Ok, I may have to take back some of what I just said. DH decided to come home on his lunch break today and brought me chocolates and vicks vapodrops

How ever did he know.

I know I am a lot to blame for the lack of romance, DH tries to do nice stuff, like bring me home stuff like magazines and icecreams and in the past I have gone mad thinking could have spent the money on things we atcually needed.

I think we both have quite different ways of showing love and where his is gift giving, mine definately isnt. I just love to be able to spend time together. I really have to work hard on realising when he is trying to be romantic and not shut him down for it

We do romantic stuff everyday like we always kiss hello and goodbye and occassionally just kiss for the sake of it.  We always cuddle.  We tell each other that we love each other everyday.

We don't see a lot of each other because we work different hours but DH used to pop down from work everyday while I was on my way home so we could spend 5 mins together.  He gets really busy and can't do that everyday so I started taking later lunches a couple of times a week and now walk to the train station 15 mins from work so I can meet him when he gets into town and walk him back to work.

That's the everyday stuff we do for each other.  The more planned events don't happen as often (because we don't have the time, once I'm off work again we'll see a lot more of each other).  Last month for our anniversary I made him a card using candys and chocolates (with the help of the ladies on here - thanks) and he made me some chocolate fudge, bought me my favourite lollies and spent the entire day doing exactly what I wanted to do.  A couple of months earlier I planned an evening for us and told him what I had planned.  We put Michaela to bed and both got dressed up and he'd made a plyalist of romantic music for the night (and I got knocked up).  Another time we had a date at home and he snuck out of the house to buy me flowers while I was getting ready and then knocked on the door like a proper gentleman caller.

ETA: we also occasionally send each other texts and emails telling the other how me we love them.

I feel a bit stink now...

There are lots of things that DH does as standard behaviour that I never think of as romantic, because he has always done them.

He always kisses me and Oli hello / goodbye, he rings me during the day to let me know what he is up to and where he is and what time he will be home.  He helps with things (when I ask him), and is always thoughtful when it comes to pressies.

I guess I would like some spontenaity or something like that. I think that as a SAHM its easy to get into the doldrums of everyday life, housework, cooking, cleaning etc...and having something special or romantic happen would just be lovely.

No rmamance here. I think Ineed to see him for longer that 2 seconds. At the moment, he is out of the house before I wake up, he pops home brienfly after work grabs food and his keyboard and is out untill well after I am asleep. I cant wait untill christmas eve when I get to see him again!

Not that we were ever that romantic when he wasnt so busy. Even to spend 30 minutes cuddling on the couch infront of the TV together would be so nice!

We used to be so affectionate before kids and sometimes I really miss that. When we ever do get a break without the girls all I want to do is sleep! I think next year we are going to have to make a date night once a month.

MelanieAndBree wrote: [

Ha ha me to, i was like I ACTUALLY AM FOR ONCE.. then i read the post lol.

Have you tried romancing him?  It's not a one way street and although we women seem to want it more than men do they like to be romanced too. 

My theory is the more romance you instigate the more he'll start romancing you too.  You might even want to plan an evening together and tell him exactly what you have planned and then see what he brings to the party too.  You don't need to plan a big night out.  We have had lots of lovely romantic 'dates' at home after Michaela goes to sleep. 

caitlynsmygirl wrote: I thought you were going to say whos getting any ...."special relations" and i was going to say , erm , not my DF, not while im so off ...that .... Hes much more romantic than me , but actually.lately even his romance levels have dropped a bit ....hmmmm

Ha ha me to, i was like I ACTUALLY AM FOR ONCE.. then i read the post lol.

romance that is? I just wondered if I am being unrealistic to expect my lovely DH to be vaguely romantic once in a while. Not expecting wine and roses everyday, but something .... anything....once in a while would be nice.

I know its a bit mad at this time of year for him, and that he is really busy.....but am feeling a wee bit neglected at the moment....

Dont get me wrong - he is a fantastic hubby, a wonderful provider, an awesome daddy, and he helps out a lot with the young fella, but I need to feel like something other than a climbing frame, meal provider, bum washer, laundry woman, cook.....the list goes on!!!

Sorry a bit woe is me...