Oh forgot to add I've just started sending DH emails.  Usually just a couple of brief sentences but they're lovey dovey ones.

I'm not very good at articulating my emotions to DH so I usually find a poem or saying or song lyrics that suit and send those through.  DH is better at that sort of thing and sends me lovely poems in response.

One key thing though is don't sit around waiting for your DH to initiate the romance and charm.  Men like to be romanced too.  If you want the spark back the best thing to do is create it.

we have date night once a month....usually on the 11th of every month cus we got married on the 11th feb......i have to say though thats its always me who remembers and comes up with the babysitter and where to go and even pay sometimes! DH believe it or not has a hard time leaving miss1  (just so we could spend time together) if it was up to him he would have her come along with us......that would really defeat the purpose........and i feel like hes being the over protective mother and im the "just wana get away husband"! lol .sometimes its an extravagant dinner and an over nighter (if the 11th falls on the weekend) , other times we order in takeaways......its really just about the quality time together......

i used to be a real cards and letter gal and wen miss1 came along that just went to dust...i think il try getting into that again....

We were having a date night once a month, but for the past few months that has gone by the wayside.

We were trying to go the movies and a bite to eat which was nice just to be out together.

It was our wedding anniversary in July and we went away for a night at a hotel, my mum came and stayed with Oli, so his routines werent disrupted! We just went into town, so only 10mins away from home...which made me feel comfortable that I could get home if I needed to.

How old is your little one babymama?  What did you do together before baby was born?

We had our first night out alone together last month and it was fantastic!  I'm sending Michaela over to her aunty's again next weekend (and hoping this time it'll be easier to retrieve her).

We're now making a point of having real quality time together at least once a fortnight, it's hard for us because DH doesn't get home until 10:30pm Mon - Fri and his mum lives downstairs so we often don't get much in the way of alone time but occassionally once I've put Michaela to bed on a Saturday night I'll go and do my hair and makeup, get dressed into something nice and crack open a bottle of wine to share - guys are very visual and appreciate the effort (and I appreciate the response IYKWIM).  The beauty of this is that we don't need to find a babysitter.

The other thing we did a lot together, when Michaela was still little, was pop her in her pram at nap time and wander through town checking out shops and galleries and stopping for coffee.  Nowadays when the 3 of us go out together it's to playgrounds etc, which is really fun but not so good for one on one time with DH.

The other thing you can do is find a common task to do together.  For eg:

•  one of these days DH and I are going to sort out our photos into a scrapbook/album. 
• If you're both into DIY you could try building something together (there are lots of plans on the internet for great kids stuff like table and chair sets etc - I'm forever trying to get DH to build something with me but he doesn't understand why we don't just buy it). 
• Do you own your own home and are there any particular tasks that you need done around it? 
• Does your DH like playstation or xbox?  You could get a 2 player game and play it with him (DH and I used to play Tiger Woods PGA and Tony Hawks Skating together). 

 That's all I have atm but I'll let you know if I think of anything else.

Last time me and DH went out together just by ourselves was in March . but he is in the middle of his officer training so we don't get any time to ourselves.