OHbaby! Forums : Threatened Miscarriage?? https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 07 Apr 2026 08:05:17 +0000 Thu, 31 Jan 2008 14:00:13 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=13998 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Have fun in Aus! I hope the pain...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=291019&title=threatened-miscarriage#291019 Author: JadeC
Subject: 13998
Posted: 31 January 2008 at 2:00pm

Have fun in Aus! I hope the pain dulls down so that you can enjoy the trip!]]> Thu, 31 Jan 2008 14:00:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=291019&title=threatened-miscarriage#291019 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Thanks to everyone for your support. I&#039;ve...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290994&title=threatened-miscarriage#290994 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 31 January 2008 at 1:34pm

Thanks to everyone for your support.

I've just started to get a bit achey in my lower abdo but I'm assuming that is normal rather than a sign of a problem.

My bleeding is tapering off and my hcg has dropped from 1660 to 300 in less than 48 hours.

Off to Oz this afternoon :)]]> Thu, 31 Jan 2008 13:34:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290994&title=threatened-miscarriage#290994 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Hi Fiona, Missed a bit of this...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290972&title=threatened-miscarriage#290972 Author: KiwiL
Subject: 13998
Posted: 31 January 2008 at 12:58pm

Hi Fiona,
Missed a bit of this over the last two days. But I am glad to see you're feeling a little better.

Have a fabulous time over in Aus. I am sure you'll be fine and it will be a good way for you and your DH to spend a bit of time together and get over this event.

Hugs missy!
Laurie xxooxx]]> Thu, 31 Jan 2008 12:58:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290972&title=threatened-miscarriage#290972 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Big hugs hun and I am so very...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290678&title=threatened-miscarriage#290678 Author: Kels
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 11:35pm

 Big hugs hun and I am so very sorry for your loss. Take care

]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 23:35:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290678&title=threatened-miscarriage#290678 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : so sorry to hear this has happened...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290656&title=threatened-miscarriage#290656 Author: mylilmosaic
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 11:01pm

so sorry to hear this has happened to you

I think if you were feeling okish tomorrow then I would go, as you will be with family over there and if there is a hospital near then you know you can get medical attention if you need it. ]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 23:01:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290656&title=threatened-miscarriage#290656 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : i,,m soo soo sorry hun bhig big...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290587&title=threatened-miscarriage#290587 Author: james
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 8:43pm

i,,m soo soo sorry hun bhig big hugs]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 20:43:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290587&title=threatened-miscarriage#290587 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : I&#039;m sorry this happened...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290586&title=threatened-miscarriage#290586 Author: Vanillabean
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 8:42pm


I'm sorry this happened to you.

I started miscarrying on 19 Jan and had brown spotting for about a week then I had three days of heavy bleeding and another day or two of spotting and I think its just finishing up today.

]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 20:42:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290586&title=threatened-miscarriage#290586 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : I&#039;m so sorry to catch up...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290584&title=threatened-miscarriage#290584 Author: HippyMama
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 8:35pm

I'm so sorry to catch up on all of this so late, and I know you don't know me from a bar of soap, but I am always sad when I hear of another woman having to go through this kind of thing When I miscarried I would have been close to the same gestation as you FionaS, and my bleeding lasted 8 days in total, with the first four being very heavy / clotty and then slowly tapering off. I know this is probably very obvious, but please take care of yourself, my heart goes out to you ]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 20:35:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290584&title=threatened-miscarriage#290584 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : It&#039;s ok, we&#039;ll be with...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290515&title=threatened-miscarriage#290515 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 6:59pm

It's ok, we'll be with family :) Thanks Jade.]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 18:59:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290515&title=threatened-miscarriage#290515 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Darn, I was gonna send you my...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290508&title=threatened-miscarriage#290508 Author: JadeC
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 6:53pm

Darn, I was gonna send you my parent's number for emergencies, but they're in Melbourne.]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 18:53:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290508&title=threatened-miscarriage#290508 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : sending you lots and lots of ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290503&title=threatened-miscarriage#290503 Author: Two Blondinis
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 6:48pm

sending you lots and lots of ]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 18:48:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290503&title=threatened-miscarriage#290503 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Brisbane so they have a good hosp...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290494&title=threatened-miscarriage#290494 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 6:39pm

Brisbane so they have a good hosp there if I need it. It feels to me like things are quietening down internally so I think I might be over the worst. My doc agrees.

I'm able to do the vacuuming etc with no pain or discomort or increased bleeding.

Edited by FionaS]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 18:39:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290494&title=threatened-miscarriage#290494 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Where are you going to in Aussie?...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290493&title=threatened-miscarriage#290493 Author: JadeC
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 6:37pm

Where are you going to in Aussie?]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 18:37:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290493&title=threatened-miscarriage#290493 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Can anyone tell me: Approx how...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290481&title=threatened-miscarriage#290481 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 6:11pm

Can anyone tell me:

Approx how long will bleeding last? I know it's different for everyone but is it a few days? A few weeks?

The doc said at this stage they'd only expect a few medium sized clots and suspects I've passed most of it now - that is one good thing as it's just been like a period.

I gather danger signs to look for are sudden very heavy bleeding, pain, dizziness, fever etc??

I feel fine (well physically) at the mo. Minor aches only]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 18:11:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290481&title=threatened-miscarriage#290481 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290478&title=threatened-miscarriage#290478 Author: pepsi
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 6:04pm

]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 18:04:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290478&title=threatened-miscarriage#290478 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Sorry to hear everything you are...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290451&title=threatened-miscarriage#290451 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 5:21pm

Sorry to hear everything you are going through]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 17:21:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290451&title=threatened-miscarriage#290451 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Give healthline a call, they seem...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290438&title=threatened-miscarriage#290438 Author: meow
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 5:02pm

Give healthline a call, they seem to be pretty helpful when I've called before.
Sorry that you're going through this, I hope it's over quickly ]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 17:02:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290438&title=threatened-miscarriage#290438 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Well I can&#039;t find anyone...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290393&title=threatened-miscarriage#290393 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 4:28pm

Well I can't find anyone who will give me an hcg test and result today (in case the levels are already clearly dropping which I suspect they are) and I can't get hold of anyone to tell me how soon I could get in for a D&C or if I could fly within a few days of one. No one seems to know anything so I think I'll just go tomorrow and hope for the best.]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 16:28:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290393&title=threatened-miscarriage#290393 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Lots of hugs and if hcg levels...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290373&title=threatened-miscarriage#290373 Author: susieq
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 4:20pm

Lots of hugs and if hcg levels have dropped go with what doctor says and fly later]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 16:20:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290373&title=threatened-miscarriage#290373 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : It&#039;d be $150 for the change...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290371&title=threatened-miscarriage#290371 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 4:19pm

It'd be $150 for the change + the new ticket would cost much more than our special price for the current one so it'd probably be around $450 all up to change the flight.

I think i'll just go and get checked when I come back next Fri.]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 16:19:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290371&title=threatened-miscarriage#290371 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : you can pay I think $100 to change...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290369&title=threatened-miscarriage#290369 Author: AnnC
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 4:17pm

you can pay I think $100 to change your fly for sunday (not sure how long you were going over for anyhow)

Sorry to hear your news Fiona sending load of hugs you way - don't know what else to say ]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 16:17:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290369&title=threatened-miscarriage#290369 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : No probably couldn&#039;t have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290365&title=threatened-miscarriage#290365 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 4:07pm

No probably couldn't have D&C until late tomorrow or early Fri so couldn't fly until Sun or so.

Still no pain...]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 16:07:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290365&title=threatened-miscarriage#290365 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Aww Fiona I&#039;m so sorry ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290364&title=threatened-miscarriage#290364 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 4:06pm

Aww Fiona I'm so sorry ]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 16:06:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290364&title=threatened-miscarriage#290364 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Fiona, would you have time to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290343&title=threatened-miscarriage#290343 Author: babyg
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 3:40pm

Fiona, would you have time to get the D&C before flying? If you're feeling reasonable and want to go, then i think you should go and take care. It might be just what you need to clear the mind of all this and probably not the best time to be apart from DH.

Good luck with everything.]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 15:40:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290343&title=threatened-miscarriage#290343 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Thanks everyone. An update for...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290309&title=threatened-miscarriage#290309 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 3:02pm


Thanks everyone.

An update for those of you who aren't totally over it yet!!

The doc says it looks like a miscarriage as the cervix is a little open etc. The bleeding isn't gushing though. They want to do an hcg tomorrow and if it is dropping do a D&C.

They say flying isn't a hemorrhage risk BUT I could have a big bleed and the airline wouldn't like to deal with it. Basically I could have a big bleed anywhere.

DH says we should just go. Many many women have miscarriages without D&Cs and things are fine. I'd like a D&C to ensure there's nothing left behind and no risk o infection but I tend to agree with dh to some extent and I really want to go with him tomorrow.]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 15:02:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290309&title=threatened-miscarriage#290309 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : I have no idea what you&#039;re...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290280&title=threatened-miscarriage#290280 Author: ShellandBella
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 2:20pm

I have no idea what you're going through but I am sitting here crying. Hope the doc has some helpful advice for you re your flights.]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 14:20:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290280&title=threatened-miscarriage#290280 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : I&#039;m so sorry Fiona. This...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290273&title=threatened-miscarriage#290273 Author: katie1
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 2:16pm

I'm so sorry Fiona. This really sucks. ]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 14:16:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290273&title=threatened-miscarriage#290273 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : I&#039;m so sorry this is happening...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290224&title=threatened-miscarriage#290224 Author: EmDee
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 1:06pm

I'm so sorry this is happening Fiona ]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 13:06:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290224&title=threatened-miscarriage#290224 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : More big hugs honey, I hate that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290135&title=threatened-miscarriage#290135 Author: Maya
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 11:47am

More big hugs honey, I hate that you are having to go thru this. Sometimes life just sucks, plain and simple.

I wouldn't say the flying itself is a big risk as it's not a long flight but I'd be worried about you needing medical treatment over there if you had any complications, if the bleeding got worse or you did start haemorrhaging. Haemorrhaging is a risk at any time, I don't think flying would increase the risk, but you could be more prone to blood clots due to the pressurised atmosphere, I'm not 100% sure on that one I just know it's an increased risk during pregnancy in general.

You know where I am if you need anything, the gremlins and I are just hanging out today so if you need a break from Elle feel free to send her our way.

More big hugs, I am crying for you, this sucks ]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 11:47:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290135&title=threatened-miscarriage#290135 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Big hugs look after yourself today...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290131&title=threatened-miscarriage#290131 Author: susieq
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 11:40am

Big hugs look after yourself today]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 11:40:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290131&title=threatened-miscarriage#290131 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Oh I&#039;m sorry sweetie. ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290122&title=threatened-miscarriage#290122 Author: JadeC
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 11:35am

Oh I'm sorry sweetie. ]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 11:35:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290122&title=threatened-miscarriage#290122 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Sorry to hear the way things have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290101&title=threatened-miscarriage#290101 Author: kezplanet
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 11:24am

Sorry to hear the way things have turned out for you Fiona, when I had my mc I only had some strong cramping for a short time which prob if I had thought about it could have been taken care of almost by panadol so hopefully you wont get too much discomfort. 

Hope things are going well at work for you, take care

]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 11:24:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290101&title=threatened-miscarriage#290101 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Aw hun, I&#039;m thinking of you....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290095&title=threatened-miscarriage#290095 Author: Andie
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 11:21am

Aw hun, I'm thinking of you.  That's just so much to go through. 

]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 11:21:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290095&title=threatened-miscarriage#290095 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Oh Fiona thats not good ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290083&title=threatened-miscarriage#290083 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 11:14am

Oh Fiona thats not good

]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 11:14:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290083&title=threatened-miscarriage#290083 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Fiona to you. ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290071&title=threatened-miscarriage#290071 Author: emachan
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 11:07am

Fiona to you. ]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 11:07:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290071&title=threatened-miscarriage#290071 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : so sorry to hear this ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290066&title=threatened-miscarriage#290066 Author: My3Sons
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 11:04am

so sorry to hear this

]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 11:04:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290066&title=threatened-miscarriage#290066 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Silly hormones! I&#039;ve got...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290062&title=threatened-miscarriage#290062 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 11:01am

Silly hormones! I've got so much to do and so much to focus on and yet keep getting all teary. Feels like the hormones have taken a huge drop.

Thanks for your support everyone. I'll go to the doc and discuss things then go from there.

]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 11:01:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290062&title=threatened-miscarriage#290062 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : And now if you still go, even...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290052&title=threatened-miscarriage#290052 Author: babyg
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 10:40am

And now if you still go, even with insurance, they might not payout if there is any record on file of your complications prior to booking it!

What a dilemna!

You've gotta make the decision that's right for you, but ensure that you will remain as healthy as you are now - what timing!

Edited by babyg]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 10:40:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290052&title=threatened-miscarriage#290052 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290051&title=threatened-miscarriage#290051 Author: meow
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 10:39am

]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 10:39:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290051&title=threatened-miscarriage#290051 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Our flights are non-refundable...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290043&title=threatened-miscarriage#290043 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 10:33am

Our flights are non-refundable and we were going to book the insurance cover today....

]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 10:33:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290043&title=threatened-miscarriage#290043 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : That&#039;s what i was told by...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290039&title=threatened-miscarriage#290039 Author: babyg
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 10:32am

That's what i was told by my doc. I was planning a trip while i was pregnant but because i bled all the way through, it was recommended that i didn't (i'm glad now too as she came early enough as it was!)]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 10:32:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290039&title=threatened-miscarriage#290039 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : babyg wrote:Yeah, haemorraging...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290029&title=threatened-miscarriage#290029 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 10:24am

Originally posted by babyg babyg wrote:

Yeah, haemorraging is a big possibility if you fly.


Is it really...?

Yes I'm going to doc to talk through things. I really am physically ok...just feel like I have a yucky period and really need some sleep.]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 10:24:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290029&title=threatened-miscarriage#290029 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : fiona i&#039;m so sorry...take...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290027&title=threatened-miscarriage#290027 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 10:21am

fiona i'm so sorry...take care hun ]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 10:21:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290027&title=threatened-miscarriage#290027 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Oh Fiona, I&#039;m so very sorry...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290022&title=threatened-miscarriage#290022 Author: caraMel
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 10:14am

Oh Fiona, I'm so very sorry xxx ]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 10:14:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290022&title=threatened-miscarriage#290022 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : are you going to go to doctors...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290008&title=threatened-miscarriage#290008 Author: susieq
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 9:50am

are you going to go to doctors]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 09:50:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=290008&title=threatened-miscarriage#290008 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Elle is home but can go to her...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289995&title=threatened-miscarriage#289995 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 9:40am

Elle is home but can go to her Nana's. I just want to go to work and get on with things. I feel ok physically, just tired. Oh well, guess I have to follow doctors orders.

]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 09:40:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289995&title=threatened-miscarriage#289995 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Yeah, haemorraging is a big possibility...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289991&title=threatened-miscarriage#289991 Author: babyg
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 9:38am

Yeah, haemorraging is a big possibility if you fly.]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 09:38:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289991&title=threatened-miscarriage#289991 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : I&#039;d take it easy if it was...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289990&title=threatened-miscarriage#289990 Author: yummymummy
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 9:37am


I'd take it easy if it was me, your body will need time so rest would be good. Is Elle at daycare today? Maybe just have some quiet time to yourself and do something relaxing you enjoy - be kind to your yourself]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 09:37:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289990&title=threatened-miscarriage#289990 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Oh Fiona, I&#039;m so sorry!! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289987&title=threatened-miscarriage#289987 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 9:36am

Oh Fiona, I'm so sorry!!]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 09:36:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289987&title=threatened-miscarriage#289987 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : She said that blood may pool and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289973&title=threatened-miscarriage#289973 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 9:29am

She said that blood may pool and gush when I get off or I could hemmorrhage (sp...to tired to spell!).

]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 09:29:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289973&title=threatened-miscarriage#289973 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Big hugs for you Fiona. Was really...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289969&title=threatened-miscarriage#289969 Author: mum2matte
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 9:27am

Big hugs for you Fiona. Was really hoping to get some positive news when i logged on. Thoughts are with you as you are work today but take it as easy as you can. ]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 09:27:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289969&title=threatened-miscarriage#289969 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Awww...I dont know, I suppose...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289968&title=threatened-miscarriage#289968 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 9:27am

Awww...I dont know, I suppose its whether you feel up to flying, but I guess it could be of the clots that your not allowed to fly?]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 09:27:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289968&title=threatened-miscarriage#289968 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Spoke to my doc and she said it...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289966&title=threatened-miscarriage#289966 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 9:26am

Spoke to my doc and she said it is likely to just stay a dull ache. She did however say I shouldn't fly.

Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! What to do!!!]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 09:26:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289966&title=threatened-miscarriage#289966 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Ok, thats what happened to me....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289964&title=threatened-miscarriage#289964 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 9:25am

Ok, thats what happened to me. My MW said me that basicaly the cramping is labour pains, so I really think it would be best if you can rest today if you can?, and just sit with the hot water bottle on your tummy when the cramping starts. BIG hugs hun **hugs**]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 09:25:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289964&title=threatened-miscarriage#289964 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Yes. The large clots have just...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289957&title=threatened-miscarriage#289957 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 9:22am

Yes. The large clots have just started.]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 09:22:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289957&title=threatened-miscarriage#289957 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : I found my cramps were very painful...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289956&title=threatened-miscarriage#289956 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 9:21am

I found my cramps were very painful and all I could do was curl in a ball with my hot water bottle.
Have you had any clots? At all? Because with a m/c you will pass large clots.]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 09:21:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289956&title=threatened-miscarriage#289956 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : This is really gross TMI but the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289934&title=threatened-miscarriage#289934 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 9:04am

This is really gross TMI but the thing that is really upsetting is that it smells like the lochia I had when Elle was born so I keep getting flashes of being in hospital with a newborn. I'm not voluntarily smelling it btw!!! LOL.

Nature can be cruel sometimes!

Sorry if that was TMI!]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 09:04:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289934&title=threatened-miscarriage#289934 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : It is very heavy...enough to need...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289929&title=threatened-miscarriage#289929 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 8:59am

It is very heavy...enough to need to change a pad every few hours in the night. Just feel achy, no major pain. I'm sure it is a miscarriage.

Is it likely to get so painful that I can drive and work today?]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 08:59:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289929&title=threatened-miscarriage#289929 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Big hugs Fiona. Take care ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289898&title=threatened-miscarriage#289898 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 8:27am

Big hugs Fiona. Take care ]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 08:27:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289898&title=threatened-miscarriage#289898 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : I&#039;ve been following your...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289888&title=threatened-miscarriage#289888 Author: gemsmum
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 8:19am

I've been following your posts Fiona. I've got my fingers crossed for you. As OP said, miscarriages are often painful with the bleeding. Try and take it easy at work today.]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 08:19:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289888&title=threatened-miscarriage#289888 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Because it&#039;s painless, it...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289880&title=threatened-miscarriage#289880 Author: meow
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 8:16am

Because it's painless, it still might not be a miscarriage.
It's so hard to tell though, without seeing a doctor.
I hope your work goes well today, and you get some much needed rest tonight!]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 08:16:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289880&title=threatened-miscarriage#289880 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Fiona, i won&#039;t pretend to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289865&title=threatened-miscarriage#289865 Author: babyg
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 8:09am

Fiona, i won't pretend to know what you are going through - but i am very sorry ]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 08:09:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289865&title=threatened-miscarriage#289865 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Big hugs Fiona and get to the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289857&title=threatened-miscarriage#289857 Author: susieq
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 8:03am

Big hugs Fiona and get to the doctor today]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 08:03:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289857&title=threatened-miscarriage#289857 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : sorry Fiona big hugs and thinking...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289847&title=threatened-miscarriage#289847 Author: tropics
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 7:55am

sorry Fiona big hugs and thinking of you]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 07:55:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289847&title=threatened-miscarriage#289847 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Fiona, I am really sorry the bleeding...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289831&title=threatened-miscarriage#289831 Author: KiwiL
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 7:36am

Fiona, I am really sorry the bleeding has become worse. I was really hoping it wouldn't. It doesn't sound very good to be honest, sucks that you have to go through this. Especially with everything else on.

I would try to see your doctor today. Like Sheza said, it can get more painful and they may be able to tell if it now looks like a miscarriage or not.

Fingers crossed it's all ok and this is just a big scare. I'll be thinking of you today.

xxx]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 07:36:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289831&title=threatened-miscarriage#289831 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : I&#039;s so so sorry that this...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289820&title=threatened-miscarriage#289820 Author: yummymummy
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 7:08am

I's so so sorry that this is happening.
I was reading the posts from start, hoping everything will turn OK (I've had bleeding with both my pregnancies and the doc told me I've had threatened miscarriages for both). I've had red bleeding too but not as heavy - is it enough to wet a pad in about an hour?
Big hugs ]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 07:08:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289820&title=threatened-miscarriage#289820 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : I&#039;m really sorry sweetie...I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289816&title=threatened-miscarriage#289816 Author: Paws
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 6:37am

I'm really sorry sweetie...I was prayin that all would turn out ok. Big hugs to you. ]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 06:37:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289816&title=threatened-miscarriage#289816 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : I am so sorry Fiona **hugs** I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289815&title=threatened-miscarriage#289815 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 6:27am

I am so sorry Fiona **hugs** I know how hard it is. I would see your doctor, or let them know at least whats happening, just in case. When I started bleeding heavy I got lots of big clots and the cramps were very sore, way sore than a period. My bleeding started off like a period on the Thursday night at about 11pm then when I woke up at 8am it was full blown with the very painful cramps and clots.
I would perhaps let work know whats going on because as the m/c progresses it gets heavier and painful. I found sitting still with a hot water bottle and some panadol the best thing for it.


Take Care Hun

Edited by Sheza]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 06:27:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289815&title=threatened-miscarriage#289815 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Thanks everyone for your support....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289812&title=threatened-miscarriage#289812 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 30 January 2008 at 4:36am

Thanks everyone for your support. I was having trouble sleeping and now my toddler is having a fabulous time playing, talking and squealing loudly in her cot so there is no chance of sleep. Argh. That however is a different topic.

The bleeding is now like a period, minus any pain. I am certain that I am miscarrying.

Unfortunately I have to go to work today (I have to take a training day 2 days after I get back from Australia and am yet to prepare for it...silly me for procrastinating). All our managers are booked in for this day and some are flying up from around the country so I have to do it and it has to be good. I also have to prepare for leaving for Australia on Thurs so despite the miscarriage and lack of sleep there is no time for rest at this point. Here's hoping I don't get too much pain. Pity Elle can't refrain from keeping me awake half the night!

I take it that if my bleeding is like a heavy period and I'm getting reasonably painless cramping feelings, I can just let the miscarriage run it's course without having to see a doc or anything at this stage?]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 04:36:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289812&title=threatened-miscarriage#289812 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : I just thought I&#039;d put in...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289725&title=threatened-miscarriage#289725 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 9:54pm

I just thought I'd put in here I'm thinking of you too and I hope everything works out ok.

With Caprece I knew my cycles were 31 days but the midwife refused to believe and put my DD as from my AF and what do ya know all my scans put me back anyway so I suspect you may only be 5 or so weeks. ]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 21:54:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289725&title=threatened-miscarriage#289725 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Fiona - hang in there chicky,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289705&title=threatened-miscarriage#289705 Author: emachan
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 9:42pm

Fiona - hang in there chicky, I'm still thinking of you. I hope that you can get another blood test tomorrow and see whats happening.]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 21:42:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289705&title=threatened-miscarriage#289705 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : And not to mention wait! Totally...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289703&title=threatened-miscarriage#289703 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 9:40pm

And not to mention wait!

Totally flip flopping between thinking it'll be fine and thinking it's all over.

If it helps I tried an online due date calculator that can be adjusted according to cycle length and it said I'm 5 weeks...

Anyway, enough info. It's impossible to know anything right now.]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 21:40:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289703&title=threatened-miscarriage#289703 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Absolutely! The *issues* I had...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289700&title=threatened-miscarriage#289700 Author: Maya
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 9:37pm

Absolutely! The *issues* I had after mine were a combination of difficult circumstances: how long it had taken to get pregnant, getting pregnant so soon afterward, a high risk twin pregnancy, sick babies, it all just added up.

I definitely think if it had been a straightforward single pregnancy I would have been far less neurotic (but still a little neurotic, it's in my character).

Sorry for the threadjack F, but at least my sorry-ass story gives you something to read while you wait and wait ]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 21:37:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289700&title=threatened-miscarriage#289700 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : I think miscarrying is always...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289693&title=threatened-miscarriage#289693 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 9:32pm

I think miscarrying is always hard but for me the further along I was the harder it would get. However, we all react differently and our reactions are based on soooooo many circumstances so all reactions are valid and understandable.]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 21:32:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289693&title=threatened-miscarriage#289693 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Wow, Emma, that must have been...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289686&title=threatened-miscarriage#289686 Author: KiwiL
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 9:28pm

Wow, Emma, that must have been so hard. Poor you!! Still, your love is probably already exponential, so don't be too hard on yourself.

Glad to hear you're enjoying this pregnancy!]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 21:28:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289686&title=threatened-miscarriage#289686 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Laurie wrote: Isn&#039;t it...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289685&title=threatened-miscarriage#289685 Author: Paws
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 9:27pm

Originally posted by Laurie Laurie wrote:



Isn't it funny how many different ways there are of coping, even for the same person... no wonder people don't often know what to say!


That's what I've often thought...there are some who do honestly see it as a natural thing that can happen, the last time when it was a suspected miscarriage (doc is sure it was) I cried for a day and that was it...that said I'm sure my reaction would be vastly different if it was an established pregnancy further down the track!!! I suspect I might join the wallowing group!!

Sorry for the Threadjack!

Edited by Paws]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 21:27:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289685&title=threatened-miscarriage#289685 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : I did the whole non-attachment...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289653&title=threatened-miscarriage#289653 Author: Maya
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 9:05pm

I did the whole non-attachment thing with the gremlins pregnancy, I was so terrified I'd lose them, I kept up the detachment right up until they were about 8 mths old, it was the most bizarre experience to live with these babies and feel nothing at all.

So I'm enjoying this pregnancy, haemmeroids and all, just because I am able to be so much more relaxed. God bless meds!]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 21:05:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289653&title=threatened-miscarriage#289653 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Emma, I still feel hurt like that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289648&title=threatened-miscarriage#289648 Author: KiwiL
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 9:02pm

Emma, I still feel hurt like that over number one, because I had dreams and hopes and had got totally attached.

But number two was different... I am still sad and frustrated it didn't work out, and I feel very hard done by, but not for one minute did I allow myself to get attached as I just KNEW it was going pear shaped.

Problem is I have definately allowed myself that attachment again this time, and I'll be devastated again if it doesn't work out.

Isn't it funny how many different ways there are of coping, even for the same person... no wonder people don't often know what to say!]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 21:02:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289648&title=threatened-miscarriage#289648 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Well you all did better than me!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289642&title=threatened-miscarriage#289642 Author: Maya
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 8:58pm

Well you all did better than me! I dug me a nice big hole and climbed into it and wallowed for 18 months. Then suddenly woke up one day and realised that I had two beautiful babies who I was completely missing out on and a precious Maya that needed me, and I'll never get that time back.]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 20:58:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289642&title=threatened-miscarriage#289642 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : FionaS wrote:If I miscarry...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289634&title=threatened-miscarriage#289634 Author: Paws
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 8:52pm

Originally posted by FionaS FionaS wrote:

If I miscarry soon, I will choose to think that it was natures way of flushing out something that did not have the information to become a baby. That sounds hard I know but it's the way I chose to think of it in my situation. I just want to know so I can move on. Sure it will be hard but the hardest part will be losing the idea of being pregnant as opposed to a baby as at this point if I lose it then it probably doesn't contain the right genetic info.

I hope that doesn't offend anyone who has had a miscarriage as it's not how I think about all miscarriages, it's just how I've decided to interpret it if it happens...a way to cope.



I think that makes perfect sense and also no offence to anyone but it's how I view them early on and how I viewed both mine.

Big hugs to you babe...i'm praying that everything does come out right for you! ]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 20:52:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289634&title=threatened-miscarriage#289634 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : When I first had my m/c all I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289611&title=threatened-miscarriage#289611 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 8:39pm

When I first had my m/c all I wanted to know was why why did it happen to me, and I wondered what I did wrong, but now I know that I did nothing wrong and there just wasnt something right and nature fixed it. I can understand where you are coming from Fiona.]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 20:39:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289611&title=threatened-miscarriage#289611 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : I think that&#039;s a really nice,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289602&title=threatened-miscarriage#289602 Author: KiwiL
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 8:28pm

I think that's a really nice, peaceful way to think about it. It was a similar approach that I took to my second one. And although I was sad, it was a good way to cope.]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 20:28:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289602&title=threatened-miscarriage#289602 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Teehee, today wasn&#039;t all...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289601&title=threatened-miscarriage#289601 Author: Maya
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 8:27pm

Teehee, today wasn't all that productive for me either, your baby owes me a cuddle when it gets here!

You're only away for a week so I'd say that it's pretty safe to go, unless you start bleeding excessively heavily you should be able to let things happen naturally and then if it isn't all over by the time you get back re-evaluate your options.

I really do think a hCG tomorrow will help with answers. And I think cake is a really, really good idea, my shout even!

]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 20:27:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289601&title=threatened-miscarriage#289601 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : If I miscarry soon, I will choose...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289600&title=threatened-miscarriage#289600 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 8:25pm

If I miscarry soon, I will choose to think that it was natures way of flushing out something that did not have the information to become a baby. That sounds hard I know but it's the way I chose to think of it in my situation. I just want to know so I can move on. Sure it will be hard but the hardest part will be losing the idea of being pregnant as opposed to a baby as at this point if I lose it then it probably doesn't contain the right genetic info.

I hope that doesn't offend anyone who has had a miscarriage as it's not how I think about all miscarriages, it's just how I've decided to interpret it if it happens...a way to cope.

I just want to know. I will do hcg tomorrow and Thurs then I will hopefully have a better idea.

]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 20:25:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289600&title=threatened-miscarriage#289600 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : As for the cake...I will if I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289588&title=threatened-miscarriage#289588 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 8:20pm

As for the cake...I will if I can but have soooooooooooooo much to do work wise and on the home front before we go away and today was totally unproductive.]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 20:20:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289588&title=threatened-miscarriage#289588 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Fiona, that question is even harder...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289585&title=threatened-miscarriage#289585 Author: KiwiL
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 8:19pm

Fiona, that question is even harder to answer!!

My first miscarriage came as a complete shock. I was an emotional mess but the miscarriage part itself was a breeze. I spotted for 3 days, got heavier on the Thursday then passed one clot on the Friday night and the bleeding immediately tapered off. To be honest, I wondered what the fuss was all about in terms of the physical side of it.

Well! (TMI to follow)

The next miscarriage was the total opposite. Emotionally I was prepared as my intuition was telling me what was going to happen. Physically it was a disaster. I spotted heaps, then it got heavier to the point I passed a few clots and thought I was done. After that heavy bleeding set in, and it was so full on that I was passing clots every few minutes and could barely stand or walk. On the day I had the D&C I was soaking pads in ten minutes and bleeding all over the floor in the hospital.


I don't say all this to scare you, it's just so hard to tell how your body will react. Round one would be easy to handle overseas and round two I couldn't imagine being anywhere but home.

I really think Emma's advice is good. See if you can get HCG tomorrow AND Thursday, as you'll be able to get an idea of your pattern. I'm sure your doc will do that under the circumstances. That should give you good guidance, and if you have to cancel at the very last minute, then you have really good grounds to make a travel insurance claim.

Big hugs again babe! I'll be keeping an eye on you and, thought I'm no expert, keep asking any questions you need to. ]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 20:19:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289585&title=threatened-miscarriage#289585 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : FionaS wrote:If I did miscarry,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289583&title=threatened-miscarriage#289583 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 8:18pm

Originally posted by FionaS FionaS wrote:

If I did miscarry, would it likely to happen naturally and reasonably painlessly without the need for medical help? That's my biggest worry - having to spend loads on getting medical care in Aus. DH is going for a concert so if we go we go on Thurs.


I m/c naturally, the day after my scan I woke up in the morning and passed most of it when I sat down on the toilet, wasnt nice at all, but I was glad that it happened that way, and then I bled for about 5 days and passed quite large clots for 3 days on and off. I think if you are already bleeding then its happening naturally(thats if you are having a miscarriage).

I really hope this turns out all well for you, I know how hard this is having been here myself
I have everything crossed for you.

Edited by Sheza]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 20:18:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289583&title=threatened-miscarriage#289583 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Get back on Fri 08th in the evening. Gee...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289580&title=threatened-miscarriage#289580 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 8:17pm

Get back on Fri 08th in the evening.

Gee I hate unknowns! Everything I've read says seeing an empty sac at 5 weeks is totally to be expected and that the pole won't usually show until 5.5 or 6 weeks.

Bleeding is a little heavier now but still not enough to need anything more than a liner.]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 20:17:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289580&title=threatened-miscarriage#289580 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Do you have travel insurance?...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289576&title=threatened-miscarriage#289576 Author: JadeC
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 8:14pm

Do you have travel insurance? Maybe that could be a back-up in case you need medical care over there.

My sister ended up being hospitalized in Aussie (when she was living there) and she had fantastic treatment. They were just great.]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 20:14:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289576&title=threatened-miscarriage#289576 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Again impossible to say, but how...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289568&title=threatened-miscarriage#289568 Author: Maya
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 8:11pm

Again impossible to say, but how long are you going for? IF you did start to m/c you could probably leave it until you got back to NZ to give things a chance to happen naturally and if you are still bleeding when you get back then see the doc here.]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 20:11:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289568&title=threatened-miscarriage#289568 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Maya wrote:PS. I&#039;m serious...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289562&title=threatened-miscarriage#289562 Author: Two Blondinis
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 8:09pm

Originally posted by Maya Maya wrote:

PS. I'm serious about the cake, girls night out!


Fiona - you and baby need some super powered baby sticking in uterus choccie cake! If nothing else than to give me an opportunity to give you a big congrats hug as I haven't seen you since your BFP.

SO come out with us tomorrow night woman! That's an order! ]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 20:09:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289562&title=threatened-miscarriage#289562 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : If I did miscarry, would it likely...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289555&title=threatened-miscarriage#289555 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 8:06pm

If I did miscarry, would it likely to happen naturally and reasonably painlessly without the need for medical help? That's my biggest worry - having to spend loads on getting medical care in Aus. DH is going for a concert so if we go we go on Thurs.]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 20:06:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289555&title=threatened-miscarriage#289555 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Emma&#039;s also very correct!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289551&title=threatened-miscarriage#289551 Author: KiwiL
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 8:02pm

Emma's also very correct! If your HCG is under 2000, that's another reason you can't see a yolk sac or fetal pole yet.

Try not to worry too much Fiona. xx]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 20:02:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289551&title=threatened-miscarriage#289551 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Laurie is right, usually gestational...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289541&title=threatened-miscarriage#289541 Author: Maya
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 7:55pm

Laurie is right, usually gestational sac is visible once hCG reaches about 1000, they would expect to see a fetal pole/yolk sac with levels of 2000+ and a heartbeat sometime after 6 1/2 weeks. My midwife didn't believe they saw a heartbeat on this baby at 5,5 til she saw the report, but I reckon I was closer to 6,1 given that every scan since bub has measured bigger and bigger.

]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 19:55:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289541&title=threatened-miscarriage#289541 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Fiona, honest opinions are tough,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289533&title=threatened-miscarriage#289533 Author: KiwiL
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 7:51pm

Fiona, honest opinions are tough, because they can often be wrong.

To be 100% totally honest, your situation sounds a lot like my last miscarriage. HCG that was very low, but still doubling, plus spotting, and symptoms that faded away. I also had an inconclusive scan that showed an empty sac at just over 6 weeks, but measuring only 5. My HCG did continue to double quite normally, so for a couple of weeks they were unsue, but it was very, very low for my dates, of which I was certain. The doctors also did tell me they would expect to see a yolk and fetal pole by 6 weeks.

Having said that.... if you are 5 weeks and not 6 weeks, then it is entirely possible your HCG is in normal range, and even more likely that you wouldn't see anything in your sac yet. So, you could just be experiencing very normal early pregnancy, with a bit of spotting. The good thing is that the bleeding is very likely to be coming from the hemorrhage, and not from the sac coming away from the wall.

I can totally see why you're confused!!

When I would tell the girls on here of my troubles, I appreciated all of the positive stories that came out and it made me realise that there was no way I could give up and assume the worst until I knew for certain. There are SO many stories like ours that have a positive outcome, so you have to hold on to the hope that you have. Based on what the doctors think and the doubt you have over your dates I personally think you should be treating this as a completely normal pregnancy. With just different dates than you thought!!

As for cancelling Australia... I don't really have much advice. It would be horrible to actually miscarry so far from home and the support of your family and friends (not to mention your medical professionals). But, if you think you might only be 5 weeks, then this really could be nothing to worry about and cancelling would be really sad! Do you have travel insurance, and if you had to cancel would you be able to arrange a time to go back?

Hun, I soooo hope yours is one of those good news stories. I've been worried about you this evening and I hope that you're ok. Feel free to PM me if you want to ask any questions, as like I said our situation sounds quite similar. In the meantime, don't give up hope.

I'll keep you in my thoughts, with hopes and prayers and crossed fingers that everything is fine.

Good luck! xoxoxo I hope this post sounds more positive than negative - I think you have a great chance of things working out!

P.S. Take Emma up on the cake offer!!! Cake helps enormously in these situations! If I was in Aucks I'd be joining you for sure!

Edited by Laurie]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 19:51:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289533&title=threatened-miscarriage#289533 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : PS. I&#039;m serious about the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289528&title=threatened-miscarriage#289528 Author: Maya
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 7:47pm

PS. I'm serious about the cake, girls night out!]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 19:47:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289528&title=threatened-miscarriage#289528 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : In my (humble) opinion (lol doctor...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289524&title=threatened-miscarriage#289524 Author: Maya
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 7:45pm

In my (humble) opinion (lol doctor Emma) it really could go either way. Your hCGs are within the normal range, on the low side of normal but normal nonetheless, and the fact that your early hCG was so low lends support to the theory that you are a few days behind where you originally thought. And with the bleeding coming from the subchorionic haemorrhage and not the sac itself you could go on to have a perfectly normal pregnancy.

But on the flipside, even pregnancies with no bleeding and perfect hCG levels can go wrong, so it's really impossible to call. It's just a bugger that your trip is this week and not next week as if it was next week you could have had another scan to put your mind at rest.

You could always do an hCG level tomorrow. If it's falling you'll know for sure it's a m/c, if it's rising then thats a good sign.]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 19:45:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289524&title=threatened-miscarriage#289524 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : I guess the question is...if my...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289516&title=threatened-miscarriage#289516 Author: FionaS
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 7:34pm

I guess the question is...if my cycle was 31 days or so...is it possible to have a perfectly healthy baby measuring 5 weeks, even though it's 6 weeks since LMP?

I need to make up my mind on that as if it's not looking good, I need to try to cancel flights to Australia but if it looks positive I will go ahead with the trip.

The next hcg won't be back until 12noon Thurs and I am supposed to leave at 4pm!

So I know you all try to be positive and supportive but I need some honest opinions now...]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 19:34:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289516&title=threatened-miscarriage#289516 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Oh, Fiona - sorry that you didn&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289515&title=threatened-miscarriage#289515 Author: babyg
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 7:32pm

Oh, Fiona - sorry that you didn't get clear answers today. Hope you have a good couple of days till your next HCG.

Resending sticky vibes!]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 19:32:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289515&title=threatened-miscarriage#289515 <![CDATA[Threatened Miscarriage?? : Argh, more waiting! Come out for...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289511&title=threatened-miscarriage#289511 Author: Maya
Subject: 13998
Posted: 29 January 2008 at 7:29pm

Argh, more waiting! Come out for cake with us tomorrow night to take your mind off things!

I will be saying some prayers that your wee one stays good and stuck where it is.]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2008 19:29:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13998&PID=289511&title=threatened-miscarriage#289511