OHbaby! Forums : Gone.... https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 01:00:14 +0000 Mon, 16 Mar 2009 21:25:00 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=25126 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Gone.... : We still have joint accounts at...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=637572&title=gone#637572 Author: pikelets
Subject: 25126
Posted: 16 March 2009 at 9:25pm

We still have joint accounts at the moment and I am going to counselling.   I am amazed at how much support I have had however I notice after a while it seems to fade away but I guess that is when I have to ask for help. There is a real pride issue here but I have DS to think about so that has to go out the window.   I also worry about the future, the whole stigma of being a solo-mum which I know is dumb. I have always wondered how solo-mums do it, now I may find out!

But.........I know I shouldn't get excited but I can't help it! DH has finally agreed to go to counselling. I said that it could actually make his mind up that he does want to leave me permanently plus we can then tell DS in 15 yrs or whatever time that we did all we could.

I know I shouldn't get my hopes up but I think at least this way i know I/we have done all possible.

I won't see him for a week because of his work but then next week we are going to sit down and sort out a time when we can go. I think he wants to go separately to start with so thats fine by me.

I also have a free 30 min appointment with a lawyer on Thursday to check re custody as I know he doesn't want custody of DS but for my peace of mind. I think I should still keep this so I know my options.

Why does life have to be so hard sometimes??? ]]> Mon, 16 Mar 2009 21:25:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=637572&title=gone#637572 <![CDATA[Gone.... : I think you are being incredibly...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=636283&title=gone#636283 Author: FionaO
Subject: 25126
Posted: 15 March 2009 at 9:26am



I think you are being incredibly sensible, now is the time to ask people around you for support and trust me they will be more than willing to help out.

Are you able to see someone to help you work through on your own how you feel about DH? Might be useful for you.

Will your Dh continue to help provide for DS?]]> Sun, 15 Mar 2009 09:26:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=636283&title=gone#636283 <![CDATA[Gone.... : Morning Huge Huge HUGS to you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=636244&title=gone#636244 Author: xox6Girls1Boyxox
Subject: 25126
Posted: 15 March 2009 at 6:35am

Morning

 

Huge Huge HUGS to you & your DS....I really hope thngs work out how you want them to....

 

You have defninately been givin some very wise info on here...

 

I've been on the DPB before also & sometimes you are better of just staying on the benefit rather than work &^vise versa...When i worked in the kiwifruit 8am to 4.30pm mon to friday I had my childcare fully paid for $165pw & with my wages plus IRD monies i was getting around about $600pw which was way more than i was getting on the DPB but because kiwi is only seasonal I went back on the DPB. I also got TAS (temporary additional support) also to help pay some of my car repayment...It's not so bad being on a beni but I definately know what you mean by hate going into winz & sometimes winz officers can be very rude but it sounds like you have a very nice case officer..... chin up hun things will get better... You have your little man there with you....Take Care xox

]]> Sun, 15 Mar 2009 06:35:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=636244&title=gone#636244 <![CDATA[Gone.... : Well the best option I think is...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=636185&title=gone#636185 Author: pikelets
Subject: 25126
Posted: 14 March 2009 at 9:41pm

Well the best option I think is that I work 30 hrs a week, that way I don't have to go on teh DPB but I can get working for families. (Will need to check out the childcare subsidy).

My work has been AMAZING! They are happy to work with me at the moment and as I was supposed to go fulltime next month, they are going to reduce my hours for awhile and then we can reassess from there.

It is so so so hard. DH mum thinks he is having a midlife crisis or some sort of breakdown. I don't know, I'm just confused on what the hell is going on in his head.

Thank you so so much for your help and support. I really need to hear it at the moment. I know I will get through this ok but it is hard to get there.
]]> Sat, 14 Mar 2009 21:41:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=636185&title=gone#636185 <![CDATA[Gone.... : Big to you & the little one....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=635202&title=gone#635202 Author: jazzy
Subject: 25126
Posted: 13 March 2009 at 12:48pm

Big to you & the little one. You sound very strong. Don't make any hast decisions too soon, work out what you have & what you need, find what support you can get & get friends & family to help out. If you are going to walk away in that much debt you may need to think of your best options.
I know someone that this happened to she had 2 little kids & ended up going bankrupt, 4 yrs later she still has no debt & a better paying job & has found new love.

So don't give up where there is a will there is a way.
Oh & for the record he is the one that will miss out in the long run.]]> Fri, 13 Mar 2009 12:48:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=635202&title=gone#635202 <![CDATA[Gone.... : You should so long as you come...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=634686&title=gone#634686 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 25126
Posted: 12 March 2009 at 6:51pm

You should so long as you come in under the figures give by Rach get a childcare subsidy. Yes there is 20 hours for over 3's but don't let people tell you, you can't get anything as there is the childcare subsidy given out by WINZ.

Kels, and Nikki on here are working single mums and they are proof that it so can be done.

]]> Thu, 12 Mar 2009 18:51:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=634686&title=gone#634686 <![CDATA[Gone.... : Hugs Star. Another option is...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=634272&title=gone#634272 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 25126
Posted: 12 March 2009 at 11:39am

Hugs Star.

Another option is not going on the dpb (if you are going back to work) as you only need to work 20 hours a week to recieve WFF and if you earn under $1200 before tax you can get a subsidy of $3.51 for up to 50 hours depending on how long you work (they take travel and stuff into account too). You will also recieve child support from babys Dad as if your on the DPB you won't get it. Here is the link for working out WFF WFF You will also most likely be entitled to accomodation supplement here is the link to work out how much you will be entitled to.

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this at all ]]> Thu, 12 Mar 2009 11:39:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=634272&title=gone#634272 <![CDATA[Gone.... : Oh Star **hugs** you poor thing...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=634152&title=gone#634152 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 25126
Posted: 12 March 2009 at 9:18am

Oh Star **hugs** you poor thing

My dad did this to my mum when I was one Said the exact same thing to her, she was gutted.
But he came to his senses and they got back together a while later and then had 3 more kids.
I hope things work out for you **hugs** ]]> Thu, 12 Mar 2009 09:18:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=634152&title=gone#634152 <![CDATA[Gone.... : I was on the DPB and working....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=634003&title=gone#634003 Author: bluebird
Subject: 25126
Posted: 11 March 2009 at 9:49pm

I was on the DPB and working. I was studying full time before working too, and it can be done as a single mum, you'll find that you're much stronger then you think you are.

You don't receive the child support payments the father makes (this is to pay your debt to society), unless you choose to receive it and declare it as income.

If you choose to work, you can get up to $80 a week,   with the same DPB payment. If you earn more they deduct quite a bit from the benefit(sorry can't remember just how much, 30c per dollar for so much, then 70c) This is all on top of paying secondary tax on your job too.

Often it's not worth working as you come off only slightly better, especially when childcare is taken into account.

You will get family support from IRD, you can choose to have this as part of your benefit, or a separate payment from IRD.

There are all sorts of extra grants ad temp support they can give (clothing grants etc) but i'm not sure how they work as I never got them. So tell them everything you may need as they will be able to help.

As far as I know, you can only get fully subsidsed childcare if you're under 18 and going to school full time, or studying and having the training incentive grant top up what the childcare sub can't cover.

Good luck!]]> Wed, 11 Mar 2009 21:49:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=634003&title=gone#634003 <![CDATA[Gone.... : I think the fully subsidised childcare...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633964&title=gone#633964 Author: GlimmerShine
Subject: 25126
Posted: 11 March 2009 at 9:14pm

I think the fully subsidised childcare is only for over a certain age (if its that free 20+ hours it's usually 3 years I think? ).

Things have changed a lot over the years though so WINZ may have a diff way of working, diff benefits available for diff situations.

You'll be fine ]]> Wed, 11 Mar 2009 21:14:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633964&title=gone#633964 <![CDATA[Gone.... : First of all - Keep your chin...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633913&title=gone#633913 Author: Snappy
Subject: 25126
Posted: 11 March 2009 at 8:21pm

First of all - Keep your chin up. And take things slowly.

A friend of mine is a single mum, she is doing OK financially. She works full time, and gets a top up from Working for Families. She also has fully subsidised childcare, and the child support payments from her ex partner. All in all she tells me she does pretty well. I think her salary was around $40k?

Also, in regards to WINZ, you can get a benefit to help cover debt for a period of time. Its unlimited (ie no set amount they pay) and its to help those who are having difficulty keeping up with payments while going through a break up or the likes.
]]> Wed, 11 Mar 2009 20:21:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633913&title=gone#633913 <![CDATA[Gone.... : TBH if you work 30 hrs a week...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633906&title=gone#633906 Author: GlimmerShine
Subject: 25126
Posted: 11 March 2009 at 8:12pm

TBH if you work 30 hrs a week whilst on DPB it gets cut down A LOT ...pay childcare, petrol, rent, food, power, water etc etc you almost end up better off not working, or only working a few hours per week because you end up at a loss (speaking from personal experience many years ago - may have changed).

So unless you are on a VERY high paying job ...and can get free childcare from a family member etc - it's almost not worth it. Really pays to check it out and ask LOTS of questions with WINZ. If you don't ask, they generally won't tell you.

Big hugs!]]> Wed, 11 Mar 2009 20:12:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633906&title=gone#633906 <![CDATA[Gone.... : Big hugs star, take one day at...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633904&title=gone#633904 Author: nictoddie
Subject: 25126
Posted: 11 March 2009 at 8:09pm

Big hugs star, take one day at a time and don't overdo it love, I have been there and done it but we got back together after a 6 month separation , it is emotionally exhausting and at the end of the day you still have a little person that needs you 24/7, sorry but he is sounding very imature to me!]]> Wed, 11 Mar 2009 20:09:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633904&title=gone#633904 <![CDATA[Gone.... : Thanks everyone. I really apprciate...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633863&title=gone#633863 Author: pikelets
Subject: 25126
Posted: 11 March 2009 at 7:35pm

Thanks everyone. I really apprciate your kind words right now.

I went to Winz as I got an urgent appointment today and we have gone through a couple of scenarios so i need to choose what I am going to do.

It felt awful going in there, I have a good job, a house, had a family and I walked in there with my P&T pram thinking "what am I doing here, this isn't me!" The lady was really nice and helpful (especially when I nearly cried infront of her!). Hate how it is open planned!

DH came around tonight to get some stuff and declared how he still doesnt miss me and it would be easier if he had hurt me (as in had an affair) then the feeling would be mutual. I get the impression he wants me to be the one that says it is over but I'm not. I don't want to tell DS that in so many years time that it was me.

How many single mums are there working out there? I was thinking of working about 30 hrs a week. I cant possibly do fulltime and be sane ]]> Wed, 11 Mar 2009 19:35:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633863&title=gone#633863 <![CDATA[Gone.... : men huh.... dont feel bad about...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633607&title=gone#633607 Author: Aquarius
Subject: 25126
Posted: 11 March 2009 at 2:43pm

men huh....
dont feel bad about going to winz...
my sister gets nearly $600 awk. i think her rent is about 300-350 so they take that into account. they also will help if you need beds fridge..etc it just needs to be essential for living. of course he will have to pay child support BUT you dont get that (ironic and stupid i know) i think you are entitled to that should you go off the benefit...(not to sure how child support goes) child support is with IRD not winz...
good luck girl]]> Wed, 11 Mar 2009 14:43:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633607&title=gone#633607 <![CDATA[Gone.... : Aw hun, I have no advice either...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633587&title=gone#633587 Author: kiwisj
Subject: 25126
Posted: 11 March 2009 at 2:12pm

Aw hun, I have no advice either just lots of Don't feel stink about going to WINZ for help - that's what they're there for.]]> Wed, 11 Mar 2009 14:12:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633587&title=gone#633587 <![CDATA[Gone.... : Oh I am so sorry about your seperation...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633504&title=gone#633504 Author: busyissy
Subject: 25126
Posted: 11 March 2009 at 12:38pm

Oh I am so sorry about your seperation . How heartbreaking! WINZ will be really good, I know it sucks having to go to them but that is what we have paid all that tax for right? You will be eligible for child support from DH (really that should stand for Dumb husband this time) as well.]]> Wed, 11 Mar 2009 12:38:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633504&title=gone#633504 <![CDATA[Gone.... : **BIG HUGS** Star. Wow what a...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633232&title=gone#633232 Author: ooEvaoo
Subject: 25126
Posted: 10 March 2009 at 10:50pm

**BIG HUGS** Star. Wow what a bombshell huh. I know that at times my partner and I have gone through this, deciding to go our seperate ways on several occassions (the most recent is right at this very moment...however it's more my issue than his). I am very defensive of myself and of my son, and any remark or situation that threatens my confidence as a person, and as a mother sends me into flight mode where I want to get away from it all and start over. I know I have issues that I need to work through, and maybe this could be the same for your DP.  Anywho enough about me!. I think that if there were discussions to sell the house before your DP left, then continue with the proceedings. A case manager at WINZ should inform you of all your entitlements etc.

Edited by ooEvaoo]]> Tue, 10 Mar 2009 22:50:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633232&title=gone#633232 <![CDATA[Gone.... : Aww star im so sorry to hear about...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633226&title=gone#633226 Author: mamazozo
Subject: 25126
Posted: 10 March 2009 at 10:40pm

Aww star im so sorry to hear about this!

Unfortunatly i dont have any wisdom either. However i am a single mum and i can assure you that you will surivive! Its hard doing it alone but its so rewarding aswell!!

The house thing is a bit tricky, why do you have to sell the house because he has left? Does he want his share or something??

Im on the DPB and i live with my parents so only pay $150 board and i get $350 pw which includes accomodation suppliment and Family tax credits. However i have heard of people getting up to $400 and they also help with HP's or mortage repayments etc i think. Going to WINZ sucks big time i hate it but i will admit that they are pretty good about the whole single mum thing.

Good luck with everything, im sure i havnt been much help but just hang in there im sure everything will turn out ok.!!

]]> Tue, 10 Mar 2009 22:40:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633226&title=gone#633226 <![CDATA[Gone.... : Star. Sorry you&#039;re having...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633216&title=gone#633216 Author: Bobbie
Subject: 25126
Posted: 10 March 2009 at 10:31pm

Star. Sorry you're having to go through this. Sounds like you've got your head screwed on right about all the practical stuff which is fantastic.]]> Tue, 10 Mar 2009 22:31:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633216&title=gone#633216 <![CDATA[Gone.... : Big hugs and good luck. ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633196&title=gone#633196 Author: kellie
Subject: 25126
Posted: 10 March 2009 at 9:59pm

Big hugs and good luck.]]> Tue, 10 Mar 2009 21:59:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633196&title=gone#633196 <![CDATA[Gone.... : OMG Star.... no wisdom here...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633150&title=gone#633150 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 25126
Posted: 10 March 2009 at 9:23pm

OMG Star.... no wisdom here either... but far out.. :( ]]> Tue, 10 Mar 2009 21:23:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633150&title=gone#633150 <![CDATA[Gone.... : No words of wisdom from me either...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633143&title=gone#633143 Author: monkey33
Subject: 25126
Posted: 10 March 2009 at 9:19pm

No words of wisdom from me either star but hope everything works out for you ]]> Tue, 10 Mar 2009 21:19:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633143&title=gone#633143 <![CDATA[Gone.... : all i can say Star...... keep...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633139&title=gone#633139 Author: Huggles
Subject: 25126
Posted: 10 March 2009 at 9:14pm

all i can say Star...... keep your chin up and hopefully he will know what a good thing he had]]> Tue, 10 Mar 2009 21:14:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633139&title=gone#633139 <![CDATA[Gone.... : I know it probably seems horrible...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633124&title=gone#633124 Author: my2angels
Subject: 25126
Posted: 10 March 2009 at 9:04pm

I know it probably seems horrible now for your DS but really he is to little to know or remember and in the long run he will be fine, he will still have two loving parents but now he wont remember the fighting or bad times that could happen (if they havent already) which is better for him.]]> Tue, 10 Mar 2009 21:04:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633124&title=gone#633124 <![CDATA[Gone.... : Oh hon, big hugs, I am sorry I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633123&title=gone#633123 Author: floss
Subject: 25126
Posted: 10 March 2009 at 9:03pm

Oh hon, big hugs, I am sorry I don't know what else to say]]> Tue, 10 Mar 2009 21:03:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633123&title=gone#633123 <![CDATA[Gone.... : Absolutely Aliasmum! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633097&title=gone#633097 Author: pikelets
Subject: 25126
Posted: 10 March 2009 at 8:40pm

Absolutely Aliasmum!

]]> Tue, 10 Mar 2009 20:40:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633097&title=gone#633097 <![CDATA[Gone.... : Men! I&#039;ve heard that line...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633095&title=gone#633095 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 25126
Posted: 10 March 2009 at 8:39pm

Men! I've heard that line before....I reckon it's got a lot to do with being responsible....do they not realise that everything is not always butterflies in the stomach stuff.....

]]> Tue, 10 Mar 2009 20:39:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633095&title=gone#633095 <![CDATA[Gone.... : Thank you. The house thing is...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633094&title=gone#633094 Author: pikelets
Subject: 25126
Posted: 10 March 2009 at 8:38pm

Thank you.

The house thing is complicated (just to add to the mix). We dont own all of it. DH sister owns half. So at some stage I do have to sell. Better is probably sooner really.]]> Tue, 10 Mar 2009 20:38:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633094&title=gone#633094 <![CDATA[Gone.... : Me too.Like most people I guess,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633092&title=gone#633092 Author: pikelets
Subject: 25126
Posted: 10 March 2009 at 8:37pm

Me too.   Like most people I guess, I never wanted to become a solo mum and I still think it hasnt sunk in.

There is so much to do and I just dont know where to start.

I really feel for my DS for now and in the future. He knows already that Dada isn't here. It is heartbreaking. ]]> Tue, 10 Mar 2009 20:37:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633092&title=gone#633092 <![CDATA[Gone.... : I have no words of wisdom but...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633091&title=gone#633091 Author: my2angels
Subject: 25126
Posted: 10 March 2009 at 8:36pm


I have no words of wisdom but wanted to give you big hugs.
Should you sell the house before you know if he is coming back or not, that is if you want him back.
]]> Tue, 10 Mar 2009 20:36:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633091&title=gone#633091 <![CDATA[Gone.... : Star. Hope things work out for...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633085&title=gone#633085 Author: Henna79
Subject: 25126
Posted: 10 March 2009 at 8:34pm

Star. Hope things work out for you]]> Tue, 10 Mar 2009 20:34:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633085&title=gone#633085 <![CDATA[Gone.... : DH has left.... He loves...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633083&title=gone#633083 Author: pikelets
Subject: 25126
Posted: 10 March 2009 at 8:31pm

DH has left....

He loves me but is unsure if he is inlove with me so has left to see if he will miss me. Nice one!

DS just turned one

So, I can sit around and wait....or start to plan my future.

I am going to get on with my life and if he ends up in it thats a bonus I guess.

We have to sell the house and lose ALOT of money. Great I will walk away with huge debt. I haven't actually worked it out but will be at least $15k I reckon probably $20k.

How on earth am I going to financially survive? I am trying to get an appointment with WINZ asap.

How much is the dpb including accommodation allowance and what else can I get. I supposed to be going to fulltime next month but now I just cant do that and be a single mum. I am seriously considering going to 3 days as I dont want to leave work completely. I dont want to get help from winz but I have no choice.

My life sux right now!




Edited by Star]]> Tue, 10 Mar 2009 20:31:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25126&PID=633083&title=gone#633083