Mum2Lucas wrote: Definitely not a cat fight, people voicing (or in this case typing ) different opinions. No harm intended. As someone mentioned above its a free country - why hold your tongue? ...and when I put in my 2c worth I definitely wasn't singling any of you out. And I agree with Mel above, you shouldn't feel the need to apologize....what's said is said. Is there really any need for it to carry on in this thread?

I beg to differ - I did feel like there was a need to make this post. For my own reasons, but mainly as I needed to get it off my chest. I didnt intend for the controversy to carry on in this thread (and I dont think it is). It wasnt about finger pointing either - but more about my feelings on the matter.

Hehehe Liz - thanks for the song...poor Oli gets to hear it all the time, its one of Mummies standard car songs!

my2angels wrote: hehehe just having a wee giggle remembering some of the 'disagreements' we have had on here.

Hehe so did I

disagreement???

Well I thought it wasn't one either, but I was just saying there have been biggers ones.

Trust me there have been bigger cat fights in the past. I thought that one was quite tame.

So every now and then we all make mistakes, and we say things that are just plain wrong. Its called being human and speaking (or in this case typing) before engaging ones brain.

And the consequences of this – in a public online forum – is that you risk being criticised, slated and judged.

I do however believe that people are entitled to their opinions – obviously in this case it was wrong to voice them, and I along with the other people involved have apologised for this.

It is fine to be “called” out – directly - for your comments, but I don’t think its okay for people to discuss or judge you in another thread, especially not in a b*tchy or catty way. As mentioned before in controversial threads, if you have a problem with someone or something that they have said – take it up with them, don’t trash them in other threads.

It also appears to often be the same people passing judgement that sometimes make controversial statements themselves. Seems a bit hypocritical to me.

I have spent the afternoon stewing on this, trying to decide whether or not to post this, but have decided to risk the backlash and voice my opinion regardless of the consequences.

I have been around OB for a little while now, and although I am not a prolific poster, I would like to think that people who “know” me, know that I am not a nasty person.

Maybe I take some things too seriously, and other things I don’t take seriously enough so again I apologise to anyone that I have offended. I would go and edit the post, but feel that if people want to respond then they have that right.