Kitkat-  I know what you mean, I  can also be a bit stressy about things (as you know lol ), but am not stressing too much about this now.  There' always something to worry about if you look for it so I might attempt to be happily ignorant for a while!

Caitlynsmygirl- I soooooooooo know what yo mean about the worrying thing never stopping! We've had our foster son just over a year now and I worry constantly about some stuff (not all). Mainly schoolwork or lack thereof....lol. I never worry about him getting sick or hurt or anything though, so it's odd what we focus on aye?

IMHO it's pointless thinking or worrying about this kind of thing.

Like Surfergirl says - It's about as useful and productive as worrying about getting eaten by a shark, or hit by a truck. Something that probably won't happen and there's not much you can do to prevent it happening in any case.

ETA: (Sorry if this sounds harsh - I don't mean it to )

This is such a sad topic. I have a friend who lost her IVF baby last year after a 'normal' pregnancy and labour. - she was stillborn. It was just one of those horrid accidents.

Think of all the women you know who have healthy, thriving babies. There are SOOOOOO many more of them than the sad stories you read.

I suppose you can't help but think about it, but really it's like swimming in the ocean and worrying about sharks; 99.9% of people will never see a shark, so try not to worry.

Everyone- thank you for your replies. It makes me realise I'm not the only one who has these thoughts pop into their heads sometimes!

Kriaun- i'm so sorry about your friends loss, I also worked with a beautiful kind lady who this happened to and it was devestating.

Lizzle- I know what you mean about people telling you 'stuff' when you're pg! I good friend innocently told me abut a late m/c her friend had due to an incompetant cervix at 18 weeks.....I was 17 wks at the time!

Ty's mummy- I'm sorry you have had to struggle so hard for your beautiful baby. Sounds like you had the right help though...my mw was also a nurse beforehand and she seems pretty competant! And yes for my first we are having her in the hospital!

I had a much better sleep last night anyway as someone was kicking their little heart out! lol  

Emmecat, I don't blame you for beng that way. Def tell your MW your concerns. If you don't feel movement for a few hours further along def contact your MW. There are a few ways of bringing on movement (cold glass of water is one), but you can still get monitered on the ctg to make sure all is well.

It is so sad isn't it. But yeah there is nothing that can be done apart form the counting of movement. It is rare but I still think it is happening too often now as we are hearing about it so more.

Sorry to sound morbid, but I just can't even begin to think how gutting this would be after the trials of TTC, being pg for however long and then having bubba die!!  

I guess we all want reassurance that this isn't gonna happen to us...but who can give us that?!

In the last 2 weeks or so, I have read at least 3 seperate articles in different parenting magazines etc about babies being born either stillborn or having died at 35 or 37 weeks in utero or something!

How often does this happen?? Is this a real concern we (I) should be worried about or is it a very rare event that just happens randomly? What (if anything) can we do to stop it?? By what the articles were saying, the pregnancies involved were normal, healthy and all deaths were just totally unexplained. This freaks me out quite a bit. I'm gonna chat to my mw at our appointment this week but wondered what your thoughts were on this as it's put a bit of a damper on stuff for me the last few days...I'm already hormonal enough as it is!