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OHbaby! Forums : No Title For Him https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 09 Apr 2026 19:14:28 +0000 Tue, 10 Jun 2008 20:44:44 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=17721 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[No Title For Him : OMG Kandice what an arse and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=409360&title=no-title-for-him#409360 Author: Bubbaloo
Subject: 17721
Posted: 10 June 2008 at 8:44pm

OMG Kandice what an arse

and as the others have said your family is way better of without him.]]> Tue, 10 Jun 2008 20:44:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=409360&title=no-title-for-him#409360 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : Im so sorry Kandice, he doesnt...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=408680&title=no-title-for-him#408680 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 17721
Posted: 10 June 2008 at 12:54pm

Im so sorry Kandice, he doesnt have any right to treat you like this .....I would do what mel suggests, or can you get numbers blocked on your cell? ]]> Tue, 10 Jun 2008 12:54:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=408680&title=no-title-for-him#408680 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : He is the one missing out not...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=408581&title=no-title-for-him#408581 Author: nictoddie
Subject: 17721
Posted: 10 June 2008 at 11:32am

He is the one missing out not only has he missed out watching you grow into be wonderful loving person he is missing out further on seeing your beautiful daughter .......... his grand daughter ....... go into one, ignore him he will go away and big hugs to you.]]> Tue, 10 Jun 2008 11:32:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=408581&title=no-title-for-him#408581 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : He's just trying to beat...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=408528&title=no-title-for-him#408528 Author: .Mel
Subject: 17721
Posted: 10 June 2008 at 10:44am

He's just trying to beat you down Kandice. Get a new sim card. It's the one way you are going to get any peace.

Dont continue texting him.]]> Tue, 10 Jun 2008 10:44:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=408528&title=no-title-for-him#408528 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : Arrrg, i really wish i didnt bother....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=408481&title=no-title-for-him#408481 Author: MissCandice
Subject: 17721
Posted: 10 June 2008 at 10:03am

Arrrg, i really wish i didnt bother. He just said to me hes got all he wants out of life, and to enjoy my life and stay outta his.

Think im going to go change my phone number.

]]> Tue, 10 Jun 2008 10:03:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=408481&title=no-title-for-him#408481 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : This sounds like a really awful...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=408463&title=no-title-for-him#408463 Author: surfergirl
Subject: 17721
Posted: 10 June 2008 at 9:51am

This sounds like a really awful time for you, and the fact that it keeps on coming must be upsetting.
Just a suggestion...I wonder if texting is the best way to communicate, simply because things can be 'misheard' becuase there is no 'tone' - so if you are feeling hurt/anngry/upset (as you have a right to be) you read if differently than if you were feeling happy/neutral/blissful.
It's just a suggestion...big, big hugs for having to go through this. Maybe a 'real' conversation will allow you to close the door (if that's what you want) once and for all.

]]> Tue, 10 Jun 2008 09:51:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=408463&title=no-title-for-him#408463 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : What a b@stard. I'd just...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=408436&title=no-title-for-him#408436 Author: caraMel
Subject: 17721
Posted: 10 June 2008 at 9:32am

What a b@stard.
I'd just ignore him, to me that just sounds like he's trying to wind you up or upset you.

Don't you let him!]]> Tue, 10 Jun 2008 09:32:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=408436&title=no-title-for-him#408436 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : I just recieved a text from him...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=408415&title=no-title-for-him#408415 Author: MissCandice
Subject: 17721
Posted: 10 June 2008 at 9:19am

I just recieved a text from him that really upset me!

it goes 'So is there something i can help u or your new adition to the human race with or did you just contact me cos you can'

Shes my fricken daughter!

What can i say to make him go away, i really regret contacting him and now i want him to stop texting me, its just getting worse]]> Tue, 10 Jun 2008 09:19:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=408415&title=no-title-for-him#408415 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : Aw Kandice that sounds awful!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398731&title=no-title-for-him#398731 Author: Jennz
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 11:59pm

Aw Kandice that sounds awful! I agree with what everyone else has said- you're better off without that kind of person in your life, as is your precious wee girl.

I can still imagine it hurts though

What a total utter prat.]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 23:59:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398731&title=no-title-for-him#398731 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : what an arse!!as the other ladies...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398656&title=no-title-for-him#398656 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 9:59pm

what an arse!! as the other ladies have said, you and your gorgeous girl are so much better off without him in your life. he's the parent here but he's being so childish!

]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 21:59:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398656&title=no-title-for-him#398656 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : Big sweetie. What a bitter,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398600&title=no-title-for-him#398600 Author: mummyofprinces
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 9:30pm

Big

sweetie.

What a bitter, childish man.]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 21:30:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398600&title=no-title-for-him#398600 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : Kandice ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398585&title=no-title-for-him#398585 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 9:22pm

Kandice ]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 21:22:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398585&title=no-title-for-him#398585 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : Hug Kandise. I think you are doing...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398519&title=no-title-for-him#398519 Author: Jessica
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 8:57pm

Hug Kandise. I think you are doing well without him, I just don't think he sounds like he is orth the stress. ]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 20:57:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398519&title=no-title-for-him#398519 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : As much as it must hurt you, because...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398431&title=no-title-for-him#398431 Author: Andie
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 8:04pm

As much as it must hurt you, because loser Dads always hurt people, this is his loss - he's missing out on so much all because he can't be a grown-up. It's not fair when people have to parent their own parents!

]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 20:04:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398431&title=no-title-for-him#398431 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : Hi, Big hugs to you. I've...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398204&title=no-title-for-him#398204 Author: sadie
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 5:01pm

Hi,

Big hugs to you.

I've been through similar things with my father, and thus have had extremely minimal contact with him for 15 years. My sister sent him an email alerting him to the fact he had a grandson, and his response was that he knew, and why was he not mentioned in the birth notice?!

Anyway, I came to the conclusion a long time ago that it was not worth me expending any time or energy in caring what he thought as I did not need him in my life. Since then I have not looked back.

I have three half siblings. I waited until the eldest was 16 and then have made contact with her so we are friends now. Perhaps you could do the same when your half sister is old enough.

I hope things pick up for you xx]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 17:01:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398204&title=no-title-for-him#398204 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : aww Kandice, im so angry at your...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398144&title=no-title-for-him#398144 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 3:56pm

aww Kandice, im so angry at your father, I wish i knew where he was so i could tell him a thing or two...But then what would be the point? hes clearly rewritten history so that hes the victim, of course his daughter would say hes a good father, she obviously doesnt know the whole truth about him.

But all i can say again is, its his loss, his loss that he doesnt get to know you or your beautiful little girlm your such a kindhearted lovely girl on here and WE all appreciate you, so if the man who is supposed to be your biggest supporter, is too much of an idiot to do that,then he deserves a little bit of your scorn , a little bit of your pity....and then no more, for he is not worthy of you.

Im so sorry hes let you down tho hun, its just not fair

]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 15:56:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398144&title=no-title-for-him#398144 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : Me too! Have a dad like that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398120&title=no-title-for-him#398120 Author: newmum
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 3:35pm

Me too! Have a dad like that and even though you tell yourself you're better off without them I still deep down wish I had his love and acceptance.

My dad has at least been a wee bit better since I had my kids...

HUGS to you!! ]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 15:35:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398120&title=no-title-for-him#398120 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : I've been there with my Dad...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398115&title=no-title-for-him#398115 Author: Bel
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 3:25pm

[QUOTE=caraMel] I've been there with my Dad too Kandice.. Over the years I reached out to him many times and was rejected and hurt again. Its only in the last couple of years that I've made peace with all the pain it caused me and the feelings of "why wasn't I good enough for you?". /QUOTE]

I have been there too - I don't know why we end up with these fathers who aren't prepared to be there... My father knows I have Luke, but has never seen him, sent a card or anything. Now I don't want to see him, but somehow still feel like he could make the effort.

I think the most important thing to realise in all this is that althought you are now grown up he is still the GROWNUP and you are his CHILD... don't try again if you don't want to.

Hugs Kandice

]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 15:25:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398115&title=no-title-for-him#398115 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : I've been there with my Dad...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398016&title=no-title-for-him#398016 Author: caraMel
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 1:50pm

I've been there with my Dad too Kandice.. Over the years I reached out to him many times and was rejected and hurt again. Its only in the last couple of years that I've made peace with all the pain it caused me and the feelings of "why wasn't I good enough for you?".
Its horrible what your dad said to you hun, and you don't deserve that at all. No matter how old you get it still hurts so much xxx]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 13:50:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=398016&title=no-title-for-him#398016 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : Thats really sad, and I am really...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397896&title=no-title-for-him#397896 Author: Jay_R
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 11:49am

Thats really sad, and I am really sorry for you

Despite trying to tell ourselves otherwise, I think there is a little bit in all of us who grew up without a dad who really wishes they'd been able to be daddy's little girl. I know I sure do. And when you've made that leap to try and connect with your dad and he does something like this, well I can totally empathise with how broken hearted you must be feeling right now.

Big hugs to you

]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 11:49:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397896&title=no-title-for-him#397896 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : Urrrg he just replied again saying...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397892&title=no-title-for-him#397892 Author: MissCandice
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 11:45am

Urrrg he just replied again saying that my mum is a liar and that she is the reason he is like this and that i have a screwed up brother and that its been 26 years and only 2 drink driving charges and goes on to say 'wow thats serious' and that he lost intrest in trying to be a father to me and why contact him now, and to ask his now 9 year old daughter if hes a good father, frick thats childish!!
I wish i never bothered!

Edited by KylahsMum]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 11:45:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397892&title=no-title-for-him#397892 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : Oh forgot one of these and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397860&title=no-title-for-him#397860 Author: my4beauties
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 11:23am

Oh forgot one of these

and here's another, cos you soo don't deserve that sort of treatment!

]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 11:23:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397860&title=no-title-for-him#397860 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : Wow. What a prat. He sounds...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397853&title=no-title-for-him#397853 Author: my4beauties
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 11:21am

Wow.

What a prat.

He sounds like he's the childish one. That was nice of you to let him know about your daughter, how does that make you "childish"?

Sorry hun that you got that response, really harsh on his part and totally insensitive. He should (if he was a real man) see that you made contact for a reason, not to be shat on. Try not to be envious of how he is with his other daughter, as clearly he's NOT the dad she maybe thinks he is, to respond to his older daughter like that.]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 11:21:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397853&title=no-title-for-him#397853 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : Thanks guys, i cried just reading...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397851&title=no-title-for-him#397851 Author: MissCandice
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 11:21am

Thanks guys, i cried just reading all your posts.
I dont know the words to descibe him. I text him back after that but havent heard anything and hope i dont. I told him to delete my number. I wont be trying anything further, he had a chance. More than i should have given him. Sometimes i wonder what his other daughter look like now, i mean shes my sister.. A sister iv never had a chance to know.

Grrr i hate him so much!]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 11:21:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397851&title=no-title-for-him#397851 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : Aw Kandice. I don't know...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397844&title=no-title-for-him#397844 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 11:15am

Aw Kandice. I don't know what to say!

That was a really horrible text to send you. HE is the parent! HE should be the one building bridges yet obviously he is leaving it to you.

I'm continually disappointed with adults. Craziness.

So I guess you have two options... try and be the bigger person and maybe call him and explain your feelings and potentially give him a chance to redeem himself (which may very well result in more disappointment), or write him off completely?]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 11:15:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397844&title=no-title-for-him#397844 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : MrsMojo wrote: You're...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397843&title=no-title-for-him#397843 Author: Maya
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 11:15am

MrsMojo wrote:

What she said! So damn sensible is our Mojo!]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 11:15:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397843&title=no-title-for-him#397843 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : sucks huh? you can't chose...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397812&title=no-title-for-him#397812 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 10:52am

sucks huh? you can't chose your family , some of us get awesome parents, some of us get really crap deals.
Concentrate on your family , your DF and little Kylah, if he doesnt want to know you or his daughter and isnt prepared to be the adult and be the father, thats his loss, and one that he will have to live with.

He doesnt deserve you and Kylah quite frankly , but i know it doesnt make it hurt any less .

]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 10:52:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397812&title=no-title-for-him#397812 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : Aw hun thats horrible. Im sorry! You...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397810&title=no-title-for-him#397810 Author: MelanieAndBree
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 10:52am

Aw hun thats horrible. Im sorry!

You are obviously better off without him in your life. Still, i know it must be hard huh.

Hugs for you.

]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 10:52:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397810&title=no-title-for-him#397810 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : You're the lovely person...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397807&title=no-title-for-him#397807 Author: MrsMojo
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 10:49am

You're the lovely person you are today in part because of not having him in your life.

You have a beautiful little girl and if he doesn't want to know her or you it's his loss - not yours and not Kylah's.

It sounds like he still hasn't grown up, please don't let that get you down.. some people never do and there's nothing you can do about it.

RE: His other daughter don't feel jealous that you missed out on him as a father, just because they seemed happy shopping at Christmastime doesn't mean all's fine and dandy. People are really good at putting up appearances in public. Remember the type of man that drinks and drives with kids in the car is not the type of man you want your child around.]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 10:49:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397807&title=no-title-for-him#397807 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : Hugs Kandice, now *I'm* crying! That...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397805&title=no-title-for-him#397805 Author: Maya
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 10:48am

Hugs Kandice, now *I'm* crying!

That sucks! At the risk of sounding cliched, it does sound like you are better off without him. Doesn't make the hurt any less I bet

]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 10:48:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397805&title=no-title-for-him#397805 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : Big hugs for you darl. That...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397803&title=no-title-for-him#397803 Author: BuzzyBee
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 10:47am

Big hugs for you darl.

That is so harsh & cold of your father to do that. Totally not worth your time & sounds like you are better off without him.

Take Care
xx]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 10:47:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397803&title=no-title-for-him#397803 <![CDATA[No Title For Him : My father I was bored at work...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397792&title=no-title-for-him#397792 Author: MissCandice
Subject: 17721
Posted: 29 May 2008 at 10:44am

My father

I was bored at work the other day so randomly typed in his name, wow, i had a contact number for him.

Its been 8 years since i have spoken to him. He turned up at my house with his baby girl in the car with a bottle of bourbon between his legs. He was drinking while driving with her in the pasenger seat. Should would have been no more than Kylahs age.
I left and changed my phone number and never spoke to him again. He had never bothered to play a part in my life and the only part he did play was when he wanted Esomething.

Before that i was 4. He walked out on us and i didnt see him again untill i was 14.

Back to the story. I text him. I said 'Hey, I thought you'd like to know you have a 9 month old grandaughter'. No reply until today.

'I can tell by the atatude nothings changed. U would probely stil play hide n seek if i came 2 c u. U chose not 2 know me. Have a nice life and Goodbye'

Written exactly how he wrote it. I was friggn 4! Isnt that a kids game for that age! How can someone thats supposed to be your father be so god dam cold!

Why did i bother, why do i care? I dont know i just do.

I seen him about 2 years ago, at a mall with his daughter. Walking around looking for chistmas presents. It hurt so bad because he was never a father to me but heres this little girl getting what i should have got, a father who cared. A father who bothered to spend 5 minutes with me.

I hate him, and i will now never forgive him

Sorry rant over.

Edited: Because through the tears i couldnt spell properly :

Edited by KylahsMum]]> Thu, 29 May 2008 10:44:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17721&PID=397792&title=no-title-for-him#397792