https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Mon, 20 Apr 2026 03:06:57 +0000 Sun, 30 Mar 2008 19:49:36 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=15796 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339531&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339531 Author: NeoshasMummy
Subject: 15796
Posted: 30 March 2008 at 7:49pm

I agree, I think sex is an important part-its not the most inportant part but its still important. He sounds clingly and to be honest it will most likely only get worse. I think u did the right thing and anyway the right person will be out there and I bet he hasnt got a little one :0) Penis I mean]]> Sun, 30 Mar 2008 19:49:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339531&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339531 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339438&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339438 Author: MissCandice
Subject: 15796
Posted: 30 March 2008 at 6:29pm

Renee, he is obsessed. I have been witth a guy EXACTLY like that. Funny when i was reading your post i was hping you were not going to say his name was scott. I didnt move in with him but he was at my house everyday. He text me about 30times a day and called about 30 times too! If i didnt answer he would come around. In the end i told him it ws over and thats when it got out of control. The texting turned nasty and the calls were even worse. I dont want that to happen to you. Make him get it, loud and clear.

Hugs to you. But if you know thats what you want then good on you!]]> Sun, 30 Mar 2008 18:29:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339438&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339438 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339306&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339306 Author: my4beauties
Subject: 15796
Posted: 30 March 2008 at 2:36pm

Hmm sounds like you'd have more fun in the bedroom with a vibrator Renee!

How are things today? I hope he's let you be, and will move on, instead of making things worse by trying to get you back. He obviously thinks it's something he has done, not the fact that you just need some "you" time.

Hugs hun, hope things get sorted real quick for you!]]> Sun, 30 Mar 2008 14:36:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339306&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339306 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339210&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339210 Author: BabyOnBoard
Subject: 15796
Posted: 30 March 2008 at 11:28am

I can kind of relate to where you are coming from. . I'm no longer with Arabellas father and know I have a lot of baggage and issues to sort out within myself before I get in another relationship.

I think you have made the right decision and sucks that he isn't listening. . ]]> Sun, 30 Mar 2008 11:28:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339210&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339210 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339069&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339069 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 15796
Posted: 30 March 2008 at 12:18am

i dated a guy with a tiny one once - but he knew what he was doing with it!!!

smut aside tho - sex is an important part of a relationship...and a hard one to fix.

and you are right, it is too soon after breaking up with the father of your ex. I hope he gets the message and i think that changing the locks should be an option regardless...

for you - and nice to see you on the boards, even if it is for a rant...]]> Sun, 30 Mar 2008 00:18:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339069&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339069 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339067&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339067 Author: caraMel
Subject: 15796
Posted: 30 March 2008 at 12:14am

Oh man, Renee that really sucks for you!
You really don't need that drama after all that you've been through chick
I wish I could give you some suggestions to help with it all, but I'll send you some ((hugs)) at the moment instead.

I have to say, you're awesome Renee! Lots of girls wouldn't have the courage to sort things out and put their families first like you are. I really, truly admire you for that.
I hope Gavin settles down and gets the message, don't let him emotionally blackmail you. XX

]]> Sun, 30 Mar 2008 00:14:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339067&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339067 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339049&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339049 Author: BuzzyBee
Subject: 15796
Posted: 29 March 2008 at 11:46pm

AND to be honest I think a lot of females wouldn't be prepared to hang around while a '10 second' wonder tries to sort his 'problem' out. You've either got it or you don't, it'll either work or it won't (excuse the rhyming there LOL).

]]> Sat, 29 Mar 2008 23:46:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339049&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339049 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339047&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339047 Author: BuzzyBee
Subject: 15796
Posted: 29 March 2008 at 11:44pm

Best of luck to you & as Mazzy pointed out above, very mature and wise move to shift the focus to you & your son! ]]> Sat, 29 Mar 2008 23:44:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339047&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339047 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339045&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339045 Author: mamanee
Subject: 15796
Posted: 29 March 2008 at 11:43pm

AliaDawn wrote: I can say although my partner has a penis that I wouldn't want any larger, I still prefer the "hands on" approach... so maybe there is something you could work out there??? I dated a guy with a tiny... one once, but I was 15, and he was 21, so there wasn't any sex happening (don't ask me how I know it was tiny!) real pity as he had a seriously gorgeous body, and a yummy accent (russian) to boot Turn off your phone, go to sleep and ignore him

I'm definately ignoring him tonight! I'm more of a 'main event' kinda girl and although hands on is ok, it has to lead on to something else or I seem to get really turned off after a while so I'm not sure how I could even work on that part. I think maybe if I didn't have the other issues I would be more understanding and willing to work on this. ]]> Sat, 29 Mar 2008 23:43:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339045&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339045 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339043&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339043 Author: BuzzyBee
Subject: 15796
Posted: 29 March 2008 at 11:42pm

Yeah and lock the doors LOL! ...I guess if he really doesn't get the msg, you can change the locks!

But in all seriousness, I understand where you're coming from regarding the sex/physical aspect of a relationship being slightly important. You have to connect, emotionally & physically for it to work.]]> Sat, 29 Mar 2008 23:42:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339043&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339043 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339042&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339042 Author: Mazzy
Subject: 15796
Posted: 29 March 2008 at 11:41pm

Yikes! Hope he gets the message after a bit of sleep (alone). Failing that, if it gets really bad, can you move his stuff out or get his friends to come pick it up, and change the locks? Maybe he'll get the message then? He sounds a bit obsessive to be honest, most guys (even if really upset) wouldn't be texting 25 times and showing up to do their nut...I think you've definitely made a good call there!
And good on you for thinking about yourself and Sam, and making the decision to focus on yourself for a while. I think that's a very mature move.
Good luck for the break up.]]> Sat, 29 Mar 2008 23:41:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339042&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339042 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339038&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339038 Author: AliaDawn
Subject: 15796
Posted: 29 March 2008 at 11:36pm

I can say although my partner has a penis that I wouldn't want any larger, I still prefer the "hands on" approach... so maybe there is something you could work out there??? I dated a guy with a tiny... one once, but I was 15, and he was 21, so there wasn't any sex happening (don't ask me how I know it was tiny!) real pity as he had a seriously gorgeous body, and a yummy accent (russian) to boot

Turn off your phone, go to sleep and ignore him ]]> Sat, 29 Mar 2008 23:36:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339038&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339038 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339035&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339035 Author: mamanee
Subject: 15796
Posted: 29 March 2008 at 11:34pm

Hehehe I didn't say it in those exact terms but I let him know that my standards were pretty high and he just wasn't cutting it! He offered to use viagra and local anaesthetic to help his 'sensitivity' issue. I laughed but apparently he was NOT joking.. Oops!

He still wants to be with me after me telling him the sex isn't good enough.   I know sex isn't the be all and end all of a relationship but on top of everything else, it sure doesn't help matters! ]]> Sat, 29 Mar 2008 23:34:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339035&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339035 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339029&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339029 Author: BuzzyBee
Subject: 15796
Posted: 29 March 2008 at 11:30pm

Wow that is a lot to take in, aren't clingy males annoying? Let alone one that doesn't get the message LOUD AND CLEAR that you want out of that relationship!

One thing I've learnt from reading your post, never let a man move in so early on in a relationship.

Hope it all works out for you, I have no advice to give as I'm ignorant when it comes to relationships as I haven't really ever been in one LOL!

Take care of yourself & Sam ...]]> Sat, 29 Mar 2008 23:30:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339029&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339029 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339027&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339027 Author: Maya
Subject: 15796
Posted: 29 March 2008 at 11:28pm

OMG Renee, what a disaster!

I'm a bit brainfried atm so will come back tomorrow with some profound advice lol, but how's this for a start:

Why not tell him about the 10 second, tiny penis issue? That's bound to make him so embarrassed he won't want to look at you!

Seriously tho, i will be back with more appropriate suggestions tomorrow.

Hugs chick! And hugs to that cheeky wee boy of yours!]]> Sat, 29 Mar 2008 23:28:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339027&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339027 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339023&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339023 Author: mamanee
Subject: 15796
Posted: 29 March 2008 at 11:24pm

Ok, so a while ago I posted and said that I'd met a wonderful guy and that everything was great. Everything was great! Until I started to think about Sam's dad. I tried not to, I tried to forget about him and just move on. It has gotten really bad over the last couple of weeks so I decided to end things with the new boyfriend. I realised that I was thinking about my ex not because I wanted to get back together with him but because I didn't end things properly, I have a whole heap of baggage that I need to sort out in my head and I am definately not ready for a relationship! I decided that I need to concentrate on feeling better about myself and spending time with my son. I wasn't having enough time to myself, after spending the whole day with Sam I was trying to work on this new relationship. So to be fair on Gavin I decided to end things. Maybe I could have tried harder, maybe we could have made it work because we got on really well together but to be honest, the sex was DISMAL! I don't want to be cruel and TMI but 10 seconds of sex with a tiny penis is not satisfying and I don't think it would get better over time.

So all things considered I have spent the last three days being completely honest with him, talking through things and letting him down gently. I figure it's like a bandaid, I should rip it now and get it over with. It would be far worse if I had let things spiral out of control and resent him and complicate things more.   We've only been together for TWO MONTHS!

So last night was (from what I thought) the end of things. (We have moved in together, which was a HUGE mistake) I made it perfectly clear (from what I thought) that it was over and we had problems that I didn't feel we were able to overcome, I still had feelings for my ex who happens to be the father of my child, and I didn't think I could overcome the issues in my head if we were still together. I thought I was being fair, honest and straight-up. Gavin seemed like a great, rational upstanding kinda guy.

Well...

He cannot accept it. After four hours of me breaking up with him he asked 'Do you think maybe I should spend more time with my friends to give you a break'. And when breaking up with him a bit more he got to 'Do you think I should stay with some friends for a little while until you sort some things out'. He has repeatedly said that any problems I feel we have, we can overcome and he doesn't mind working things out. He has exhausted every possible avenue and still will not accept that I have ended things. He has gone to stay with friends because he is becoming very clingy and irrational. He has texted me a good 25 times in the past three hours, drove back around to ask if there was anything he could do to make me change my mind and then cried and swore and went mental!

I know it hurts him, but I have Sam to consider and I believe I have done the right thing.

So yeah, sorry this is a huuuuuuuuge novel, but I needed to get it out!

Thanks for reading.. if you still are! ]]> Sat, 29 Mar 2008 23:24:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15796&PID=339023&title=feeling-pretty-bad-tonight#339023