https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 04 Apr 2026 17:26:51 +0000 Fri, 17 Mar 2006 12:00:44 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=1772 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=33756&title=single-mumtobe#33756 Author: skirts
Subject: 1772
Posted: 17 March 2006 at 12:00pm

Hey, Im a single mum to my daugher Summer (two) and just wanted to say Im here if ya need me too, and the girls on here are great! :-)

Theres an organisation in wellington called birthright dont know if they're down there, they're more for the kids of single parent families but might be worth looking into, otherwise there may be a few forums on the msn groups for single parents, dont think i've actually looked though, oops!]]> Fri, 17 Mar 2006 12:00:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=33756&title=single-mumtobe#33756 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=33453&title=single-mumtobe#33453 Author: robyn
Subject: 1772
Posted: 15 March 2006 at 7:44pm

what area of chch do you live in?]]> Wed, 15 Mar 2006 19:44:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=33453&title=single-mumtobe#33453 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=33431&title=single-mumtobe#33431 Author: james
Subject: 1772
Posted: 15 March 2006 at 6:40pm

yeah heres the only onei no off and the girls r wicked will help u with anything u want/need advice on ]]> Wed, 15 Mar 2006 18:40:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=33431&title=single-mumtobe#33431 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=33370&title=single-mumtobe#33370 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 1772
Posted: 15 March 2006 at 3:14pm

Here! ]]> Wed, 15 Mar 2006 15:14:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=33370&title=single-mumtobe#33370 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=33288&title=single-mumtobe#33288 Author: ange221
Subject: 1772
Posted: 15 March 2006 at 10:26am

Thanks for all your messages of support.

I have my parents and sister here in Christchurch for support and a couple of friends so I do have a support base.

I am certainly glad I left but it still hurts. I am 34 and it is my first baby and after trying for 2 years in my late 20's to get pregnant and then trying for another 8 months this time round (ended up having surgery) to finally be pregnant was a very emotional experience. I really want this baby and may never get another chance to have children so the baby really is a gift.

Does anyone know of any support groups for single mums?

Take Care

Ange]]> Wed, 15 Mar 2006 10:26:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=33288&title=single-mumtobe#33288 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=33051&title=single-mumtobe#33051 Author: lenabeanz
Subject: 1772
Posted: 14 March 2006 at 10:37am

Forgot to say

*HUGS* *HUGS*]]> Tue, 14 Mar 2006 10:37:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=33051&title=single-mumtobe#33051 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=33050&title=single-mumtobe#33050 Author: lenabeanz
Subject: 1772
Posted: 14 March 2006 at 10:36am

I did this HUGE post when you first did this topic and then my internet crashed on me (joys of country life!)

Anyway the gist (or jist!) of what I said is my ex best mate has a 10 month old daughter, has been in an abusive relationship since the start (emotional then when bub was born physical) - the police have been involved but "Bob" (my ex mate - false name!) backed her bf up even though he was on P as well... Has lost all her friends, only has one now and I think that is because she is doing P as well..
Anyway "BOB" is no where near the person she was - a result of what is happening to her.

WELL DONE on leaving! People will say to you "bubs needs a dad" but what you need is people who love and care about you and will be there for you. Support from other people is better then a dad / partner who "doesn't care" - Later on you will meet someone else who will love bub as their own... There is hope out there and all the best!!

Sorry about the mini novel.. I just have a strong despise for abusive partners!! ]]> Tue, 14 Mar 2006 10:36:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=33050&title=single-mumtobe#33050 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=33039&title=single-mumtobe#33039 Author: Roksana
Subject: 1772
Posted: 14 March 2006 at 10:07am

you are very brave......Good on you for putting your baby and yourself first. I was never in your position so cant comment but ....

You will be just fine!!]]> Tue, 14 Mar 2006 10:07:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=33039&title=single-mumtobe#33039 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=32776&title=single-mumtobe#32776 Author: robyn
Subject: 1772
Posted: 12 March 2006 at 7:58pm

Hey Ange
Good on you for leaving. I havent been in an abusive relationship but come from one and my earliest memories are not pleasant, you have definately done the best thing for your bubs. Do you know people in chch? Thats where I live if you ever want to chat pm me. ]]> Sun, 12 Mar 2006 19:58:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=32776&title=single-mumtobe#32776 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=32757&title=single-mumtobe#32757 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 1772
Posted: 12 March 2006 at 5:29pm

Hey Ange,

Good stuff for getting out before it is too late. You have just given your babe the best start in life well before he/she is born!

I'm a single Mum as well to Hannah (16 months) and have never had the father involved (Have no idea where he is). At times it is a lot to cope with but definitely do-able.

And there is a great big chance that you'll find someone new to love your babe and you.

Big hugs and congratulations on the pregnancy. May it go very well for ya!]]> Sun, 12 Mar 2006 17:29:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=32757&title=single-mumtobe#32757 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=32675&title=single-mumtobe#32675 Author: k&jsmum
Subject: 1772
Posted: 11 March 2006 at 10:04pm

Hey there Chicky
All I can say is good on you.   I was in a physically and mentally abusive relationship with my ex and fell preggers to him. Unlike you though I didnt have the strength to leave him until after my boys were born even thou I caught him naked in the shower with a woman and he assaulted me putting me in hosp and bringing on the early arrival of my boys. I was so scared of having two babies on my own.
So I have been raising my boys on my own with the last contact from their dad being nov 04. Sometimes I really hate him for chosing to not be apart of their lives but mostly I am glad that he just leaves us alone.

Anyway I used to be really embarrassed about how I let him treat me and ultimately our unborn babes but now I am proud that I have become strong and no longer let him control me or affect my boys.
You be proud that have the courage to walk away from him. Hold your head up high and be strong ]]> Sat, 11 Mar 2006 22:04:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=32675&title=single-mumtobe#32675 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=32616&title=single-mumtobe#32616 Author: netballgirl4
Subject: 1772
Posted: 11 March 2006 at 4:03pm

go u my dad abusive my mum when us kids were little and she did know how to leave him and when i was like 9 she finaly (sp? sorry mummys brain) left you are doing the rite thing for u and bubs just pm me if u want to talk more do u have family in cc?]]> Sat, 11 Mar 2006 16:03:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=32616&title=single-mumtobe#32616 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=32610&title=single-mumtobe#32610 Author: james
Subject: 1772
Posted: 11 March 2006 at 3:51pm

oh hunny i was on the road u r onand now have a 9 month old cuddly boy named james if u want to talk just pm me and i,ll get back to ya (not physical abuse but mental)oh and one more thing u are very brave to put your self and bubs before anything eles ]]> Sat, 11 Mar 2006 15:51:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=32610&title=single-mumtobe#32610 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=32603&title=single-mumtobe#32603 Author: jax
Subject: 1772
Posted: 11 March 2006 at 3:33pm

First of all... I know this is random and I'm virtually a stranger BUT... you deserve a great big hug !!

I can't say I've been in your exact situation with the pregnancy being a part of it, but I know what it's like to be in an abusive relationship and the struggle to put yourself first and get out. For me it wasn't physical, so don't panic ladies, but *any* kind of abuse is unacceptable and I really can empathise with that.

Anyway Ange, just thought I'd put my two cents in and say you've come to a great place, lots of wonderful ladies here and I know there are definitely a few single mums around... whether or not they can relate to your situation I'm not sure.

In the meantime though, if you want to PM me go right ahead, or if you want to chat on MSN Messenger, add me as: jacqueline_doyon@hotmail.com ok? I am happy to listen / offer support if you need it !!

One more hug for the road... ]]> Sat, 11 Mar 2006 15:33:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=32603&title=single-mumtobe#32603 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=32594&title=single-mumtobe#32594 Author: ange221
Subject: 1772
Posted: 11 March 2006 at 2:01pm

Hi Everyone,

I'm new to this website, 11 weeks pregnant and have just left my partner in Auckland and moved back to Christchurch.

It has been an awful lot to cope with being pregnant and having the guts to put myself and the baby first and then moving. I figured it was probably better being on my own than being with someone who is physically and mentally abusive.

Would love to chat with anyone else in a similar situation.

Ange]]> Sat, 11 Mar 2006 14:01:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1772&PID=32594&title=single-mumtobe#32594