OHbaby! Forums : Birthday and grandparents https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 09 May 2026 12:08:24 +0000 Sun, 25 May 2008 22:20:55 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=17560 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Birthday and grandparents : I uderstand where you are coming...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=394237&title=birthday-and-grandparents#394237 Author: Kels
Subject: 17560
Posted: 25 May 2008 at 10:20pm

I uderstand where you are coming from Stacey. I never invited my nana (my mums mum) I never see her, she never makes an effort and wouldnt even know my sons name. infact she has only been to one birthday out of all my 3 kids and that was DD1 1st birthday 11yrs ago and she couldnt even bring a pressie.

Heck she hasnt made an effort with you as a grandaughter. Do what makes you and yours happy. Its yours and DH's day to celebrate surviving the first year and Daniels chance to tear into coloured paper lol

]]> Sun, 25 May 2008 22:20:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=394237&title=birthday-and-grandparents#394237 <![CDATA[Birthday and grandparents : You are right Stace I probably...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=394048&title=birthday-and-grandparents#394048 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 17560
Posted: 25 May 2008 at 7:56pm

You are right Stace I probably will know where I am going to, but it good to make sure. Its not like its hard to get to Bulls .

]]> Sun, 25 May 2008 19:56:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=394048&title=birthday-and-grandparents#394048 <![CDATA[Birthday and grandparents : busymum wrote:oo some digging...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=394045&title=birthday-and-grandparents#394045 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 17560
Posted: 25 May 2008 at 7:55pm

Originally posted by busymum busymum wrote:

oo some digging going on there Becks

No not at all, Josh has been invited to Daniel's party as he is a friend of Daniel's. They are close in age and see each other often. Daniel was invited to Josh's party, but he was sick so Stacey and Rich came along by themselves.

]]> Sun, 25 May 2008 19:55:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=394045&title=birthday-and-grandparents#394045 <![CDATA[Birthday and grandparents : oo some digging going on there...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=394012&title=birthday-and-grandparents#394012 Author: busymum
Subject: 17560
Posted: 25 May 2008 at 7:21pm

oo some digging going on there Becks ]]> Sun, 25 May 2008 19:21:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=394012&title=birthday-and-grandparents#394012 <![CDATA[Birthday and grandparents : lol my mummas house is soooooo...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393969&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393969 Author: kebakat
Subject: 17560
Posted: 25 May 2008 at 6:31pm

lol my mummas house is soooooo easy to find. I think you can cope with 1 turn cos thats all it is off the main road I'm going to print out a map for those who don't know where it is so don't worry becks ]]> Sun, 25 May 2008 18:31:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393969&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393969 <![CDATA[Birthday and grandparents : No we don&#039;t want her there...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393956&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393956 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 17560
Posted: 25 May 2008 at 6:06pm

No we don't want her there if she is going to be a pain

And you do need to bring that invite round to me so I know where I am going

]]> Sun, 25 May 2008 18:06:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393956&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393956 <![CDATA[Birthday and grandparents : kebakat wrote: If she had actually...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393818&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393818 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 17560
Posted: 25 May 2008 at 2:53pm

Originally posted by kebakat kebakat wrote:


If she had actually made some sort of effort over the last decade to talk to me then I'd probably feel differently but since she has made none I don't feel that I should HAVE to include her in everything especially since the others aren't going to be there.
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i wouldn't invite her and if she kicks up a stink....tell her exactly the above]]> Sun, 25 May 2008 14:53:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393818&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393818 <![CDATA[Birthday and grandparents : Normally I would have said that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393421&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393421 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 17560
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 9:07pm

Normally I would have said that it was a bit trickier with the party being at your parents place, however as it is your Dad's Mum and he isn't worried about it then I wouldn't invite her if you don't want to. What are the chances of her finding out about the party anyway?
Family, huh, can't live with them, ummm????]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 21:07:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393421&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393421 <![CDATA[Birthday and grandparents : I would just say that it would...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393402&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393402 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 17560
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 8:53pm

I would just say that it would its a first birthday party , and she might find it overwhelming, all those kids running around (even if there isnt a lot of kids, just say there are :-P )

at the end of the day , your son is only ever going to turn one once, you have raised him and bought him to this milestone, therefore its yours and your DH day as much as Daniels, and so YOU deserve to have it the way you want it-if your even questioning whether or not you should have granny there, then theres your answer, so don't .
And if your mum decides to make a song and dance about it , let her , thats her problem ]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 20:53:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393402&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393402 <![CDATA[Birthday and grandparents : lol Teresa, maybe I should tell...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393287&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393287 Author: kebakat
Subject: 17560
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 7:40pm

lol Teresa, maybe I should tell mum that ]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 19:40:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393287&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393287 <![CDATA[Birthday and grandparents : If she had any sense, she&#039;d...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393281&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393281 Author: busymum
Subject: 17560
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 7:36pm

If she had any sense, she'd respond well to "I just want to keep it small". Geez, we didn't even invite our own parents to any birthdays so far ]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 19:36:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393281&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393281 <![CDATA[Birthday and grandparents : Ordinarily I&#039;d say you&#039;re...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393264&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393264 Author: Maya
Subject: 17560
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 7:23pm

Ordinarily I'd say you're being a big meanie and you should let her come BUT if she hasn't made the effort to keep up with you and how Daniel is gettiing on, then I say go on, be a meanie!

My Dad has two sisters and a brother in Auckland, yet I tell everyone I have no family here coz I might as well not. The only time I ever see them is when Dad is here, I never get invited to family get togethers and they all came to visit in hospital after I had the girls just so they could ogle the "half caste" babies so I can't be bothered with them at all. Dad is always saying "oh you should ring them and go and visit" but I'm inclined to think it's a two way street and they are stuck in some back alley.]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 19:23:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393264&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393264 <![CDATA[Birthday and grandparents : If having her there is only going...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393222&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393222 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 17560
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 6:31pm

If having her there is only going to annoy you then don't invite her.
Kids birthday parties stressful enough, and you don't need anything added to it.

Say its a kids only party or something and you want to keep it small.]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 18:31:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393222&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393222 <![CDATA[Birthday and grandparents : At least she wants to be there...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393216&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393216 Author: MissAngel
Subject: 17560
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 6:13pm

At least she wants to be there I guess? But stick to your guns, if the others arent coming, then dont have her cuz the others will feel stink if they find out that she came and they didnt. Makes it fair all round. I'd be the same.]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 18:13:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393216&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393216 <![CDATA[Birthday and grandparents : My DH would rather she wasn&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393181&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393181 Author: kebakat
Subject: 17560
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 5:08pm

My DH would rather she wasn't there lol

My Dad doesn't care if shes not invited and she's his mother!

If she had actually made some sort of effort over the last decade to talk to me then I'd probably feel differently but since she has made none I don't feel that I should HAVE to include her in everything especially since the others aren't going to be there.

As a side note, the only reason she came to our wedding was that my uncle (her son) basically forced her to. ]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 17:08:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393181&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393181 <![CDATA[Birthday and grandparents : I think that great-grandkids must...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393176&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393176 Author: Brenna
Subject: 17560
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 5:01pm

I think that great-grandkids must be amazing for our grandparents and would therefore include them in the 'immediate family' group when inviting people to my childs 1st birthday party.

Your situation sounds a bit tricky though...what will be worse:
1. having you gran there for the day
2. having your mum there and her being weird cause you didn't invite your gran? (not saying your mum's going to do that, but just a possible example)

What does your DH think?]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 17:01:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393176&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393176 <![CDATA[Birthday and grandparents : We are having a birthday party...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393173&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393173 Author: kebakat
Subject: 17560
Posted: 24 May 2008 at 4:50pm

We are having a birthday party thing for Daniels 1st. We are having it at my mummas house because she has loads of space which is good since its coming up to winter and will probably be a crappy day..

We aren't inviting loads of people because it just becomes more and more expensive with food and I can't be bothered with a massive thing so we are only having immediate family and a couple of friends.

So then I have a phone call with my mum that went like this:

Mum: Is grandma invited?
Me: No
Mum: Why not? What am I meant to tell her?
Me: Nothing, why does she need to know its on and if she asks you can tell her that Rich's grandparents aren't invited, nana and grandad (mums parents) aren't coming either so why should she be the only one to come?
Mum: You know she's going to make a song and dance over it
Me: Then let her

See, I don't have a fabulous relationship with my Grandma. Since I moved out of home (at 17 - 6 years ago) the only time I have seen her is on my wedding day and when mum bought her over to meet Daniel. She apparently moans that I never go see her. She didn't care less if she saw me before Daniel arrived so I don't see why I suddenly have to make a big effort to go see her when she is perfectly capable of driving herself and when she doesn't want to see me at all, she just wants to see Daniel - which does piss me off. Like before our wedding I hadn't seen or heard from her in 3 yrs even though she's not far away (20 mins). She also compares me to my cousin who was born a few days after me and everything I do is never as good as my cousins and she lets me know about it constantly.

I also want his birthday to be a fun ocassion and with her around she would just irritate the heck out of me.

My mum now thinks that I should be inviting grandma if she kicks up a stink about it.

I'm sticking to my guns on this.. but do you think I'm being a big fat meanie for saying no she can't come?

I really don't see why I should be inviting her over the other grandparents. But if I invite the others then my aunts/uncles et will all expect to come and this party is suddenly a huge affair!

Edited by kebakat]]> Sat, 24 May 2008 16:50:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17560&PID=393173&title=birthday-and-grandparents#393173