OHbaby! Forums : doubting myself... https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Wed, 08 Apr 2026 12:33:09 +0000 Mon, 10 Mar 2008 11:24:39 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=15082 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[doubting myself... : awww deb.....i&#039;ve been thinking...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=321730&title=doubting-myself#321730 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 15082
Posted: 10 March 2008 at 11:24am

awww deb.....i've been thinking of you over the weekend to and got excited to see your name change......thought things may have happened for you.

the end is near hun ]]> Mon, 10 Mar 2008 11:24:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=321730&title=doubting-myself#321730 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Sorry - I was a little confused...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=321455&title=doubting-myself#321455 Author: Andie
Subject: 15082
Posted: 09 March 2008 at 9:54pm

Sorry - I was a little confused about today's date and thought the 11th was just this one sleep away.  Ah, Deb... here's to one last day of being 9mths + pregnant. 

]]> Sun, 09 Mar 2008 21:54:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=321455&title=doubting-myself#321455 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : DEb and at your MW . Come on...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=321409&title=doubting-myself#321409 Author: Bubbaloo
Subject: 15082
Posted: 09 March 2008 at 9:06pm

DEb and at your MW .

Come on little bubba.]]> Sun, 09 Mar 2008 21:06:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=321409&title=doubting-myself#321409 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Been thinking of you heaps....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=321405&title=doubting-myself#321405 Author: FionaS
Subject: 15082
Posted: 09 March 2008 at 9:00pm



Been thinking of you heaps. Hope the weekend has treated you kindly. ]]> Sun, 09 Mar 2008 21:00:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=321405&title=doubting-myself#321405 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : i&#039;m still here and no tomorrow...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=321403&title=doubting-myself#321403 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 15082
Posted: 09 March 2008 at 8:59pm

i'm still here and no tomorrow isnt the day. its tuesday the 11th, lunchtime when the induction is due. tomorrow will be my last day as a pregnant lady, unless something happens tonight. apparently my mw will come to the induction - i'd rather she didnt tho...i dont think i can trust her anymore.   ]]> Sun, 09 Mar 2008 20:59:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=321403&title=doubting-myself#321403 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Well Deb, I hope that not &#039;hearing&#039;...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=321350&title=doubting-myself#321350 Author: Andie
Subject: 15082
Posted: 09 March 2008 at 8:00pm

Well Deb, I hope that not 'hearing' from you on here means you're otherwise well-occupied, but if you're not, then tomorrow's the day, eh.  Wow.  I am hoping and praying for all the best for your wee girl's arrival - you don't need the stress of worrying about your midwife  (oh yeah Fats, I'm guessing the  is kinda what you're after for the MW?!?), but whoever you get, it'll be YOUR day and YOUR labour and you stick to your guns on what you want, girl!  You've been there twice before, and your body will know what to do.  Sorry if I'm going all Pollyanna-styles here - going overdue isn't one bit fun and yeah, I remember wanting to stab people for asking "is she here yet", but please know that we're all thinking of you. 

]]> Sun, 09 Mar 2008 20:00:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=321350&title=doubting-myself#321350 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Come on bubba!!!!!!!!!!! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=321034&title=doubting-myself#321034 Author: caraMel
Subject: 15082
Posted: 09 March 2008 at 12:09am

Come on bubba!!!!!!!!!!!]]> Sun, 09 Mar 2008 00:09:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=321034&title=doubting-myself#321034 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Gosh, we sooo need an roll of...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320993&title=doubting-myself#320993 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 15082
Posted: 08 March 2008 at 9:37pm

Gosh, we sooo need an roll of the eyes emoticon...]]> Sat, 08 Mar 2008 21:37:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320993&title=doubting-myself#320993 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Awww Deb, dont ave anything to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320980&title=doubting-myself#320980 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 15082
Posted: 08 March 2008 at 9:02pm

Awww Deb, dont ave anything to say that will cheer you up but just wanted you to know I am thinking of you... ]]> Sat, 08 Mar 2008 21:02:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320980&title=doubting-myself#320980 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320831&title=doubting-myself#320831 Author: daikini
Subject: 15082
Posted: 08 March 2008 at 6:12pm

]]> Sat, 08 Mar 2008 18:12:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320831&title=doubting-myself#320831 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320830&title=doubting-myself#320830 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 15082
Posted: 08 March 2008 at 6:08pm

]]> Sat, 08 Mar 2008 18:08:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320830&title=doubting-myself#320830 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Hope something happens soon or...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320738&title=doubting-myself#320738 Author: yummymummy
Subject: 15082
Posted: 08 March 2008 at 2:30pm

Hope something happens soon or is happening right now ]]> Sat, 08 Mar 2008 14:30:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320738&title=doubting-myself#320738 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Right, child. Get your tiny little...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320673&title=doubting-myself#320673 Author: Andie
Subject: 15082
Posted: 08 March 2008 at 11:21am

Right, child.  Get your tiny little heiney out so people can meet you.  You've had it cushy in there for plenty long enough.  I'll broker you a deal - you come on out, and I'll send you pink stuff.  Deal?! 

]]> Sat, 08 Mar 2008 11:21:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320673&title=doubting-myself#320673 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Wishing you all the best GandT!!I&#039;ll...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320660&title=doubting-myself#320660 Author: My3Sons
Subject: 15082
Posted: 08 March 2008 at 10:52am

Wishing you all the best GandT!! I'll keep my fingers crossed for this weekend!!]]> Sat, 08 Mar 2008 10:52:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320660&title=doubting-myself#320660 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Come on baby girl! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320431&title=doubting-myself#320431 Author: Maya
Subject: 15082
Posted: 07 March 2008 at 8:52pm

Come on baby girl!]]> Fri, 07 Mar 2008 20:52:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320431&title=doubting-myself#320431 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320405&title=doubting-myself#320405 Author: Kels
Subject: 15082
Posted: 07 March 2008 at 8:28pm

]]> Fri, 07 Mar 2008 20:28:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320405&title=doubting-myself#320405 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : yep i am here fiona. have been...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320401&title=doubting-myself#320401 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 15082
Posted: 07 March 2008 at 8:21pm

yep i am here fiona. have been hanging out with emma...she was nice enough to feed me and the boys cause hubby is working late. and am hoping for a baby this weekend while the relief mw is on too!!!]]> Fri, 07 Mar 2008 20:21:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320401&title=doubting-myself#320401 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Are you around Deb? How are you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320375&title=doubting-myself#320375 Author: FionaS
Subject: 15082
Posted: 07 March 2008 at 7:53pm

Are you around Deb? How are you doing today?]]> Fri, 07 Mar 2008 19:53:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320375&title=doubting-myself#320375 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : jack_&_charli wrote: GandT...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320134&title=doubting-myself#320134 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 15082
Posted: 07 March 2008 at 2:22pm

Originally posted by jack_&_charli jack_&_charli wrote:

Originally posted by GandT GandT wrote:

today on the phone she thought it helpful to mention recent still births at auck hosp. in the same breath she is telling me she trusts me and is confident everything is fine but the next saying that the assessment unit at auck hosp did just have another 41 week still born!!!!


my god!!!! who says that to a pregnant lady!!!!

i hope you are having a better day to day deb....


I second both comments!
seriously ! who the hell says that to a pregnant lady who is already worried?? grrr some people!

really hope your having a better day today Deb ]]> Fri, 07 Mar 2008 14:22:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320134&title=doubting-myself#320134 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Deb,its so hard to get rid of...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320011&title=doubting-myself#320011 Author: caraMel
Subject: 15082
Posted: 07 March 2008 at 12:07pm

Deb,its so hard to get rid of those thoughts once they've popped into your head eh? They just manifest and go round and round. Its exhausting and so upsetting.
Just remember, its your baby and your body. You have every right to demand more monitoring or to get a second opinion to your midwife's if you're not feeling happy with her casual approach.
]]> Fri, 07 Mar 2008 12:07:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=320011&title=doubting-myself#320011 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : GandT wrote:today on the phone...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319989&title=doubting-myself#319989 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 15082
Posted: 07 March 2008 at 11:29am

Originally posted by GandT GandT wrote:

today on the phone she thought it helpful to mention recent still births at auck hosp. in the same breath she is telling me she trusts me and is confident everything is fine but the next saying that the assessment unit at auck hosp did just have another 41 week still born!!!!


my god!!!! who says that to a pregnant lady!!!!

i hope you are having a better day to day deb.... ]]> Fri, 07 Mar 2008 11:29:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319989&title=doubting-myself#319989 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : All the best Debs I really hope...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319954&title=doubting-myself#319954 Author: Jay_R
Subject: 15082
Posted: 07 March 2008 at 10:14am

All the best Debs I really hope things get moving naturally for you

I just want to say though, and please don't take this as a criticism as it most definitely is not one - but if it were me, and I had been having these bad feelings, well I would not be waiting around hoping for things to start naturally. I can understand your desire for things to happen as they "should", but sometimes they don't. Sometimes nature needs a little bit of a helping hand - I found this out when I had Joshua and my natural no drug labour turned into and emergency c-section.

I know you will do what is best for you, and I hope I haven't upset you.

]]> Fri, 07 Mar 2008 10:14:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319954&title=doubting-myself#319954 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Awww Deb, hope you have a better...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319808&title=doubting-myself#319808 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 11:07pm

Awww Deb, hope you have a better day tomorrow. Hope she comes on the weekend for you! ]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 23:07:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319808&title=doubting-myself#319808 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : you guys should meet for a curry...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319805&title=doubting-myself#319805 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 11:03pm

you guys should meet for a curry instead ]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 23:03:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319805&title=doubting-myself#319805 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : oooh come out tomorrow and share...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319804&title=doubting-myself#319804 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 11:01pm

oooh come out tomorrow and share Gabriellas burpday - very cool relaxed gorgeous and clever kids born on that day Deb....OR wait til after midnight tomorrow and be 08-03-08 VERY cool and VERY lucky (chinese) birthday!!!!

ok so that was NO help I know...but you WILL be ok, Bubba WILL be fine and WE cannot wait to see her....hey if I plan to meet you at manukau for a coffee tomorrow afternoon does that mean you will go into labour to avoid it???? ]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 23:01:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319804&title=doubting-myself#319804 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : thanks guys... unfortunately...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319785&title=doubting-myself#319785 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 10:39pm

thanks guys...

unfortunately i have lost all faith in my mw. today on the phone she thought it helpful to mention recent still births at auck hosp. in the same breath she is telling me she trusts me and is confident everything is fine but the next saying that the assessment unit at auck hosp did just have another 41 week still born!!!! i dont feel she has my best interests at heart anymore and she caused me so much stress i ended up yelling at her...and that is not good for me or bub.

apparently she is off this weekend and i would get her backup if i went into labour from 5pm fri till the same time sun... so i am going to be talking to this baby very firmly about coming out then!!!

thanks for the supportive words and hugs guys...today has been the most stressful day and i am glad it is over. I will be be keeping an eye on bubs movements over the next couple of days and like i said telling her sat is the day!!! so keep your eyes peeled!]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 22:39:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319785&title=doubting-myself#319785 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Well we&#039;re the same age Deb...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319736&title=doubting-myself#319736 Author: jaz
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 9:29pm

Well we're the same age Deb and I made the decision to have Caleb induced by my due date because I was older and didn't want to take the risk. If you are feeling worried perhaps speak to your midwife about it to put your mind at rest. ]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 21:29:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319736&title=doubting-myself#319736 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Girls are just higher maintenance...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319623&title=doubting-myself#319623 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 7:48pm

Girls are just higher maintenance arent they? Come on little bubba, come out now, nice and naturally and with as little pain as possible.

Big hugs!!!! Cant wait to hear all about it and see pics!]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 19:48:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319623&title=doubting-myself#319623 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Awwww Deb! Baby girl will be...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319530&title=doubting-myself#319530 Author: .Mel
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 4:36pm

Awwww Deb! Baby girl will be fine as will you. I'm starting to feel better so if you want to go for ice cream or chocolate or Gloria Jeans one day let me know. I'm always around.

Trust your body, and do what Emma suggested, get both of you checked in the weekend.

Hugs to you!]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 16:36:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319530&title=doubting-myself#319530 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Hugs Deb. Sounds really upsetting....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319454&title=doubting-myself#319454 Author: FionaS
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 2:13pm

Hugs Deb.

Sounds really upsetting. I bet those hormones are responsible for a lot of it.

I can't give you any advice as I haven't been in your shoes. I guess it is a balancing act of trusting the test results and doctors i.e. baby girl is doing great and acknowledging your fears.

Maybe try speaking truth into the situation (self-talk I guess). You mentioned that you think you may know the root cause for the emotions to maybe try to tell yourself how it is. Sounds kooky but sometimes it does help a little.

If you keep feeling really upset maybe another talk with your midwife re: induction dates would be a good idea. Sometimes we do need to take heed of our thoughts and emotions but often we just need to focus on the facts and hang in until the fog clears. At times like these it is so hard to get in touch with our gut instinct but the answers really do lie there. If we can't, all we can do is make the best decisions based on the info we have.

If you were the praying / meditating sort I'd recommend you try that...see if you can reach down inside yourself and determine whether earlier induction is what is needed (based on facts rather than ideals) to put an end to the worry or if waiting is the best thing for you to do.

I feel for you as being so far over-due PLUS having 2 boys to care for is far too much for anyone to deal with! It's probably almost impossible to do but try to relax just a little bit...baby girl WILL be here within the week!

Maybe some time to yourself without the boys would help? I'm sure a couple of us could help there!


]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 14:13:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319454&title=doubting-myself#319454 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : to you, Deb. I have a gut feeling...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319445&title=doubting-myself#319445 Author: Andie
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 2:00pm

 to you, Deb.  I have a gut feeling that things will be OK for this wee girl of yours, but hey, I know what it is to have a worry about your child and I know I can't talk you out of it and it would be rude to try!  I'm thinking of you, and hoping for nothing but good news for you, chick. 

]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 14:00:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319445&title=doubting-myself#319445 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : What are your thoughts? Are getting...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319429&title=doubting-myself#319429 Author: Redbedrock
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 1:31pm

What are your thoughts? Are getting good monitoring? Do yu trust your team? If so go with your instincts. You know your body really well when at this stage of pregnancy. Yes awful things happen but none of us would want to do this if we knew all about them and they haven't happened to you before and quite often there is no clue that they may happen, all pregnancies, deliveries, labours are different as we see on here. I assume that if you get nervous or anxious before the 11th you can call your mw and say i think this baby needs to be born today?
You have to go with the option which will drive you least nuts.
Just my thoughts I have no experience as my pregnancy ended very unexpectedly at 35 weeks so this was never an option for me to worry about (plenty of other things tho) I am a great beleiver that you know your body best and should trust your instincts in line with information you are given
Don't drive yourself too nuts with this, this baby is gonna come out sometime, one way or another]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 13:31:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319429&title=doubting-myself#319429 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Maya wrote:I agree with Daikini...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319425&title=doubting-myself#319425 Author: The_Stuarts
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 1:29pm

Originally posted by Maya Maya wrote:

I agree with Daikini and Fattarts, trust yourself and your body and it's ability to deliver your baby safe and healthy.


Ditto what Emma said.

]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 13:29:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319425&title=doubting-myself#319425 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Deb ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319422&title=doubting-myself#319422 Author: EmDee
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 1:26pm

Deb]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 13:26:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319422&title=doubting-myself#319422 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : awww hun big hugs ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319370&title=doubting-myself#319370 Author: james
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 12:23pm

awww hun big hugs]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 12:23:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319370&title=doubting-myself#319370 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : I really should stay away, I know...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319363&title=doubting-myself#319363 Author: Maya
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 12:14pm

I really should stay away, I know too much and all it does is make people worry even more

I really think there is some truth to what we were talking about the other day tho, that your body just has longer gestations. It makes sense, especially considering you have longer cycles etc.

I agree with Daikini and Fattarts, trust yourself and your body and it's ability to deliver your baby safe and healthy. I of all people know how hard that is, I was an absolute wreck all the way thru with the gremlins and it was always YOU that kept telling me they would be born in perfect heath at full term. And you were right, they were. So now it's my turn to say the same thing - baby girl will be fine! (She has to be, I have bought her far too many cute bits and pieces over the last 9 months!)

Obstetrically speaking, I think if you were induced now, baby would come no problems at all, she is your third baby and your body knows what it's doing far better than it did first time round, but then there is a chance you'll end up with the drip still which is not what you want. And given that her fluid is fine and her BPP was fine, and that you are having another BPP on Friday I would say she'll be happy in there till the 11th, and if she's not, she'll let you know and come sooner.

I would maybe suggest getting a CTG done on Sunday tho, just to check in on her again. Your m/w will probably give you a hard time about it being a weekend, but given how overdue you are, monitoring every second day is a good idea and she should just pull her finger out of her...

Will call you later, I have Sterryn and Sam coming for lunch, but can come visit after I get Maya if you need some company.]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 12:14:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319363&title=doubting-myself#319363 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319362&title=doubting-myself#319362 Author: FionaS
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 12:13pm

]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 12:13:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319362&title=doubting-myself#319362 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : daikini wrote: Deb see if...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319336&title=doubting-myself#319336 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 11:46am

Originally posted by daikini daikini wrote:

Deb

see if you can figure out a compromise that gives you the feeling you've tried the best you can while still ensuring your daughter's safety... eg: getting the fluid levels and placenta and Baby checked regularly while putting off the date of induction to give your body a chance.


What she said. Hugs to you, I really do know how you feel. I was really really against induction at any cost, but in the end, we did it just before 42 weeks, as i was starting to freak out, and I coudln't trust that something woudln't go wrong. My BF had a still born baby girl at 41 weeks, not induced, so it always weiged heavily on my mind. When I did get induced, though, I had been in labour on and off for 3 days, so she was ready anyhow, jsut mucking around.

In the end, it was the support and knowledge of my wonderful and very experienced midwife that made me feel safe, and I trusted her with our lives. She had been Anna's midwife as well, so well understood my concerns that my baby girl would somehow not make it, and as you know, it all turned out fine.

Hugs to you, and trust your instinct (the GOOD ones!!!!) and the judgement of your medical team, who I am sure take your concerns into consideration when deciding what is best for you. Well, I hope they do.

xxx]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 11:46:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319336&title=doubting-myself#319336 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Deb While I cannot relate to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319318&title=doubting-myself#319318 Author: daikini
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 11:09am

Deb

While I cannot relate to going over (Kiya was 2 weeks early, and both the boys were born on their due dates) I can sympathise with knowing your body best and feeling not listened to. I have similar problems getting medical professionals to back off in regards to my blood disorder - where they feel they know best, despite me actually living it!

I, too, have an unsettling feeling that something is going to go wrong with this pregnancy. All I can suggest (other than chocolate ) is to see if you can figure out a compromise that gives you the feeling you've tried the best you can while still ensuring your daughter's safety... eg: getting the fluid levels and placenta and Baby checked regularly while putting off the date of induction to give your body a chance.]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 11:09:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319318&title=doubting-myself#319318 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : big hugs to you....i thought he...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319315&title=doubting-myself#319315 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 11:08am

big hugs to you....i thought he was going to die during my whole pregnancy too...and he's ok.....and i still think something will happen..it's horrible:( esp during my induction and c section but as the others said as long as you are being closely monitored..?]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 11:08:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319315&title=doubting-myself#319315 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : hey i&#039;ve had to be induced...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319312&title=doubting-myself#319312 Author: J0DIE
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 11:06am

hey
i've had to be induced with all my babies 42weeks then 2 at 41 weeks, they just dont seem to want to come, so not expecting this one anytime soon either, with each child im more nervous, more about cotdeath tho, i think its because "the last one was ok, so what are the chances with this one"
But good luck with this one, i'm sure she'll be fine... we just worry to much, but hey we're mothers we do that.

Fingers crossed she comes soon, naturally]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 11:06:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319312&title=doubting-myself#319312 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : oh honey, i just want to reach...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319311&title=doubting-myself#319311 Author: mamawendz
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 11:06am

oh honey, i just want to reach out and hug you!

try not to think negatively, you need to keep your spirits up. you don't want to go into labour upset and overly emotional.

you sound so stressed, which is what I put all these unnecessary thoughts racing through your head down to.

try to think positively hun.]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 11:06:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319311&title=doubting-myself#319311 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : GandT wrote: I dont expect...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319310&title=doubting-myself#319310 Author: mum2emj
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 11:05am

Originally posted by GandT GandT wrote:


I dont expect responses to this but i felt like i had to get it down somewhere.


and this is the perfect place for it deb we all need to get things off our chest at times ]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 11:05:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319310&title=doubting-myself#319310 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : to you. not really sure what to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319309&title=doubting-myself#319309 Author: hooper
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 11:05am

to you. not really sure what to say, but i hope everything goes well for you and bubs.]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 11:05:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319309&title=doubting-myself#319309 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : dont know what to say, but am...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319307&title=doubting-myself#319307 Author: Kazzle
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 11:04am



dont know what to say, but am thinking of you, have you spoken to the doctor/midwife about it]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 11:04:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319307&title=doubting-myself#319307 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : GandT wrote: BUT.... SInce...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319306&title=doubting-myself#319306 Author: my4beauties
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 11:04am

Originally posted by GandT GandT wrote:


BUT.... SInce i got pregnant i have had a feeling that something is going to go wrong and the baby is going to die.   


GandT, I felt like this with my pregnancy with Jett. He was TOTALLY unexpected and I wondered how on earth I could've got pg with him when I did. I also had a crazy theory that 3rd babies are born unhealthy, and had a bad feeling all through the pregnancy. At 15 weeks I had a VERY small bleed, but it still freaked me out and I never relaxed the whole pregnancy. He was born completely healthy, but then I had a post-partum haemorrhage which was nasty and very scary and painful. I know you're freaking out right now, but your baby is doing well in there, and if the Dr's think you're ok til the 11th then trust that.

They will still monitor you til your induction date right? I know nothing will ease your mind til you have your healthy baby in your arms. Perhaps try taking some rescue remedy? ]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 11:04:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319306&title=doubting-myself#319306 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : Oh Deb!!! What a process to go...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319304&title=doubting-myself#319304 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 11:04am

Oh Deb!!! What a process to go through when you are heavily pregnant!! Not fun at all

Maybe re-evaluate once you get to the 42 weeks? You might be very over the whole pregnancy thing and so go for the induction for other reasons.

Otherwise, if you want to rationalise it, induction and birth in general always carries risks! I don't know how the risks compare to going over 42 weeks but as long as you are being closely monitored then I shouldn't think you are putting your babe at undue risk.

xoxoxox

Edited by nikkiwhyte]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 11:04:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319304&title=doubting-myself#319304 <![CDATA[doubting myself... : possibly long and rambly story...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319290&title=doubting-myself#319290 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 15082
Posted: 06 March 2008 at 10:52am

possibly long and rambly story coming up...

I have been induced with both my boys, because they were post dates. Gabriel was induced at 42 weeks and toby at 41 wks and 6 days and 42 and 3 days, when he was eventually born. This one is late also and i spent 2 hours at the hospital yesterday getting fluid levels and placenta checked etc and a sweep...and a date for induction.

Now my fluid levels are fine and the placenta is fine and the baby is very happy. lots of movement and practise breathing movements.

They gave me the 11 march as my induction which is one day over 42 wks. Now i am not very happy with that as experience has shown to me that my body just incubates longer and if my babies arent ready they wont come. Gabriel i had to be on a drip the whole labour and it was not that pleasant and he still had to be dragged out of me.

BUT.... SInce i got pregnant i have had a feeling that something is going to go wrong and the baby is going to die. I know - morbid and not very nice at all and everyone kept telling me i was being silly. But it is how i have felt. Part of me thinks it is cause i never expected to get pregnant again let again with a girl. But now there is the part of me that is thinking that maybe i am just being silly about this induction thing and i am seriously putting my baby at risk. Emma is partly to blame cause of when she said she knows of mothers who had wished they could go back just one day to before their full term babies had died. (this was said in unrelated conversations and i dont want to make you feel bad emma if you read this1)

So now i am thinking can that one day make the difference...what if i kill my baby?

I really want to give my body a chance to start labour naturally, but i dont want to risk my baby.
I am a mess, in tears most days and even tho i know my baby is safe theres the what if...

I dont expect responses to this but i felt like i had to get it down somewhere. ]]> Thu, 06 Mar 2008 10:52:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15082&PID=319290&title=doubting-myself#319290