OHbaby! Forums : Not coping with PG & Toddler https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 11 Apr 2026 22:12:56 +0000 Tue, 12 Feb 2008 14:53:40 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=14416 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Not coping with PG & Toddler : Playhouse disney is the best channel...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300479&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300479 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 14416
Posted: 12 February 2008 at 2:53pm

Playhouse disney is the best channel in the world for toddlers. If I need some time to myself I put that one and Andrew will watch it happily for hours.

]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2008 14:53:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300479&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300479 <![CDATA[Not coping with PG & Toddler : i know how you feel. the first...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300469&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300469 Author: tashzmum
Subject: 14416
Posted: 12 February 2008 at 2:40pm

i know how you feel. the first 13 weeks tash spent heaps and heaps of time infront of the tv. she even learnt to open the cupboard and get herself a snack.
now that i am much much bigger and i have very little energy its back to tv or her playing quietly.
i also have shocking insomnia and i have done for years( i used to be on sleeping tablets). as far as my mw knew there was nothing she could give me for it while preggy.]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2008 14:40:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300469&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300469 <![CDATA[Not coping with PG & Toddler : Don&#039;t apologise for asking...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300357&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300357 Author: EmDee
Subject: 14416
Posted: 12 February 2008 at 1:25pm

Don't apologise for asking for help! That's what OhBaby is here for and what makes you a great mum - remember that OK?

I think all the ladies have given good advice. I agree with cuppatea & GandT, see your doc about helping you sleep first, which should help make it easier to cope during the day. Forget about the housework, and don't be afraid to ask for or accept help.

Oh and I'm definitely making use of the TV particularly in that last hour or so before DH gets home. You have to do what you need to get through, and I really don't think Z will be any worse off for it.

Lots and lots of ]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2008 13:25:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300357&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300357 <![CDATA[Not coping with PG & Toddler : Big big hugs The only thing...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300351&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300351 Author: yummymummy
Subject: 14416
Posted: 12 February 2008 at 1:20pm

Big big hugs
The only thing I can suggest is to get all the help that is offered and get some rest - you'll feel heaps better for it]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2008 13:20:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300351&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300351 <![CDATA[Not coping with PG & Toddler : LOL, you&#039;ll see by now that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300344&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300344 Author: newmum
Subject: 14416
Posted: 12 February 2008 at 1:14pm

LOL, you'll see by now that we all went/are going through the same thing!!

If you feel really guilty about all the tv (I know i did!) go to the library and choose some books together - Joey LOVES just chilling out sitting with me while I read to him. I let Joey watch tv pretty much whenever he wanted for the last 2 months of my pregnancy, LOL, he knew our little einsteins dvd off by heart! Now that Lily is here, life is back to normal and he hardly watches tv at all - deosn't seem to miss it either ]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2008 13:14:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300344&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300344 <![CDATA[Not coping with PG & Toddler : We have saturn too - I&#039;m...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300331&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300331 Author: Daizy
Subject: 14416
Posted: 12 February 2008 at 1:07pm

We have saturn too - I'm so glad the school holidays are over and Nickelodeon has Nick Jr back on during the day. Keiras so excited Hi-5's back on shes been kept very busy dancing all morning, hopefully she'll now be tired enough to have an afternoon nap.]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2008 13:07:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300331&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300331 <![CDATA[Not coping with PG & Toddler : Hi! Haven&#039;t seen you around...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300282&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300282 Author: FionaS
Subject: 14416
Posted: 12 February 2008 at 12:34pm

Hi! Haven't seen you around for a while. Insomnia is horrible so I really feel for you.

Take up Emma's suggestion or bring Z over here to play with Elle for a bit while you take some time out to rest.

Probably the only thing you can do, hard as it is, is to reach out to those around who can look after Z / have a cuppa around the house / help you with some domestic stuff. You know where we are

Hang in there.]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2008 12:34:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300282&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300282 <![CDATA[Not coping with PG & Toddler : We&#039;re not on sky but on Saturn....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300260&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300260 Author: linda
Subject: 14416
Posted: 12 February 2008 at 12:24pm

We're not on sky but on Saturn. For an extra $5 per month we got Playhouse Disney added and that has been the best thing ever. No adverts and 24hrs of toddler appropriate viewing.

Flag the house work....just do the bare basics to get by]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2008 12:24:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300260&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300260 <![CDATA[Not coping with PG & Toddler : Yeah, bring Z up here and my nanny...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300251&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300251 Author: Maya
Subject: 14416
Posted: 12 February 2008 at 12:19pm

Yeah, bring Z up here and my nanny will watch her for a few hours to give you a break! I wouldn't cope with being pregnant and chasing the gremlins without my nanny, I LOVE work coz it is so much less labour-intensive than being a mummy!

Also, don't sweat the TV thing, Maya was a total square eyes when I was preg with the gremlins, she even learnt how to turn the DVD player on etc. in the mornings when I was glued to my bed with a spew bowl. And she's perfectly fine now, a few months of it didn't do her any harm at all. I wish the gremlins would watch TV but they have the attention span of a flea!]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2008 12:19:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300251&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300251 <![CDATA[Not coping with PG & Toddler : I feel like I&#039;m doing exactly...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300237&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300237 Author: Daizy
Subject: 14416
Posted: 12 February 2008 at 12:13pm

I feel like I'm doing exactly the same thing at the moment, Locking DD in the lounge with the TV on and letting her make as much mess as she wants for DH to clean when He gets home. All while I lie on the couch (or sit at the computer) Its especailly hard at the moment because of the heat and I can see she just wants to run around outside and I cant be bothered chasing her. It does get very hot inside with all the doors shut.
I just figure as long as shes happy and I'm happy and it wont be like this forever, its ok. I just make sure DH takes her out and does lots with her when hes home. ]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2008 12:13:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300237&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300237 <![CDATA[Not coping with PG & Toddler : do you have family around??? any...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300227&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300227 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 14416
Posted: 12 February 2008 at 12:02pm

do you have family around??? any friends with kids of a similar age?? someone to take her even for 2 hours a day etc?

or even going to likes of st lukes and putting her in their temp care for a few hours - go sit in parents room with a mag and breath....or if close enough pay for say 4 hours and give them your cell and then go home for a sleep....

if you are flush try that service that is in littlies mag i think it is this month where they come and take over for you - or try nanny centre and hire someone for a week - even if 2-4 hours a day...might be worth your sanity....

if not how about phoning CAB and ask if they can suggest anyone in your area for assistance. You can also call CYFS for assitance with respite care...they arent always bad. loads of organisations offer respite care - Barnardoes etc....and i fyou explain your situation Im sure someone will step up..

LOL love idea of poor emmas nanny being avail for all and sundry....ROFL!!!]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2008 12:02:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300227&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300227 <![CDATA[Not coping with PG & Toddler : Have you suffered from insomnia...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300200&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300200 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 14416
Posted: 12 February 2008 at 11:33am

Have you suffered from insomnia before? i think once you fix that you may feel better.

are you making sure you are winding down properly at night? having a bath and a nice drink - maybe try milky camomile tea, i've heard good things about that as a sleep remedy. also does going to bed earlier help you any - or do you just wake earlier?

As to letting her watch movies - she will never know that she spent the last couple of months of your pregnancy watching tv.

I know for me sometimes if i am especially tired i turn on a movie i know the kids will really enjoy and shut us all in the lounge and lie down and have a nap myself. Gets a bit hard when toby thinks he should lie on me but i always manage a little bit.

Failing all that go visit emma and let her nanny look after the kids while you snooze, i bet she wouldnt mind!!! ]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2008 11:33:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300200&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300200 <![CDATA[Not coping with PG & Toddler : Aww chick, I was very much the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300192&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300192 Author: caraMel
Subject: 14416
Posted: 12 February 2008 at 11:22am

Aww chick, I was very much the same when I was preg with Benjy.
It is horrid not being able to sleep when you know that your little one is going to be up and wanting your undivided attention in a matter of hours!
Like you, I just did what I had to do to get by. The chores that could wait, waited for the weekend and Ella got a lot of TV and DVD time!
There were days when all I could do was lie on the couch and she would play around me. I'd only get up for toilet stops and getting her food and nappies.
Don't feel bad about it. Its just temporary and she's not going to be any worse off for it.
It will get better, I actually got a lot more sleep after Benjy arrived than I did before, even with the 2-3 hourly feeds LOL!
]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2008 11:22:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300192&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300192 <![CDATA[Not coping with PG & Toddler : Creche isn&#039;t a hassle - you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300182&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300182 Author: meow
Subject: 14416
Posted: 12 February 2008 at 11:17am

Creche isn't a hassle - you just ring up, fill in the registration form (you could ask them to mail it to you - then mail it back, to save going in) and when her place comes up, they will give you a call.

Sometimes places take 6 months, but I think you are going to need some time out when the baby comes. I only have one child atm and I know I need that time to myself when she's at creche!

Good luck.      ]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2008 11:17:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300182&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300182 <![CDATA[Not coping with PG & Toddler : Is she happy when she&#039;s watching...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300173&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300173 Author: .Mel
Subject: 14416
Posted: 12 February 2008 at 11:10am

Is she happy when she's watching her movies? Are you happy when she's watching them?

If so, don't worry about it. Don't worry about the house either.

Just concentrate on having some chill out time when she's watching her movies. It's only going to be for a little while longer.

Have you thought about applying to Winz and seeing if you are entitled to 9hrs free care? If you are you could put her into some kind of care 2 days a week, that way you could have YOU time before baby arrives.

You'll be ok.

Whereabouts in Auckland are you? Are there playgroups in your area?]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2008 11:10:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300173&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300173 <![CDATA[Not coping with PG & Toddler : Is there any form of sleeping...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300171&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300171 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 14416
Posted: 12 February 2008 at 11:08am

Is there any form of sleeping tablet that you could take whilst pregnant to help with the insomnia. They offered me tablets when at the hospital antenatally so i'm assuming that there must be one that they consider to be safe.
Do you have any friends or family close by that could watch her for a while each week? or if you can't find a day care what about going to baby time at the library or a playgroup or something so she can expend some energy and get some interaction that way (hopefully an activity where you can just sit and watch).
]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2008 11:08:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300171&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300171 <![CDATA[Not coping with PG & Toddler : I know I don&#039;t post heaps...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300162&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300162 Author: KiwiWonder
Subject: 14416
Posted: 12 February 2008 at 10:59am

I know I don't post heaps here so apologies but I'm really not sure what to do...

I'm a SAHM to Miss 18 months and also pregnant (which you can probably gather from tickers, but never hurts to state the obvious!) For the past few weeks I've been having absolutely terrible insomnia (managing 'maybe' 3 hours total a night) and I'm now very close to losing the plot altogether.

If it was just me, I'd be fine. Not joyously happy of course but I'd cope. But with having to look after a house (albeit I'm only doing the minimum to survive at the moment) and a very energetic bubbly toddler, I'm really struggling. It's to the point now where I'd happily put her in some form of care - except there's just no way we can afford it, not to mention the stress / hassle of finding a decent place and getting in, what with wait-lists and all. My DH has been as wonderful as he can be (well, most days ) but if he takes any more leave before the birth there won't be anything left for after the birth, not to mention I have anywhere from 6 - 8 weeks left of pregnancy!

In short, I don't know what to do. it's to the point now where she watches a DVD every morning and a DVD every night, plus child-appropriate TV when it's on. I hate parenting this way (or more specifically, not-parenting) but I can't think of anything else. It's to the point where I'm seriously considering getting SKY despite the fact I don't see how the budget would stretch to it, just to have something relatively ad-free that is ok for her to watch.

I just don't know what to do anymore... And I'm really saddened that my last couple of months with just her is being spent basically ignoring her altogether. ]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2008 10:59:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14416&PID=300162&title=not-coping-with-pg-toddler#300162