OHbaby! Forums : Infidelity https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sun, 05 Apr 2026 01:46:16 +0000 Sat, 05 Jul 2008 19:15:37 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=18851 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Infidelity : Id like to say yes BUT i have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432420&title=infidelity#432420 Author: BaAsKa
Subject: 18851
Posted: 05 July 2008 at 7:15pm

Id like to say yes BUT i have been in this situation with my sister (gez i had to think about whether i wanted to put that or not but here we go), DH saw her DF (of 13 years!!) with another girl and then we caught him out on a few things BUT we never told my sis because ...well....reasons that seem silly now and i feel quite stink about it but i thought that if somehow we were wrong then i wouldv totally caused crap for her .....(she found it in the end)

So id say yes but in reality i may not not sure if id want my friend to tell me either...]]> Sat, 05 Jul 2008 19:15:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432420&title=infidelity#432420 <![CDATA[Infidelity : yes and yes here as well ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432419&title=infidelity#432419 Author: LJsmum
Subject: 18851
Posted: 05 July 2008 at 7:10pm

yes and yes here as well ]]> Sat, 05 Jul 2008 19:10:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432419&title=infidelity#432419 <![CDATA[Infidelity : Yes and yes. I&#039;d wanna be...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432414&title=infidelity#432414 Author: busymum
Subject: 18851
Posted: 05 July 2008 at 7:00pm

Yes and yes. I'd wanna be pretty sure of the situation first and might approach it with a, hey is that girl keen on your man? Seems to me like they have been a bit too close lately.

If anyone said something like that to me, I'd go right and ask my DH for his side of the story and I would believe him. I guess if I had a couple of independent reports, I'd get suspicious though. Not that I think that would ever happen though, my DH is really very honest!]]> Sat, 05 Jul 2008 19:00:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432414&title=infidelity#432414 <![CDATA[Infidelity : I&#039;ve told a friend before,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432383&title=infidelity#432383 Author: sparkle
Subject: 18851
Posted: 05 July 2008 at 6:15pm

I've told a friend before, saw it with my own eyes. She went and confronted him, he denied it, she believed him, came back to me and said "bottom line is, I believe him"

We had been friends since we were 13 (were 23 at the time) and that pretty much ended our friendship.

I heard later that he'd done it another 2 times, then she finally put all his furniture and belongs into black bags, left them on the driveway and told him he'd better come and get them!]]> Sat, 05 Jul 2008 18:15:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432383&title=infidelity#432383 <![CDATA[Infidelity : Yes and yes for me too. ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432319&title=infidelity#432319 Author: LittleBug
Subject: 18851
Posted: 05 July 2008 at 4:28pm

Yes and yes for me too.]]> Sat, 05 Jul 2008 16:28:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432319&title=infidelity#432319 <![CDATA[Infidelity : yes and yes. Honesty is the best...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432254&title=infidelity#432254 Author: Mum2L
Subject: 18851
Posted: 05 July 2008 at 2:06pm

yes and yes. Honesty is the best policy. And one thing that is true, once a cheater, always a cheater. Both DH and I have been affected by cheating ex-partners...]]> Sat, 05 Jul 2008 14:06:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432254&title=infidelity#432254 <![CDATA[Infidelity : yes and yes - i would approach...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432161&title=infidelity#432161 Author: Phat_Cat
Subject: 18851
Posted: 05 July 2008 at 11:37am

yes and yes - i would approach my friend and say so but in doing so I would make absolutely certain of my facts, then i would leave it up to her as to how she would handle it.  If it was me definately Ive been cheated on before and ive made it my thing not to let it happen again. DH & I have discussed as to what one calls cheating and we both agree that a kiss on the lips(well passionately) qualifies as cheating as it all starts there...a kis on the cheek however is acceptable because i have a male friend who does that everytime he sees me and DH is aware of that.]]> Sat, 05 Jul 2008 11:37:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432161&title=infidelity#432161 <![CDATA[Infidelity : yes and yes. although sometimes...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432154&title=infidelity#432154 Author: Candkids
Subject: 18851
Posted: 05 July 2008 at 11:29am

yes and yes.

although sometimes love is blind!!! your friend may end up hating you for it, as has happened to me!!
sometimes people actually know whats going on but just want to "not" know if you get what i mean. ]]> Sat, 05 Jul 2008 11:29:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432154&title=infidelity#432154 <![CDATA[Infidelity : Id tell my friend, and as much...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432146&title=infidelity#432146 Author: MelanieAndBree
Subject: 18851
Posted: 05 July 2008 at 11:16am

Id tell my friend, and as much as id hate it id want my friend to tell me. Cause its happened to me before.. and my friend told me and i just didnt believe her which is stupid! Grr.

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Subject: 18851
Posted: 05 July 2008 at 10:46am

Originally posted by Two Blondinis Two Blondinis wrote:

I'd tell him that I knew and give him the opportunity to do the right thing, if he didn't then I'd definitely tell out of respect for my friend.


yeah - i think giving him the chance to tell first is a good idea, at least then if he "man's up" then you won't get shot for being the messanger! plus if you haven't actually seen them kissing or whatever it could still be innocent... (or maybe I'm just naive?)]]> Sat, 05 Jul 2008 10:46:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432130&title=infidelity#432130 <![CDATA[Infidelity : Yes and yes to both questions...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432059&title=infidelity#432059 Author: Paws
Subject: 18851
Posted: 05 July 2008 at 7:32am

Yes and yes to both questions for me.]]> Sat, 05 Jul 2008 07:32:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432059&title=infidelity#432059 <![CDATA[Infidelity : I&#039;d tell him that I knew...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432025&title=infidelity#432025 Author: Two Blondinis
Subject: 18851
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 10:01pm

I'd tell him that I knew and give him the opportunity to do the right thing, if he didn't then I'd definitely tell out of respect for my friend. Same goes if my friend knew my partner was cheating on me, out of respect I would expect her to either do the same thing or just tell me herself]]> Fri, 04 Jul 2008 22:01:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432025&title=infidelity#432025 <![CDATA[Infidelity : Yep. I would bring it up with...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432017&title=infidelity#432017 Author: almostthere
Subject: 18851
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 9:56pm

Yep. I would bring it up with him and then say: umm, i just saw your guy here with this chick...
Cos you never knw.. the wife/GF could know about it and say yes, i know.. And it would be all a sweet.. or my friend might not know and i have jsut given her the opportunity to confront him
I most certainly woldny go in all blazed up tho, cos you just dont know what their situation is..]]> Fri, 04 Jul 2008 21:56:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=432017&title=infidelity#432017 <![CDATA[Infidelity : yes and yes. Ive told a friend...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=431964&title=infidelity#431964 Author: my2angels
Subject: 18851
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 9:02pm

yes and yes. Ive told a friend I saw her boyfriend kissing another girl (it was in my house right in front of me) and she didnt believe me and believed him, almost ruined our friendship but at least I know I was honest with her and would hope someone would do the same for me.]]> Fri, 04 Jul 2008 21:02:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=431964&title=infidelity#431964 <![CDATA[Infidelity : i would like to be told if my...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=431960&title=infidelity#431960 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 18851
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 8:57pm

i would like to be told if my partner was cheating........and i would also tell my friend if i saw her partner with someone else]]> Fri, 04 Jul 2008 20:57:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=431960&title=infidelity#431960 <![CDATA[Infidelity : Depends and yes. I think it...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=431956&title=infidelity#431956 Author: Jennz
Subject: 18851
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 8:50pm

Depends and yes.

I think it totally depends on how sure you are that they're cheating (I wouldn't say if I wasn't sure), how good a friend they are (I would tell my besties everything but if its someone I don't know that well I would have to make a judgement call) and what type of person they are- some people don't want to know.

Ages ago I had found out my good friends BF had cheated and I told her but she turned on me and I ended up losing the friendship because of it. Obviously it wasn't as good a friendship as I thought at the time- but it was definitely a case of shooting the messenger! She wasn't the type of person who wanted to know.
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Subject: 18851
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 8:36pm

yes , but id much rather be anyone else than the one telling them ]]> Fri, 04 Jul 2008 20:36:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=431941&title=infidelity#431941 <![CDATA[Infidelity : Yes to both questions ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=431939&title=infidelity#431939 Author: NeoshasMummy
Subject: 18851
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 8:32pm

Yes to both questions]]> Fri, 04 Jul 2008 20:32:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=431939&title=infidelity#431939 <![CDATA[Infidelity : Yes and yes for me too. ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=431878&title=infidelity#431878 Author: caraMel
Subject: 18851
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 6:57pm

Yes and yes for me too.
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Subject: 18851
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 6:22pm

Yes and yes.]]> Fri, 04 Jul 2008 18:22:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=431848&title=infidelity#431848 <![CDATA[Infidelity : There was a story on 20/20 quite...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18851&PID=431839&title=infidelity#431839 Author: pepsi
Subject: 18851
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 6:16pm

There was a story on 20/20 quite a while ago about infidelity, and they set this hidden camera thing up to see how the friends of girl #1 would react if they caught her boyfriend cheating. Girl #1 was in on it and so was the boyfriend and the actress who was playing the other woman. It was only girl #1's friends who didn't know it was a set up.

Anyway, the scenario was girl #1 was yet to arrive to meet her girlfriends at the restaurant, but while the girlfriends were waiting, they see girl #1's boyfriend having an intimate dinner with another woman. I think one of them ends up texting him to say "I can see you, girl #1 is on the way here"..so the boyfriend and fake girlfriend quickly leave the restaurant. The dilemma was, would the friends tell girl #1 what they just witnessed? In the end yes, they told her everything. Girl #1 was happy they did and they revealed the setup.

The reporter was talking about how many people wouldn't tell their friend as they wouldn't want to be the bearer of such bad news. Also, some friends wouldn't want to say anything for fear that their friend wouldn't believe them.

So, if you saw a friends boyfriend with another woman - would you tell your friend? Also, if you yourself were the friend who was being cheated on, would you want your friend to tell you?

Personally I'd say yes in both instances. I actually have told a friend I knew of her boyfriend cheating (as he was my bf at the time's best friend - so I knew) , and it was tough as they had been together for a really long time. But she had her suspicions and I really just confirmed it for her. Not sure how much harder it would be if the friend had children and you could potentially break up a family, but I think I still would say something..


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