https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 18:02:17 +0000 Mon, 19 Jan 2009 13:24:35 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=23833 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=591615&title=discipline-or-distraction#591615 Author: emz
Subject: 23833
Posted: 19 January 2009 at 1:24pm

We have used baby time out since Jack was about 9 months old and it works OK. We just pick him up, turn him away from people or take him out of the room, don't talk or anything for 30 seconds depending on how old they are (30 seconds per year of age I think it is). Jack knows now what it is! Sometimes no amount of positive stuff beforehand can stop a tantrum so you do have to be prepared.

I think the distraction thing is fine, but will you always have something you can distract her with? I think at least with the time out thing, you can do it almost anywhere.]]> Mon, 19 Jan 2009 13:24:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=591615&title=discipline-or-distraction#591615 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=591351&title=discipline-or-distraction#591351 Author: Glow
Subject: 23833
Posted: 19 January 2009 at 8:39am

I would be more inclined to redirect/distract rather than use solitary confinment (time out/naughty spot) I would only use it as a last resort & rather give positive guidance through praise & encouragement to reinforce desired behaviors.
I would show empathy toward them & help them to regonise & express their emotions in appropriate ways & support them in finding a solution



]]> Mon, 19 Jan 2009 08:39:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=591351&title=discipline-or-distraction#591351 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=591276&title=discipline-or-distraction#591276 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 23833
Posted: 18 January 2009 at 10:26pm

Linzy wrote: It is hard to get DH to 'follow the rules' isn't it!

ahh, sometimes you need to put DH/DF/DP in time out too ....and ignore them ]]> Sun, 18 Jan 2009 22:26:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=591276&title=discipline-or-distraction#591276 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=591268&title=discipline-or-distraction#591268 Author: busymum
Subject: 23833
Posted: 18 January 2009 at 10:14pm

At that age I would remove them from the room so that the attention factor is lost. I put that age into the hallway or their bedroom without shutting the door and they can come back when they have settled down. Sometimes I'll repeat that but my girls quickly got the idea that tantruming wasn't much fun.]]> Sun, 18 Jan 2009 22:14:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=591268&title=discipline-or-distraction#591268 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=591067&title=discipline-or-distraction#591067 Author: Candkids
Subject: 23833
Posted: 18 January 2009 at 6:47pm

jett does the tantrum thing too if somethings taken away from him (usually by the big sister) if i try to pick him up to move him away from something he gos all floopy so i cant pick him up properly and then starts screaming and kicking
i usually move him to a safe place and put him down and walk away, and dh does the same thing and sarah knows to stay away from him too, soon enough he realises theres other things going on and stops

but . . .
now whenever sarahs in her naughty spot jett gos and sits down next to her like its a game ]]> Sun, 18 Jan 2009 18:47:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=591067&title=discipline-or-distraction#591067 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=591058&title=discipline-or-distraction#591058 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 23833
Posted: 18 January 2009 at 6:32pm

It is hard to get DH to 'follow the rules' isn't it!

I generally try and distract Jack if he is doing something he shouldn't and telling him the leave it alone doesn't work. We don't tend to get tantrums. Once a tantrum started though I would do as you are and ignore it. In your situation I would probably only use distraction to avoid a tantrum not once it has started]]> Sun, 18 Jan 2009 18:32:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=591058&title=discipline-or-distraction#591058 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=591023&title=discipline-or-distraction#591023 Author: MissCandice
Subject: 23833
Posted: 18 January 2009 at 5:52pm

I definatley dont want that and i really want her to understand that they are not ok. Cool, well i will just keep ignoring them. I just have to get DF to do the same, he likes to gie her cuddles and stuff in the 'ignore' period.]]> Sun, 18 Jan 2009 17:52:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=591023&title=discipline-or-distraction#591023 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=590920&title=discipline-or-distraction#590920 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 23833
Posted: 18 January 2009 at 3:24pm

I think what you are doing is the right track Kandice, personally everytime I have seen the "distraction " method work , it lasts for 5 minutes anyway.

What you are teaching her now is that , 1) you wont watch her tantrum, which takes the point out of it anyway , and 2) that you are the boss and you make the rules in your house.

My friend, her daughter is the boss of her house. Believe me, she would be the first to say you don't want that .

Edited by caitlynsmygirl]]> Sun, 18 Jan 2009 15:24:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=590920&title=discipline-or-distraction#590920 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=590872&title=discipline-or-distraction#590872 Author: Bobbie
Subject: 23833
Posted: 18 January 2009 at 2:05pm

Kandice we haven't really got into full tantrum mode here yet but I think I would probably do what you're doing now TBH. All the stuff I've read says ignoring it until they calm down is the way to go.]]> Sun, 18 Jan 2009 14:05:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=590872&title=discipline-or-distraction#590872 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=590797&title=discipline-or-distraction#590797 Author: lilfatty
Subject: 23833
Posted: 18 January 2009 at 12:12pm

I do the go outside thing too .. they soon forget why they were grumpy in the first place.]]> Sun, 18 Jan 2009 12:12:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=590797&title=discipline-or-distraction#590797 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=590762&title=discipline-or-distraction#590762 Author: kebakat
Subject: 23833
Posted: 18 January 2009 at 11:17am

That's basically what we do, over time we don't really get tantys so much anymore except if we are out at a playground and it's time to leave.

Whatever you do just be consistant and she will eventually get the message]]> Sun, 18 Jan 2009 11:17:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=590762&title=discipline-or-distraction#590762 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=590754&title=discipline-or-distraction#590754 Author: MissCandice
Subject: 23833
Posted: 18 January 2009 at 10:59am

monikah - thats what i was thinking about the distraction as well, it would almost seem to her that she is being rewarded for the naughty behaviour by me distracting her with toys and stuff.

But when she was younger and she used to get herself worked out when crying she would choke and vomit, we used to go out on the balcony and look around and talk, that usually distracted her, so im thinking something along those lines maybe]]> Sun, 18 Jan 2009 10:59:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=590754&title=discipline-or-distraction#590754 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=590752&title=discipline-or-distraction#590752 Author: MissCandice
Subject: 23833
Posted: 18 January 2009 at 10:57am

We dont use a naughty spot i just take her away from what it is she shouldnt be doing while she is full on kicking and screaming like a 'big kid tantrum' and put her down and walk away, if i dont she will hit, scratch and yell and scream, i swear sometimes she is posessed (sp)!

Lol..

Ok, im going to try disctraction this week and see how it pans out i think..]]> Sun, 18 Jan 2009 10:57:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=590752&title=discipline-or-distraction#590752 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=590751&title=discipline-or-distraction#590751 Author: monikah
Subject: 23833
Posted: 18 January 2009 at 10:57am

my neice has been put in time about since about that age. they dont understand at first but if you are consistant they pick up on it real quick. it means they dont get rewarded for naughty behaviour ie, getting new toys for being naughty or getting your attention when you are needing to do something else ie cook tea. she may be a bit young but it does work really well for miss T.]]> Sun, 18 Jan 2009 10:57:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=590751&title=discipline-or-distraction#590751 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=590748&title=discipline-or-distraction#590748 Author: lilfatty
Subject: 23833
Posted: 18 January 2009 at 10:53am

Hmmmm thats a conundrum (sp)

She is still so young .. so I personally wouldnt discipline but would distract.

Issy thinks "no" is some kind of funny game, because it is usally followed by either myself or DH going over and removing her from the situation or giving her something else to amuse her

But I couldnt imagine trying to get her to sit on the "naughty spot" just yet ]]> Sun, 18 Jan 2009 10:53:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=590748&title=discipline-or-distraction#590748 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=590724&title=discipline-or-distraction#590724 Author: MissCandice
Subject: 23833
Posted: 18 January 2009 at 10:13am

Miss Kylah has been throwing the mother of all tantrums lately and im not sure what to do about them. What i do know is i do not want them to continue.
It all happens when you say no, or move her away from something she shouldnt be touching/doing.
She actually screams really really loud, then starts crying, lying on the floor yelling and screaming, crying some more and just being all round angry!

What should i do, atm i just ignore it, not look at it and wait for her to calm down, then get down to her level and explain that we dont scream and yell like that and that there is no need for that behaviour.

But then shes still young maybe im doing it wrong?

What would you do?]]> Sun, 18 Jan 2009 10:13:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23833&PID=590724&title=discipline-or-distraction#590724