Amber, sounds normal, I honestly thought I was inside out afterwards!!! And I did not dare look just the feel was enough but seriously it all got a lot better in the last 10 days or so and things start to feel way more normal.

I hated all bm's they were painful and felt I was pushing my whole inside out.

Drink loads of water and eat kiwi fruit or something like that to ensure you do go to the loo often and its not hard iykwim. It does get easier.

When you were in Hospital did someone mention making an appointment to a specialist at the hospital? I had a tear and had to have stitches and I got sent an appointment for a specialist at the hospital just to double check everything was OK down there. I also remember getting a call from a hosptial physio a couple of weeks after I got home, just for a catch up. Not sure if this is the norm or not for hospitals (this was at North Shore Hospital), but I thought it was pretty good service.....

Also my MW had a quick look 'down there' just to make sure everything was healing nicely.

generally its just an extreme weakness of your pelvic floor.  If it causes ongoing probs then you get surgery but they dont like to do that till you have finished having kids.  There are all sorts of other things to hold it all in place...the mind boggles but yep pelvic floor exercises is the first stop.  I got referred to a physio but by the time I got my appointment things were improving.  She did suggest starting little and doing them lying down on your back.  Also you will need to slowly start to find your abs again.....I still dont know where mine went.

I know I am really weak in that area now (too lazy at the time) and seem to leak urine a bit now I am pregnant.  Again I think this is more common than people let on.  I have vowed to work those muscles like crazy after this one is born.  I am scared that the same thing will happen again...it is not comfy.  I found I'd get really sore down there going for a walk around the block.  even sitting hurt some times so make the most of bubs sleep times and lay on the couch.

My MW told me that 6-8 weeks is a magical time...everything seems to come right.  I didnt believe her but it does!

I had a prolapse...but didnt look..it just felt like everything was in the wrong place and falling out.  I mentioned to my MW who checked..internal lying down then one standing up.  The cervix was definately lower standing up.  I was devestated as I couldnt imagine it ever feeling right again.  Pelvic Floor exercises where the way to go and go easy.  I found it worse when I was walking around etc.  Hurting to poo makes sense as you have to relax your pelvic floor which then drops everything you have been trying to hold up.

It does get better!!!!  Do your exercises and take it easy.  It will take weeks though...I didnt feel comfortable for nearly 8 weeks......and I notice now I am pregnant that passing a hard poo hurts and feels like everything is dropping again....rest of the time I feel totally fine (as fine as preggy feels).

As for the hole...cant help you there...but either way talk to your MW...thats what they are for