Marlene, my god he deserves a lot more than a kicking. I'm sure there would be a few of us here to give you a hand with it. It's with these situation that people like me are really lucky that we have the dad around and to fall back on to if things go bad.

I wish you all the best with the usually thing your boys have to call a "dad"

And how is this for an absent mother. My friend and her husband have his son from his past relationship. She has to have him (ordered by the court) every second weekend and 1 full week of the school holidays. He is to be picked up at 5pm at the designated place and dropped off at 5pm Sunday night. She won't have anything to do with my friend even thou she is his primary carer. She is the one that takes him to school, make his lunch, cleans up the tears and clood and scraps etc. She asked for his "birth mother" to give her a break and start dealing with the fact that she is now his mum. The "birth mother" turned around and said I am his monther I pushed his out. Does anyone else thing she is his mum just because she pushed him out??? - Touchy subject I know.

A signature is required to place a fathers name on the birth certificate. You can use either yours or your childs fathers last name, it is purely a personal choice thing. To get the paternity, if the father denies the paternity, then he has to provide a DNA sample, in which he pays ($700 4 yrs ago). The law is more so on our side here.

There appears a few of us where the fathers are absent.