OHbaby! Forums : I cannot believe... https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 09 Apr 2026 13:11:23 +0000 Mon, 09 Jun 2008 10:35:59 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=18038 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Yay...Good on you for sticking...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407450&title=i-cannot-believe#407450 Author: Roksana
Subject: 18038
Posted: 09 June 2008 at 10:35am

Yay...Good on you for sticking to your guns. I cant believe that Willie would do this to his daughter, his 3 other daughters and his very beautiful pregnant wife.

You dont need this stress hun. So hope you can relax now that they both know where they stand.

]]> Mon, 09 Jun 2008 10:35:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407450&title=i-cannot-believe#407450 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Yeah I would stick to my guns,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407374&title=i-cannot-believe#407374 Author: Peace
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 10:21pm

Yeah I would stick to my guns, I pay the goddam rent so my fricken house! It is basically illegal for her to smoke as well so him feeding her ciggy's is a million times worse. Oh Willy, you silly male.]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 22:21:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407374&title=i-cannot-believe#407374 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Aww Emma Thats a horrible situation...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407339&title=i-cannot-believe#407339 Author: WestiesGirl
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 8:49pm

Aww Emma Thats a horrible situation to be in. But totally agree with you, so stick to your guns. I was smoking at 15 too but didnt smoke around my parents until I was about 19 because I felt disgusted about it (both my parents are non-smokers)

On another note, last Tuesday Dh and I had hypnosis to stop the dirty habit and we've been smoke free since

All the best Emma, I hope she realises the terrible effects it will eventually have on her and her loved ones. ]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 20:49:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407339&title=i-cannot-believe#407339 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Id be pissed as well he should...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407313&title=i-cannot-believe#407313 Author: WRXnKids
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 8:33pm

Id be pissed as well he should have told u he was supplying her smokes as well but since she is his daughter its up to him. He should at least make her work her ass off around the house for the smokes and even then she can only smoke outside and NEVER let the other children see her as part of the conditions. At 15 i woulda quit after 1 day of chores i woulda been too lazy to keep it up if i had to work for it. ]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 20:33:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407313&title=i-cannot-believe#407313 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Well she didn&#039;t have a smoke...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407307&title=i-cannot-believe#407307 Author: Maya
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 8:32pm

Well she didn't have a smoke on her walk coz Willie took them off her after I screamed at him. He's spent the rest of the night in the spare room sulking but i suspect he's more annoyed that he knows he's wrong rather than anything else.

As for Mona, well she must know not to push her luck coz she is in the kitchen cleaning up...]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 20:32:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407307&title=i-cannot-believe#407307 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Emma - that totally sucks, you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407305&title=i-cannot-believe#407305 Author: emachan
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 8:30pm

Emma - that totally sucks, you are trying to help her not have a disgusting addiction and Willie does that!! I guess its just his way of not having to 'deal' with it - but man, he SHOULDN'T be supplying her with cigarettes!!
Make sure you make your point really clear - cos who knows, maybe he'll start letting Maya smoke too, which is totally unacceptable!!
*hugs* hope you sort this out soon!]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 20:30:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407305&title=i-cannot-believe#407305 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Woah, that is so bad. Why doesn&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407248&title=i-cannot-believe#407248 Author: lizzle
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 7:10pm

Woah, that is so bad. Why doesn't he give her a 6-pack to take on her "walk" as well?]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 19:10:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407248&title=i-cannot-believe#407248 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Hope Kelly(caitlynsmygirl) will...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407234&title=i-cannot-believe#407234 Author: susieq
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:53pm

Hope Kelly(caitlynsmygirl) will give up when she has a BFP one day soon too]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 18:53:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407234&title=i-cannot-believe#407234 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Wow, there&#039;s NO WAY my parents...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407216&title=i-cannot-believe#407216 Author: minik8e
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:35pm

Wow, there's NO WAY my parents would have supplied me with smokes (knowingly anyway...*sigh* I loved those days when you could buy cartons....). I completely agree with you on this, and that is speaking as a smoker (DF and I have agreed we will give up when we get our BFP). Especially with other young children around.]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 18:35:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407216&title=i-cannot-believe#407216 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : I&#039;m with you Emma - and as...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407214&title=i-cannot-believe#407214 Author: Tiff
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:33pm

I'm with you Emma - and as far as I'm concerned, Willie is helping his daughter to ruin her health (and her looks - smoking is way bad for your skin and teeth - esp if you start that young)!!]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 18:33:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407214&title=i-cannot-believe#407214 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : KylahsMum wrote:Hmmmm tough...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407201&title=i-cannot-believe#407201 Author: Maya
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:20pm

Originally posted by KylahsMum KylahsMum wrote:

Hmmmm tough one. I know shes not your daughter, but even if you dont let her smoke there shes still going to smoke anyway.



Yup, I totally get that, but I am certainly not going to encourage it coz then what right will I have to tell Maya not to smoke, and at what age?]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 18:20:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407201&title=i-cannot-believe#407201 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : pepsi wrote: See if I looked...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407200&title=i-cannot-believe#407200 Author: Maya
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:19pm

Originally posted by pepsi pepsi wrote:





See if I looked THAT cool smoking, I might never have given up ]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 18:19:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407200&title=i-cannot-believe#407200 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : WTF?? How can he argue that it...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407199&title=i-cannot-believe#407199 Author: caraMel
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:18pm

WTF?? How can he argue that it is ok for him to be supplying cigarettes for her?
I would be just as mad Emma, good on you for sticking to your guns. There is no way that would be happening in my house, around my kids either. (And I'm an ex-teen-smoker too, lol, how things change eh?)]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 18:18:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407199&title=i-cannot-believe#407199 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Man I cannot begin to imagine...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407196&title=i-cannot-believe#407196 Author: pepsi
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:17pm

Man I cannot begin to imagine the stress of living in your situation right now while trying to "take it easy" before the baby arrives..

And yeah, encouraging smoking is so not cool..

]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 18:17:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407196&title=i-cannot-believe#407196 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Hmmmm tough one. I know shes not...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407195&title=i-cannot-believe#407195 Author: MissCandice
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:17pm

Hmmmm tough one. I know shes not your daughter, but even if you dont let her smoke there shes still going to smoke anyway.

My mum let me smoke at 15 because i was going to do it behind her back if she said no anyway. She would rather me do it at home than walk the streets to do it without her knowing..

Not saying that you have to let her, i think you should stand your ground, my mum was FAR to soft on us kids..]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 18:17:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407195&title=i-cannot-believe#407195 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : argh Emma ! im so mad for you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407191&title=i-cannot-believe#407191 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:13pm

argh Emma ! im so mad for you !!!!! (*)*)(&E$*(W&*(W&*(W&*(&EWE*(&E(WE&(WE& that was lots of angry swear words , to convey how angry i am,how unfair of both of them .
Bet she thinks she looks real cool too. ]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 18:13:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407191&title=i-cannot-believe#407191 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : minik8e wrote:Errrrm...how...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407189&title=i-cannot-believe#407189 Author: Maya
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:09pm

Originally posted by minik8e minik8e wrote:

Errrrm...how is she getting the smokes??!!??


From him! ]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 18:09:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407189&title=i-cannot-believe#407189 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Errrrm...how is she getting the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407186&title=i-cannot-believe#407186 Author: minik8e
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:02pm

Errrrm...how is she getting the smokes??!!?? Even I get ID'd at 24 nowadays!!! Seriously, that's not good. Mum and Dad knew I smoked but I never smoked at home until it was legal for me to buy them....and even then it felt seriously strange (I wasn't living at home)...and I didn't before then because I wasn't allowed. That's seriously disrespectful, and Willie really shouldn't be taking the course he is re. the chores etc either because that's basically undermining your authority.]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 18:02:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407186&title=i-cannot-believe#407186 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Stick to your guns Emma! There...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407178&title=i-cannot-believe#407178 Author: Paws
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:57pm

Stick to your guns Emma! There is no way a 15 year smoking is cool, especially around the girls and an impressionable 5 year old!]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 17:57:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407178&title=i-cannot-believe#407178 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Even now at 26 I still don&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407177&title=i-cannot-believe#407177 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:57pm

Even now at 26 I still don't smoke around my parents .

He does need one hell of a kick up the arse to sort that one out.

]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 17:57:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407177&title=i-cannot-believe#407177 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Whatever you decide to do, make...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407174&title=i-cannot-believe#407174 Author: .Mel
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:54pm

Whatever you decide to do, make sure that he knows hes farked up big time! ]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 17:54:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407174&title=i-cannot-believe#407174 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Oh I am soooo not dealing with...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407170&title=i-cannot-believe#407170 Author: Maya
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:52pm

Oh I am soooo not dealing with her! She is HIS daughter!]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 17:52:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407170&title=i-cannot-believe#407170 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Drag her arse in to the spare...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407163&title=i-cannot-believe#407163 Author: .Mel
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:48pm

Drag her arse in to the spare room when she gets home and tell the pair of them off! Oh I'm hopping mad for you too!

]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 17:48:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407163&title=i-cannot-believe#407163 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : He&#039;s hiding in the spare...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407153&title=i-cannot-believe#407153 Author: Maya
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:44pm

He's hiding in the spare room coz after she left I went in and told him that I am not going to scream in front of the kids but that is my bottom line, non-negotiable and that if she thinks she is going to disrespect me in front of my kids then she's got another thing coming. End of story.]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 17:44:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407153&title=i-cannot-believe#407153 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Yep I would go Family Meeting...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407152&title=i-cannot-believe#407152 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:43pm

Yep I would go Family Meeting way too, will show him how much trouble he can get into if he is buying them for her.

]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 17:43:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407152&title=i-cannot-believe#407152 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Good for you Emma!!! Why would...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407151&title=i-cannot-believe#407151 Author: mummyofprinces
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:43pm

Good for you Emma!!! Why would Willie want his girl smoking?????

I know she will go off somewhere else, I did but there is no way my parents would have let me smoke at home.

I cant believe he told her she didnt have to help out around the house because you told her she cant smoke in your home!!!!!!

I am hopping mad for you hun! I would have told my DH where he could go...]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 17:43:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407151&title=i-cannot-believe#407151 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : Family Meeting! It&#039;s against...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407148&title=i-cannot-believe#407148 Author: .Mel
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:41pm

Family Meeting! It's against the law for her to even buy cigarettes, so is he supplying them too? If that's the case, give them the hard word!

]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 17:41:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407148&title=i-cannot-believe#407148 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : I can&#039;t believe Willie would...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407147&title=i-cannot-believe#407147 Author: BuzzyBee
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:38pm

I can't believe Willie would allow his 15 yo daughter to smoke - that's CRAZY!

I would have been kicked out of home if I even thought of bringing a packet home at that age.

Good on you for sticking to your guns Emma, you definitely don't want smoking around your children. 2nd hand smoke can do a lot of irreversible damage, sometimes more so than being the smoker yourself.

Gee kids these days ...they start off rebelling so young!!!]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 17:38:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407147&title=i-cannot-believe#407147 <![CDATA[I cannot believe... : The argument I just had with Willie! I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407143&title=i-cannot-believe#407143 Author: Maya
Subject: 18038
Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:33pm

The argument I just had with Willie!

I get out of the bath and Miss Fifteen announces she is going out for a smoke. I said "umm, hold on, I don't think so! If you're living in my house, you're not smoking!"

Then I went off to get dressed and I hear Willie telling her to go for a walk and I won't know.

Excuse me! Since when are we allowing 15 year olds to smoke?! I like to think I'm pretty liberal when it comes to parenting, and I must confess that I was smoking long before 15 so I have no illusions that if I stop her doing it at home she won't go and do it somewhere else, but I was certainly never "allowed" to smoke at home when I was 15!

So Willie and I ended up having a screaming row. I told him if I catch her smoking she can find somewhere else to live. He told her she doesn't have to help out around the house anymore if I am going to be like that. I told him if that's his attitude HE can go too.

I do NOT want smoking around my kids, especially not around Maya coz the next thing I know it'll be her smoking, she is far too impressionable.

So now she's gone up the road "for a walk". I have no idea what I'll do when she gets back, but at the moment I am so very tempted to kick the pair of them out. ]]> Sun, 08 Jun 2008 17:33:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18038&PID=407143&title=i-cannot-believe#407143