner#286965 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I trust DH. I don&#039;t believe...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286954&title=trusting-your-partner#286954 Author: miss
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 8:00pm

I trust DH. I don't believe in accidents happening when people are drunk, but I also don't believe in blaming the woman for a man's infidelity! (it is both not just one!)

But yeah, 100% trust for DH and him for me.]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 20:00:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286954&title=trusting-your-partner#286954 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I&#039;m not sure how a relationship...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286931&title=trusting-your-partner#286931 Author: Maya
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 7:27pm

I'm not sure how a relationship would work without trust?

I trust Willie, from time to time I do get these niggly little doubts but they're based on what we went thru before we separated and he is a totally different person now, I just have little insecurities every now and then. But I do 100% trust him.]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 19:27:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286931&title=trusting-your-partner#286931 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I trust DF - I don&#039;t trust...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286929&title=trusting-your-partner#286929 Author: AliaDawn
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 7:23pm

I trust DF - I don't trust single females in general. (in that way at least) I don't think I'd send him away for weekends like that... even if they have all the good intentions, all it takes is a few too many drinks and they wouldn't even know who they're sleeping with =/ Plus I'd miss him ]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 19:23:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286929&title=trusting-your-partner#286929 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : Paws wrote:I trust B completely,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286917&title=trusting-your-partner#286917 Author: HippyMama
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 7:07pm

Originally posted by Paws Paws wrote:

I trust B completely, in any situation. No question.


Here too ]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 19:07:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286917&title=trusting-your-partner#286917 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : Sarah Beth wrote:As for Vegas,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286866&title=trusting-your-partner#286866 Author: Paws
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 4:30pm

Originally posted by Sarah Beth Sarah Beth wrote:

As for Vegas, I am with Paws, I would tag along too, but then he would be free to do what he wanted (hey, fancy a trip )


Well I do get my staff travel back next month.....

(sorry for the TJ!!)

Edited by Paws]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 16:30:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286866&title=trusting-your-partner#286866 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I completely trust my hubby, wouldn&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286847&title=trusting-your-partner#286847 Author: emz
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 3:26pm

I completely trust my hubby, wouldn't be able to live the life we do if we didn't have complete trust in each other. We were separated for 5 months after only being together for 2 (when he first went to Afghanistan). There was no question whatsoever about trust.

I would definitely send my hubby away for a boys weekend. I even helped organise all the guys for his stags night so that he would get absolutely trollied in the best company! But then again I know DH's friends would never put him in a position where he would or could cheat...

The only thing I don't trust DH with is money! He's such a shopaholic!]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 15:26:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286847&title=trusting-your-partner#286847 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : M & I have had or issues in the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286831&title=trusting-your-partner#286831 Author: Sarah Beth
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 2:38pm

M & I have had or issues in the past, but that was my trust issue nothing to do with him. I got counselling and now trust him completely.

As for Vegas, I am with Paws, I would tag along too, but then he would be free to do what he wanted (hey, fancy a trip )]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 14:38:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286831&title=trusting-your-partner#286831 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : Well I sure as heck wouldn&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286819&title=trusting-your-partner#286819 Author: Paws
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 2:12pm

Well I sure as heck wouldn't be sending mine to Vegas for a birthday with his bestie...I'd be horrified at the thought too! Fancy leaving me behind when it is one of the cities I most want to visit!!!

Hehehehe....seriously though...I trust B completely, in any situation. No question. ]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 14:12:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286819&title=trusting-your-partner#286819 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : Yeah shes had numerous bad experiences...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286777&title=trusting-your-partner#286777 Author: Jennz
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 12:33pm

Yeah shes had numerous bad experiences so I do understand why she would feel that way herself- but she knows me and my DH so I thought she might see that differently.

I've been cheated on in my past and it did effect me for a long time- basically ruined my relationships for the next 5 years. But I learned some good lessons and got to a point where I figured I could spend my life miserable not trusting people just waiting for them to prove me right or I could trust and be happy in the mean time knowing that if the worst were to happen, I would be hurt but ok. I don't think if someone cheats on you it hurts any less just because you didn't trust them in the first place.

I think its different working towards building trust vs living in a constant state of mistrust (like my Dad ). ]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 12:33:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286777&title=trusting-your-partner#286777 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I completely trust my DH, I couldn&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286776&title=trusting-your-partner#286776 Author: EmDee
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 12:31pm

I completely trust my DH, I couldn't imagine being in a relationship that doesn't have trust and communication for those times when that trust is tested (hasn't happened yet). I agree that relationships need to be built on trust to be happy and fulfilling. ]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 12:31:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286776&title=trusting-your-partner#286776 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : In my opinion life long relationships...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286773&title=trusting-your-partner#286773 Author: tishy
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 12:22pm

In my opinion life long relationships need to be build on trust and communication above all else.
If either of those aren't present then I see the core foundations of any partnership to be unstable.

Maybe your friend had a bad experience in a previous relationship.

My brothers ex-gf accused him of two-timing her in a night club, based on the story from a friend who had only met him once. He went as far to acquire the security video from the night club to prove he wasn't in the building that night but nothing was going to convince her otherwise.
In that case she had been cheated on before and started off each new relationship on the presumption that it was inevitable that it would happen again.
]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 12:22:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286773&title=trusting-your-partner#286773 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : Well my DH is building his trust...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286769&title=trusting-your-partner#286769 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 12:11pm

Well my DH is building his trust back up with me. We had some issues last year which resulted in him living with his parents for a week.

We now have a good relationship but as for trusting him its not quite up there yet, but I know he can't get up to much in Waiouru at the moment with his cousin there.

]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 12:11:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286769&title=trusting-your-partner#286769 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : i trust DH completely. he&#039;s...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286753&title=trusting-your-partner#286753 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 11:34am

i trust DH completely. he's been away on a couple of boys trips and the thought of him cheating would never even enter my mind.
i couldn't imagine having a relationship with no trust, for me, i just don't see how you could live like that and be happy at the same time......]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 11:34:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286753&title=trusting-your-partner#286753 <![CDATA[Trusting your partner : I was just curious about trust...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286745&title=trusting-your-partner#286745 Author: Jennz
Subject: 13943
Posted: 26 January 2008 at 11:06am

I was just curious about trust within other peoples relationships. I know it varies for people, feel free to not answer if you think I'm prying! Just curious really. I had a friend who wouldn't even let her DF have a bachelor party as she didn't trust him

My Dad is married and there is no trust within their relationship- they are still together, have been for years and I would say they will be for a long time yet. Its not something I personally 'get' but it seems to work for them.

I trust DH implicitly. I trust in his love for his children, for me and us as a family- hes an intelligent man and he knows that he would be destroying that if he ever cheated. I also trust that if he were to ever cheat, even though I would be heartbroken, I am strong enough within myself to get over it and build a new life.

I was talking to a friend about DHs 30th and I was saying that we probably wouldn't be able to have a big party for it so I was thinking of sending him and his bestie to Las Vegas for a weekend and she was horrified! She couldn't believe that I trusted him enough to consider letting him go on his own. For me I didn't even really give it a second thought- didn't even occur to me to think along those lines.

So what do you guys think? Where do you fall on the trust scale? Do you think its possible to have a good relationship with little or no trust? Do you think its possible to be too trusting?]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2008 11:06:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13943&PID=286745&title=trusting-your-partner#286745