OHbaby! Forums : Addictions https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 09 Apr 2026 20:11:39 +0000 Sun, 11 Jan 2009 17:46:35 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=23609 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Addictions : I have to admint I had a smoke...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=584103&title=addictions#584103 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 23609
Posted: 11 January 2009 at 5:46pm

I have to admint I had a smoke today. I was helping my friend move house and she just gave one to me (out of habit, and I just took it out of habit), after I had it I was like WTF and didn't ahve any more after that.

]]> Sun, 11 Jan 2009 17:46:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=584103&title=addictions#584103 <![CDATA[Addictions : It is actually impossible for...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=584089&title=addictions#584089 Author: TraceyA
Subject: 23609
Posted: 11 January 2009 at 5:36pm

It is actually impossible for you to assert self-control over two things at once. If you try, you will end up failing both things (I'll see if I can dredge up that research for you).

Please stick with the non-smoking! The total lifespan you will save is so much longer then if you were on the computer less

And as the others have said, if your on it for fun when he goes for a run, aka - he's not even home!, then he needs to pull his head in. If it's taking time out of your couple or family time then he might have a bit of a point. I'd just let this one ride out for a while (especially if he's going to be away).]]> Sun, 11 Jan 2009 17:36:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=584089&title=addictions#584089 <![CDATA[Addictions : I haven&#039;t been on in AGES,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=584050&title=addictions#584050 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 23609
Posted: 11 January 2009 at 4:42pm

I haven't been on in AGES, as it is my addiction as well (and coke zero, too) and as our marriage is in the crapper, I have made an effort to stay off the computer to spend more time with him,as he said it is the one thing he hates the most, the amount of time I spend on the net. It has helped that he has been home since xmas eve and I have already made plans for my childfree time inthe morning and it osen't include getting in here!
What I have enjoyed the most about not turning the pc on at all is the amount of reading I have done! I read about 5 books this last week. Even last night when R was at the pub (sat night is usually my HUGE night online, lol) I didn't even think about turning it on. In fact it is only on now as I had to check my emails for something so as I have no excuse tomorrow morning!
So maybe make an effort for say one PC free night a week?
Hugs chick, and well done on the smoking stopping thing.]]> Sun, 11 Jan 2009 16:42:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=584050&title=addictions#584050 <![CDATA[Addictions : There is no way he should a) expect...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=583402&title=addictions#583402 Author: my4beauties
Subject: 23609
Posted: 10 January 2009 at 4:04pm

There is no way he should a) expect you to give up smoking and the computer at the same time and b) to give up the computer over smoking!!!!!

 

Smoking is a habit that will kill you and is expensive, being on the PC for 1.5 hrs a day won't.  Plus if he's not home when you're on it, what's the problem?  I feel as long as the kids are fed and looked after, they have clean clothes on, and the dishes are clean - why can't you have some "you" time once a day, or every second day.

 

My only addiction is the PC, and Dh has issues with it sometimes, but men have their addictions like Playstation, Xbox, watching sports etc, so why can't we have our "thing" too?  It's my contact with the outside world when I'm stuck at home most of the day.

 

You've done sooo well to be smokefree for this long, don't give up now!!! 

]]> Sat, 10 Jan 2009 16:04:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=583402&title=addictions#583402 <![CDATA[Addictions : Congrats on 7 days smokefree!!That...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=583274&title=addictions#583274 Author: My3Sons
Subject: 23609
Posted: 10 January 2009 at 12:42pm

Congrats on 7 days smokefree!! That is an awesome achievement!! I am no help on the computer addiction, although I try to limit to when D is napping and when they are in bed. 

]]> Sat, 10 Jan 2009 12:42:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=583274&title=addictions#583274 <![CDATA[Addictions : Hahaha. Those are my two addictions...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=583261&title=addictions#583261 Author: Snappy
Subject: 23609
Posted: 10 January 2009 at 12:10pm

Hahaha. Those are my two addictions and my DH has been onto me about them both also.

He sits there and reads his book while im on the computer. So i dont see what the difference is? At least I respond to him in a timely manner when he asks me a question. He has to finish his sentence, put his finger on the word, then peer over his book. And hes usually not very happy that ive interupted him.

I say keep up with the not smoking. ]]> Sat, 10 Jan 2009 12:10:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=583261&title=addictions#583261 <![CDATA[Addictions : I agree with the others don&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=583259&title=addictions#583259 Author: nictoddie
Subject: 23609
Posted: 10 January 2009 at 12:09pm

I agree with the others don't start smoking again! and yup bite me too lol, I actually don't think that is long to be online, my comp is on most of the day like Emma's was, but since having Sam I don't go on as much babies are very time consuming lol!]]> Sat, 10 Jan 2009 12:09:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=583259&title=addictions#583259 <![CDATA[Addictions : Make him sleep in the garage....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=583193&title=addictions#583193 Author: Danaj
Subject: 23609
Posted: 10 January 2009 at 10:33am

Make him sleep in the garage. Then he wont see how long you spend on the pooter lol. ]]> Sat, 10 Jan 2009 10:33:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=583193&title=addictions#583193 <![CDATA[Addictions : go with the non smoking much more...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=583168&title=addictions#583168 Author: tropics
Subject: 23609
Posted: 10 January 2009 at 10:08am

go with the non smoking much more healthier! and what would you do without us!!!

my DH thinks he should join ohbaby and facebook then he could log on upstairs and we could chat! lol

ohh hes coming better get off so he doesnt think thats what I do all day! ]]> Sat, 10 Jan 2009 10:08:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=583168&title=addictions#583168 <![CDATA[Addictions : I agree with everyone . What crazy...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=583125&title=addictions#583125 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 23609
Posted: 10 January 2009 at 9:19am

I agree with everyone .
What crazy talk hes talking, another reason on the very long list of why I give men a patient "your'e a SPECIAL person :" smile whenever they talk to me ....]]> Sat, 10 Jan 2009 09:19:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=583125&title=addictions#583125 <![CDATA[Addictions : Yes dont start smoking again you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=583069&title=addictions#583069 Author: susieq
Subject: 23609
Posted: 10 January 2009 at 7:50am

Yes dont start smoking again you are doing well.
You need computer time]]> Sat, 10 Jan 2009 07:50:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=583069&title=addictions#583069 <![CDATA[Addictions : Don&#039;t start smoking again...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582993&title=addictions#582993 Author: fire_engine
Subject: 23609
Posted: 09 January 2009 at 9:40pm

Don't start smoking again - you've done so well.

But if you know how to crack the computer addiction, please let me know ]]> Fri, 09 Jan 2009 21:40:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582993&title=addictions#582993 <![CDATA[Addictions : Doesn&#039;t really make sense...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582964&title=addictions#582964 Author: Danaj
Subject: 23609
Posted: 09 January 2009 at 9:28pm

Doesn't really make sense to me becks. An hour and a half is not long at all especially if he is out for a run.

I'm still struggling with the smoking cravings too. I'm going to find it so hard not to start again after bubs is born and DH is back at work. I'll be your no smoking buddy if you want? I know i've been off them for longer but I'm still having major cravings several times a day and even the mood swings. Must be something to do with being pg as I don't think they usually last this long. ]]> Fri, 09 Jan 2009 21:28:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582964&title=addictions#582964 <![CDATA[Addictions : I agree with lizzle. ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582960&title=addictions#582960 Author: gannet
Subject: 23609
Posted: 09 January 2009 at 9:25pm

I agree with lizzle.]]> Fri, 09 Jan 2009 21:25:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582960&title=addictions#582960 <![CDATA[Addictions : Don&#039;t start smoking again,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582947&title=addictions#582947 Author: .Mel
Subject: 23609
Posted: 09 January 2009 at 9:11pm

Don't start smoking again, tell him to piss off! Thats just crazy, smoking is a more expensive habit than the computer.

I only go on the computer now when the kids are in bed. I have a curfew of 10pm sometimes earlier. I don't "need" it as much as I used too.]]> Fri, 09 Jan 2009 21:11:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582947&title=addictions#582947 <![CDATA[Addictions : What does he expect you to do...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582941&title=addictions#582941 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 23609
Posted: 09 January 2009 at 9:04pm

What does he expect you to do when you aren't on the computer?
You've done great with giving up the smokes, I'd stick with it.

The timer thing is a great idea too.

We ended up with two computers in our house, cause DH had to wait for me to finish.]]> Fri, 09 Jan 2009 21:04:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582941&title=addictions#582941 <![CDATA[Addictions : I&#039;d say bite me. Willie told...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582926&title=addictions#582926 Author: Maya
Subject: 23609
Posted: 09 January 2009 at 8:49pm

I'd say bite me. Willie told the Mothercraft nurse that the computer is my other 'baby', I told him to mind his own business .

How about cutting down the time you're on it? I've done that recently, kind of without even trying coz my computer died then it's been Xmas etc. but I find myself not even wanting to have it on during the day whereas before I had it on 24-7 and was always saying "oh I just need to check something" as an excuse to get online.]]> Fri, 09 Jan 2009 20:49:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582926&title=addictions#582926 <![CDATA[Addictions : I usually do go on it when the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582917&title=addictions#582917 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 23609
Posted: 09 January 2009 at 8:39pm

I usually do go on it when the boys are in bed. What I don't get is that he is gone in 6 days back to work (as in I won't see him as he will be in the field and then down to Linton). At the moment I spend about 1-1 1/2 on the computer a day (not including work time) so I don't think that is that much (and I do it when he goes for a run).

]]> Fri, 09 Jan 2009 20:39:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582917&title=addictions#582917 <![CDATA[Addictions : You&#039;ve done really well Becks,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582908&title=addictions#582908 Author: MrsMojo
Subject: 23609
Posted: 09 January 2009 at 8:29pm

You've done really well Becks, don't let him encourage you back to smoking since you've been wanting to stop for ages.

You could assign computer free days and as others have said set aside specific times, an hour after the kids head to bed for instance.

]]> Fri, 09 Jan 2009 20:29:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582908&title=addictions#582908 <![CDATA[Addictions : Wow can&#039;t believe he would...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582906&title=addictions#582906 Author: Bubbaloo
Subject: 23609
Posted: 09 January 2009 at 8:27pm

Wow can't believe he would rather you smoke than be on the comp. I would do what the others have said and just go on the comp when the kids have gone to bed.

By the way congrats on lasting the first week you have done so well please don't give up.]]> Fri, 09 Jan 2009 20:27:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582906&title=addictions#582906 <![CDATA[Addictions : He&#039;s probably wanting to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582902&title=addictions#582902 Author: ooEvaoo
Subject: 23609
Posted: 09 January 2009 at 8:22pm

He's probably wanting to spend more time together as a family. I know my DP sometimes thinks I spend too much time on the comp lol. Now I usually wait til everyone is in bed.]]> Fri, 09 Jan 2009 20:22:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582902&title=addictions#582902 <![CDATA[Addictions : I tend to go online when Issy...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582897&title=addictions#582897 Author: lilfatty
Subject: 23609
Posted: 09 January 2009 at 8:19pm

I tend to go online when Issy goes to bed (as opposed to when I get home from work).

And why would he tell you to smoke instead of use the computer?? Thats just crazy!]]> Fri, 09 Jan 2009 20:19:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582897&title=addictions#582897 <![CDATA[Addictions : i would tell him the computer...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582896&title=addictions#582896 Author: lizzle
Subject: 23609
Posted: 09 January 2009 at 8:19pm

i would tell him the computer doesn't have the potential to give you lung cancer! or cost heaps of money. you've done really well to get this far Becks - don't give up!!!


as for cutting computer time - what about a timer - you can download one - set it for an hour and after that - times up and it goes off. ]]> Fri, 09 Jan 2009 20:19:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582896&title=addictions#582896 <![CDATA[Addictions : SO DH said I have 2 addictions...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582882&title=addictions#582882 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 23609
Posted: 09 January 2009 at 8:02pm

SO DH said I have 2 addictions (the computer and smokes) and I have to give them both up. Last Friday I had my last smoke (haven't had one since but my god I have so wanted to. Last night he told me that I have a problem with the computer and to stop going on it. So I told him which one is it to give up the smokes or the computer. He said the computer and I can start smoking again. I do but I don't as I have done so well over the past week.

How do I cut down on the computer time after work???

]]> Fri, 09 Jan 2009 20:02:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23609&PID=582882&title=addictions#582882