OHbaby! Forums : TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sun, 12 Apr 2026 14:32:44 +0000 Sun, 13 Jul 2008 10:59:14 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=19046 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : Peanut wrote:So out of interest...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=438285&title=time-out-ilegal#438285 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 19046
Posted: 13 July 2008 at 10:59am

Originally posted by Peanut Peanut wrote:

So out of interest Rach, how do they want/expect you to discipline your child at playcentre?


Actually most of the time the kids don't need discipline as such but more encouragement to share. I use time out at home tho and have used it there because Jack just lost the plot. In theory it sounds nice but in reality it just doesn't work and they understand we are just not 'suppose' to.]]> Sun, 13 Jul 2008 10:59:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=438285&title=time-out-ilegal#438285 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : Haha Kelly!!! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=438130&title=time-out-ilegal#438130 Author: busymum
Subject: 19046
Posted: 12 July 2008 at 9:21pm

Haha Kelly!!!]]> Sat, 12 Jul 2008 21:21:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=438130&title=time-out-ilegal#438130 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : RachandJack wrote:I know at...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=438062&title=time-out-ilegal#438062 Author: SMoody
Subject: 19046
Posted: 12 July 2008 at 7:45pm

Originally posted by RachandJack RachandJack wrote:

I know at playcentre you can't put your kid in time out because the whole philosophy is that you can't exclude anyone from anything.


I think that they actually encourage you not to take the child totally out of the situation but to calm them down in the situation and let them sit in a chair right there until they feel they are ready to join the group again.

However that doesnt work one bit with McKayla and works her up even more to the point that you cant calm her down. Quickest for me to deal with the situation is take her to the library. Have a bit of a talk. Hear her side and tell her my side. Come to a compromise and then join the situation again.

Parents do use time out or what ever they find appropriate at our Playcentre still. ]]> Sat, 12 Jul 2008 19:45:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=438062&title=time-out-ilegal#438062 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : Sweet ! lets go put our kids in...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437956&title=time-out-ilegal#437956 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 19046
Posted: 12 July 2008 at 5:08pm

Sweet ! lets go put our kids in timeout !! and do it loudly ! ]]> Sat, 12 Jul 2008 17:08:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437956&title=time-out-ilegal#437956 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : *imagines all the drunk partying...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437910&title=time-out-ilegal#437910 Author: WRXnKids
Subject: 19046
Posted: 12 July 2008 at 3:55pm

*imagines all the drunk partying parents while the children take over the world*

COUNT ME IN!!!!!!!! ]]> Sat, 12 Jul 2008 15:55:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437910&title=time-out-ilegal#437910 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : Oh I hadnt htought about it like...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437885&title=time-out-ilegal#437885 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 19046
Posted: 12 July 2008 at 3:24pm

Oh I hadnt htought about it like that!! Gosh that would be sooo much fun - a free holiday! ]]> Sat, 12 Jul 2008 15:24:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437885&title=time-out-ilegal#437885 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : aimeejoy wrote:So what are...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437854&title=time-out-ilegal#437854 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 19046
Posted: 12 July 2008 at 2:16pm

Originally posted by aimeejoy aimeejoy wrote:

So what are they going to do if we all ignored the law and kept putting our kids in time out? They cant take kids off everyone or put us all in jail!!


they can to,! and we can PAAARRRRTYYYY !!!!!!!! ]]> Sat, 12 Jul 2008 14:16:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437854&title=time-out-ilegal#437854 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : So out of interest Rach, how do...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437841&title=time-out-ilegal#437841 Author: Peanut
Subject: 19046
Posted: 12 July 2008 at 1:33pm

So out of interest Rach, how do they want/expect you to discipline your child at playcentre?]]> Sat, 12 Jul 2008 13:33:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437841&title=time-out-ilegal#437841 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : I know at playcentre you can&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437821&title=time-out-ilegal#437821 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 19046
Posted: 12 July 2008 at 12:54pm

I know at playcentre you can't put your kid in time out because the whole philosophy is that you can't exclude anyone from anything. ]]> Sat, 12 Jul 2008 12:54:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437821&title=time-out-ilegal#437821 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : So what are they going to do if...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437724&title=time-out-ilegal#437724 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 19046
Posted: 12 July 2008 at 9:41am

So what are they going to do if we all ignored the law and kept putting our kids in time out? They cant take kids off everyone or put us all in jail!! ]]> Sat, 12 Jul 2008 09:41:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437724&title=time-out-ilegal#437724 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : I didnt get the whole story from...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437722&title=time-out-ilegal#437722 Author: BaAsKa
Subject: 19046
Posted: 12 July 2008 at 9:38am

I didnt get the whole story from this lady hense why i asked here!....

I could vaguely recall hearing something about TO becomming ilegal but also figured that this lady mustv done something a little more than TO so what she did wasnt really my point in this topic - it was whether it actually is ileal for TO...

I think that they are getting carried away with these laws ]]> Sat, 12 Jul 2008 09:38:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437722&title=time-out-ilegal#437722 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : i think the government needs to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437704&title=time-out-ilegal#437704 Author: Candkids
Subject: 19046
Posted: 12 July 2008 at 9:05am

i think the government needs to really but out on how people parent their kids!

mabye their parents were really hard on them or something, but its pathetic for them to tell a entire country how to parent our kids.

what i am curious about tho is, if you were from eg: america and came to nz on a holiday, and smacked your kid what would happen?? i mean it is the LAW afterall.
do they tell you on a plane on the way into nz that its illegal to smack your child??

i think the goverment needs to focus on the BIG issues, rather than the little things that may or may not change things.

eg: if criminals fear the punishment of actual HARD time in prison they may think twice before doing it, rather than killing someone then being in and out of a cushy jail before their 30! its rediculas]]> Sat, 12 Jul 2008 09:05:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437704&title=time-out-ilegal#437704 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : Mum2Sam wrote: after my big...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437696&title=time-out-ilegal#437696 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 19046
Posted: 12 July 2008 at 8:49am

Originally posted by Mum2Sam Mum2Sam wrote:


after my big brother had the original wooden version snap mid smack


hehe   same thing happened to my little brother ]]> Sat, 12 Jul 2008 08:49:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437696&title=time-out-ilegal#437696 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : Mental abuse?? Time out illegal???...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437674&title=time-out-ilegal#437674 Author: Paws
Subject: 19046
Posted: 12 July 2008 at 5:38am

Mental abuse?? Time out illegal??? Jesh...if that was true then what next?????

Things are getting ridiculous! ]]> Sat, 12 Jul 2008 05:38:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437674&title=time-out-ilegal#437674 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : Mental Abuse that is absurd!!! I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437663&title=time-out-ilegal#437663 Author: NovemberMum
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 11:51pm

Mental Abuse that is absurd!!!

I don't see anything wrong with putting them in a corner facing a wall for a couple of minutes to (hopefully) give them a chance to calm down and think about what they have done.

and yup I agree it will get to the point where we wont even be able to tell our children off.

it will be interesting when Megan is a older and how she behaves in public.

Personally i don't think any parents should get a criminal record for giving their child a smack across the backside or leg..more often than not it is their pride(he child's) that is hurt. In saying that though I believe it should only be use as a last resort or if their lives are in immediate danger ie they have run across the road.
]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 23:51:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437663&title=time-out-ilegal#437663 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : I seem to remember hearing something...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437658&title=time-out-ilegal#437658 Author: Mama2two
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 11:10pm

I seem to remember hearing something about time outs being classed as mental abuse!!! Soon we won't be allowed to parent our kids at all if the stupid government has anything to do with it!


Speaking of our childhood discipline. With my Mum it was more about the build up to the smack with the wooden spoon than the actual act. She would give you the look, tell you to go and get the wooden spoon and then make a big thing about you bending over and pulling your pants down. Before the smack came I would be hysterical - the smack itself was nothing compared to the fear of the thought of it   BTW, I have someone managed to stay out of jail and have not gone crazy ape bonkers with any heavy machinery! Who would have thought!

Oh, and our 'wooden spoon' was actually purple and plastic after my big brother had the original wooden version snap mid smack and was stupid enough to be a smart arse and say 'Look mummy, now you have 2 wooden spoons'!

Edited by Mum2Sam]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 23:10:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437658&title=time-out-ilegal#437658 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : hahaha! guess our parents were...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437614&title=time-out-ilegal#437614 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 10:27pm

hahaha!

guess our parents were smarter than we gave them credit for ....

nah, twas because they had longer legs, thats all ]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 22:27:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437614&title=time-out-ilegal#437614 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : ROFL! i remember my mum doin the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437595&title=time-out-ilegal#437595 Author: Candkids
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 10:21pm

ROFL!
i remember my mum doin the "i hope youve looked because if i come in there and find it your going to get such a smack!!"
naturally she found it strait away , and i was gone! down the stairs and out the door, i figured if i pushed the button in on the lock as i ran out the door she wouldnt be able to get me so i stopped running just outside the door!

but alas i forgot she could actually unlock it from her side!! i was about 9 i think.
]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 22:21:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437595&title=time-out-ilegal#437595 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : haha, i remember my mum chasing...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437577&title=time-out-ilegal#437577 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 10:13pm

haha, i remember my mum chasing my brother around the house with the wooden spoon and all of a sudden he stopped ! turned around !!! and grabbed it out of her hands and broke it in two !!! *gasP !*
the look on her face was priceless! ...then she says "right! i'll get the fish slice !"
He ran for his life

unnecessary exclamation marks added to make it more dramatic ]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 22:13:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437577&title=time-out-ilegal#437577 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : ROFL! funny i pictured the silver...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437562&title=time-out-ilegal#437562 Author: Candkids
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 10:03pm

ROFL!
funny i pictured the silver balls too!

i remember seeing our neighbour who is a surgeon chasing his son up the road with wooden spoon, the son ( i think we wouldve been 7 or 8) was laughing his head off and then dad caught him and smacked him and O grabbed the spoon and ran to the nearest drain and threw it in and then stood there going "nah nah na na nahhh you cant smack me now" it was real funny to watch]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 22:03:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437562&title=time-out-ilegal#437562 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : PMSLthe kelly! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437558&title=time-out-ilegal#437558 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 9:59pm

PMSL     the kelly! ]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 21:59:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437558&title=time-out-ilegal#437558 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : jack_&_charli wrote: caitlynsmygirl...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437546&title=time-out-ilegal#437546 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 9:51pm

Originally posted by jack_&_charli jack_&_charli wrote:

Originally posted by caitlynsmygirl caitlynsmygirl wrote:

my friends mum used to that, literally , she would lock my friend and her older bro and younger sister in the cupboard...surprisingly my friend has very little to do with her mother ....


that's really shocking!   

but for some reason, i couldn't help but laugh


dont worry , she also told me her mother would stand them in a row and knock their heads together, and i used to have this image of those silver balls on a string, where you swing one and they all knock together , and i would have to try not laugh, probably helps that my friend is so calm about it "oh yes,,,,i remember the days my mother would lock us out of the house in the rain ...but it was ok ! we would play SURVIVOR!" ]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 21:51:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437546&title=time-out-ilegal#437546 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : It doesn&#039;t contradict itself...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437540&title=time-out-ilegal#437540 Author: Peace
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 9:46pm

It doesn't contradict itself at all, it just removes consequential smacking or force.
Time out CAN be construed as force as it is consequential, I think it is a load of BS that someone got their kids taken off them though.
I think the best way that if you feel threatened and want to avoid (dammit no eye rolling emoticon) being a consequential forcer of time out (*rolleyes*) then pick your child up in a hug, carry them to where they are having time out and place them down.
Me, I just tell Olivia to go to her room No touching involved!]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 21:46:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437540&title=time-out-ilegal#437540 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : so really just radeing thru the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437521&title=time-out-ilegal#437521 Author: Candkids
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 9:33pm

so really just radeing thru the crimes act thing it actually contradicts itself.


it just makes me mad that a woman (mp SB) who herself has been charged with assaulting a police officer (wheres the respect there????!!!!) and whos kids have been in and out of jail numerous times! wants to tell the good parents in this country how they should be parenting their kids?!]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 21:33:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437521&title=time-out-ilegal#437521 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : havnt read all the posts, but...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437517&title=time-out-ilegal#437517 Author: Candkids
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 9:27pm

havnt read all the posts, but i do remember hearing an argument at the start of the year i think it was that had been bought up by some organisation that time out was bad and they wanted it made illegal, something about it being unfair to the child and , isolation blah blah

some people have too much time on their hands!
and i bet they dont have kids either LOL
]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 21:27:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437517&title=time-out-ilegal#437517 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : caitlynsmygirl wrote:my friends...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437512&title=time-out-ilegal#437512 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 9:23pm

Originally posted by caitlynsmygirl caitlynsmygirl wrote:

my friends mum used to that, literally , she would lock my friend and her older bro and younger sister in the cupboard...surprisingly my friend has very little to do with her mother ....


that's really shocking!   

but for some reason, i couldn't help but laugh]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 21:23:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437512&title=time-out-ilegal#437512 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : lizzle wrote:actually I heard...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437511&title=time-out-ilegal#437511 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 9:22pm

Originally posted by lizzle lizzle wrote:

actually I heard something about Time out being made illegal too. something about it "restraining a child unecessarily" - not sure...


that is THE most pathetic thing i've ever heard!!!!!!!!!!

god help the next generation...they are screwed!]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 21:22:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437511&title=time-out-ilegal#437511 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : Well that&#039;s why I was disappointed...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437478&title=time-out-ilegal#437478 Author: busymum
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 9:01pm

Well that's why I was disappointed that it wasn't clarified better in the first place. I don't want it overturned, I just want clarity.

Here's the actual text for anyone interested:
Parental control (s59 of the Crimes Act)

      (1) Every parent of a child and every person in the place of a parent of the child is justified in using force if the force used is reasonable in the circumstances and is for the purpose of—

            (a) preventing or minimising harm to the child or another person; or

            (b) preventing the child from engaging or continuing to engage in conduct that amounts to a criminal offence; or

            (c) preventing the child from engaging or continuing to engage in offensive or disruptive behaviour; or

            (d) performing the normal daily tasks that are incidental to good care and parenting.

      (2) Nothing in subsection (1) or in any rule of common law justifies the use of force for the purpose of correction.

      (3) Subsection (2) prevails over subsection (1).

      (4) To avoid doubt, it is affirmed that the Police have the discretion not to prosecute complaints against a parent of a child or person in the place of a parent of a child in relation to an offence involving the use of force against a child, where the offence is considered to be so inconsequential that there is no public interest in proceeding with a prosecution.


ETA: And a recent Police report on it which kinda shows that the incidents of these kind of reports aren't that high, but when parents are paranoid things can blow out of proportion. linky

Edited by busymum]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 21:01:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437478&title=time-out-ilegal#437478 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : so what are you allowed to do...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437434&title=time-out-ilegal#437434 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 8:26pm

so what are you allowed to do ?
by this rate you just have to sit back and allow your child to do whatever they want ]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 20:26:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437434&title=time-out-ilegal#437434 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : actually I heard something about...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437432&title=time-out-ilegal#437432 Author: lizzle
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 8:24pm

actually I heard something about Time out being made illegal too. something about it "restraining a child unecessarily" - not sure...]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 20:24:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437432&title=time-out-ilegal#437432 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : My understanding is that any kind...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437429&title=time-out-ilegal#437429 Author: busymum
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 8:21pm

My understanding is that any kind of correction by force is illegal, so if your kid doesn't want to go into time around and you carry them there while they kick and scream, technically that's illegal. (if my interpretation is correct!)

Buuuuuut, my feeling is that you have only heard about 1% of the story. No one's gonna get their kids taken off them without there being some pretty horrible things going on and/or warnings given (in the case of lesser things). As in, if the authorities had difficulties with you using time out, they will likely ask you to change and follow up on you later. They only move in swiftly if they are convinced (and can convince the family court as much) that the kids are in some kind of danger.]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 20:21:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437429&title=time-out-ilegal#437429 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : my friends mum used to that, literally...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437412&title=time-out-ilegal#437412 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 7:48pm

my friends mum used to that, literally , she would lock my friend and her older bro and younger sister in the cupboard...surprisingly my friend has very little to do with her mother ....]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 19:48:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437412&title=time-out-ilegal#437412 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : BaileyandAstin wrote:Someone...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437410&title=time-out-ilegal#437410 Author: MrsMojo
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 7:44pm

Originally posted by BaileyandAstin BaileyandAstin wrote:

Someone was telling me today that her friend has had her kids taken off her for putting them in time out!!!

 

I apologise for sounding skeptical but I'm curious to know whether this bullocks was made up or whether you've only got part of the story - I'd be asking where she put her kids in timeout and for how long (i.e. was her idea of timeout locking them in a closet for several hours?)

]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 19:44:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437410&title=time-out-ilegal#437410 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : What if you put yourself in Time...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437404&title=time-out-ilegal#437404 Author: Nextbub
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 7:40pm

What if you put yourself in Time Out. Can they come arrest you for that.

I see time out as a good thing (within reason - ie if you put your kids in TO for all day then that wouldn't be very good but if it was just for a few moments while everyone cools down then thats Ok)]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 19:40:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437404&title=time-out-ilegal#437404 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : If they make timeout illegal ,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437387&title=time-out-ilegal#437387 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 7:17pm

If they make timeout illegal , then they , whoever THEY are , can quite frankly come parent my child the way it suits them because clearly what the parent wants to do is no longer good enough.
Do they want the morning sickness and the episiotomy as well ??]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 19:17:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437387&title=time-out-ilegal#437387 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : well if that make that ilegal...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437355&title=time-out-ilegal#437355 Author: BaAsKa
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 6:43pm

well if that make that ilegal then our kids are going to go off the rails! ]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 18:43:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437355&title=time-out-ilegal#437355 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : It is untrue, I&#039;m afraid....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437354&title=time-out-ilegal#437354 Author: Mum2L
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 6:43pm

It is untrue, I'm afraid. It is perfectly legal. Timeout is actually recommended a form a discipline, rather than smacking.]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 18:43:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437354&title=time-out-ilegal#437354 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : Um, that sounds pretty false. ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437352&title=time-out-ilegal#437352 Author: JadeC
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 6:40pm

Um, that sounds pretty false.]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 18:40:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437352&title=time-out-ilegal#437352 <![CDATA[TIME OUT - ILEGAL????!!!! : Someone was telling me today that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437350&title=time-out-ilegal#437350 Author: BaAsKa
Subject: 19046
Posted: 11 July 2008 at 6:36pm

Someone was telling me today that her friend has had her kids taken off her for putting them in time out!!! WTF!!! and when she asked what the deal was they told her it is now ilegal to use timeout but i cant remember the reasoning.....

not sure if i believe it though....

anyone know if it true!???]]> Fri, 11 Jul 2008 18:36:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19046&PID=437350&title=time-out-ilegal#437350