OHbaby! Forums : Weddings and babies- opinions https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Fri, 08 May 2026 04:56:28 +0000 Wed, 04 Feb 2009 21:49:39 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=24264 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : We have just been to a wedding...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=606251&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#606251 Author: becky
Subject: 24264
Posted: 04 February 2009 at 9:49pm

We have just been to a wedding last weekend and our 4 and half month old was not invited. He is exclusively breastfed and at first I was not going to go as I did not want to leave to feed DS or have him starving if the sitter missed his cues. The wedding was at a Hotel and my parents decided to rent a room as all family was invited, so we had the sitter be in the room with DS so he was close for feeds. It worked out well in the end the sitter took him for walks and for a drive after his feeds and he was very happy ]]> Wed, 04 Feb 2009 21:49:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=606251&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#606251 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : oh my gosh Kate that is *so* rude....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=605996&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#605996 Author: Bobbie
Subject: 24264
Posted: 04 February 2009 at 7:18pm

oh my gosh Kate that is *so* rude. There's a huge difference between a small baby and a toddler at a wedding IMHO. I think you said exactly the right thing.

ETA: And I would not even take a small baby if they said no kids without checking first.

Edited by Bobbie]]> Wed, 04 Feb 2009 19:18:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=605996&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#605996 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : Funny you say that...I just had...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=605976&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#605976 Author: minik8e
Subject: 24264
Posted: 04 February 2009 at 7:03pm

Funny you say that...I just had a message from a guest who said they weren't coming. Now she's thinking of coming WITH their son (who will be 15 months old and is NOT breastfed), because apparently as we aren't paying for the babysitters so people can leave their kids at home, we should just put up with it. Oh, and she doesn't mean to be a bi*&h, she's sure other people feel the same. I replied that no, we're not paying for the babysitters, however we are paying for the whole wedding and therefore it's our decision, not hers. And our family's children aren't invited, so no-one else's children are invited or welcome either. This was from the partner of one of DF's friends (who was kind of invited due to history - they're not so close anymore).

Edited by minik8e]]> Wed, 04 Feb 2009 19:03:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=605976&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#605976 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : That&#039;s so annoying Bobbie!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=605597&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#605597 Author: Chickoin
Subject: 24264
Posted: 04 February 2009 at 1:48pm

That's so annoying Bobbie! We went to a wedding a few years ago that stated on the invites that kids were not invited. A lady turned up with her daughter (about 8yrs old?) and boy did they get stared at!

Jo, yay that your friend said it is ok :) I will be looking forward to pics in our thread
]]> Wed, 04 Feb 2009 13:48:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=605597&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#605597 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : Lucky you! When Rowan was 3 months...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=605492&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#605492 Author: Bobbie
Subject: 24264
Posted: 04 February 2009 at 12:12pm

Lucky you! When Rowan was 3 months we had to leave her with my mum to go to a wedding (originally they said we could bring her so we RSVP'd for both me and DH and then they changed their mind).

Luckily it wasn't too bad but I did have to go home between the ceremony and the reception to feed her and then had to leave by 9:30pm as I felt like my boobs would explode.

Oh and I was so unimpressed to get there and see a 12 month old running around. So much for no babies.

]]> Wed, 04 Feb 2009 12:12:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=605492&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#605492 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : Just to put my two cents worth...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=605455&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#605455 Author: sweetpea
Subject: 24264
Posted: 04 February 2009 at 11:43am

Just to put my two cents worth in here. Like the other ladies have said i would most definmatley ask especially if the name of kids aren't on the invite. An option to consider is if the respetion is at a hotel there maybe baysitting service avaliable where someone can wsatch bub while you are having a good night you can still go in and feed when required. ]]> Wed, 04 Feb 2009 11:43:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=605455&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#605455 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : Well I emailled her and shes fine...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=605295&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#605295 Author: JoJames
Subject: 24264
Posted: 04 February 2009 at 8:45am

Well I emailled her and shes fine with him being there so thats good cause he's being such a toad lately. Thanks everyone]]> Wed, 04 Feb 2009 08:45:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=605295&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#605295 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : ellen wrote:Common courtesy...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=605024&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#605024 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 7:44pm

Originally posted by ellen ellen wrote:

Common courtesy to ask. I don't think it's unrealistic for them to expect you not to bring your baby, especially if they have no children themselves - quite possibly haven't even thought about the breastfeeding issue for you? If they don't want children at the wedding they would also have to accept that you may not be able to attend, which would be a shame, but at the end of the day it's their day, their choice.

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I agree with this , its just common courtesy to ask . ]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 19:44:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=605024&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#605024 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : Like everyone else has said, just...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=605022&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#605022 Author: mummyofprinces
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 7:42pm

Like everyone else has said, just ask. If bubs cant go, then unfortunately you may have to pass on the wedding.

Personally, I would not expect a mum to leave behind her baby unless she wanted to. My 9 month old neice was at our wedding and we have some gorgeous photos of her in her pretty wedding day dress. That said I did invite everyone's children... I feel weddings should be a family affair, but only my neice came in the end.

You may find that they expected you would bring bubs.

Good luck.]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 19:42:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=605022&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#605022 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : Common courtesy to ask. I don&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=605001&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#605001 Author: ellen
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 7:07pm

Common courtesy to ask. I don't think it's unrealistic for them to expect you not to bring your baby, especially if they have no children themselves - quite possibly haven't even thought about the breastfeeding issue for you? If they don't want children at the wedding they would also have to accept that you may not be able to attend, which would be a shame, but at the end of the day it's their day, their choice.

You would hope though that they would realise a 4 month old baby would be pretty unobtrusive and as long as it wasn't making noise through the ceremony and speeches that it wouldn't be a problem.

Hope you get to go! Weddings are so much fun.]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 19:07:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=605001&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#605001 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : Ask like the others have said....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604972&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604972 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 6:38pm

Ask like the others have said. But it comes down to if baby can't be there then you can't either as bub is BF.

At our wedding (ceremony) we had a few children there and that was fine. But at the reception the only "child" we had was Andrew. We had a couple of 16 year olds stay as we had paid for an adult but they couldn't make it on the day. TBH I didn't even notice them at all.

]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 18:38:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604972&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604972 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : I would definitely ask. We got...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604957&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604957 Author: Marlow
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 6:18pm

I would definitely ask. We got married last March and specified no children to the reception. They were all invited to the ceremony but as we got married on a Thursday, they were all in school. If we had invited everyone's children, there would have been 36 of them!

Having said that, we had four lots of guests (two family, two friends) due around the time of our wedding. I contacted them all separately and told them they were welcome to bring their babies.

Turns out my cousin couldn't make it (their twins were born a week later) and our friends' son was born on our wedding day. The two babies that did come were absolutely perfect and I'm pleased they and their parents were there.

Edited by Marlow]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 18:18:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604957&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604957 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : If he is exclusively bf I would...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604951&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604951 Author: busymum
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 6:11pm

If he is exclusively bf I would say the discretion is yours. If he was nearing 1yo, I'd say check with them before you take him with you.]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 18:11:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604951&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604951 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : By the way I think there is a...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604948&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604948 Author: katie1
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 6:07pm

By the way I think there is a big difference between a wee newborn at a wedding and an older baby - I never would have expected my toddler to be there!!!!]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 18:07:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604948&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604948 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : We have had four weddings in the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604947&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604947 Author: katie1
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 6:06pm

We have had four weddings in the twelve weeks we've had Harry. For each of them I asked if it was ok for him to be there. Two of them we had to fly to get there and I couldn't have gone if he wasn't able to be there. I accept that it is people' choice but I think that they also have to accept that if the breast fed newborn baby can't come then possibly neither can the mother. Everyone was fine about having him there and he was no bother I would never have let him cry and distract people and at the first one he was only a week old and just slept in his wee cocoon under the table. Nobody would have known he was there. It is often a really big effort to make it to weddings when you have young children and I think that if they are good friends then they will be understanding of that. ]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 18:06:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604947&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604947 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : I have gone to 4 weddings and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604921&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604921 Author: first
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 5:26pm

I have gone to 4 weddings and receptions with my boy in the last 3 months and no one even questioned the fact that he'd be coming with me as he was exclusively bf.
I think its when they start walking around and eating the adult food that people don't want them there.
GOod luck with the wedding.]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 17:26:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604921&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604921 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : minik8e wrote:I would ask....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604920&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604920 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 5:25pm

Originally posted by minik8e minik8e wrote:

I would ask. Reason being, we're getting married in just over 4 weeks, we have specified on our information sheet that it's an adults only event (it's not a suitable venue for kids) and we've still had problems with people believing they should be able to bring their babies "because they're family". We're having no children, and there's no exceptions.


no children huh ? I can think of a certain baby whos gonna be there ....safetly tucked up inside the bride mind you ! ]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 17:25:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604920&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604920 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : I would ask for sure. Im getting...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604916&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604916 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 5:21pm

I would ask for sure.
Im getting married in march and dont want any babies except Caden there. We only have a few "kids" and they are my counis and DF's cousins so thats it, no family friends are bringing their kids, apart from the ones that have teenage kids.]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 17:21:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604916&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604916 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : Definatley ask, we specified the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604881&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604881 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 4:49pm

Definatley ask, we specified the children by name who we invited to our wedding and they were associated with the bridal party.

I was a guest at a wedding where there was a young baby who was tired and upset during the speeches at the reception, it was horrible.

]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 16:49:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604881&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604881 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : We were happy to have babies at...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604877&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604877 Author: mummymegs
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 4:46pm

We were happy to have babies at our wedding but were against any older children or young teenagers as they would just get bored. Lucky it only effected my cousin who was happy to make other arragements. Also, her children are hard work. In total I think we had 3 or 4 babies there.]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 16:46:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604877&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604877 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : I would ask. Reason being, we&#039;re...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604851&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604851 Author: minik8e
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 4:18pm

I would ask. Reason being, we're getting married in just over 4 weeks, we have specified on our information sheet that it's an adults only event (it's not a suitable venue for kids) and we've still had problems with people believing they should be able to bring their babies "because they're family". We're having no children, and there's no exceptions. ]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 16:18:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604851&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604851 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : We didn&#039;t put &#039;no kids&#039;...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604835&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604835 Author: Joscia
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:54pm

We didn't put 'no kids' on our invites, cos we thought it sounded a bit rude. But we didn't particularly want them there either. However, we got approached by several friends who wanted / needed to bring their children along. It kind of irritated me at the time, since we hadn't put their names on the invites, and a couple of them just assumed it would be fine - but in hindsight I was really glad they all came! The kids made the day so much more special. Those that were really young / breastfeeding were totally fine and all the parents did a great job of taking them outside if they got a bit loud.

]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 15:54:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604835&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604835 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : At our wedding we had my cousin...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604821&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604821 Author: kebakat
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:37pm

At our wedding we had my cousin with a newish baby and only put him and his gf on the invite but definitely didn't want a bubba there. We wanted adults only. ]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 15:37:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604821&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604821 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : Well i&#039;ve emailled her to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604818&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604818 Author: JoJames
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:29pm

Well i've emailled her to see what she says, hopefully its ok, it would just be annoying to have him stay in Mt Eden with my sister and be in Northcote and have to go to him if they can't cope]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 15:29:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604818&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604818 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : I would ask - if it&#039;s OK...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604800&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604800 Author: kiwisj
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:17pm

I would ask - if it's OK they'll still appreciate you thinking about it. They mightn't realise that you're exclusively BF but might be happy for bubs to be there if you explain

For our wedding if the kids were invited we included them on the invite. We had babies at our ceremony and reception but I've always loved kids so I particularly wanted them there IYKWIM.]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 15:17:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604800&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604800 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : i&#039;d take your baby, we had...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604794&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604794 Author: MissAngel
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:12pm

i'd take your baby, we had 6 babies at our wedding.]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 15:12:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604794&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604794 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : I would ask the couple and explain...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604782&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604782 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:05pm

I would ask the couple and explain that he's exclusively breast fed .

My friend is getting married this weekend (im a bridesmaid ) and C is not invited, as much as she loves her its just not that kind of wedding, I don't mind (in fact, im glad) ,shes fine with Tyler coming tho haha

I have kids and babies coming to my wedding, I love kids and babies and think they make a special occasion ,even more special (plus it keeps C from getting bored ) ]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 15:05:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604782&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604782 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : i would have thought it would...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604778&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604778 Author: catisla
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:01pm

i would have thought it would be okay at the reception - you can always go off and find a quite corner to feed him / soothe him.

I guess it depends on how well you know the couple getting married

If i ever get married again (hmm) i would think the more babies the merrier!]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 15:01:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604778&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604778 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : Hmmm I would probably just ask....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604777&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604777 Author: lilfatty
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:01pm

Hmmm I would probably just ask.

Even though it didnt specify no kids, I would have thought if the kids were invited, they would have been listed on the invite.]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 15:01:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604777&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604777 <![CDATA[Weddings and babies- opinions : We have a wedding in 2 weeks,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604773&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604773 Author: JoJames
Subject: 24264
Posted: 03 February 2009 at 2:58pm

We have a wedding in 2 weeks, they haven't specified no kids but the invite didn't include DS' name. Is it unrealistic for them to expect that we wouldn't bring our 4 month old baby to the reception? He is exclusively BF and so far has only taken a bottle for DH and myself, he also isn't the easiest baby to settle so not really a big fan of leaving him with my brothers and sister to look after. What are peoples apinions on babies at weddings? ]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2009 14:58:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24264&PID=604773&title=weddings-and-babies-opinions#604773