OHbaby! Forums : Sex problem... https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 15:24:17 +0000 Thu, 07 Feb 2008 13:44:33 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=14194 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Sex problem... : I think you mis-understood the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=296227&title=sex-problem#296227 Author: Smartmum
Subject: 14194
Posted: 07 February 2008 at 1:44pm

I think you mis-understood the type of cream i was meaning....you have to get this prescription only cream from the doctor, my friend had a common skin condition that made sex very painful.
There is also a another thing called vaginusitus where you get tense and have trouble with penetration....i would discuss it with your doc if it is bothering you.]]> Thu, 07 Feb 2008 13:44:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=296227&title=sex-problem#296227 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : I have used creams and stuff but...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=295677&title=sex-problem#295677 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 14194
Posted: 06 February 2008 at 8:27pm

I have used creams and stuff but it doesnt work unless Im relaxed But I think I just cant relax being pregnant, i guess its cos i feel uncomfy and not sexy as it is, it makes the tensing up worse.]]> Wed, 06 Feb 2008 20:27:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=295677&title=sex-problem#295677 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : Sheza afriend of mine recently...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=295649&title=sex-problem#295649 Author: Smartmum
Subject: 14194
Posted: 06 February 2008 at 8:02pm

Sheza afriend of mine recently had this problem and was referred to a specialist skin doctor, apparently it's quite common and a bit of cream will stop the 'burning' feeling....
Good luck!! I think you should talk to your doc.]]> Wed, 06 Feb 2008 20:02:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=295649&title=sex-problem#295649 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : I was wondering whether after...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=295343&title=sex-problem#295343 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 14194
Posted: 06 February 2008 at 10:19am

I was wondering whether after I have Caden things would be more stretched and better down there!
Its so good to know Im not the only one.]]> Wed, 06 Feb 2008 10:19:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=295343&title=sex-problem#295343 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : OMG Sheza you totally explained...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=295324&title=sex-problem#295324 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 14194
Posted: 06 February 2008 at 9:48am

OMG Sheza you totally explained what happened to me, I never said anything cos I didn't even know what to say. I can say tho after having Jack it kinds stretched things down there and it has been so much better after he was born (but it took about 6 months to get back into things after he was born) It came back when preg with Caprece but nowhere near as bad. ]]> Wed, 06 Feb 2008 09:48:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=295324&title=sex-problem#295324 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : Sorry to barge on in here ladies,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=295239&title=sex-problem#295239 Author: HippyMama
Subject: 14194
Posted: 06 February 2008 at 8:06am

Sorry to barge on in here ladies, but I came across this Wikipedia link that I thought might be relevant (just for interest): Vaginisimus

]]> Wed, 06 Feb 2008 08:06:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=295239&title=sex-problem#295239 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : I had probs before the pregnancy...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=295206&title=sex-problem#295206 Author: mummytobesep08
Subject: 14194
Posted: 06 February 2008 at 1:35am

I had probs before the pregnancy but figured it was "just me" and that I was unconciously tensing or something. After a few years I found a really nice doc and it turn out the problems actually an overactive gland in there!!! They gave me an anesthetic cream which I'm not sure if it works yet...it kinda did once. Maybe it's a problem with that? I'll ahve to find out what the gland was called...I can't remember. At the time I was just like "Yay it's not me, im not crazy!"]]> Wed, 06 Feb 2008 01:35:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=295206&title=sex-problem#295206 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : Thanks Vanillabean, I have been...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=295120&title=sex-problem#295120 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 14194
Posted: 05 February 2008 at 9:46pm

Thanks Vanillabean, I have been too embaressed to go to the doc about it, im SOOO shy about my bits lol, god knows how Im gonna give birth lol.
But yeah it is so emotionally distressing, I end up crying and then I dont feel like doing it.
Since i met my Df though, I have been so much better and we have done it and its been fine, but since getting pregnant Im back to square one ]]> Tue, 05 Feb 2008 21:46:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=295120&title=sex-problem#295120 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : I&#039;m not pregnant but I have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=295016&title=sex-problem#295016 Author: Vanillabean
Subject: 14194
Posted: 05 February 2008 at 8:32pm

I'm not pregnant but I have issues with painful sex and I totally know how emotionally distressing it is to want to do it but not have your body cooperate. In my case it also makes ttc super stressful. If the pain is because your pelvic floor muscles are tensing up there are physical things you can do like pelvic floor exercises. I went to a few GPS about it who weren't very helpful but then went to a specialist sexual health centre and found a great doctor who was very knowledgeable.

Good luck and be kind to yourself.]]> Tue, 05 Feb 2008 20:32:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=295016&title=sex-problem#295016 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : omg this is happening to me 2!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294990&title=sex-problem#294990 Author: mummytobesep08
Subject: 14194
Posted: 05 February 2008 at 8:15pm

omg this is happening to me 2! But I'm olny 9 1/2 weeks! At first I thought it was thrush or something but really not. My midwife said it just happens, which is nice to know that nothings actually wrong, but what does one do until everythings back to normal again, which I assume is a while after the baby's born.
Hey, when can you have sex after birth? (first time mum here)]]> Tue, 05 Feb 2008 20:15:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294990&title=sex-problem#294990 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : Yeah totally. I thought that was...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294897&title=sex-problem#294897 Author: BessieBear
Subject: 14194
Posted: 05 February 2008 at 5:54pm

Yeah totally. I thought that was just me.

]]> Tue, 05 Feb 2008 17:54:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294897&title=sex-problem#294897 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : i know what you mean about the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294863&title=sex-problem#294863 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 14194
Posted: 05 February 2008 at 5:01pm

i know what you mean about the needing to pee thing! When we do manage it I always feel like Im gonan pee!! Its horrible lol and I have to run away half way thru to pee! I think its just the pressure on the bladder, cos I get the same thing when caden kicks my bladder ]]> Tue, 05 Feb 2008 17:01:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294863&title=sex-problem#294863 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : ok just re read that it doesn&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294576&title=sex-problem#294576 Author: BessieBear
Subject: 14194
Posted: 05 February 2008 at 11:36am

ok just re read that it doesn't make much sence.

 

]]> Tue, 05 Feb 2008 11:36:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294576&title=sex-problem#294576 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : I have to saybefore i got preganantsexwasquite...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294573&title=sex-problem#294573 Author: BessieBear
Subject: 14194
Posted: 05 February 2008 at 11:34am

I have to say before i got preganant sex was quite uncomfortable. but now it's just impossible. It's a wierd feeling where baby is that makes it too sore and it just makes me need to pee.

]]> Tue, 05 Feb 2008 11:34:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294573&title=sex-problem#294573 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : Its such a hard situation, Its...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294515&title=sex-problem#294515 Author: Daizy
Subject: 14194
Posted: 05 February 2008 at 10:05am

Its such a hard situation, Its nice your DF is so understanding.
I have been really slack latley, mainly because I am so exhausted and sex is the last thing I want to think about. I feel so bad though cos I know it would make DH so much happier if I put a little more attention in that area. Things had only just started getting better after the arrival of DD and then I get pregnant with No 2, I just doesnt seem fair on the guys. ]]> Tue, 05 Feb 2008 10:05:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294515&title=sex-problem#294515 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : *hugs* Sheza I can definately...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294401&title=sex-problem#294401 Author: kiwikid
Subject: 14194
Posted: 04 February 2008 at 11:37pm

*hugs* Sheza I can definately empathise with you there, I have to remind myself to initiate special cuddles with the DH about once a fortnight at the moment but I'm sure if it wasnt so uncomfortable for me then I'd be up for it much more.

I do feel for the lad but he is very understanding and would never want me to carry on if it was hurting, he might get another type of 'treat' in the off week lol. Its not so much that it out right hurts but its just not comfortable and so I cant relax and therefore it never feels quite right. I hope it changes soon as its only going to happen less often when the baby is actually here for a little while ]]> Mon, 04 Feb 2008 23:37:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294401&title=sex-problem#294401 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : Thanks everyone Its nice to know...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294182&title=sex-problem#294182 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 14194
Posted: 04 February 2008 at 7:03pm

Thanks everyone Its nice to know im not the only one who gets like this. I really think a lot of it is to do with the fact i lost my last baby and even though i know my lil boy is fine im scared Im gonna hurt him or something(even though I know deep down im not going to).
It is nice to know that my DF is fine about it though, he said he wont do it if its sore for me, and that we dont have to have sex

I guess it just makes me you feel like a faliure as a women when you cant have sex with your man! ]]> Mon, 04 Feb 2008 19:03:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294182&title=sex-problem#294182 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : Poor old Willie has been out of...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294172&title=sex-problem#294172 Author: Maya
Subject: 14194
Posted: 04 February 2008 at 6:57pm

Poor old Willie has been out of luck since I got pregnant, initially coz I was too sick and then coz I've had two prolonged episodes of bleeding we've been told no-go till after the 19 week scan. It actually doesn't worry either of us all that much tho, we didn't have sex the whole time I was pregnant with the gremlins coz I was too anxious, and the first time we BDed when I was preg with Maya I cried my eyes out coz I thought I'd killed my baby.
]]> Mon, 04 Feb 2008 18:57:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294172&title=sex-problem#294172 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : Shez mate, you&#039;re not the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294153&title=sex-problem#294153 Author: MissAngel
Subject: 14194
Posted: 04 February 2008 at 6:35pm

Shez mate, you're not the only one! :/ I too am having a MASSIVE problem with sex - and i feel stink talking to my midwife about it (mostly cuz the BF is always there)But seeing as you made a thread about it I havent had sex in over 10 weeks, because it's so damned painful - no tensing or anything, it just hurts. Its like when er, he 'puts it in' shall we say, I get really bad pressure pain around the cervical area. And god help me if I actually manage to orgasm - I'd rather have my toenails ripped out with a pair of plyers. The horrid thing is, I feel like a blasted rabbit at the moment, and all I wanna do is him!!!! man, roll on when we get to make another one. Honestly, i'm going insane. But I really hope your problem goes away Sheza, I know there nothing worse than not being able to do it, and then feeling like less than a woman. The BF is great with me tho, 'you're cooking a baby, that's FAR more important!' hehe]]> Mon, 04 Feb 2008 18:35:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294153&title=sex-problem#294153 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : I agree with Paws, there&#039;s...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294119&title=sex-problem#294119 Author: .Mel
Subject: 14194
Posted: 04 February 2008 at 5:34pm

I agree with Paws, there's alot more to it than the actual deed. I've had three kids and each pregnancy it's been different. With Cooper, I couldn't stand DH being any where near down there! From memory I think we managed it twice and I hated it. I too was worried about the little man. I knew he wouldn't be harmed, but couldn't shake that feeling.

I suggest maybe you could have a nice shower and/or bath together and rediscover each other again, and just take it real slow... if you don't go all the way, that doesn't matter, at least you have had the time together, just touching. Good luck!]]> Mon, 04 Feb 2008 17:34:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294119&title=sex-problem#294119 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : I agree with the others....take...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294115&title=sex-problem#294115 Author: Paws
Subject: 14194
Posted: 04 February 2008 at 5:27pm

I agree with the others....take your time and find ways to relax...maybe even find ways to be intimate without actual intercourse...just kissing...cuddling...touching...use your imagination.

I do remember sex being uncomfortable for me during pregnancy which is common so that won't be helping you either. ]]> Mon, 04 Feb 2008 17:27:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294115&title=sex-problem#294115 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : Its getting to the point where...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294097&title=sex-problem#294097 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 14194
Posted: 04 February 2008 at 5:04pm

Its getting to the point where im too scared and cant be bothered trying
i think i'll give myself a little while and then try again, and try to relax more like everyone said.
Thanks for the replys ]]> Mon, 04 Feb 2008 17:04:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294097&title=sex-problem#294097 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : I think you&#039;ve hit the nail...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294075&title=sex-problem#294075 Author: EmDee
Subject: 14194
Posted: 04 February 2008 at 4:34pm

I think you've hit the nail on the head, sounds like you are subconsciously (sp?) worried about baby and its causing you to tense up. Sounds like you have a great DP, so maybe discuss any fears you have with him (if you haven't already)? Umm more foreplay to relax you, or you don't have to have actual intercourse.

I found sex during the earlier part of pregnancy quite uncomfortable and have only started enjoying it again fairly recently, of course now I have a huge belly in the way lol. Anyway I hope you are able to work through it with your DP ]]> Mon, 04 Feb 2008 16:34:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294075&title=sex-problem#294075 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : All I can suggest is take it slow,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294074&title=sex-problem#294074 Author: first
Subject: 14194
Posted: 04 February 2008 at 4:34pm

All I can suggest is take it slow, real slow. If it hurts so down cuddle for a bit then carry on. Give your body time to sort itself out maybe.
It is weird having the baby right there and i think it just takes time to get used to the idea and relax.]]> Mon, 04 Feb 2008 16:34:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294074&title=sex-problem#294074 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : .Edited by Sheza ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294064&title=sex-problem#294064 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 14194
Posted: 04 February 2008 at 4:17pm

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Edited by Sheza]]> Mon, 04 Feb 2008 16:17:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294064&title=sex-problem#294064 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : I kinda know how you feel sheza...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294055&title=sex-problem#294055 Author: tropics
Subject: 14194
Posted: 04 February 2008 at 4:05pm

I kinda know how you feel sheza me and DH only did it for the first time since I was pregnant in the weekend! cause in the first trimester I didnt want to incase it caused bleeding like it can and I knew that after the mc that it would just freak me out! then after the scan DH was kinda weirded out about it all the thought of doing it with a little person just there! lol so I made us do it in the weekend as I couldnt go for the rest of the time without and told him it would get worse as time goes on (growing bump!) and I noticed too that it hurt a little wasnt majorly enjoyable and ive never normally had a problem so maybe it is just the body tensing up? as I think in the back of my head I was a little worried! DH of corse enjoyed it! im hoping the next time will be different. ]]> Mon, 04 Feb 2008 16:05:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294055&title=sex-problem#294055 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : Nah i havent, but I have told...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294046&title=sex-problem#294046 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 14194
Posted: 04 February 2008 at 3:55pm

Nah i havent, but I have told my MW as I was worried it would effect labour but she said it will be totally fine.
]]> Mon, 04 Feb 2008 15:55:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294046&title=sex-problem#294046 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : No advice hun, just think how...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294041&title=sex-problem#294041 Author: my4beauties
Subject: 14194
Posted: 04 February 2008 at 3:51pm

No advice hun, just think how badly that must suck for you!!!! Have you been to the Dr's before about it??]]> Mon, 04 Feb 2008 15:51:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294041&title=sex-problem#294041 <![CDATA[Sex problem... : .Edited by Sheza ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294035&title=sex-problem#294035 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 14194
Posted: 04 February 2008 at 3:47pm

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Edited by Sheza]]> Mon, 04 Feb 2008 15:47:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14194&PID=294035&title=sex-problem#294035