https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Wed, 29 Apr 2026 16:43:28 +0000 Wed, 17 May 2006 13:05:45 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=2488 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46815&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46815 Author: Roksana
Subject: 2488
Posted: 17 May 2006 at 1:05pm

Damn...you are quite far from us....Damn! If you ever come down let me know....I'd love to catch up!]]> Wed, 17 May 2006 13:05:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46815&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46815 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46795&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46795 Author: toniellis
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Posted: 17 May 2006 at 11:58am

Hi Roksana I'm staying at my mum's place in Waimauku which is Northwest Auckland ]]> Wed, 17 May 2006 11:58:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46795&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46795 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46793&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46793 Author: Roksana
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Posted: 17 May 2006 at 11:49am

Where in Akl are you Toni? may be we have get together before you have your bub!!]]> Wed, 17 May 2006 11:49:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46793&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46793 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46791&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46791 Author: toniellis
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Posted: 17 May 2006 at 11:41am

Hi ladies. Thank you so much for all you kind words. I really appreciate them. I spent yesterday afternoon visiting a friend who is also quite often a "motor-x widow" as she calls it.
Had a rough night last night with stupid contractions that don't seem to be doing anything, all irregular, stopping & starting etc... Lots of fun!
I spoke to Spencer last night & he admitted he was freaking out a bit that we are having another baby. I had to laugh coz I was like, "what?? you only just realised that I have a real live baby in my ever expanding belly???"
It seems to have been a good idea to have the break. He has had to cook his own dinner, wash his own clothes & he has been even doing housework apparently coz he was lonely all by himself & the garage was already spotless

It would be lovely to meet up with you Nikki! And Jax maybe we can work out a way to meet up since I'm in Auckland....I didn't get your text for some reason?? I'm not sure why that happened. I would love to see Jill, I was seriously considering popping over to see her yesterday because I know she has her clinic days on Tuesdays, but I don't have her cellphone number anymore.
I saw my midwife anyway when my mum picked me up & I'm planning on heading home on saturday night with Spencer if all goes well. It would be nice to see Jill though & show off Alex since she hasn't seen him since he was little....]]> Wed, 17 May 2006 11:41:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46791&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46791 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46718&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46718 Author: jax
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Posted: 16 May 2006 at 8:29pm

Hi Toni,

Just a quick note to say I am here for you, don't know if you got my txt? And Jill says that you can, in fact MUST, ring her if anything happens or you need a midwife while you're at your mums. I didn't go into detail, just outlined that things were a bit rough for you at the moment, hope you're not mad - she asks after you at almost every visit LOL

for you in any case, I think Spencer really needs to get his act together and support you, or make up his mind about what he wants you know? Anyway, please keep us up to date, and you know you can ring me as well any time you need to - if you want to drop by or something for a cuppa just let me know.]]> Tue, 16 May 2006 20:29:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46718&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46718 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46617&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46617 Author: nikkitheknitter
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Posted: 16 May 2006 at 1:39pm

Oh Toni, this all sounds horrible!
Great idea going to your mums though (even if it took Spencer being an ass to do it) Sometimes even the most "together" of us (I'm not quite included in that - need my mama more than most!) need to go and hang out with our parents and lapse back into child mode. So enjoy the time and relax!

I really hope Spencer sorts his crap out. He's obviously going through one of those selfish stages but that's no excuse, has to realise that he can't do that again until after both babes go to school!!!!! (Or leave home!)

I've decided that when I go home.. and do my tripping around the country.. that I'm going to come and play with you.]]> Tue, 16 May 2006 13:39:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46617&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46617 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46566&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46566 Author: Roksana
Subject: 2488
Posted: 16 May 2006 at 9:46am

Arrrrggggg he is going to miss much more than this if he does not sort out his crap!

I am glad you had relaxing night Toni...you really need these relaxing days just before bub is here. You know what they say if you stress your bub stresses with you....so tho it will sound stupit....try and relax for you bub. I am sure Spencer will get his priorities straight soon...Good luck for Sat. If you have your bub before that please let us know!



Edited by Roksana]]> Tue, 16 May 2006 09:46:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46566&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46566 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46562&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46562 Author: AlyAyde
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Posted: 16 May 2006 at 9:22am

Oh Toni. Im glad you had a nice relaxing night. Im sure things will get sorted. Spencer is prob just trying to get his head togeather as well as letting you have your space. Hope you guys sort things on saturday. Gives him a few days to think about his thoughtlessness at least.]]> Tue, 16 May 2006 09:22:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46562&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46562 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46555&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46555 Author: toniellis
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Posted: 16 May 2006 at 9:15am

Hi Ladies. Just a quick update...
I'm staying at my mum's and I had a nice relaxing night last night, with my family whisking Alex off so I could have a big chat with my mum. I'm staying until saturday.... Spencer is still planning on going riding but then we are going to meet up & have a talk & go to dinner with his dad (its his birthday) at Valentines. Then take it from there. I will either be going home with him or staying with my mum if things don't get sorted out.
I haven't heard much from Spencer, I think he might be a little upset. I got a text message saying his missed his kiss & cuddle from Alex when he went to bed & he said he missed me but that was about it.

Edited by toniellis]]> Tue, 16 May 2006 09:15:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46555&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46555 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46528&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46528 Author: ErinC
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Posted: 16 May 2006 at 8:19am

Toni, I think you are so brave and strong for leaving! I'm sure that once he sees you are serious he will change. A bit of a short sharp shock, and he'll realise how unfair he has acted.

Good luck!

]]> Tue, 16 May 2006 08:19:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46528&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46528 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46517&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46517 Author: my2angels
Subject: 2488
Posted: 15 May 2006 at 9:14pm

I think you are very very strong for leaving and not letting him treat you like that. I hope the break helps and its only temporary. Keep us informed when you can.]]> Mon, 15 May 2006 21:14:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46517&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46517 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46506&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46506 Author: Kelpa
Subject: 2488
Posted: 15 May 2006 at 6:10pm

Oh I hope it all works out! I hope he grows up and sorts out these issues and can see its not worth losing a realtionship and two very special little ones
! Men can be such brats sometimes.Ive got one that is causing grief at the moment of the financial kind - well amongst a few other incidentals so I know where you are coming from!
Reading all this has made me very sad for you.
Big hugs..take care...XX

]]> Mon, 15 May 2006 18:10:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46506&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46506 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46486&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46486 Author: AlyAyde
Subject: 2488
Posted: 15 May 2006 at 4:34pm

I dont have anything to add to what the others have said but just wanted to send you Big hugs Toni. ]]> Mon, 15 May 2006 16:34:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46486&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46486 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46484&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46484 Author: lizzle
Subject: 2488
Posted: 15 May 2006 at 4:30pm

Well Toni. just to add my two cents, it sounds as though he's a boy who deosn't want to grow up (much like mine!). I hope he can reassess what's important! And GOOD FOR YOU for not putting up with sh*t!]]> Mon, 15 May 2006 16:30:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46484&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46484 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46469&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46469 Author: ginger
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Posted: 15 May 2006 at 4:06pm

Thinking of you Toni ...wishing that things work out, whichever way is best for you and the kids ]]> Mon, 15 May 2006 16:06:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46469&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46469 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46461&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46461 Author: Roksana
Subject: 2488
Posted: 15 May 2006 at 3:25pm

I am sure it will be temporary Toni (well I will pray that it is). As you said that he sounded upset on the phone....so may be his drive back home will give him some time to think.....Hang in there!!!

We are here when you need us!!! ]]> Mon, 15 May 2006 15:25:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46461&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46461 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46459&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46459 Author: fattartsrock
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Posted: 15 May 2006 at 3:23pm

Toni, my opinion is it isn't just hormones, he is being a little selfish here.. (well, maybe alot). Some time out with your mum is probably a great idea. I hope things work out for you, chick. All the best for the big day, happy babydust and good labour vibes, and most importanatly TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!!! ]]> Mon, 15 May 2006 15:23:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46459&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46459 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46457&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46457 Author: jack_&_charli
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Posted: 15 May 2006 at 3:20pm

awwwww toni

i agree with becca, hopefully being apart for a while will make spencer realise how he's been treating you and how selfish he has been. sometimes time apart can do absolute wonders for relationships (speaking from experience).
i'm glad you've taken your threats to the next level, things obviously weren't working the way they were and you are so strong for following through this time! spencer needed to see that you were seriously unhappy

take care of yourself and your babies, will be thinking of you over the next couple of weeks. ]]> Mon, 15 May 2006 15:20:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46457&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46457 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46447&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46447 Author: toniellis
Subject: 2488
Posted: 15 May 2006 at 2:54pm

Thanks Becca
I promise to keep you guys updated when I can ]]> Mon, 15 May 2006 14:54:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46447&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46447 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46445&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46445 Author: toniellis
Subject: 2488
Posted: 15 May 2006 at 2:51pm

Thanks Roksana.
Its pretty tough, I've done the threatening before too but I never make it out the door. So its very scary for me.
I'm hoping its only a temporary thing though]]> Mon, 15 May 2006 14:51:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46445&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46445 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46442&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46442 Author: daikini
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Posted: 15 May 2006 at 2:45pm

Toni

Good luck, and we're all thinking of you! Update us when you can, chick. Taking care of you, Alex and Baby is the most important thing... hopefully this break will make Spencer realise just what a good thing he's got in you and what a jerk he's being to you.]]> Mon, 15 May 2006 14:45:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46442&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46442 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46441&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46441 Author: Roksana
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Posted: 15 May 2006 at 2:43pm

Oh Toni.....How horrible. I sure hope that your man comes around and gets his priorities sorted.

You are a brave girl tho...cause so many times I said "thats it"...I never actually left. I sure hope however that you have him around when bub is born and can be a family.

to you. We will be thinking of you and please let us know when you have your bub.

Take care hun.....good luck!!!]]> Mon, 15 May 2006 14:43:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46441&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46441 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46436&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46436 Author: toniellis
Subject: 2488
Posted: 15 May 2006 at 2:37pm

Hi all. Well I made a call to my mum and she is on her way to pick me up. I spoke to Spencer on the phone when I finally got ahold of him and he was abit upset but I pointed out to him that things just aren't working and a few days apart might help.
I'm still upset & I've managed to hurt myself somehow. I've got a really sharp pain coming & going on the left side of my lower abdomen so my mum is taking me in to see the midwife for abit of monitoring.

This is definitely not the first time this has happened but this IS the first time I've decided to have a break apart. I don't know if it will be permanent or what will happen but I'm a real emotional wreck at the moment. I spent most of today bawling my eyes out & inbetween times I've been packing which then sets me off again So if you don't hear from me for a little while its because I haven't made it to a computer.

Thanks Ladies]]> Mon, 15 May 2006 14:37:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46436&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46436 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46409&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46409 Author: caraMel
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Posted: 15 May 2006 at 1:47pm

hi toni, maybe its my hormones too but i'd be really pissed as well!! i agree with ginger, maybe give yourself a couple of days to recover and gain a little perspective, then talk to him about it. i find that is the easiest way to deal with things while i'm pregnant, since i don't often know whether my hormones are blowing things out of proportion.
in the meantime, take care of yourself and your bump. i hope you're feeling better soon! ]]> Mon, 15 May 2006 13:47:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46409&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46409 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46408&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46408 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 2488
Posted: 15 May 2006 at 1:47pm

Oh Toni I sooo understand Bloody cars/motorbikes etc... I used to get so sick of being left at home all the time, so now I'm playing 2 sports this winter so Daniel has to stay home and look after Hannah! I think now he is realising why I was so upset about it...

Hormones prob making it worse but that is not good... You've already talked to him about this before aye? Sounds like he needs another 'chat' with you spelling out why your upset etc and most importantly what you expect of him once the new bub is here. Better to have it out in the open now than be stewing in a few weeks...

Hope things get better for you soon ]]> Mon, 15 May 2006 13:47:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46408&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46408 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46397&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46397 Author: ginger
Subject: 2488
Posted: 15 May 2006 at 1:21pm

Ug, Toni! I think (not having been there yet myself) that maybe having hormones up the woop doesn't help your ability to cope, but I think that it was extremely bad form for him to leave you to it, sick, heavily preggers, with an ill little one as well. I think you need to have a chat to him in a few days, when you feel a bit stronger yourself, and make sure he understands why you were unhappy. Sort of like ...dealing with a kid!! A relationship is a partnership and being in a partnership does mean sacrifices, and your (I'm sorry - I have no idea!!) partner/husband has let that slide on this occasion ]]> Mon, 15 May 2006 13:21:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46397&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46397 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46393&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46393 Author: Roksana
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Posted: 15 May 2006 at 1:01pm

Oh Toni....Hormones yes!!! but I would feel exactly the same way as you do now. I felt like that on Sat actually. I cant even blame hormones any more. Hubby spend the whole day helping his mate...blah blah..long story.

I do think however that you need to have a long, serious chat with him. Tell him exactly how you feel and tell him exactly what you expect of him. Then if he is still selfish enough then consider leaving him but till then see if he changes once you have a chat.

Big ...hope it does not come to that hun (leaving him I mean)]]> Mon, 15 May 2006 13:01:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46393&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46393 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46381&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46381 Author: toniellis
Subject: 2488
Posted: 15 May 2006 at 11:28am

or maybe it's coz I'm not well but I'm just about ready to pack up & leave Spencer
I've really had it! Yesterday was Mother's Day, ok wasn't expecting anything special but was kind of expecting to have him home for the day since I've been coming down with the flu for the last few days but yesterday I was crook as a dog, hardly able to lift my head off the pillow by midday. And what did my man do? He went motor-x riding & left me to it. And my little man had the sniffles too so it was NOT a pleasant day. AND I find out today that he pinched $30 out of my account without a word to me so he could go riding.
Money that I'm saving for when Bubs arrives in the next 2 weeks or so.
He had to go to Auckland today to drop off a friend and "since he is up there" he has taken his motorbike & going riding again! And he couldn't understand why I called him selfish this morning! So am I being too harsh or hormonal or what???????]]> Mon, 15 May 2006 11:28:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2488&PID=46381&title=maybe-its-the-hormones#46381