OHbaby! Forums : Are you atttracted to.... https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 07 May 2026 12:12:30 +0000 Wed, 16 Jul 2008 08:53:43 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=19159 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Are you atttracted to.... : I think the best thing about my...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440746&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440746 Author: Two Blondinis
Subject: 19159
Posted: 16 July 2008 at 8:53am

I think the best thing about my little coffee group is that we are all from very different lives, have different opinions to eachother on a lot fo things but respect eachother enough to have a good chat about issues we are faced with, whether we agree or disagree, without it turning into a debate as such.

I've had friends who had the same interests/views as me and to be honest, those friendships fizzled out. My friendships I have now with my "different" girlfriends are much more substantial and there's never a dull moment ]]> Wed, 16 Jul 2008 08:53:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440746&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440746 <![CDATA[Are you atttracted to.... : Most of my friends are the same...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440550&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440550 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 19159
Posted: 15 July 2008 at 8:49pm

Most of my friends are the same as me white middle class. But I do have the odd one that isn't the same as me in that way. However we have had different up bringings. i have found that most of my friends these days have children as well.

]]> Tue, 15 Jul 2008 20:49:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440550&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440550 <![CDATA[Are you atttracted to.... : Cultural diversity is one aspect...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440542&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440542 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 19159
Posted: 15 July 2008 at 8:47pm

Cultural diversity is one aspect of living in Auckland I do miss. I grew up in Sandringham with neighbours of all different cultures, it made for an exciting and interesting community.
I find Feilding can be a bit bland.]]> Tue, 15 Jul 2008 20:47:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440542&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440542 <![CDATA[Are you atttracted to.... : Thanks for all the responses...its...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440529&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440529 Author: MummyFreckle
Subject: 19159
Posted: 15 July 2008 at 8:42pm

Thanks for all the responses...its interesting to read!

I used to have a good mix of friends from all sorts of walks of life, but that has changed since I stopped working and had Oli. I guess I miss the "diversity" of those friends, but I have made some lovely new friends since I had Oli.

]]> Tue, 15 Jul 2008 20:42:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440529&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440529 <![CDATA[Are you atttracted to.... : I suppose if I think about it...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440523&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440523 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 19159
Posted: 15 July 2008 at 8:39pm

I suppose if I think about it my friends are all of a similar socio-economic group (we all work) and have mortgages/rent. Most of us are all married now, and in Palmy in particular all my friends are of european decent.

So from the point of view we are all similar. ]]> Tue, 15 Jul 2008 20:39:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440523&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440523 <![CDATA[Are you atttracted to.... : I like a good debate at times...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440516&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440516 Author: busymum
Subject: 19159
Posted: 15 July 2008 at 8:36pm

I like a good debate at times but I'm most comfortable with people who are already coming from a similar POV to me - and build friendship from there.]]> Tue, 15 Jul 2008 20:36:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440516&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440516 <![CDATA[Are you atttracted to.... : Well since I moved here I haven&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440511&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440511 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 19159
Posted: 15 July 2008 at 8:34pm

Well since I moved here I haven't met too many people like me, so I guess I make friend where I find them.

I do get a bit tired of friends who are all 'me, me, me' I find they get a bit tiring to listen to.

Its interesting as I am in my mid 30s and working no children as yet, which is a bit unusual for Palmy, so my friends tend to be either a lot younger and increasingly a lot older like 40's and 50's.

We have some good debates at my work, I will miss that if I have to stay home too long.]]> Tue, 15 Jul 2008 20:34:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440511&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440511 <![CDATA[Are you atttracted to.... : I have a lot of friends from all...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440480&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440480 Author: Peace
Subject: 19159
Posted: 15 July 2008 at 8:08pm

I have a lot of friends from all walks of life but I spend more time with friends that I do have a commonality with or are in the area. In saying that thought the friends that I have the commonality with, the commonality is just motherhood, the women I tend to "hang out with" have their own views. I am actually not up for debating parenting tactics with close friends as it seems to leave someone feeling hurt as though their choices are wrong (and most of the time that is me LOL!). So it is usually just day to day slog chatter.]]> Tue, 15 Jul 2008 20:08:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440480&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440480 <![CDATA[Are you atttracted to.... : ooh thats a good question , DF...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440368&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440368 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 19159
Posted: 15 July 2008 at 7:02pm

ooh thats a good question , DF and i are on the same page about most things , but we can have a good debate if there is nothing on telly to watch

my friends are different, some i share a lot of the same opinions with , others i dont , but i like hearing peoples different views, i think it helps us grow ]]> Tue, 15 Jul 2008 19:02:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440368&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440368 <![CDATA[Are you atttracted to.... : All my friends are different ...because...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440264&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440264 Author: Roksana
Subject: 19159
Posted: 15 July 2008 at 5:00pm

All my friends are different ...because there are so many of you here! LOL

On a serious note tho...I have selective friends...handful of close ones and they come from diff religions, different life style, diff set of priorities ...you get the picture!!

I think its good as you get to hear of experiences that you yourself might never experience!

I also love a good debate!!]]> Tue, 15 Jul 2008 17:00:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440264&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440264 <![CDATA[Are you atttracted to.... : I can get along with people who...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440256&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440256 Author: AliaDawn
Subject: 19159
Posted: 15 July 2008 at 4:51pm

I can get along with people who share interests, but I don't have many good female friends, and the ones that are, tend to have not "loud" I guess, but definately vibrant personalities... so they will have some things in common with me, but can still put up a good fight Mike is like that too, we were very good friends before we started dating, other men hmm... I think I go for more interests because I am slightly dominant ! I do like them to be slightly submissive, I guess... but they have to know where to draw that line, and stand up for themselves.

Edited by AliaDawn]]> Tue, 15 Jul 2008 16:51:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440256&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440256 <![CDATA[Are you atttracted to.... : i am neither attracted to like...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440219&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440219 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 19159
Posted: 15 July 2008 at 4:14pm

i am neither attracted to like minded or challenging to me people... more to people who interest me. and those with a sense of humour...

i think tho we all end up with a bunch of like minded people as friends tho as they are the peopl you associate with... like for most of us now i imagine other mothers would make up a large part of our circle of friends, cause thats who we have the most contact with.]]> Tue, 15 Jul 2008 16:14:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440219&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440219 <![CDATA[Are you atttracted to.... : My group of friends has significantly...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440160&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440160 Author: FionaS
Subject: 19159
Posted: 15 July 2008 at 3:06pm

My group of friends has significantly widened since I became a mum. Beforehand, they were mainly 'like' me now I have a very wide variety of friends. I hate conflict so tend not to naturally gravitate towards people who are non-judgemental (well, we all judge so maybe it's more accurate to say those who don't talk aloud about their judgements of others).]]> Tue, 15 Jul 2008 15:06:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440160&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440160 <![CDATA[Are you atttracted to.... : Hmmm, that&#039;s a tough one!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440155&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440155 Author: Maya
Subject: 19159
Posted: 15 July 2008 at 3:03pm

Hmmm, that's a tough one! I have a pretty diverse group of friends, I guess the friends I have made in the past couple of years are probably more similar to me in terms of interests, beliefs etc. whereas my older friends I hang onto mainly coz we've been friends forever rather than coz we have stuff in common.
I think we probably are subconsciously attracted to people who are similar. That said, there are a group of us who get together quite often for coffee etc. and even tho we probably do have pretty similar beliefs and values in general we still manage to find plenty of stuff to debate about!]]> Tue, 15 Jul 2008 15:03:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440155&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440155 <![CDATA[Are you atttracted to.... : like-minded people or people who...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19159&PID=440145&title=are-you-atttracted-to#440145 Author: MummyFreckle
Subject: 19159
Posted: 15 July 2008 at 2:54pm

like-minded people or people who will challenge you / debate with you?

Are your friends all "just like you" or are they from different cultures, different socio-economic levels, different races, differnent religions....

I ask because DH mentioned to me the other day, that he thinks I have become a lot less "stroppy" since I have been a SAHM. I dont think I am less stroppy, I just dont have the stimulating conversation and debate that I used to get at work. I still have my strong opinions and I still love to debate / discuss these things....I just dont have a) the people to do it with or b) the opportunity.  

I also noticed that all my "friends" now that I am a SAHM, are all very similar to me - ie similar cultural / background / race / socio economic position.  We do all still have different views and opinions, political beliefs, but we are probably all fairly similar in terms of the big stuff.

Just made me think about when I make new friends whether I am sub-consciously attracted to people that are similar to me.

 

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