OHbaby! Forums : Feeling Crap https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 04 Apr 2026 22:04:14 +0000 Tue, 05 Aug 2008 10:33:51 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=19578 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : i have heard play groups are great....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=459920&title=feeling-crap#459920 Author: chonny
Subject: 19578
Posted: 05 August 2008 at 10:33am

i have heard play groups are great. We used to go to a nanny one & V loved it! loved the sand pit and people to play with. Wish i knew where another one out here was.....]]> Tue, 05 Aug 2008 10:33:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=459920&title=feeling-crap#459920 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : Don&#039;t worry too much about...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=459807&title=feeling-crap#459807 Author: jaycee
Subject: 19578
Posted: 05 August 2008 at 8:28am

Don't worry too much about the food - I have found that looking as what Amy eats over a 3 or 4 day period is more helpful that day by day. Somedays they eat nothing and the next day it is like a rugby team has been through the pantry!!

have you tried a playgroup? The ideas is you stay with your child so it is not daycare but they have heaps of stuff for the kids to do - paint, playdoh, water play, sandpit, dress up.... all the stuff that is too difficult/messy/expensive to get out at home for one child!

They are usually run at church halls or the sallies and you don't have to go every week, just when you feel like it and they usually just ask for a gold coin donation to cover the tea & coffee. They are great, esp once your DD becomes a toddler!

Hope you are having a better day today Some days being a mummy is the hardest job in the world (esp when it has been raining for 3 weeks solid) but other days it the BESTEST EVER job!]]> Tue, 05 Aug 2008 08:28:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=459807&title=feeling-crap#459807 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : Hey Helen, hope you feelign better...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=459169&title=feeling-crap#459169 Author: chonny
Subject: 19578
Posted: 04 August 2008 at 3:17pm

Hey Helen, hope you feelign better hun. Sounds like you and i are not too different. I am feelign very much thte same with some things lately.

To give you heads up bout the solids, Vincent still doesn't eat a decent amount every meal. For example the other day he ate like it was goign out of fashion, yet today he barely eaten anything so far. And you knwo what he's like, happy, cheerful & chubby. lol. I wouldn't worry too much. I know that is easier said than done as i always get like this too bout his eating but then i remember that he not a starved kid to look at, and he will eat when he wants it. Joy is always smily when i see her so i'm sure things will look up very soon.

Yay for going to Mainly Music. We shoudl be there this week too. We only go once a fortnight. If you wanted to have coffee & hang out for a bit afterwards this week, let me knwo as we are staying in town all day as i'm working at 3pm.

Also, if you ever feeling really down again, let me know and maybe we can catch up or something.

And to reassure you, i used to get really upset with Vincent too. It got so bad at one stage i was worreid i would do something really hurtful to him (smack him too hard ) and had to go to my parents so someone else could look after him while i blobbed in front of tv.

We all here for you! hugs!]]> Mon, 04 Aug 2008 15:17:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=459169&title=feeling-crap#459169 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : lol, yeah it was funny but then...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=455464&title=feeling-crap#455464 Author: sunnyhoney
Subject: 19578
Posted: 31 July 2008 at 9:42pm

lol, yeah it was funny but then living in the same area I figured it was only a matter of time before we ran into each other ]]> Thu, 31 Jul 2008 21:42:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=455464&title=feeling-crap#455464 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : lol, yeah it was funny but then...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=455462&title=feeling-crap#455462 Author: sunnyhoney
Subject: 19578
Posted: 31 July 2008 at 9:42pm

lol, yeah it was funny but then living in the same area I figured it was only a matter of time before we ran into each other ]]> Thu, 31 Jul 2008 21:42:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=455462&title=feeling-crap#455462 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : LOL how funny to run into you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=455442&title=feeling-crap#455442 Author: Maya
Subject: 19578
Posted: 31 July 2008 at 9:30pm

LOL how funny to run into you at Mainly Music! The gremlins are pretty recognisable tho! Hope you enjoyed it, we our Mainly Music.]]> Thu, 31 Jul 2008 21:30:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=455442&title=feeling-crap#455442 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : Thanks, that would be cool. Would...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=454576&title=feeling-crap#454576 Author: sunnyhoney
Subject: 19578
Posted: 31 July 2008 at 8:48am

Thanks, that would be cool. Would also be cool to meet you Emma, I think we live quite close.

Retail therapy was great and gave me something else to think about for a bit. Only problem is now there is nothing else to shop for. Probably a good thing for the credit card!!

Off to Mainly Music for the first time today. So feeling positive about getting out of the house again.

Thanks so much to all you ladies for your support and encouragement. It means heaps. This website (and you) is an absolute godsend!]]> Thu, 31 Jul 2008 08:48:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=454576&title=feeling-crap#454576 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : Hugs Sunnyhoney, glad to hear...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=454382&title=feeling-crap#454382 Author: Maya
Subject: 19578
Posted: 30 July 2008 at 9:21pm

Hugs Sunnyhoney, glad to hear things are a wee bit more positive.

For what it's worth, I'm sure Joy doesn't hate you! I've had all sorts of attachment issues with the gremlins, to the point where we are having therapists come in to help with the bonding, but they have all said that no matter how detached *I* might feel, it's obvious that THEY are perfectly well attached to me, they have no idea how conflicted and guilty I feel, they just know I'm their mum and they love me. I'm sure wee Joy is the same - she knows that you love her and that you are her safe place.

Sam and I are gonna organise coffee real soon, maybe you could come along too? Would get you out of the house, and the gremlins are great entertainment value ]]> Wed, 30 Jul 2008 21:21:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=454382&title=feeling-crap#454382 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : MonicaMouse wrote:If this were...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=454281&title=feeling-crap#454281 Author: NikkiB
Subject: 19578
Posted: 30 July 2008 at 8:37pm

Originally posted by MonicaMouse MonicaMouse wrote:

If this were a full-time paid job and you came up against a problem what would you do, ask for help right? Well that's what my MMH person asked me one day, which made me feel better about putting my hand up - or reaching out to you guys for ideas, or even just sharing the problem. Sometimes I think that this motherhood thing is one of the biggest challenges that we will ever get, (and without that manual! ) but also one with the greatest rewards


So true!!!!!!

SH. I hope you and Joy are feeling better now.

I think we can be particularly hard on yourselves if we can't be 'happy' mummy all the time for our babies. In reality, who is happy all the time anyway????

I've said this so many times, but I'm always blown away with the amount of support and encouragment (sp?) on this forum. I hope you can draw strength from it.

Joy does sound like a happy wee girl (normally, when she's not sick), I'm sure you are doing a great job.   

Also, I was pleased to hear that your DH had got a job Retail therapy can do wonders ]]> Wed, 30 Jul 2008 20:37:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=454281&title=feeling-crap#454281 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : That&#039;s great SH - smiles...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453966&title=feeling-crap#453966 Author: monster
Subject: 19578
Posted: 30 July 2008 at 3:46pm

That's great SH - smiles can make a big difference, eh? Poor sick Joy though, hope things improve for her soon. I'm sure talking to your counsellor will help you out even more.

I totally agree about the weather thing - it's amazing what a difference a walk outside on a sunny day can make!

Things are going well here, but I've had to make an effort to organise time out for myself (getting out of the house during weekends, or evenings after T is in bed). I think that's really helped refresh me, IYKWIM?]]> Wed, 30 Jul 2008 15:46:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453966&title=feeling-crap#453966 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453936&title=feeling-crap#453936 Author: sunnyhoney
Subject: 19578
Posted: 30 July 2008 at 3:23pm

]]> Wed, 30 Jul 2008 15:23:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453936&title=feeling-crap#453936 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : Hope your appointment goes well....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453924&title=feeling-crap#453924 Author: MonicaMouse
Subject: 19578
Posted: 30 July 2008 at 3:14pm

Hope your appointment goes well. I agree with Sam, this weather certainly doesn't help.

It's so hard somedays not to get frustrated when bubs suddenly changes from eating well/playing well to this strange wee thing who won't do anything they used to. I know you said that you know of other Mums who don't get a time out, and are in a worse situation, but everyone deserves that break every now and again, and if we didn't feel the way we do/did then we wouldn't fully appreciate all the great things. I haven't meet you or Joy, but from what I've read, you are doing a great job with her.

If this were a full-time paid job and you came up against a problem what would you do, ask for help right? Well that's what my MMH person asked me one day, which made me feel better about putting my hand up - or reaching out to you guys for ideas, or even just sharing the problem. Sometimes I think that this motherhood thing is one of the biggest challenges that we will ever get, (and without that manual! ) but also one with the greatest rewards ]]> Wed, 30 Jul 2008 15:14:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453924&title=feeling-crap#453924 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : Thanks Simsam, that is so lovely...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453922&title=feeling-crap#453922 Author: sunnyhoney
Subject: 19578
Posted: 30 July 2008 at 3:12pm

Thanks Simsam, that is so lovely of you to offer.
Yes, I have been keeping up to date with all the posts although not posting much myself. I think a lot of us are feeling down. Maybe it's the 10 month Mummy blues .
Hope you are feeling better soon. I can't think of anything worse than having to look after children when you are as sick as you are. You do a great job.]]> Wed, 30 Jul 2008 15:12:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453922&title=feeling-crap#453922 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : Hey SH - shall we form a club?!?! I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453902&title=feeling-crap#453902 Author: MummyFreckle
Subject: 19578
Posted: 30 July 2008 at 3:01pm

Hey SH - shall we form a club?!?!

I know exactly how you are feeling...you have seen my recent posts. Its tough going and some days it all seems too hard doesnt it!

You are not a bad mummy, and Joy does not and will not hate you. We have seen you with Joy and she is a "joy"...and a very happy wee thing, you arent doing anything wrong at all!

I think this weather is making everyone cranky and depressed too.....its hard when getting out is a mission, and you cant even go outside into the sunshine for a breath of fresh air!

Once we are all well in this house, if you wanted to drop Joy over for a playdate with Oli whilst you have some time out...then thats cool with us!

 

]]> Wed, 30 Jul 2008 15:01:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453902&title=feeling-crap#453902 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : Hi Monster, thanks for asking....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453843&title=feeling-crap#453843 Author: sunnyhoney
Subject: 19578
Posted: 30 July 2008 at 2:14pm

Hi Monster, thanks for asking. We are ok...Joy has a nasty cough and still quite unwell. But we went out again this morning and did some more shopping. Did get some cool smiles from her this morning. I think she likes shopping
I think I am still quite down but for the time being it is a stagnant feeling...I am feeling quite lethargic and tired and not looking forward to going out to do the groceries.
Am off to see my councillor tomorrow so we will probably have a talk about things.

How are you guys?]]> Wed, 30 Jul 2008 14:14:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453843&title=feeling-crap#453843 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : How are you and Joy doing today? ...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453818&title=feeling-crap#453818 Author: monster
Subject: 19578
Posted: 30 July 2008 at 1:55pm

How are you and Joy doing today?

]]> Wed, 30 Jul 2008 13:55:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453818&title=feeling-crap#453818 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : Yeah, I have thought about it...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453121&title=feeling-crap#453121 Author: sunnyhoney
Subject: 19578
Posted: 29 July 2008 at 7:55pm

Yeah, I have thought about it and hopefully decided against it. Am waiting for my work to get back to me about working from home. I'm not that keen on strangers raising my children. (it's just my preference) Glad it is working for you. Thanks for your advice today too ]]> Tue, 29 Jul 2008 19:55:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453121&title=feeling-crap#453121 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : have you thought about putting...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453104&title=feeling-crap#453104 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 19578
Posted: 29 July 2008 at 7:32pm

have you thought about putting joy into daycare for a couple of mornings a week?   charli started when she was about joy's age and she loved it! it was great to have that time for myself too.   we started with 2 mornings a week 3hrs at a time]]> Tue, 29 Jul 2008 19:32:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453104&title=feeling-crap#453104 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : Thanks everyone... We went out...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453001&title=feeling-crap#453001 Author: sunnyhoney
Subject: 19578
Posted: 29 July 2008 at 6:02pm

Thanks everyone...
We went out shopping this afternoon (DH finally got a full time job so it was spending time) and so most grizzling was covered up by mall music. Was good to get out of the house as I don't really have anyone to come look after Joy for me during the day.
I guess I am stressing about the food intake. It seems that just when she is finally eating great (good amount & variety) she goes through some stage of being fussy or sick or whatever and I'm back to square one again.
I think this has all just come to a head because DH was promising me a few complete days off when he had finished a few jobs but now he is working full time so I probably won't get that now. I just need to find a way to get through the days myself.
Gee, I really sound negative...and I don't like it!! ]]> Tue, 29 Jul 2008 18:02:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=453001&title=feeling-crap#453001 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : SH you are a fantastic Mum and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=452820&title=feeling-crap#452820 Author: peachy
Subject: 19578
Posted: 29 July 2008 at 3:04pm

SH you are a fantastic Mum and don't you forget it! Big hugs to you, I know how hard it is to try to be the best Mum possible, it is blimmin hardwork and some people don't give you credit for it. You are doing a wonderful job, Joy is always happy and playful all the times I have been around her.

We have organised a catch up again on the 15th, would love for you to come along and catch up again!

]]> Tue, 29 Jul 2008 15:04:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=452820&title=feeling-crap#452820 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : Thinking of you SH - you sound...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=452775&title=feeling-crap#452775 Author: babyg
Subject: 19578
Posted: 29 July 2008 at 2:38pm

Thinking of you SH - you sound like a mummy to me.]]> Tue, 29 Jul 2008 14:38:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=452775&title=feeling-crap#452775 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : Hope Joy starts feeling better...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=452684&title=feeling-crap#452684 Author: My3Sons
Subject: 19578
Posted: 29 July 2008 at 1:48pm

 Hope Joy starts feeling better soon, dont be too hard on yourself!  And bugger what anyone else thinks, Im sure you are doing a great job with her.  I remember posting something similar a few months back!  You are her Mummy and she s you!

]]> Tue, 29 Jul 2008 13:48:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=452684&title=feeling-crap#452684 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : its hard when they arent well......]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=452664&title=feeling-crap#452664 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 19578
Posted: 29 July 2008 at 1:39pm

its hard when they arent well... i know it doesnt feel like it now but it will improve, the sun will shine again and you will both smile again ... dont stress about the food and just do your best...if others are judging you maybe its cause they are jealous or lacking something themselves....

]]> Tue, 29 Jul 2008 13:39:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=452664&title=feeling-crap#452664 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : Sunnyhoney!!! Poor you! Is she...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=452409&title=feeling-crap#452409 Author: DJ
Subject: 19578
Posted: 29 July 2008 at 9:51am

Sunnyhoney!!!

Poor you! Is she still taking milk well? If so, I wouldn't stress too much about the solids. I think bubbas just know that they shouldn't eat when they are sick. I was stressing myself out about this when A was off solids for almost 4 weeks after being sick - plunket told me not to worry about it and that it can take a month for bubbas to regain an appetite. She has been ravenous for the past few days - I'm sure Joy will also let you know when she is ready to eat again.

Joy loves her Mummy to pieces!!!! Take her out to the park for a swing today and have some fun together!!!

]]> Tue, 29 Jul 2008 09:51:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=452409&title=feeling-crap#452409 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : awww hun!! i&#039;m positive...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=452404&title=feeling-crap#452404 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 19578
Posted: 29 July 2008 at 9:48am

awww hun!!

i'm positive joy doesn't hate you hun, she's probably feeling your frustration. you say she's not well, maybe that's why she's off her food....just make sure she's getting enough fluids and try not to stress about the food intake at the moment.

have you got anyone that can take joy for a few hours to give you a break? sometimes we just need some alone time to re-coup

as for others judging everything you do...there's not much you can do about that. people always think they have the right to tell you what's right and what's wrong....as hard as it is, try to just take on board what you like and ignore the rest. you know joy better than anyone and know whats best for your girl

]]> Tue, 29 Jul 2008 09:48:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=452404&title=feeling-crap#452404 <![CDATA[Feeling Crap : I feel like the worst mum lately....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=452387&title=feeling-crap#452387 Author: sunnyhoney
Subject: 19578
Posted: 29 July 2008 at 9:33am

I feel like the worst mum lately. Joy is not well and has gone right off food. I feel so bad for not being able to get her to eat and I feel so much judgement from others over the way I do things. She is so grizzly and I'm so frustrated..DH is gone for most of the day and comes home and does more work so we hardly spend time together...
I know there are mums out there who don't get time off at all so I'm not in the worst situation but I just feel so down and negative towards Joy and don't see a way out. My attitude to her often makes her cry or be upset and that just makes everything worse. I have this adorable little girl that I've always wanted but I am hating my life so much right now.
Worst thing is I feel like Joy hates me.

Edited by sunnyhoney]]> Tue, 29 Jul 2008 09:33:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19578&PID=452387&title=feeling-crap#452387