OHbaby! Forums : Update - MIL Gone https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 16:32:57 +0000 Fri, 13 Jun 2008 10:13:57 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=18164 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Update - MIL Gone : Really glad the counsellor could...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411679&title=update-mil-gone#411679 Author: SMoody
Subject: 18164
Posted: 13 June 2008 at 10:13am

Really glad the counsellor could see what she is up too. And now you need to get one with your life. Some people are just not worth having in your life at all. ]]> Fri, 13 Jun 2008 10:13:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411679&title=update-mil-gone#411679 <![CDATA[Update - MIL Gone : Good on you for initiating the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411660&title=update-mil-gone#411660 Author: kabe
Subject: 18164
Posted: 13 June 2008 at 9:50am

Good on you for initiating the family counselling sessions. You and your DH should feel pleased with yourselves that you've done everything you can to improve the relationship, but at the end of the day, your MIL has sabotaged everything.

You're right to move on, and when Joy is old enough, perhaps she can choose to have her grandma in her life if she want to.

BTW, you're so sweet and lovely, I can't believe she has a problem with you!!
]]> Fri, 13 Jun 2008 09:50:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411660&title=update-mil-gone#411660 <![CDATA[Update - MIL Gone : yeah, you&#039;re right MM. That...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411542&title=update-mil-gone#411542 Author: sunnyhoney
Subject: 18164
Posted: 12 June 2008 at 10:46pm

yeah, you're right MM. That was what I was most concerned about - joy being exposed to that or worse learning it and behaving that way herself.

I love this forum. It blows me away that complete strangers can support someone so sincerely. Thanks everyone ]]> Thu, 12 Jun 2008 22:46:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411542&title=update-mil-gone#411542 <![CDATA[Update - MIL Gone : Sounds like you had quite a session...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411531&title=update-mil-gone#411531 Author: MonicaMouse
Subject: 18164
Posted: 12 June 2008 at 10:26pm

Sounds like you had quite a session and quite a breakthrough.   Sad that Joy won't see her Grandmother, but also good in the fact that she won't be exposed to her behaviours IYKWIM]]> Thu, 12 Jun 2008 22:26:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411531&title=update-mil-gone#411531 <![CDATA[Update - MIL Gone : Wow she definitely sounds like...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411446&title=update-mil-gone#411446 Author: Bubbaloo
Subject: 18164
Posted: 12 June 2008 at 9:08pm

Wow she definitely sounds like she has issues and seems you guys are way better of without he in your lives. ]]> Thu, 12 Jun 2008 21:08:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411446&title=update-mil-gone#411446 <![CDATA[Update - MIL Gone : I don;t know the history but just...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411423&title=update-mil-gone#411423 Author: AnnC
Subject: 18164
Posted: 12 June 2008 at 8:55pm

I don;t know the history but just wanted to send you a hug ]]> Thu, 12 Jun 2008 20:55:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411423&title=update-mil-gone#411423 <![CDATA[Update - MIL Gone : Oh wow, how awful for you It...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411283&title=update-mil-gone#411283 Author: EmDee
Subject: 18164
Posted: 12 June 2008 at 7:47pm

Oh wow, how awful for you It is sad that Joy will miss out an a grandma, though from the sounds of it she won't be missing much. At least it is over with now, and you can move on with your life. What an awesome counsellor you have too!]]> Thu, 12 Jun 2008 19:47:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411283&title=update-mil-gone#411283 <![CDATA[Update - MIL Gone : Ugh. What a horrible thing to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411247&title=update-mil-gone#411247 Author: busymum
Subject: 18164
Posted: 12 June 2008 at 7:26pm

Ugh. What a horrible thing to go through. At least it's over, but I can understand how it could leave that bitter taste in your mouth. Sounds like your counsellor is a gem with it all though.]]> Thu, 12 Jun 2008 19:26:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411247&title=update-mil-gone#411247 <![CDATA[Update - MIL Gone : That&#039;s awful. As someone...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411088&title=update-mil-gone#411088 Author: surfergirl
Subject: 18164
Posted: 12 June 2008 at 4:39pm

That's awful. As someone who also has toxic in-laws, I can safely say, some people are better out of your life.
Well done you and DH! Time to move on ... with out the MIL...]]> Thu, 12 Jun 2008 16:39:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411088&title=update-mil-gone#411088 <![CDATA[Update - MIL Gone : Big hugs ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411076&title=update-mil-gone#411076 Author: susieq
Subject: 18164
Posted: 12 June 2008 at 4:31pm

Big hugs]]> Thu, 12 Jun 2008 16:31:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=411076&title=update-mil-gone#411076 <![CDATA[Update - MIL Gone : Yep, I feel quite lucky. ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=410924&title=update-mil-gone#410924 Author: sunnyhoney
Subject: 18164
Posted: 12 June 2008 at 1:34pm

Yep, I feel quite lucky.
]]> Thu, 12 Jun 2008 13:34:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=410924&title=update-mil-gone#410924 <![CDATA[Update - MIL Gone : That&#039;s awesome that you&#039;ve...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=410875&title=update-mil-gone#410875 Author: .Mel
Subject: 18164
Posted: 12 June 2008 at 12:28pm

That's awesome that you've got such great support from your counsellor!

]]> Thu, 12 Jun 2008 12:28:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=410875&title=update-mil-gone#410875 <![CDATA[Update - MIL Gone : Yup, pretty horrible. I&#039;m...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=410747&title=update-mil-gone#410747 Author: sunnyhoney
Subject: 18164
Posted: 12 June 2008 at 10:41am

Yup, pretty horrible. I'm glad about the counsellor too as she was a witness to it all. I hope nothing further happens either.
Dumb thing is she left saying that her door is always open to me, but that she won't invite me so I don't have to make excuses not to come. Thing is, why on earth would I willingly go to a house where I know someone hates me that much!?
I'm going to see the counsellor again today. She wanted me to go in and hang out for awhile to check that I was ok. What a cool counsellor!]]> Thu, 12 Jun 2008 10:41:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=410747&title=update-mil-gone#410747 <![CDATA[Update - MIL Gone : Big hugs, but I agree with Nikki...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=410742&title=update-mil-gone#410742 Author: Maya
Subject: 18164
Posted: 12 June 2008 at 10:39am

Big hugs, but I agree with Nikki - at least the counsellor got to see her true colors.]]> Thu, 12 Jun 2008 10:39:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=410742&title=update-mil-gone#410742 <![CDATA[Update - MIL Gone : This sounds a bit horrible but...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=410731&title=update-mil-gone#410731 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 18164
Posted: 12 June 2008 at 10:34am

This sounds a bit horrible but I'm really glad it all went down in front of a counsellor. It is important that you have an impartial 3rd party present should anything further happen... but I hope like heck it doesn't!

She seriously sounds like she has issues... you'll be better off without her.

xo]]> Thu, 12 Jun 2008 10:34:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=410731&title=update-mil-gone#410731 <![CDATA[Update - MIL Gone : Good on you for taking a stand,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=410729&title=update-mil-gone#410729 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 18164
Posted: 12 June 2008 at 10:33am

Good on you for taking a stand, and good on your DH for sticking to you on this one.

]]> Thu, 12 Jun 2008 10:33:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=410729&title=update-mil-gone#410729 <![CDATA[Update - MIL Gone : Had another counselling session...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=410726&title=update-mil-gone#410726 Author: sunnyhoney
Subject: 18164
Posted: 12 June 2008 at 10:30am

Had another counselling session with the MIL last night. She basically turned up and verbally attacked me and then left. She told so many lies and what had happened between us. She is a very twisted lady. She won't be seeing me or Joy ever again. Dh will see her occasionally but not for a while. I feel sad for Joy that she misses out on her grandma but DH & I both believe if she has access to Joy she will try and turn Joy against us. Everything has probably worked out for the better but I'm feeling quite unhappy about it all.]]> Thu, 12 Jun 2008 10:30:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18164&PID=410726&title=update-mil-gone#410726