OHbaby! Forums : Needing motivation! https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 23:05:34 +0000 Mon, 26 May 2008 13:56:23 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=17554 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Needing motivation! : glad you are getting back on track...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=394617&title=needing-motivation#394617 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 17554
Posted: 26 May 2008 at 1:56pm

glad you are getting back on track kellz   

i can't help with motivation....i don't have any myself! charli's cot has been sitting in the lounge for the last week waiting for me to put it on TM, not to mention the 2bxs of clothes that are also sitting there wanting to be on TM.....

my one and only thing would be....if you start something on the list, don't start a new thing before you've finished the first one! i'm such a shocker for that! hence why the kids rooms are only half decorated

once you know which friends you'd like to keep in touch with, i'd flick them an email each, perhaps include a few recent pics of isla and let them know what she's up too and how she's doing.   you don't need to go into too much detail if you don't want too about what you've been going through, but if they are true friends, then they will be completely understanding.

well done hun ]]> Mon, 26 May 2008 13:56:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=394617&title=needing-motivation#394617 <![CDATA[Needing motivation! : If they are truely your friends...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393960&title=needing-motivation#393960 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 17554
Posted: 25 May 2008 at 6:14pm

If they are truely your friends they will understand with what happened and would want to work with you in making things work again. If you be honest with them and tell them the truth then you can only hope they will make the effort too.

If you email them, make sure you email each person by themselves not a group email so that each one is personal to the person.

]]> Sun, 25 May 2008 18:14:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393960&title=needing-motivation#393960 <![CDATA[Needing motivation! : I would just be honest with them....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393751&title=needing-motivation#393751 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 17554
Posted: 25 May 2008 at 1:15pm

I would just be honest with them. If they are the kind of friends you want then they will totally understand.]]> Sun, 25 May 2008 13:15:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393751&title=needing-motivation#393751 <![CDATA[Needing motivation! : Nothing bad has happened,..its...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393705&title=needing-motivation#393705 Author: Kellz
Subject: 17554
Posted: 25 May 2008 at 11:32am

Nothing bad has happened,..its more like I havent kept in contact at all, and they have given up on me. I havent had the emotional strength to deal with much more than survivng everyday live, so Ive been selfish and not the kind of 'giving/caring' friend I usually try to be.

I like the 2 list idea, and making 'make a list' an item on the list to cross off! Thanks!]]> Sun, 25 May 2008 11:32:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393705&title=needing-motivation#393705 <![CDATA[Needing motivation! : I agree with the lists idea. You...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393435&title=needing-motivation#393435 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 17554
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 9:18pm

I agree with the lists idea. You could have two, one with small tasks that are easy to complete and done when you only have a short time to get something done and a list of bigger jobs. You could also put at the top of the list "make a list" so that once the list is done you can mark off your first task, may make you feel like you are getting somewhere.

Regarding the friendships I suppose you need to decide which ones you want to save. Also how honest do you want to be? For some people it may just need a good heart to heart phone call, others it may be best to send a letter explaining what has been going on, why and where you want to go from here - I always think a letter is more personal than an email. Although I don't really know what has gone on (or not) between you and your friends I would hope that if they truely were good friends they would understand what you have been through and help you rebuild the relationship.]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 21:18:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393435&title=needing-motivation#393435 <![CDATA[Needing motivation! : Before I get to thinking about...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393340&title=needing-motivation#393340 Author: HippyMama
Subject: 17554
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 8:19pm

Before I get to thinking about the rebuilding friendships stuff, say if you did get back in touch with some of these people, would you be OK with trying to stay in touch but not seeing them face to face all that often seeing as they aren't close by?

It's a tricky one really, I will ponder it a little more and get back to you if I come up with something useful ]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 20:19:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393340&title=needing-motivation#393340 <![CDATA[Needing motivation! : So how should I start t re-build...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393326&title=needing-motivation#393326 Author: Kellz
Subject: 17554
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 8:12pm

So how should I start t re-build the friendships? These are mostly people that I dont live anywhere near..including my best friend. She emailed me a while back and tho I did reply,..I wasnt up to dealing with all the emotional stuff,..so didnt sort it out like I should have.]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 20:12:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393326&title=needing-motivation#393326 <![CDATA[Needing motivation! : Thanks guys. The trouble with...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393323&title=needing-motivation#393323 Author: Kellz
Subject: 17554
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 8:10pm

Thanks guys. The trouble with lists is I feel even worse when I dont achieve the goals ,..but then Ive always been a chronic procrastinator,..leaving things til the last min,...so maybe I do need Glows foot! ]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 20:10:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393323&title=needing-motivation#393323 <![CDATA[Needing motivation! : Yay for coming out the other side,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393296&title=needing-motivation#393296 Author: Maya
Subject: 17554
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 7:51pm

Yay for coming out the other side, what a great feeling that must be for you! You rock!

I like Glow and Pearls list/timeframe ideas. ]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 19:51:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393296&title=needing-motivation#393296 <![CDATA[Needing motivation! : Yay good on you I&#039;m going...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393274&title=needing-motivation#393274 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 17554
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 7:31pm

Yay good on you

I'm going to agree with everyone else and say make a list, that always helps me when I'm feeling overwhelmed. That way when I'm feeling motivated i look at my list and do whatever I feel I could do.]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 19:31:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393274&title=needing-motivation#393274 <![CDATA[Needing motivation! : yay, you!! No advice from me here...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393130&title=needing-motivation#393130 Author: Andie
Subject: 17554
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 3:21pm

 yay, you!!  No advice from me here but just wanted to say you go, girl

]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 15:21:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393130&title=needing-motivation#393130 <![CDATA[Needing motivation! : I agree with Glow, baby steps!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393076&title=needing-motivation#393076 Author: HippyMama
Subject: 17554
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 1:41pm

I agree with Glow, baby steps! Make a list with timeframes for all the things you have done, and decide which things have top priority, and which things you could leave for a little while longer. Glad to hear you are feeling better too! ]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 13:41:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393076&title=needing-motivation#393076 <![CDATA[Needing motivation! : Just choose 1 thing at a time...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393060&title=needing-motivation#393060 Author: kebakat
Subject: 17554
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 1:17pm

Just choose 1 thing at a time to complete and start with the easy things. Once you get started on your mental list of things to do it will become less daunting once you get some out of the way ]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 13:17:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393060&title=needing-motivation#393060 <![CDATA[Needing motivation! : *BOOT* There&#039;s your kick...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393046&title=needing-motivation#393046 Author: Glow
Subject: 17554
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 12:41pm

*BOOT* There's your kick up the backside

Jokes aside, maybe setting dates to complete the things you "should" do?

Sounds like your slowly getting there anyway, baby steps remember ]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 12:41:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393046&title=needing-motivation#393046 <![CDATA[Needing motivation! : Now that I have pretty much come...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393025&title=needing-motivation#393025 Author: Kellz
Subject: 17554
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 12:08pm

Now that I have pretty much come out the other side after have PND, I feel like I have arrived back from being on holiday from my life.
I have let loads of good friendships slide which is one thing that really bothers me, but I dont know how to fix it really. I have started to sort out other parts of my life a bit,...went on a date with dh last night, finally did out 2006-2007 tax return, rang up to see if I can re-apply for my nursing registration so I can maybe get a job,...
So, does anyone have any pointers on how I can start to feel on top of things again? I feel overwhelemd by all the things I think I should do,..a major spring clean, sell things on TM, decorate Isla's room etc etc ,...so put of starting anything, or only get things half done ]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 12:08:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17554&PID=393025&title=needing-motivation#393025